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funny , guess would name my pup marshmallow, break hearts as you grow older my love

highqueen:
I can decide to be the best person for myself..

marry the right person but you forgot people change

yes people change when circumstances change. whom you are depends on what you class your personality to be. are you all about your pretty face, good looks etc? these will fade with time and of course things will change. but a good personality , great manners, excellent behaviour can never change with time, because that's truly who you are. choose a man who loves you beyond your looks, job, prospects and also choose a man and love him beyond those things as well. let your love be independent of features such as wealth, health or looks. and them you have found a good man, while being a good woman too.

people fall in love with someone else based on their perceptions that it's greener. especially when the one they have has become a see-finish. no good character can be a see finish. asides cheating due to circumstances, no real person would be caught wanting

Amarabae:
It's not a mistake.
Sometimes we women are our own worst enemies.
OK look at this logic,
Married men who are cheats normally go after single girls who are not married.
Why do they love to avoid married women most times?
Because of respect for their fellow men.

But a single girl will be comfortable sleeping with the husband of a fellow woman with kids,
It's dat not wickedness?
She will even snatch the man from the wife totally.
Jezebels.

if you were to trace and trace the line of karma. how are you sure the currently wife isn't suffering it's consequence. how are you sure this isn't her own payback for bedding another woman's husband long ago. anyway take note that polygamy has always been natural and this currently setup of monogamy is a failed western idealogy even though it is the only option for men if they want to maintain their sanity.

get a good man, be a good woman and add some prayer to your marriage and no other woman can put it asunder.

highqueen:
still asking the essence of marriage

you won't know yet till your 50's and older. marry the right person while also being the right person for him, things will work out well

SapphirePRINCEX:
But with the kind of battery on that woman's face, was that all you could say? No matter what she did, do you think she deserved it?

let's assume it was a woman who gave her such injuries, you would become interested in what she did first to justify at least those injuries. now you saying it doesn't matter what she did because a man inflicted those injuries.

women play the victim card alot, even when they are aggressors and lost a fight, I will always ask, judge with complete information. I don't agree with the school of thought that she shouldn't be beaten no matter what she did. if same logic won't apply when a fellow woman beats her up, why should it apply with a man. shey people say we are equal. where is the equality

SapphirePRINCEX:
U get issues sha

if you weren't pretty, I would have abused you. it's not late though. if you aren't attracted to me, don't mention me.

women, the perpertual victim role players, madam Wetin happen, no be when person lose fight e go come online dey seek pity and support. dumbo women without a logical brain

gang related death? useless child. a curse unto his family.

wow. would have grown to be handsome if only death wasn't cruel.

what did his mum take to warrant such deformity. rip child to reappear again hopefully looking your best

MzMe:
Go girl, take over the music Industry and make those useless guys run for their money.

hey dumbo, edit that post before your armpit is infested with craw craw. your father didn't train you to respect men and not call them names? hypocrite oshi

this is really disturbing. anyway what you don't know won't kill you. don't judge these women my brothers because they spoke out. if your so called loving wife or gf speak out. even if all the oceans turns in wine or ogogoro, it won't be enough to drown our sorrows, nor enough towels to wipe our tears. daughters of eve, Ada eve

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rest in peace bro. Onye Melu nke ya, ona mmuo. pray you enter heaven if it exists. dust to dust

she didn't mention the butt plugs she uses to peg him silly . many people with a PREEK are not men. bobrisky ET al. they are married and giving men in marriage a bad name. she is the husband in that marriage, not for beating the man, but for wifeing him

that someone has a penis is not enough to qualify him as a man. in every marriage there is the role of husband and wife. sometimes the man is the wife and the woman is the husband. therefore leave them be. so far it works for them. that's why there is no basic rules to marriage. what works for A will never work for B. when you marry a woman, if you don't become the husband, she will become the husband.

take note to the men in the house. also there is nothing wrong in washing his cloths nor those of the kids even his wife sef. some men love washing and house chores, just like my father. there is constant quarell because he can't leave the kitchen for my mum to do the needful. but that man can cook mehn. just that he isn't very very clean while cooking thus we prefered mum's cooking.

this is an unmarried woman and not an unmarried lady. also dear which virginity. your pussy, anus , mouth. which one please.

