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Decryptor:
So all the sick people who have died in the past really wanted to die while those who survived fought for their lives abi?

Why are most Nigerians so senseless??

1Sharon:
Jungle justice is rife in Nigeria, but do y'all give a damn about those ppl?

Yet you turn around to say 'let God's will be done'

dvkot:
will you also help them raise money for meds?

Administration1:
You opined deliverance so let it out, and tell me you've not had a relationship with a married man before? So let's leave that alone, let your conscience lead thee

SenecaTheYonger:
Damn. I’m sorry about that. May his soul RIP

Revelation4:
She influenced him to marry her. They only had a sexual relationship not Marriage. I read everything from A to Z. Well I can't say it's the mum's fault. He was easily convinced because he was thinking of doing it too

Administration1:
Deliverance from what exactly?

Decryptor:
Shutup and answer the question I asked previously which I will ask you again...

Does it mean that the sick people who have died in the past really wanted to die while those who survived fought for their lives??

SenecaTheYonger:
What was he diagnosed with? Why couldn’t he shiit?

Kerry111:
We have exactly that same problem in my family, But looking at the suffering my Dad passed through in training us we see it that the best we can to is to take care of him, now that He needs us most...

1Sharon:
Are you the same Nigerian that kills a man for stealing a necklace?

askjohnprosper:
When men fail, try God. If you can, bundle and bring him to PortHarcourt in OPM. Do prayer for him. It might just work. Just give it a second thought. Try God. Do OPM or mountain of fire prayer. OPM is mercy prayer and fasting for one day. Then followed by 21 days midnight prayer. Good luck

Decryptor:
Shutup! Africans and their hypocrisy!

Someone who is in a vegetative state battling with pains but is not in the position to express himself and his relatives are bearing the brunt of it financially, emotionally, psychologically etc are suffering and you are talking nonsense about being heartless but the same you will still go to juju houses to "jazz" someone who really wants to live out of envy!

Toks2008:
Calm your nerves... Asides sentiments the guy made perfect sense just that as I wrote, it does not sound cool taking the life of anyone regardless.

I know what I faced with my dad when he was down with serious stroke.

You never pack shit before I guess.. I pack shit tire, the stress was so mentally torturous and you won't even have a life of your own.

Anyways I believe in Miracle so they should pray and seek for alternative solution.

Lalas my dad passed on.

Maxymilliano:
Did you notice that after scratching your yansh, the devil will whisper to you to smell the finger?

Decryptor:
The most sensible comment here!

Other comments are just fueled by sentimental, religious and African cultural balderdash.

SportsHD:
Religion is damaging your mentality. The dad has been in that state for 12 years now. I'm sure no one would want that for himself. Not being able to talk or do anything yourself.

Drop all emotional sentiments here, think logically. Imagine the peace of mind he and the mom would have, coupled with the amount they'll save not going back and forth to the hospital.

If it were my family member, lord knows he would have been in the ground by now.
It's better for him to be at peace in heaven than to be suffering here In life.

SportsHD:
Euthanzing is the correct word here. I swear if he could talk to you, he would tell you to go ahead. He is in pains, seeing y'all going through all that to take care of him is making him sad also. He just can't tell y'all. Hospitals does euthanization, you just have to talk to your mom and brothers about it. It's not a decision you can take alonew, except you have a heart like mine. The hospital would make it faster and easier. I think they'll put him to sleep first, then inject something that'll stop his heart. Thereby, he wouldn't even feel anything.
Please update us on how it goes.

Omorotionmwann:
It has been 12years now since my dad has been down with Stroke which has affected his speech,his right hand and leg and some 4years ago,he couldn't walk anymore but had to be carried to sleep,sit and all physical metabolism is done where he is,even after I and my mum have spent and still spends a lot on physiotherapy,speech therapy,brain checkups at Mecure oshodi,routine and forthnight high blood pressure checkups with expensive drugs and still no changes but it gets worse,all done going around in taxi as I have no car.....

I was 18 and in 200level in a federal uni with him and my mum my only support system when all of this started,couldn't concentrate and focus on school work anymore as I am the firstborn of a 7 boys family and my attention was always needed.....Mum told me I need to drop out that she can't afford all of this alone but I was strong hearted and determined to graduate with a B.Eng...

