Aaaaarghmed:
so why the diss and bitterness.you are always bitter when typing about men.

sorry,were you molested?

Acidosis:
The 5-year gap was a trophy to you, reason you couldn't stop talking and bragging about it like a damaged radio. According to you, you had that discussion with just two people? Really? Trophy wey more than 5,000 people have read online in your previous threads?

Wait, after discussing your personal matter with colleagues, you went ahead to discuss the outcome of your gossip with your woman? What were you expecting?

You're not ready for marriage so don't bother talking to another older woman. Settle for a 20 year old lady and wait 5-10 years before delving into marriage.

JASONjnr:
Older single ladies tends to have this issues ... They always feel like they're making a mistake or that they are not in the right relationship...

The age differences will always be a problem regardless...

If she's willing to let down her guts and behave like she's your mate.. only then will the both of you move smoothly..

Buy from her replies... and you admitting that it's all your fault.. then you're a simp... A very bold simp..

OP work on your self esteem and learn to keep your relationship talks to yourself and not discuss it to your friends...

Coming to visit you will be difficult for her as she will feel that 5jose guys will begin to see her as a desperate lady trying to clinch on younger guys just to get married...

Why are you, BabbanBura and all the other guys for that matter, judging (her) from a single story? I thought a single story is a very dangerous thing? I thought you all liked to hear from BOTH sides so as to give a BALANCED opinion? He mentioned how the lady said she felt... do you consider the manner in which the man told his friends how old she is? Do you consider how he might have portrayed her? So what's the issues or mistake older ladies make that you're on about?

He's a simp for admitting his faults?

Gosh234:
Never did I agreed that I am at fault
As it stands now

pocohantas:


By your father? Maybe

Aaaaarghmed:
so,you were molested by a ghost.No wonder you type like a sicko.

pocohantas:


Exactly. Being a ghost didn’t take away his tendencies.

Aaaaarghmed:
now I know you are really a psycho.enjoy the Rape.Such a bitter person

pocohantas:


Exactly. Being a ghost didn’t take away his tendencies.

Ishilove:

LMAAAAAAAAOOOOOO!!! POCOHANTAS!!!!

pocohantas:


They always try to take swipes at women with rape/molestation. Inadvertently admitting it indeed scars the victims. But when they see real life situations like Baba Ijesha’s case, they claim women overreact. When a lady says she was raped as a child, they say she is lying.

He doesn’t care if I was raped as a child and would offer no closure. He just hoped that was the case, so he can reopen an old wound and hit below the belt. He had it coming…

pocohantas:
They always try to take swipes at women with rape/molestation. Inadvertently admitting it indeed scars the victims. But when they see real life situations like Baba Ijesha’s case, they claim women overreact. When a lady says she was raped as a child, they say she is lying.

He doesn’t care if I was raped as a child and would offer no closure. He just hoped that was the case, so he can reopen an old wound and hit below the belt. He had it coming…

Magnoliaa:


The heights of... heights of what I don't even know! When they want to attack women, they believe rape does happen and destabilises a woman into adulthood...

But a rape victim would come forward and they would downplay it, call her a liar and whatnot.

Gosh234:
I will go straight to the point and make this brief. Recall this thread https://www.nairaland.com/6990203/should-marry
On March this year I got a job as ICT officer in a firm which made me move to Lagos ,we are super excited about this development and everything working out fine (No relationship is perfect, understanding kept us going)

I served in a university, towards completion of my service year, I accomodated a guy who got to know about us
One day we were in a arguement of dating or marrying someone older than you.
I stood my ground that I can marry irrespective of age, provided it is what I want
The guy came to conclusion that it seems my spouse is older than me, we laughed over it (That ends it)

Secondly my friend Davidson that live in the same compound who is done with his studies, working while waiting on NYSC.
I told him about my woman , how I love her and ready to settle down as soon as things go as planned for me (he have seen her visited once but they never met)
He asked me if she work, I told him
He asked of her age, I JUST TOLD HIM THAT SHE IS A BIT OLDER THA ME.

While discussing with my woman last night , I was assuring her how much I love her irrespective of anything then I pointed out the two above incidence
To my greatest surprise she became angry eith me
In her words
a) She detest dating underage, how she found herself in this mess she can't tell

b) I should go ahead and tell my mum and elder brother (they just talk via phone) and even all my friends

c) I make her look desperate, that she is loosing interest already

d) I insulted her and she can't trust me again

NOTE
a) I promised her that no one will know of the age difference even if they know she is older

b) I never mentioned her age to these people or the age gap

My crime is that I admitted that she is older and I am proud and love her wholeheartedly

I don't see this working out again
I feel so belittled
Gosh

crackhaus:

Honestly, this is why I feel you did nothing wrong.

Whether you tell people her age now or they found out later, one or the other her age was not going to remain a secret forever.