sedek4569:
and what will you do about that?

nothing really more than I have done. maybe if it wasn't an online issue, smack you hard across the mouth. well continue since I can't find your mouth to smack it hard

Authoreety:
Hey! Calm down... muslims dont give a sshii abt other religions

yet somehow they aren't the ones abusing another person's worship on this thread. very hypocritic

Safiaaa:
You’re not getting my point. Never did I say doing and achieving things in your prime was a bad decision to make. Is that understood? Of course, why not find love when you’re young, make money etc. The sky is your limit. However, you need to find yourself first before anything. And unfortunately that’s what most young people do not do, esp in relationships. The OP for example clearly doesn’t know what she wants and all you can say is ‘get a man’. Self development is extremely important, because if you happen to receive those blessings like finding love and making money in your prime, you will not be able to handle it and it will be gone before you even blink your eyes. So understand that age is not everything, your mentality is. It’s a combination of both, self development must always come first.

comes still to what I have said, also these is nothing like finding yourself. even at the point of death, one would still find himself which he didn't previously know about. the lady in question sounded very proud of her feelings which is an indication she has her eyes off the ball. also in the name of finding yourself, if you forget to look at your timeline, finding yourself could leave you to lots of regrets when you realize that what you actually found out in finding yourself was what you had all along. talk is cheap, action is money. thus she should get herself a man. since she clearly finds the time to go on dates with them etc but somehow is so happy to be able to discard them and have no feelings. these things are reciprocal, one day she won't have them come around so much. it's a fact of life. she better find herself fast before they stop coming around. she can decide whether she will accept the men who come to her, but she can't decide who comes to her. anyone who has dated an older lady in her 30's knows what I am saying. you would speak and treat her in ways even you know in her 20's woe betide you to do such, yet she will take in because she has hopes you would pop the question. painfully she tends to be a better version of herself in her 30's but men don't care, they want 23 year olds. everyone who has dated an older lady would know how great it is, how understanding she is, and yet she remains unmarried and dying inside to be married

if she is the type who never wants to get married, that's a different issue, even in her 50's she will have no regrets asides the one she will feel from her 60's upwards. but for a lady who knows she would love to get married someday, have kids, build a home, have career in something etc. it's wiser she looks more on her timeline and make the best decisions first before finding herself. women are like wine, they get better with age, but the are also like ommelletes, they don't look better with age. thus you see a nice older girl, struggling to get hitched when years ago men stood on queues just to get her attention. you pity such a lady but can help to laugh at her. she didn't watch her timeline.

she might have found herself, but nobody is interested in finding her anymore. a wise woman builds the two together, she tries to find herself while watching her timeline. she knows she can never find herself completely anyway, but she finds out enough to allow her make the best choice on her future mate. she settles and takes off from there chopping and changing as things come.

this is point. I hope you can get it now simplified.

Safiaaa:
I get your point. But everybody’s journey in life is extremely different. Your tone is “ you must get a man now and put that before everything otherwise there’s little to no hope for you later” is quite concerning. Her life must not revolve around getting a man, now or never. What will be will be. When she’s ready and mentally prepared to handle a relationship everything will fall into place. Yes the sun is shining on her now, but can she handle the responsibilities that come with it? Stop putting a time span on women, this is the exact reason why women settle or do things out of fear and end up regretting later in life. Whether it’s now or ten years from now, she can have peace within herself knowing she did the right thing. Fucck your age limitations.

wrong. everyone's path is different, yet we end up in the same path. the woman who was foolish enough to have teen pregnancy, was laughed at for years, would not feel foolish again in 20years time when she holds her grand child from the bastard. many who mocked her would come to celebrate and silently wish they also had teenage pregnancy. the fact remains is that there is a timeline for everything, an optimal timeline. the best time for everything. this doesn't mean one can't do them at other times, but they would be done in tears. this is very similar to a student who graduates with a poor results and is seeking remedies, this speaks to a woman who rejected lots of men in her prime with alot of theories, only to give up all those theories In her 30's for a little man who gave her some attention. it's the same girl, the only thing is she took her eyes off the ball, took her yes off her timeline.
it is wise to do things at the best time, to make money In your youth, to find love in your youth. it's easier then, people who choose wrongly are people who didn't keep an eye on their cycle and In haste settled before their sun's set. if you are watching your sun very well, planning with your cycle, you will never make a hasty plus bad decision.