I had issues with my lecturers as my attendance were poor and my course adviser said it to my face that I would never graduate but I never told them about my travails or they wouldn't even believe me anyways cos they were mostly SADIST,All Engineering lecturers in Uniben especially Mechanical/PRODUCTION ENGINEERING from 08/09 upward,OGUN KILL ALL OF UNA!!! Life was tough for me and my Mum....

Now that I am a Man and supposed to be focus on my life future and raising a family but this is still taking a toll on me emotionally,financially,mentally and I will come home to my mum nagging,crying that she has tried enough over the years and i might come home one day and she has left ....THIS BREAKS ME,I AM TIRED,I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO....I LOVE MY DAD,HE IS IN PAINS TOO!!!

IF I COULD SEE THE FUTURE BACK THEN WHEN IT STARTED,I WOULD HAVE ASKED THE DOCTORS FOR MERCY DEATH,DO NIGERIAN DOCTORS OR HOSPITALS GIVE OUT MERCY DEATH TO PATIENTS?

NAIRALANDERS,I AM DEPRESSED AND I NEED YOUR ADVICE

sorry for the long post. Mods please help this thread to front page for more advice

Bekind123:
Exactly, he never said anything the wife did wrong. He is here blaming the wife and his mother for not tolerating his irresponsible life style. OP put yourself in your wife's shoe, you married her and yet in love with someone else.

Gorillabrain:
Love still dey shak this one like pami.. If marriage tired u nobody go advise u again b4 u run for your life. Pursue the idiot comot and collect ur pikin. Marriage no be do or die again my broda.

Alhajiemeritus:
The Genesis of this problem is FORNICATION.
Youths of today should please stop fornicating.
It's against the will of God.

Revelation4:
You bleeped up the moment you allowed someone to decide who you break up with and who you marry. That's where you goofed big time

Administration1:
Oga, let me tell you the bitter truth, Its a long read and full of typos.
The marriage will not last if you continue exchanging words with her, but from my own standpoint, let me give you candid advice.
1. Don't you ever think of resigning!!! Never it cross your mind
2. Get a second phone or better still change the contact of the number of the lady you love, but make sure you tell her that you are married oh, so don't start sending useless love messages back and front.
I got married too to someone I was pressured to get married to, but believe you me, she can never think of touching my phone or suspectign her, I give her all the money or attention she needs, in fact, my salary immediately I am paid, I send it to her including the last kobo, na she dey pay tithe(I still have a relationship with God), but she is in control of it, even when I lack money, I try never to ask her.
3. Get a smallie, probably one of those little decent girls from a well-to-do home as a side chick, go through my profile, you will see one of my posts and learn how to get such a girl. When you do, make it clear from the onset that you are married but you don't love the lady. Right now sef we have broken up because Our Accounts Officer and I have found a way to make ourselves happy irrespective of our marriages.
4. Don't you ever lay your hands on your wife, biko, just avoid her, I even look for ways to make my wife go on trips, in her mind this man loves me, whereas it's just to make me have peace of mind either with the smallie or our Accounts Officer who is also wishing same thing for her husband. The funny thing is that both my smallie and our Accounts Officer visits our home(But I never ever take them to our room to do the thing).
5. Make peace with yourself that your ex can never come back,

Godstime234:
The same thing I am going thru presently. I am not happy in my marriage but I dey fear of what another woman I may go for may hold. The devil you know is better than the angel u don't know

MyOleSolksjaer:
Dear All,

I need your candid advise on these matters that touch the heart. I got married last year to the mother of my beautiful daughter sometime in August last year during the COVID lock down. The marriage was against my wishes and due to parental pressure. Prior to marrying my wife, I was doing a good job by making sure I take good care of my daughter and the mom. My daughter just turned 2 in July and has already started going to school. My wife and I met online and started dating immediately after our first sexual encounter. Along the line she got pregnant and we started having misunderstandings. We both decided we will keep the baby because I made a vow with God not to abort any child with any woman I impregnate.

