₦airaland Forum

Ashez:
Nje
D very rugged one oooo
Nje ndi ike ya

Kedu udi nje obu?

You know the name?
Anxiety is taking over him , I had to make this post this night

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SOLD OUT

powerblaze:
The admins allowed it to thrive, possibly because of their own leanings ...

Its disgraceful wat i see here ... and its been months i made a comment

It is disheartening

I leave some topics after coming some topics

Some are even abusing me for posting this

Blakjewelry:
Blame the new breed of kids and some few old fools here for the problem.

It is really growing wild

There are some I will read
I will just sit back and freeze , thereby leaving the thread

Cardozzo:
So sad but that is the new Low .....
I hardly open thread's these days just to avoid another heart stabber.... The funny part though is that anytime I feel like apprehending some words outlaw then I remember it's a faceless FORUM

Something has to be done

Intellectuals has left here
That's why we keep seeing rubbish on front pages

zedman1:
I'm telling you bro. It's now a very annoying place with toxic people. I was happy when I first learnt about this site after ditching one other annoying forum back then. That site is almost dormant today because I believe most sensible people left there. Unfortunately, Nairaland members are towing the same path.

It affects me negatively

I can't open nairaland to ease the days stress like before and end up getting angry due to heartless comments

The owner should do something
The site is going down

Xscape1993:
We need size 45

I just have this alone

The tribalism on nairaland is going extreme

Most atimes I don't bother going through the comments anymore because definitely you will see things that are out of context

The rule now is "once your tribe is not affected, you are very ok and happy with any bad news"

Tribes wishes tribes death
You always see dark hearts in the comment session

nairaland has been a major search engine for many
It was not this bad before now

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Xscape1993:
What is the size of the sneaker?

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Maconstruct:
Use sweeter words in formatting and massaging her brain into giving into yr ideas while hyping her when nxt yr 1 on 1 with her.
If it is working yu will see it.
Otherwise, japa.

we are ok now bro, she seems to understand

Obidient4life3:
Oga you did nothing wrong! That lady doesn't love you simple!

Too deep

OhiOfIhima:
You shouldn't have discussed it with her that you have such discussion with colleagues. No matter d age difference, let it just btw you guys, in presence of others, you're the oldest. Well, women doesn't like discussing of the age tin, even though you senior her...
I was marveled to her outburst Sha... She should have understand and matured more in her utterance. Woman Sha, no one can predict them. Just apologies n let it slide.

Tomorrow will be "you are not proud of me,I can't predict either, I have apologised, everywhere good now"

Konjiboii:
She wants to guilt trip you so you will be the one acting desperate to marry. Alaye there's nothing wrong with what you did. If she insist of ending it then play along.
Na she go still come beg.
Grow some nuts

Thanks , everything is back to normal
She seems to understand better, but when such is asked, what do I say? It will always come because I am still young

ednut1:
So on her birthday una go still hide her age

Ask me my brother, I have taken my time to know that only ladies attack over this, tomorrow now same people will say "you are not proud of me"

bukatyne:
@bold:

If you have any iota of self respect, you will address the bold before moving forward or backward.

She also need to get a grip on herself. If she doesn't want people to know she is dating a younger man, then she shouldn't.

Since she doesn't like you telling people about the age difference, don't tell them.

If you feel the urge to, drink water or eat sand.

Chuckles, i hear you right dear,you said it all,

malaria:
Poster the fact is she felt deceived.. If she had ever asked you your age and you lied .then know you gonna have trust issues.. if I were in her shoes I would equally feel bad. Just make her see reasons behind your actions and iron out things with her .what matters is mutual respect and feelings that's all .

We knew our respective ages before we got started, I have talked with her, settled that already

Aaaaarghmed:
OP enjoy yourself jare,no big deal.younger guys dey handle older women on a steady.Marry her if she ticks what you want.life goes on.Forget those pained ladies and their comments.

I am marvelled at their attack ,made start thinking if I have had issue with any of them before now , nawaoo

Acidbath:
In your older thread, you stated she proposed for marriage. You are not the one who proposed to her. You both know the pedophilic society you are in. And now you are telling people she is older than you. This ought not to be a big deal as it isn't abroad but to her,it is.

If you had a job and were financially secure, I would believe every single thing you say about your love for her. I personally feel you wouldn't feel same if the reverse was the case.

I don't know how wired you are psychologically so I won't say you are too young for marriage at 25.

If you really love her, excuse her insecurities. When you wed and get her pregnant, her mind will come down.

Edit: even the topic of the other thread you posted is enough to show you have doubts. That's why you have been discussing her age with your friends. You have your own insecurities as well. Let her go and huzzle for your money till the next 10 years.

In the previous thread, I had no job yet and we needed everything to happen so fast, hence creating the thread, am ok now , my only insecurity is not having enough of my own cos I don't know what tomorrow maybe

Magnoliaa:
Yawns. If you feel nothing is wrong and you are in the right, what's the point of this thread?

Carry the same pride go tell her say make she comot for your life na.

I am not into slavery or begging for love, I have apologised to her and we are good now , any other thing left ?

Acidosis:
The 5-year gap was a trophy to you, reason you couldn't stop talking and bragging about it like a damaged radio. According to you, you had that discussion with just two people? Really? Trophy wey more than 5,000 people have read online in your previous threads?

