EWAagoyin:
sir this nt abt insecurity issue.. d guy once said he loves her that why my is nw against dere friendship and she is refusing 2 let go of him dats d problem

it still boils down to insecurity issues.. your guy feels threatened by the other guy. he would still noture the feeling that something might be going on between the both of them.. hence the need to steer clear of him..

I would still advice that since she has threatened to call it quit, he should move on because there is more to it..

my advice : let her go ahead and break up, at least your friend should be happy he would be free from the shackles of pains caused by insecurity issues.. the simple truth is that there is something your friend lacks that his Bae is getting from the other guy.. he should walk away and accept fate..

I just applied...

ride on bro

I think this story is fabricated..

kindredspirit:


Dude, DO NOT be taken in by this girl's tears. Trust me, you're going to regret it. I can tell that your hitherto steely resolve is being washed away by her tears.

Then again, maybe you need to learn the hard way because you're going to get what's coming to you if you take this girl back. It's good for experience value though as it would further reveal to you the intricacies of female behaviour in your journey through life.

Please proceed. All the best.

I ain't moved by her tears a bit.. she can cry a river for all I care.. I just want to hear her own side of the story at least to be a fair judge.. but that doesn't mean I would condescend so low to played for a fool again. NEVER!!!!!

LadyJul:
It's very obvious u really love this girl...she might really love you but she's very confused... She's only going back to that ex because she knows you will still forgive her when caught....If you really want her to stop playing a fool out of you..then u need to stop forgiving her easily....teach her a lesson she'll never forget..and she won't try nonsense with you again... But if u keep forgiving her easily every time.. She'll continue taking you for a fool...

thanks deary.. I can't trust her again ever!! I won't just forgive like that, she has to see her faults and know fully well that this time around I ain't got time for rubbish..

guys she did one rather amazing and surprising thing this morning.. hope you all remember I told you she has been calling me since morning, when she couldn't hold it any longer, I had a surprise visit.. alas!!! she came to my house.

I pretended as if nothing happened, she was just sober all through.. we didn't even talk as I pretended as if no one was around.. I offered her food but she rejected.. all through her stay in my house she was just crying..

well, I had called her this evening for us to talk.. lemme get to hear what she will say.. as I type this to you, she is still crying..

Besto:


If you feel the ex is not a match or threat to you.. Hear her out and give her a last chance. Believe me if its a girl that truly wants something with you, she will amend her ways straight up.

Used to be in your shoes though I never took note of it because the ex was never a threat to me, I had always got the attention and all that but only got to know when I took her phone for a broken screen fix, checked bae's contact, she stored my no as "my hero" stored his with "John love".. I was worked up @1st but later got a grip of myself and then smiled. In my mind I was like" Na so this small girl wan take confused two grown up men". Actually 1month into our relationship I asked about her ex and all that, And then asked hope I don't have to play the ex games.. Chic was like I don't even have his number again and all that craps

Will update later about the confrontation.. But we good now. So try to hear out if she keeps buzzing your cell.

bro can we talk privately... prolly on whatsapp.. here is my number 07086071780

B2Spirits:
The problem with good guys is that they often feel compassionate towards ïdiîots, and find it difficult to dump them. I have been in your shoe before.

To be able to do this, send a message that sounds like, "if you keep disturbing my peace, you will know no peace". That will let her know you are serious.

I think I would do just that.. she has been calling for Africa

Dojupyo:
You weren't harsh with your decisions..

An Ex is an Ex, she just have to decide who to be with. It's good to always set a limit with our communications with Exes..

You know what you want for yourself.. Do that which you want..

I wish she could understand this..

Kingsasian:
you can answer the call but be firm on your stand. I know you love her but the truth is that you will be dumped on a long run and when you least expected it. Talking from experience hence the reason why I am still single.

Thanks man, but the reason she is calling Me is for me to come over to her place which I have told her that I wouldn't be coming.. so there is no point picking the calls..

when I asked her why she denied at first, she couldn't say anything rather she told me that she would tell me later.. there is nothing she would say that would make me believe her.. she has failed my trust 3 good times.. I have always given her the benefit of the doubt but it looks as if she is toiling with my emotions..

