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thank you oh social media. fools now have a medium for expressing their foolery. madam we must share chores. please get a man first and do all this with him first before coming to lecture us.

people who haven't gotten a proposal yet will be advising about marriage

this country is fill with criminals. Nigerians are majorly criminals. this is no surprise. shithole people

likely the man suspected her of infidelity and thus the insecurities. nevertheless being a couple is hard sha. one party will deliberately do the other harm and hope there won't be repercussions to their actions. madam went to collect dick outside, oga fought her, madam bleached his skin with hot water. a perfect marriage actually of loonies

so Technically, Moses is not a right back. what a fall from grace by spending too long a time in chelshit

HigherEd:
Stfu you swine pig. I'm sure you are one of those hell bound criminals who abuse ladies in higher institutions. Is Nigeria the only country with unserious students who don't read? why are the unserious students in saner climes not harrassed and threatened by those who are expected to be their mentors both academically and morally?
Nigeria is unfortunate to have ppl like you as citizens. Pls if you have nothing good to say shut your opinion into the sewage you call a throat and stop spilling garbage on social media....

lol dumbo no matter bull crap you spill what I have said is fact. stop blaming your lecturers for having such a low grade. read ya books

bunch of nonsense. unserious students trading blames on innocent lecturers. go and read, pass well and nobody can victimize you.

Shea butter is the best. add a little saliva through oral on the anus to make things smooother

what is your research area and topic

Haba those are mad people. it's their wedding. about mad people no Sabi where punna dey again ni

Lalas247:
Die hard Liverpool fan
Though I do watch other matches and follow some footie news but mainly follow The reds...
Yes if you noticed before the fowl by Ramos .. Reds literally pressured the Madrid box .. but I have faith in Klopp and Lallana ( the guy is good, we just need to be reminded is all ) ...


I don’t even want this to go to penalties .. I don’t trust Kranius fully the guy has off days and today we don’t need that shît

wow . she has proved herself not a fraudulent fan. I hope Liverpool wins today. would be a hell of a night. you will never walk alone

Lalas247:
Lallana is a top player sha.,, I have faith
It’s his injury this season that f’d him up..

this one has a football brain. unless just a Liverpool fan and quoting the obvious. lallana has the quality to decide the fixture come second half. first half must surely have been an emotional distraction due to the injury.

nothing as yummy as doing a married woman up her ass. cum and cum without a care and a slight hope it would leak out when hubby returns. yummy

Saintsammy59:
. And who is this nii?

an objective person who admits you bunch of kids are lazy as Bleep. read hard and you will make that high grade without having to stoop low or high to any lecturer. only lazy boys whine about victimization.

lazy students blaming their incessant failures on hapless lecturers. if you think you passed a course, always call for a re-mark and be shamed to smithereens that they even added mark to your failure. dull Nigerian students famzing themselves with knowledge

Audray:
Shameful, disgusting, sin.blablabla.
You fake e-wankers should go and sitdown abeg.
Fake people with fake morals.
Always flexing muscles on things of no consequence.
Now that you have finished judging. is life your any better? Nope.

this my lesbian crush. you still alive ?

he is absolutely right. he owns the house as well as the punna.

character assassination

where are the Hart brothers....... smh

people with lots of time for idle meaningless discussions., which one is needing a man so they take you seriously. what is happening with these attention seeking women and the weak men they parade about. truly shocking .

subtle male emasculation in progress started by an emasculated male. if you are professional and know what you talking about, people will take you seriously Irrepective of gender. maybe when men don't take some men seriously it is also a sexist attack. bunch of nitwits trying to be "woke"

this is fishy, but it proves once again that the view of animals are correct, we humans are the animals and they are the humans. we are a specie that sleep with same sex, use other humans to make money, sell each other for sex and forced labour and finally now kill innocent children simply because their mama likes to play her Spanish guitar. Wetin concern them inside that matter? has the woman not given birth to kids for you, what is your busines with what she does with her privates. if you did a good job maybe she won't be such a masturbation gold medalist. anyway such a useless man has been rid of the world and he took his possibly cursed genes along with him. adios motherfucker

JackBaueress1:
How did they get his frozen sperm? Did he ejaculate? How?