Wait, after discussing your personal matter with colleagues, you went ahead to discuss the outcome of your gossip with your woman? What were you expecting?

You're not ready for marriage so don't bother talking to another older woman. Settle for a 20 year old lady and wait 5-10 years before delving into marriage.

Thanks �

Magnoliaa:
Why are you, BabbanBura and all the other guys for that matter, judging (her) from a single story? I thought a single story is a very dangerous thing? I thought you all liked to hear from BOTH sides so as to give a BALANCED opinion? He mentioned how the lady said she felt... do you consider the manner in which the man told his friends how old she is? Do you consider how he might have portrayed her? So what's the issues or mistake older ladies make that you're on about?

He's a simp for admitting his faults?

I didn't portray her bad in any way

Aaaaarghmed:
there are a lot of young guy s getting married to Older ladies everyday..even alot of young black guys getting married to older foreigners everyday.the only reason women mature emotionally quick than guys of their age is because of too much body count.how many young ladies reason well if it's not to be on social media from morning till night thinking of the next maga.we all know most ladies reason like fish brain and the only way you feel they make men submit is just because of sex that can be gotten anywhere nowadays.get your fact right.the same way young ladies are marrying old men is same way young guys marry old women.A man will never see a woman as a trophy but as a sex object.who woman epp.its no biggie.i have 2cousins who married very older ladies and no issues,I have dated older ladies and no issues.same way young ladies handle old men is same way young guys handle old women so why the diss and bitterness.you are always bitter when typing abo tout men.sorry,were you molested?

Thanks for your comment, I learnt from there too, She too it so far, I wonder if I had issues with her before now

kayperry:
why is it only on seperational cases you are alway making sense try to be eating balance diet sho gbo

Lol....we settled already, I thought she was ending it

pocohantas:
Don’t you men remind women of who is older and the captain everyday? So what is wrong with reminding una once in a while?

As for young guys, especially the ones U-33, THEY DON’T HAVE SENSE 99% of the time. It is even worse in this generation.

Ordinary 22yrs old girl would comfortably and easily get a Ned to comport himself and do her bidding.

Women on the average mature emotionally faster than men (redpillers can argue this- their business). So why do you think a younger guy can make sense to an older woman? She is years ahead emotionally and very few guys can meet up. I am sure most women that have been with them would be getting the feeling because many act like they need complan abi pacifier.

On top of that they talk too much! It is like a trophy that an older woman is submitting to them. Everything is an ego trip for men. That's the only reason this one is talking chochocho. The whole Nigeria must know an older woman is coming to cook efo riro for him.

As for his babe, she should get a grip of herself. It is not going to be a secret forever.

Peace!

Awwwsh, sister easy, if you have problem with men I am not the cause of it

Read well you see how mine happened
Am not bragging or using mega phone to tell everyone
She has a good physique that you can never know

My act was out of love and never a mockery
I love her despite whatever
If I should lie now, you may start saying I am not proud of her or whatever , even here will say same thing

Alright, I am at fault
I have apologised
And it's only these two that have known this
That is settled

crackhaus:
Honestly, this is why I feel you did nothing wrong.

Whether you tell people her age now or they found out later, one or the other her age was not going to remain a secret forever.

She has her own issues and she needs to sort that out.

Yea, I am keeping it for her then, if you lie , she will be like you are not proud of her, if you tell the truth, wahala .......

VlamesIffect:
Guy leave all those ones like i said take control & be a man. At the same time don't push it. That lady is clear headed & knows what she wants. Don't be desperate. If she no still gree leave her. Take a loss now for a bigger win tomorrow.

We settled that, I feel so bad that I hurt her with that,

Missionaire:
People will still know after marriage.
Except you guys will not be celebrating your birthdays.

Exactly what I had on mind, I was like proving to her that I love her and so proud of her, definitely people will know

OscarJaden:
To me i will prefer marrying a lady older than me as far as we love each each other....
Older ladies don't have issues in a relationship because they are matured

I have seen guys marrying older ladies and they live happily eg wizkid is 32 years while his babymama Jada pollock is 39 years old

Who fucking cares

She is just angry that I had to let it out that she is older

Richy4:
Maybe... just maybe you don't really know your girl too well...
U don't know her "no go area"...the green, red and Amber area while making certain discussion with friends..
Take some time and get to know your woman...You clearly don't know what will upset her..

Again, when next you were facing a similar situation from friends.. and u were in a tight position that warrants you to spill sensitive information, just say " I gentleman never tells"...That statement always helps to defuse bombs

Thanks so much , trying to forgive myself, actually hurt her so much, was just like proving to her that I love her and proud of her, people will still know, just wanna let her know I love and accept her

UpInTheSky:
Idk what sort of conversations you're having with people that's making you disclose your partner's older than you, to them. You needn't tell people that, not just b/c it makes her feel insecure but b/c it's not their business to know. That said, the 5-year age difference will always exist between you two. It's not something that can be changed, therefore she needs to accept it and nip the insecurity in the bud. The unnecessary, idle conversations you've been having with people aside, you two may still still run into unavoidable situations in the future where one or both of you would have to relay that one party is older. Acceptance, on her part is key, otherwise she should find someone closer to her age.

Thanks so much, I accept my mistakes