I have tried to be the best I could be.. I may not have much but I am trying my best to make things work.. I am very loyal to the core and have never cheated on her for once and I would never do such even in my next relationship.. I took her in despite her pasts and made her feel comfortable.. I loved her irrespective of her pasts.. I have heard issues with some of my female friends because she doesn't like the fact that we chat and call ourselves pet names like 'dear', 'sweetheart' and the likes.. I changed right from the moment she told me she didn't like it..i did this because I respected her feelings and didn't want to hurt her..

Checking her whatsapp messages alone can give one heart attack, still I don't worry myself.. she would always tell me that they are merely chats and that she doesn't mean anything she posts or types.. She is fine of visiting guys at their homes and I have kicked against this several times without number.. I have even lost count.. I have told her that she always
gives me reason to doubt her and not take her word for truth..

I have sat myself and thought this through, I don't want to suffer any heartbreak.. these I told her that it would be better for us to part ways now in other to avoid being hurt in future..

Alphamale2017:
the problem is not her communicating with the guy . the problem is that she is a big fat , born liar.

Op break up with her. when you love people more than they deserve, they will hurt u more than you deserve

If you continue with this relationship , it means you are a unserious fellow whose emotion can easily be toyed with

Thanks bro.. she has done it before and I easily forgave her.. I feel that's why she still had the guts to play on my intelligence.. I really want to take our relationship to the next level but with the way things are going, I don't think it's possible.. She is still calling me now..

Kingsasian:
something very very similar to what you narrated coupled with the lies and she will shed crocodile tears when ever I find out. Bro move on before you experience a heartbreak. Its not going to be easy but you just have to.

exactly my brother, as I type this now her call is coming in

Kondomatic:
You have seen clearly that she saved the number as her own and you still ask for advise?
You wan hear am from my mouth bah?


OK here's my advice.


If the pussy is good then grab as much as you can and beat it fast.


If you have a sister in your wish list then upgrade her status to a girlfriend but if you don't then I will say that dating in 2017 isn't for you.

well Mr kondomatic, I am sorry my topic misled your thoughts.. if you had read the last sentence, you would have noticed I asked a question..

thanks anyways for your view

Zita55:
Nah!!


You did the right thing bro, you shouldn't be feeling guilty.....


She is not over her**ex**


And she lies a lot.... ahhh!!!

I have told her several times without number that I detest lies so much.. if she really respect my feelings she wouldn't even be visiting him at home as well.. that's another story on its own..

Kingsasian:
I almost thought you were referring to one of my exs...lol. Mehn some girls are very deceptive. You are on the right path bro.

Oooh, have you experienced such before?

colik:
Nothing destroys a relationship like lies...because lies breed mistrust and without trust,a relationship is doomed.

You were right to ask for a break.

thanks a bunch.. I don't think I can. ever trust her again..

Good morning fellow nairalanders, forgive my grammatical errors as I am not a good writer. I just need your advice, I would try and summarize it.

I have been dating my girl now for 7 months and I can say we have been doing great but for one character which I detest so much in her.. she is not been truthful and sincere, she lies alot.

Last year, she told me she was done with her ex and I believed her. Things kept on moving fine till I discovered she was still communicating with him and funny enough he stays close to where she is living...One day she asked for my permission to send him a birthday message which I allowed her to not only for me to discover the romantic message she sent him and the fact she still calls him pet names got me so infuriated and I vehemently reacted..

She cried for days, called me severally which I refused picking and tried apologizing.. one way or the other I forgave her on the condition that she ex communicates herself from him(ex). she even told me that she has barred his line from calling her and I was moved. All this was happening late last year and she promised to be truthful and sincere and wanted us to start afresh, this I agreed to.