everyone who is above 30 realizes many things they wish they knew in their 20's, those above 40 realize many things they wished they knew in their 30's. those who were wise in these period, while in their 20's planned for life in their 30's and 40's. they always made choices today that would reflect on them at least ten years from now.

only the foolish make choices based on their present situation. if you have flawless skin today, and you remeber you won't have it for long, while prostituting around, you will focus on saving for the rainy day, but if u forgot the simply fact of ageing, you will spend the money in Dubai till nobody invited you to Dubai anymore, the you start going to Shiloh. there must always be a place to go, movement to be made. up or down.

there is a timeline In this world for everyone, so why not live as optimally as possible in any timeline you see yourself. make the best choices as though tomorrow will never come, plan for it as though tomorrow must come.

FluidQueen:
I will definitely make hay when the sun shines.... But my hay and Another woman's hay aren't the same thing.


No one could dictate my happiness for me, I'm the only one responsible for my happiness. I truly know what would make me happy. And relationships isn't one of them.

Thank you.

laughs, ten years ago, playing in the sands watching who wants to be a millionaire made you happy. today these things likely don't make you feel same. how then do you plan with what makes you feel happy today, when ten years from today those things won't make you feel happy again. every woman's hay is the same thing my dear, they only have different times for realizing that simple fact. some will reliaze it early and learn from advice, some will realize it late and learn from experience. the fact remains everyone will sha realize it and see that all the guys are the same. how it's so the same for the alive and the dead, the rich and the poor, the popular and the street urchin.

maybe if you plan with what will make you happy in the next ten years and concatenate that for fourty years at least, maybe then you could say you have made a good plan. don't forget that upon realization there can only be regret never recompense. because time once passed, has passed.

if you are too young for love concerns, maybe you are right to stay away for now, but never allow your cycle to pass before you get love, so you don't end up begging for what you once had on a platter of gold. therefore always keep an eye on your cycle In life, delay things but never let it pass by completely.

an optimal life is a life built on optimal choices (best choice at the best time), else regrets are inevitable. nobody likes regrets. at least I have seen that in girls who made that mistake and assumed the sun shines at their behest and would do so as long as they wanted. what a rude awakening they got.

FluidQueen:
You sound like you're 35+


You should get married quick before you lose your youthful valor and women Wouldn't take you seriously anymore.
In the meantime, Your advice isn't exactly needed. But thank you tho. I will make my own choices from now on.

your choices dear. also that age bracket isn't wrong. maybe that's the only thing you got right today.

make your choices, but make lots of hay while your sun shines. it will soon set anyway and you will be left with the fruits of your hay days, just like old musicians and celebrities, it's what you made while ur sun shone that you eat when it sets, also just like happened with all the women in your life. they didn't set out old and shrivelled. many were prettier than you, they made hay, they started a family, had kids like you to continue the struggle and today they have lived the good life and await the end whenever it may come.

guess you will learn this by experience since you are intoxicated too much in your childish wisdom (it happened to we all). money, recognition, career, health etc all Na turn by turn. a simple cycle which will go from beginning to end, poor to rich, rich to poor, happy to say, sad to happy, life to death and everything that matters wasn't the end we thought we would meet, but the simple processes we went through till such an end.

love is everything.

Safiaaa:
Going by what you have said...the fact is that most of you don’t have money. So this is not even applicable to most men. So for the average man, your options are still very limited and will be limited even as you age, because what you do in your prime reflects how you will live in the future. Please be very real with yourself and stop trying to hide under your misogynistic views. Man or woman, everything will fall into place when it’s time.