if we ignore the fraudulent "f" on your monicker, because we know she is a male, kindly go to a quiet corner, away from the prying eyes of children, please go along with a large tub of Vaseline, rub it generously on the right palm, use the left palm to open xvideos on your phone and then type heavy yansh on the search menu, start petting your privates with the Vaseline covered hands in upward and downward strokes. soonest you will pour akamu. try not to pour in into any tissue, ensure it enters a clean container, take it to a fridge were nobody will mistake it for butter for bread nor pit-it milky candy. that's how to freeze sperms

posts of little girls who still think their fishy canals must be where the springs of life emanates from. you are still very young girls learning life. so such posts should be relegated to the garbage.

girls who many a rich guy would jump and pass over them, are here talking money.

your analysis is apt and has good rationale yet you raised an issue which you haven't addressed. how do we create a serum that detects HIV infects cells and also seem able to destroy such infected cells in your calculated percentages. also you mentioned that the virus multiplies and that's ARV stops that multiplication, have you really researched whether it really stops the multiplication to healthy cells or maybe it reduces it's rate of multiplication.

in summary, I think you are up to something, but you are still very much at the beginning stages of your research. please do more work and report your findings on this thread.

cheers

EgunMogaji:
You're absolutely correct.

It's Ibadan.

Ibadan is a pretty cheap city, cheap accommodation, cheap transport (good transport) etc. well the median pay for comfort In that city to be counted as living wage is between (75k to 100k) for a single individual. but to capture savings of at least 35percent while still enjoying the benefits of the living wage structure, I think a median of the range plus 35 percent of the maximum is applicable, 122,500 apparently . this can offer an individual loving singly in Ibadan the same comforts as a middle level 300k salary earner in Lagos State or abuja

EgunMogaji:
Let's start over.

I'm looking at what is the minimum livable, not slave wage, monthly salary for a single person, not a married person with kids. This position will also get a year-end bonus based on company performance.

what Nigerian location as that determines living wage (different median)

EgunMogaji:
I'm writing a business plan and I need to really figure this out.

I intend to distribute end of year bonuses but still a man must chop before end of the year . So I need to figure out a sustainable bottom line for a single person to be able to save maybe 35% of the monthly salary after expenses.

Please share any findings, thanks.

there are peculiarities to that situation. you cant average a bench mark without considering the peculiarities of a majority of your work force. note that location and local expenses play a factor Irrepective of the peculiarities mentioned. nevertheless 35percent savings by the worker with upfront deductions for an end of year bonus if I got you right, for a very low expense zone in Nigeria would amount to 65k. where we it's assumed that at least 45k can cater for a man, his wife and a child. thus saving roughly 35percent. note this didn't factor in possible deductions if I got you right to be paid at year end.

SaudiBoy:
Greeting to everyone. I am in serious dilemma and need matured advice.

I dated my wife for 8 years before we got married last year and God blessed us recently with a child.

My problem began when my business nose dived and we began facing a little difficulty, my wife's sister who happens to be my good friend also stepped in and helped us with a loan totalling 340k which i have paid 190k and still making out ways to pay back the rest.
During those trying times my wife and i would go there and spend days to alleviate pressure of feeding, please i went there with her because I felt welcomed and they never made me feel i was Inlaw, a stranger will think am part of the mums children.

Now the main gbese is this, my wife's mum has been staying with us since this year, taking care of wifey as she put to bed and we have been living peacefully.

Now my mum wanted to come and spend time with us, and the problem started when my mum told me to come with my car and carry her as things she bought for us were too much for her to carry and enter public bus, and i agreed. I went to inform my wife and she kicked against it, citing high fuel cost and lack of money. I talked to her to forget about the money side of her story and see it as a sacrifice. It is a 6 hour journey to and fro.
When she saw she could not convince me, she reported to her sister who tried to talk me out of going to pick my mum, but i refused and told her my mind was made up. Then my wife resorted to i will see those things your mother will bring and come.

Then it got to the day i was going to pick my mum, I called my wife and told her i want your mum to stay and be bathing baby and taking care of you, as I know my mum is now lazy and can't do these work continually, they both agreed. I went and brought my mum home. And the journey to hell started.

There is this girl married with two kids i have warned my wife about to quit been friends with her as despite been married she is a big cheat who sleeps with men for money. So this girl came to my house to visit my wife, and there was this white man at my wife's former place of work that my wife has been chatting with, I read all their chats and had nothing to fault with their conversation, until i discovered my wife sent scantly dressed pictures of her friend to the white man and gave the man the girls contact. I was very furious and felt disappointed, y she did this, that was where my anger started.