However, to cut the story short we both agreed we won't get married and her parents were cool with it as long as I take care of their daughter and my child. Then came COVID and during the events of the lockdown, I entered into a relationship with a Chemical Engineer that earns a 7 figure monthly salary. The relationship lasted for months but my mom never supported the relationship and did everything to make sure I break up with this lovely lady in a bid to marry my baby mama. I was against it knowing fully well that she is very quarrelsome and dramatic. I had inner peace with my lockdown girlfriend. Till now I still miss her and want to be with her despite being married to my wife who is always looking for ways to suspect me for one thing or the other. She has even threatened that if she catch me cheating, she will cheat back.

My marriage for the past 1 year has been full of problems, drama, and even attempted violence. My wife just graduated from Uni and is about to go in for her NYSC. I am even praying she gets posted out of Lagos preferably the North. This marriage has drained me of all my resources and has taken away a lot from me. My wife doesn't appreciate the good I do for her and my daughter. She is always quick to judge me and criticize for every small mistake I make. She nags all the time and always want to pick a fight for bullshit reasons. I don't find my wife attractive anymore and I have lost every desire to have sex with her from the first day we married in August last year.

She gets upset when female colleagues at work call me. I had considered resigning because we had an issue over my boss at work who always calls me for work related stuff. I am not on good terms with my mom because she engineered this marriage against my own wishes. My wife and I don't have a good relationship. It has gotten so bad that we don't sleep in the same room anymore. I had to leave the house for some time to stay in an accommodation provided by my work place so I can have inner peace and regain my sanity.

I am so pained because of my relationship that ended abruptly. I tried getting back with my Ex whom I still love but now she doesn't want to have anything to do with me despite how much I still love her. My question is, should I still try to win my ex over or find another woman? As for my marriage, I consider it dead and over. I don't care what my parents particularly my mom will do. I don't bleeping care anymore. All I want is my love to come back to my life and end this toxic marriage.

Bonesbreaker:
Baba u be mumu man, solution call your mother and the said lady one day sit them down jejely remove your wedding ring put it into your mother's finger tell her to marry her since she is the one hunting for the said marriage that today you are done stand up and move out that ur one time crush is she still single go and engage her start afresh buh watch the drama your action will cause but u will be free also tell that your ex wife to start staying with your mother as ur done seening her close to your house remember to call her parents to inform them.

Oyindamolah:
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Oyindamolah:
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Lostchild:
I refuse to help a needy pregnant woman because I am running from my real self. Yes, I needed to save my peace and sanity

In 2018, I move to a new place, a married woman with children started and always comes to meet me to give her whatever she wants from me which I always do. One day, the husband came to me with anger, and told me to stay away from his wife. I said, OK.



Lost child,come let's do business,so we can multiply money, it scam business, real business we would grow from start, check out my phone number, and let's talk.i mean it ooh.

Even If i use common sense - helping people I know has landed me in too many conflicts, they are just too over many for me to overlook anymore.

Because of the many years of constant betrayals that lead me to regret my life, I move to a new town and decide to start afresh. In the past I have shown too much financial care and love for women that backfire and work against me. so I decide to stay focus on myself for the first time of my life.

After living in this new place for about six months, a pregnant woman who also live in the same visinity ask me to help her. She told me to lend her some money.

She told me that, she had not eaten since morning and she wants to cook something to eat and her hubby is out of town and will be back later.

She told me she will refund me when her hubby comes back. She was pregnant, hungry and need help.

I badly wanted to but I instantly had many flash back and I told her, I don't have the money right now. I told her, why can't you go and meet that your fellow business woman down there? she may be able to help you, she replied me with God forbid.

The money she asked me, I have it in my base, three times over but I refuse to give her. I painfully refused to help her because nigeria society has made me look like a fool.

To save my peace - I just have to only help strangers and not give help to the people I know

Did I do wrong?

What do you think?

paulavon:
I was having a conversation with a lady and two guys a couple of days ago, and in the course of the conversation I told them I rarely drink alcohol (just a bottle of Heineken in a month or two), I don't smoke, I don't womanize and I don't crave for money.
I was told that I wasn't normal, that an average man must indulge in one or two of those vices.




You are normal,very normal, everybody must not be the same in this life.keep it up, your kind is not common. But be careful in life, don't let anyone push you into wrong doing so you don't mess up your Life thereafter.

I will people to share their opinions on this.