my dear, I was very clear in adding the clause, "if he can afford it". clearly if he can't afford it, he will reliaze painfully the act of making money being the most important attribute a man must have and not having the best hair cut or tattoo. I am not uncomfortable being called a misogynist anyway. people aren't uncomfortable being called feminists so why bother. nevethless nothing ever falls into place, it is exactly how you play your games, the choices you pick at every cycle of your life which will help the next cycle. if you decide to be Muslim right now, the cycle of your life changes entirely, you might find wealth, you might find death, but the fact remains you will have a complete change of your destiny. thus nothing but your choices makes anything fall into place. the situation is more dire for a woman than a man anyway with respect to finding love. a man needs to find money and hopefully he might find love at 60, a woman even with money might not find love at 60. even if she finds, her eggs are likely all depleted, even if they are not, her skin are likely all shrivelled, and even if she isn't she is already suffering from old sickness making doggy style and cow girl Impossible. nevethless these are not the point. because at that age, would she realize that doggy style, money, cow girl etc aren't the point in marriage. something more important is, and she is seeing it late, why then didn't she do it while her sun was shining. this is my point. everyone must make hay while his or her sun shines. you just make money in your youth, you must find love In your youth. etc it doesn't imply you can't find it later than I have mentioned, but why make life so hard for yourself. why try to make money when your legs are weak and hands shrivelled, why try to find love when ur skin isn't so taut anymore, breast not perky anymore . why not do the best thing at the best time while your sun is shining brightest. guess it speaks more to the make hay while the sun shines.

the lady OP has her sun shining now, it will soon set as life is destined to work. if she thinks it will be shining forever then what a fool she must be, if she makes plans and hay while it shines, to reap the fruits when it sets, then she is wise. learn from all I have said and leave my being a misogynist out of it. I am not ashamed

FluidQueen:
I'm sorry but this is balderdash

...Another Hogwash
At the bolded, who exactly restricts my choice? You? God? Society? Why you think a woman has limited choice in the world where men don't is exactly why the world needs Equality.

Why you think the idea that a woman puts goals and ambition before marriage is ludicrous is actually the height of insensitivity , gender bias, degredation and Subtle sexism.

So, men are allowed to choose the world if they could afford and women should just resort to petty wishes, being a married woman and someone's kitchen slave for all eternity?

Lol. I'll pass. I'd rather take my own choice. Break free from the shackles of Nigeria's-Societal expectations of females. I'd pick My goals over looking relentlessly for a man anytime.

age restrictions is all in your head. I don't live my life based on the number of cat calls I get, or What men Would want. Those are frivolities. Inconsequential things and never my priorities. I have goals, ambitions, money goals, beauty goals, health goals.

like I said hon. you are still very young. you will learn more as you advance in life. we been there, heard all this before, saw how they all turned out and am sure in another life they will want to make a rethink. that being said. you assume that everything you listed there is what life is all about? then you know nothing fluidgirl. you haven't found out exactly why you are living yet. note it that marriage isn't my point, neither do I even agree with you that women need any emancipation. hopefully you will get all those things that look fantastic and worthwhile, maybe the. you will realize painfully what life truly is about. how the role of men comes to play in it. guess all our mothers and fathers are all so stupid.

FluidQueen:
And this is news, because? People break off ineffective relatiosnhips. It has nothing to do with age.
So, We eventually get under the sheets, You get a hard-on, I get slopply wet. You play your cards well, I get like 3-6 Orgasm While you manage just ONE.. And you still think I'm blessing you?
Lmao. Dude, are you even listening to yourself? You ARE THE ONE BLESSING ME!
lol.
This mentality is Cliche, Very Cliche indeed.
A woman at her 30s is still very young, beautiful and very much attractive so. And not everyone lives their lives exclusively to get Cat called by men, Oga. Our lives and entire existence worth way more than that. We have ambitions, a carrier to chase, Money that needs to be made, A future. Do away with such logic. A woman that knows how to look beautiful and simply live her life would get any man she wants even at 45. The age restrictions is all in your head.

very funny, I used to have people who reasoned like you many years back, life has taught them in the best ways it knows how (experience). they didn't listen to advice then, so they learnt by experience. the mere fact you think money, career and future mean anything are indeed laughable and prove how badly you need to learn the hard way. you also are still very very young, filled with hormones and youthful ideas. when the times I mentioned comes to fore, be glad to reference me then. my mention of those ladies over 30 are based on your questions, the fact you could get 6 orgasms are dependent on whom you had sex with anyway, in many cases you wouldn't even have one. except a woman is ugly, then she enjoys catcalls and while young lives for catcalls. maybe you should try a simple theory out. ask out 10 men and see how many would call you back. even now you are young, with likely perky tits, many will not bother to look at you twice, many will of course look twice. this ratio will reduce as age comes no matter the packaging. even a virgin old woman looks like an old woman. there is nothing anyone can do about ageing, sagging, folded thighs, and worse of all ignoring young and perky for old and saggy simply because she has money. an old man with money could get a 16 year old wife, while an old woman with money can simply only get a 16year old toyboy. who would even use her money for 23year olds.