So I told her point blank to quit every conversation with the said white man, but she told me plainly she has her life to live and i cannot tell her what to do. This word hurt me and i harboured it in my heart for her.

I and her mum tried to talk to her she didn't still see what she did as bad, then i reported her to her sister whom I felt was close to us and will advice her but no she continued her chat and instead changed her phone pattern.

So we started having issues, every small thing irritated me, then my wife started complaining about my mum, once i go to work and come back, no welcome hug, it will be ur mum said this. Therefore i should Go and fight her if that was her expectation.

The wrong thing I did was not hearing her out, because I already had this grudge in my mind for her bcoz of the statement she made about the white man. And I was already under pressure, how to pay off my debts feed and provide for my family and the 2 additional mouths that came, run generator everyday, and doing everything not to allow my family feel any form of hardship.

Then one day her sister called me and there was nothing she did not say on phone that day, my wife called her and was crying my mum was maltreating her and i kept quiet.
In her sisters exact words, u should be happy my sister married you bcoz she would have seen a better man. These are now the words my wife tells me.

Now the main problem my mum fell sick and she wanted to go back, fuel has now become 145, she met my wife and asked her how will she go if i will drop her or she will take public transport, my wife came to ask me and i ignored it because I didn't want to stir up quarrel. So I met my mother in-laws and told her i would like to go and drop my mum and she said OK if i have spare money for fuel i should do it that moreover my mum is sick.

I wanted to go look for a way to tell my wife but my mum was already dressed thinking she was going that day and was in the room with my wife, and i was to take my mum to somewhere before she goes, and she was in a hurry, I couldn't tell her anymore of my decision, and promised to call her on phone. Only for me to come to the parlor, in front of my mother in-law,i told my mum I would drop her but she had to wait till the next day early morning as I had jobs I needed to attend to.

I then left with my mum to the place she was going to and when we came back, I was with my wife in the room and she was shouting on top her voice, that I shud choose between her and my mum, and that if I go and drop my mum off at her place, she will pack her load and go. I laughe thinking it was a joke.
So mum heard what she said and left my house in anger, in retaliation, that's how i feel, she went to make her hair, as my wife has been begging to come let them go and make her, she cited sickness as example. When I saw my mum with the hair i was bitter and told her to better look for an excuse to give my wife.

She came home and my wife saw the hair and was deeply hurt, mum tried talking to her but it couldn't pacify here, i begged her she refused, so I decided to leave the house and go back to my work, at the door my wife told me to make sure i come back early as she won't givevny mum food, I begged her still, called her when i left and sent an SMS from work, but alas when I got home around past 11pm she didn't give my mum food.

I called my wife, mum and mum Inlaw and tried talking to them so that what ever venom in them will soften, I spoke at length and my mum spoke, when it got to my wife's turn, she flared up and insulted everyone and left, I was disappointed.

The next day morning my mum was finally going to leave, my wife woke up, met her at the door and passed her without greeting and when we were about to leave my wife never came back to say good bye

I travelled and came back and true to her words she packed out of our house and went to Her sisters house.
I called her sister to enquire she wouldn't answer, I went to her house and for 2 hours nobody opened the gate for me, despite hearing my horns and my many calls to her phone which she finally picked and told Me no one was around to open gate for me, quite shortly I saw my mum Inlaw, I asked her how can she encourage her dorta to pack out of the house, she said she was not around when she packed. So my wife's sister knowing her mum was at the gate sent someone to open it and since I was still outside called me she was sending someone to open gate for me, in anger I left and told her not to worry as she was opening it for her mum.
I called my sister in-laws husband and informed him my wife packed to his house without my consent and he was away from town and said when he come back.

He came back and called me after talking to us, I told him I have already changed the padlock of our protector that my wife must apologise before i will let her in again. my wife's response was that she needed a break of 6 months then changed to she was done.

I posted a picture of me holding our baby and wrote some love touching words to him, my wife saw it and became very upset and jelos, and the new accusation became I value our child more than her and don't appreciate her. Then I went to work only to come back home, I saw the locks to the house has been broken, I met my wife packing her remaining things that she needs space, I tried talking to her, next thing her sister called that what is holding her, my wife said I was stopping her, her sister came to my house packed my wife's things including my mum in-laws things, before they left I called my mum Inlaw to ask if she was aware and she said yes, that she heard because of how my wife treated my mum that I said she will not come to my house again, a word I said out of anger. That was how they left.