Fast forward to yesterday when she came over to meet me at my working place, we went to a nearby restaurant to eat and I discovered a number called her. but she refused picking and out of curiosity I asked her why she didn't pick, she told me she didn't know the person and that besides she doesn't want to pick any call that evening.. well as a smart guy, I registered the number in my head and did my findings.. I later discovered that it was her 'ex'. The annoying thing is that she still saved his number with a pet name in her language('my own') thinking I wouldn't know..

Well I wasn't surprised because she has always been a suspect. I chatted her up and asked her about it, she told me to my face that the person who called was someone else who doesn't even reside in lagos and that I shouldn't get myself worked up and all that.. she went as far to say that my thoughts were rubbish.. I just laughed and was amazed that she could boldly lie to my face despite the fact that I had evidence with me.. She denied the fact that it wasn't her ex.. to an extent I even got confused sef thinking I was wrong but I had the evidence with me.

When I presented my evidences to her, she kept mute.. she started begging me and was crying. she kept on calling me, I refused picking her calls.. well I told her I wanted to call it quit and that we both needed a break.. I had wanted to go to her place today, but as a result of these I changed my mind.. She has been calling me since this morning and eventually when I picked she told me to still come over to her place.. obviously I ain't going anywhere..

Hope I wasn't too harsh with my decision guys?

my dear op, can't you see clearly the handwriting on the wall.. she Is using you to pass time. my advice: let her go and look for other girls..

lemme share my experience. during my days in the higher institution, I used to have a lady in my department who was engaged but her hubby lives far..she was always around me and people taught we were dating because of our closeness and bond. but I didn't take advantage of the fact that she need companionship as her hubby to be was outside the country.. she is married now and living happily with her husband..

porchster:

Gbam uv said it.

this is what I would do when faced with such.. i would purposely do things that would make her feel hurt. if she is sensitive enough and loves me well, she would realize her faults and want to make things work right...

well, I am already noturing that in my mind.. just want to give her time before I strike. she would definitely come begging, that I know for sure.. I am just giving her grace..

op, you have a point. the moment they discover that you are loyal to them, they begin to take you for granted and at the end get to loose a valuable companionship

SmellingAnus:
Since she has taken contraceptive, the chances of her getting pregnant is low although not in all cases... But you should relax, she is most likely not pregnant, worse case scenario could be a delay in seeing her period...

thanks bro, would relate it to him.. if I may get you correctly, are you saying the contraceptives she took will cause a delay in seeing her period?

a very good friend of mine had unprotected sex with his girlfriend on the 10th day of her cycle. he is as scared as poo now.. although she has taken some emergency contraceptives..is there any probability of her getting pregnant? he is so worried.. I just decided to place it here so as to hear your views and opinion about this... thanks, I would relate your advice and opinions to him as well.

my brother act gentlemanly by allowing her explain herself... however I see no genuine reason she wants to give, but you never can tell or underestimate the power of women when it comes to telling lies..

after giving her room for her 'rubbish' explanation you do away with her because she ain't worth the stress she's giving to you..

op, visit the nearest hospital and see a doctor asap...

op it's just a matter of understanding. tell your wife to be everything that happened between you and her younger sister, if she is emotionally matured enough she would let go.. it may be difficult at first.. it's just a coincidence that they happened to be siblings..

as for her family, they should understand that it's one of those things that happens. 'to err is human' .the fact remains that you love their daughter so well and you've shown a level of maturity and responsibility by meeting them and wanting to take it to the next level.

hope I helped?..

both the man and the wife are expected to put in their best to save their marriage.. they made an agreement before God and man. amongst these was to love themselves till death to them part.. hence, both have a part to play in ensuring that their marriage do not crash..

it is a blessing under any administration.. God who gave them would establish ways for them to cater for the lovely children..

hopey8088:

Alright, thanks, I will do that.

you are welcome brother

op, first of all how old are you? you don't need any soothsayer to tell you that this lady is a sex addict. are you that blind that you can't see the handwriting on the walls... a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage

be wise!!! my simple advise: don't start what you can't finish.. desist from this relationship have your peace of mind