this negates your thought u will get any man u want at 45, because you can't even do that now you are below 25. men have tastes, if you are skinny only skinny lover's would want you, if you are BBw only BBw lover's will want you. that's the difference in being a woman. you never really get to choose in all honesty, you rather choose amongst the choices offered to you. unlike a man who could choose the world as long as his money could afford it. don't be like those who we all now know to be frustrated, use your time wisely as a woman. money, career and everything else can still be made even after you get a man. just saying

amiibaby:
must u quote me since u know what they topic is all about?

he likes you. but wait a minute. she is pretty. how are you sunshine in the morning. #unwraps pick up lines from old hint magazine

FluidQueen:
this. Is. Just. Sick..

What makes u think she wouldn't Wanna fúck(use and dump) men even if she's 30? Have you seen 30Yr old women? They are HOT and literally on FIRE.


We're both adults abeg. Sex is a consensual Act, between two people. Why men like you think Having sex with a female equates using them is beyond my cognitive abilities. No one is using anybody. Females Also enjoy sex too. We get orgasms too. We like SEX as much as you do. Do away with all those sexist mentality.

I have seen them at 30, dated them at 30, dumped them at 30. also madam this has nothing to do with being sexist. the very notion that sex is consensual isn't a Nigerian thing. we know it in Africa that sex is a woman's way of blessing a man. that being said, the concept of time and cycle isn't something you illogical females understand. everything get e time, everybody is on a constant cycle. you either get with the program or you time and cycle passes away. she is 23, she is on a cycle where men won't let her be, that cycle will soon end, she will get older and men will chase other 23year olds. men like 23 year olds, not this girl in particular. am sure you attended or attend a university. it's the jambito effect. everyone will enjoy the perks of being a fresher, where everyone wants to date you, yet when u now in 300 level and ready to date, very few men bother to ask you out. simply because they are waiting for the jambito cycle. if you are wise learn from all I have said and never miss your own cycle. as expected be ur turn now, that same turn will pass away soon. wise women get all they want while it's their turn, foolish women assume the attention of the men is forever constant and end up dissapointed

QueenSuccubus:



Uummm..if u dont like men, maybe u like women ?


Sometimes we have this phase in our life that we cudnt decide what we really want..Some ppol will try to explore & some will juz stay away from it coz they are afraid of consequences...

I can see this one has lesbian tendencies or experience. what a turn on this holy morning.

biacan:
Never knew you where this wise..... I feel your pain but it's not your fault since we no longer have sincere men out there...... all these boys wants to take advantage of ladies which can never happen.....

small pikin Dem worry this one. you never see chumchin yet. with all ur yansh, men will still look away, even when you tell them you will foot their bills, they will still look away. who would want an old hag when new and succulent come out every year. life is good

gloria34:
no time 4 long stories, I just can't settle into a relationship. I'm 23, teaching, but d probs is I'm happy when I see people in relationships but I won't dare it on my own. I might talk to a guy on phone, like him, but d minute we meet, 4get it! I just want him as a friend. got lot of guys as friends but having a relationship? it just seem impossible. ladies abeg, have u experience this b4?

you are only 23, your breasts are still perky and the men are still calling. cool down my dear youngie, the men will soon move on other 23 year olds in 4years time. then you will be 27 and those breasts no longer perky. hope you don't start having the interest then oh, because demons love needy women at that age. they Bleep and dump you all easily because you are now emotionally unstable and easy to deceive. be wise. ignore those deceptive looking perky tits and get yasef a man.

how men follow well used pussies simply because the thrash belongs to a celebrity baffles me. guess it has alot to do with money miss roads. people with very slowly selling esteem, who get off with, I am fecking ini Edo.