It's been 3 weeks now I have forgiven my wife and we have settled and she even passed a night in the house and we made mad love

Now she wants to come back, I told her plainly I will not carry those load her sister carried, either she forgets them or I send a cab for her. She agreed to leave the load and come pick her later, immediately she told her sister, the music changed, my wife became abusive and told me if I won't come myself and carry the load then I should forget about her and my child, that she will never use a cab since I have a car and her sister cannot bring the load.

At this juncture I became irritated. Seriously I don't want a broken home since am a product of one, and I know the effects it has on a child.

For 3 weeks I have been jumping from canteen to canteen, I don't know what to do, if to go and bring the load or just allow them to remain there.

Please i need candid advice and criticism, not insult as am already broken.

Am 31 and my wife is 26



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Reading through let me make something clear about the money i borrowed from my in-law

You see am not broke, I live in an comfortable house, drive a good car, and have a land in the state i reside, with a back up bank balance that gave me confidence, but overnight i watched all i have go away due to circumstance better imagined.

I own a truck used for sand and stone transportation, and people into this business will know drivers remit 150k weekly.

My problem started when my truck was involved in an accident which cost a life and also condemned the car, my driver disappeared from the scene and my conductor was in custody for 13weeks

After police case and everything, I paid the family 2.5m for burial and compensation, I paid 400k to the driver of the car my truck hit, bailed my conductor, my truck and closed the police case with 150k.

So this expense cost me 3m that was y i had to seek that loan.

Now i decided not to engage in the trucking business anymore and sell off the truck, but the best price I have gotten from a buyer is 1.5m for a truck i bought 4.5m 2 years ago, so i refused to sell. Still waiting for the right price. To pay off my debt and run my home, I am secretly using my car for uber without my wife's knowledge.although she said i should just sell the truck and start again

I don't want to believe my wife is about the money because she met be broke and we built our wealth together before finally getting married, my problem is during this crisis, she started confiding in her sisters more, and this is where it has landed me




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You see there is more to this story that meets the eye.
That is why I decided to be calm about this whole issue, because it has really opened my eyes, I don't believe this has to do with the money i loaned because the sisters husband also loans money from me atimes,
And pays back, I was very very close to them.

I only soft pedalled on this issue because it is very clear to me there is a grand script been planned by my sister in-laws out of jelousy, because she has been childless for 7 years of marriage.

My wife made a statemet that startled me, that she will send me divorce papers, and that the baby been just 2months, court will award her custody and she will just give the baby to her sister and travel out.

Then i started working on my wife's senses, talking to her until she became soft and we settled my wife she needed time to heal, I offered her to come back home and heal she said know that her sister just had another miscarriage and she needs to be with her.

Now the day my wife came to visit me and decided to sleep over, the sister called her, I pretended to be asleep and I could hear the sister say, now now now, u Don run go sleep there bcoz of sex. The next day it was clear my wife didn't want to go back, I dropped her off around 2pm and before the sister agreed to to open gate for her, it was war after much exchange of whatsapp message

my brother it's time to be a man, it's time to decide and lay the bed of that marriage. this is when you must be assertive and watch as things will flow better. don't get too emotional rather use this situation to gain leverage on your family. your wife is still young and very foolish apparently. it's normal for women at that age ND experience. nevertheless you need to man up and cut all communications, close all interests, forget your wife (note that this is all a game you must play). the more you chase her for peace the more she runs and feels more hurt (imaginary). face your business and your life, don't call, don't ask, you already know what your child needs, send that via transfer to her account and a text explaining the money is for the child. if she threatens you with divorce papers, do not respond. rather say "ok". let her do what is on her mind. she is only barking and enjoying the leverage she feels she already has with you. you need to gain this back, please in the mean time face your business to get back on your feet financially. provide for your child but please also take note of if your wife has started following other men. she will make a U-turn soonest after a painful realization, that will be your own cue to gain leverage. act aloof, say you aren't interested, behave as though you don't care whether the marriage works or fails. if she has cheated, then it's your choice to divorce like I would In such shoes, but if she hasn't yet done so, then accept her back after a little torture. it's fun to win on a power play. also for last, stop being such a weak man. women can see it from far and they loathe it's