She has her own issues and she needs to sort that out.

pocohantas:


Don’t you men remind women of who is older and the captain everyday? So what is wrong with reminding una once in a while?

As for young guys, especially the ones U-33, THEY DON’T HAVE SENSE 99% of the time. It is even worse in this generation.

Ordinary 22yrs old girl would comfortably and easily get a Ned to comport himself and do her bidding.

Women on the average mature emotionally faster than men (redpillers can argue this- their business). So why do you think a younger guy can make sense to an older woman? She is years ahead emotionally and very few guys can meet up. I am sure most women that have been with them would be getting the feeling because many act like they need complan abi pacifier.

On top of that they talk too much! It is like a trophy that an older woman is submitting to them. Everything is an ego trip for men. That's the only reason this one is talking chochocho. The whole Nigeria must know an older woman is coming to cook efo riro for him.

As for his babe, she should get a grip of herself. It is not going to be a secret forever.

Peace!

kayperry:




why is it only on seperational cases you are alway making sense try to be eating balance diet sho gbo

Aaaaarghmed:
there are a lot of young guy s getting married to Older ladies everyday..even alot of young black guys getting married to older foreigners everyday.the only reason women mature emotionally quick than guys of their age is because of too much body count.how many young ladies reason well if it's not to be on social media from morning till night thinking of the next maga.we all know most ladies reason like fish brain and the only way you feel they make men submit is just because of sex that can be gotten anywhere nowadays.get your fact right.the same way young ladies are marrying old men is same way young guys marry old women.A man will never see a woman as a trophy but as a sex object.who woman epp.its no biggie.i have 2cousins who married very older ladies and no issues,I have dated older ladies and no issues.same way young ladies handle old men is same way young guys handle old women so why the diss and bitterness.you are always bitter when typing abo tout men.sorry,were you molested?

Magnoliaa:


Why are you, BabbanBura and all the other guys for that matter, judging (her) from a single story? I thought a single story is a very dangerous thing? I thought you all liked to hear from BOTH sides so as to give a BALANCED opinion? He mentioned how the lady said she felt... do you consider the manner in which the man told his friends how old she is? Do you consider how he might have portrayed her? So what's the issues or mistake older ladies make that you're on about?

He's a simp for admitting his faults?

Acidosis:
The 5-year gap was a trophy to you, reason you couldn't stop talking and bragging about it like a damaged radio. According to you, you had that discussion with just two people? Really? Trophy wey more than 5,000 people have read online in your previous threads?

Wait, after discussing your personal matter with colleagues, you went ahead to discuss the outcome of your gossip with your woman? What were you expecting?

You're not ready for marriage so don't bother talking to another older woman. Settle for a 20 year old lady and wait 5-10 years before delving into marriage.

Magnoliaa:


Yawns. If you feel nothing is wrong and you are in the right, what's the point of this thread?

Carry the same pride go tell her say make she comot for your life na.

Acidbath:


In your older thread, you stated she proposed for marriage. You are not the one who proposed to her. You both know the pedophilic society you are in. And now you are telling people she is older than you. This ought not to be a big deal as it isn't abroad but to her,it is.

If you had a job and were financially secure, I would believe every single thing you say about your love for her. I personally feel you wouldn't feel same if the reverse was the case.

I don't know how wired you are psychologically so I won't say you are too young for marriage at 25.

If you really love her, excuse her insecurities. When you wed and get her pregnant, her mind will come down.

Edit: even the topic of the other thread you posted is enough to show you have doubts. That's why you have been discussing her age with your friends. You have your own insecurities as well. Let her go and huzzle for your money till the next 10 years.

Gosh234:
Alright, I am at fault
I have apologised
And it's only these two that have known this
That is settled

Gosh234:
I am not into slavery or begging for love, I have apologised to her and we are good now , any other thing left ?

pocohantas:


Lol. You done vex?
Na you start am na. Oya sorry.

pocohantas:


They always try to take swipes at women with rape/molestation. Inadvertently admitting it indeed scars the victims. But when they see real life situations like Baba Ijesha’s case, they claim women overreact. When a lady says she was raped as a child, they say she is lying.

He doesn’t care if I was raped as a child and would offer no closure. He just hoped that was the case, so he can reopen an old wound and hit below the belt. He had it coming…

Aaaaarghmed:
OP enjoy yourself jare,no big deal.younger guys dey handle older women on a steady.Marry her if she ticks what you want.life goes on.Forget those pained ladies and their comments.

Magnoliaa:


Pained ladies? Who? Hiw/why are they pained? When men make generalizations about women, they are being realistic, but when women do the same, it's 'painment?' Please, make it make sense.

Aaaaarghmed:
stop Quoting me pls.go an be with your pained crew.Former first lady of taraba just married a younger guy,its on nairaland.Enjoy your opinion.