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ellagabs:
from d way u r lafin anyhow, any smal tin "LOLS".... it shows u r in a deep emotional crisis.

no my dear, trust me I am good..

rogovo20:
Hello Nlanders,

Its me again. In the last 2 years, my wife and I have agreed to make things work by putting a stop to the things we do that makes either of us think we are getting involved in infidelity. As for me, being a father and a husband, I hold my home down by adhering to the rules, and she being the foundation, she also needs to. But as far as I have improved, she has not, and she even admitted to it, but she keeps saying am not doing anything which I have to understand because there is no concrete evidence. Although, I have seen several things that I cannot start with now because the story will be long. I will just narrate that which occured from few days past.

On Thursday, I called my wife to pass a message across to her, because she runs a daycare and she has nannies to represent her when shes not around. I called she didnt pick, normally if I call and she does not pick, I call her nanny to pass the phone across to her. After calling and she didnt pick, I called the nanny immediately, her number was busy, the time frame was just in btwn 1min when I called my wife back, her number was busy, so I thought she was trying to call me back. I waited to see if my phone would ring, it didnt, so I called back again, it was saying busy which is obvious she was on a call. 10 MINS later, she now called back that she saw my message that she should call me. I asked if she didnt see missed calls, she said her phone was on silent, I responded that ur number was busy twice while trying to call u and werent picking, she said the agent that has been trying to reach her was more important to speak with than taking my calls then because he has been expecting the guy to come to site. I sat her down that night, and explained that, its not like I dont trust u or am trying to figure anything out, as a mother and as a wife, if u are out, try as much as possible to be reachable, it could be an emergency or any other thing that would require u are reached promptly, she said sorry, that she'll always pick calls.

Yesterday, she had gone out from work to see a consultant, she called me while she was leaving the office that she saw a lady who said she knows me, that she should say hi to me, cool, thought she was going back to work, 3 hours later, I called to ask her if my chequebook was in the car she took as I could not find it. I called 3 times, my wife didnt pick. 35 mins later, she called back saying she was buying time to get some few clothes so that when shes done, shes going back to the consultants office, that she left her phone in the car. OK! I told her am not happy, it was just yesterday that I was tutoring you about the importance of having to be reachable while outside, she said shes sorry, I also reitrated the same point I made apart from the important of picking calls, that 3weeks back after finding out she cheated on me emotionally with a guy, which is an offense enough for some impatient men to chase a wife out, that I decided to forgive and move on, but she would have to promise to adhere to some rules, and to build trust is not a joke, you would have to be careful with things you do innapropriately in order for me to start trusting you again, going out and not being reachable two consecutive times is not good, though not judging you are up to something. I let that slide. Yesterday again, I called my wife after keaving the house to the barbing salon that a friend just came from jand, will be hanging out, probably wont be back until 1:AM. she said no P.

Based on the last incident when she cheated on me emotionally, I told her i was leaving the house for some days to go and heal myself, after 3 days, she took my kids around 9am, and started looking around for me, unfortunately, she left my daughter in the car parked in front of a locked gate with the engine on, carried the boy in her hands, walked down to a place she knows I might be with my friends, saw me, created drama that I must come home, was really mad when I found out that she walked this far and left my daughter in the car with the engine on. She said the children are second priority that am first. I convinced her to go back which she did, we settled and moved on. Now after telling her am hanging out, with the little argument we have had regarding not picking calls, I had a feeling she might again try to come and look for me with the kids at night, I decided to come home. But my coming home, went to the backyard to peep from our window room, I saw something ununsual. If you are reading this long story, and u want to know more, let me know and I will continue b4 some people will come here and say my story is too much.

please continue sir..

Guys first and foremost I want to really appreciate you guys for following my previous thread

https://www.nairaland.com/3708499/urgently-need-advice

Lols... do you know that ever since I broke up with my ex, she has been the one going around to spread the news that we have broken up.. From the look of things, her idea is to make me look like the bad guy all because I have refused telling my set of friends her deeds.. These are friends that I know on getting to hear her deeds would use it against her in future..

Lols, guys guess what!!! she is back with her ex.. men I am just laughing in Spanish.. the reason she gave was that she prayed to God to break off every relationship that wasn't ordained for her and then my break up to her was a confirmation... I am like... Ooooh,but you claim you don't have anything going on with your ex.. how come you went back to him just few days after our break up.?. lols.. who believes that? please who's reasoning in the same line of direction with me? hahahahahahahahahahaha.

once again thanks very much guys for your advice and inputs.. I just thought it wise to let you guys know the latest..

Joephat:
Has anybody been able to register?

the site ain't opening

Padiimii:
Thank you so much guys.
Without you it wouldn't have been easy pulling off the break up.

.

Its now officially over between us and I have more peace of mind after ending it (because it's now clear that it wasn't my fault the relationship didn't work after all)

Nairaland and Nairalanders Una do well o.

Very good.. welcome to our league.. these whores ain't worth it

Ahaahahahaha, op run for your life ooo just like the way I did..
I am a free MAN now

sexybbstar:
I've been waiting for a post like this. I'm a close friends with my ex by its really affecting my current relationship. At first I thought my current lover was over reacting but now that I think about it, I would have done more than that if I were the one.

Thank God you thought it through.. not like mine that didn't see anything wrong in it..

I believe you know what to do now as regards this..

my dear op, God indeed will strengthen you and your dad as well. never give up, I perfectly understand how dad feels. be strong for him and surely he will see you through

Jhamzy:
HTO Sir...

have you heard anything from them?

My dear op be careful not to make wrong investments.. she might get into school and see someone who is of her age bracket and flirt with.. Be wise, the moment she is been admitted into school, marry her straight up..

I am saying from the little experience I have.. they say a word is enough for the wise

BEG96:
Well I did it and got this in reply:

My dear, it's obvious he can't change. I would advise that if you can't live with such personality of his, the earlier you draw the curtains the better.. it's better you leave a free woman than getting worked up and having insecurity issues..

when did you get the mail? what did you apply for?

Princeboca12:
bro i followed that ur thread abt ur gf.. Mehn u really liked that ur girl thank God ur are done with her

thanks bro, I really appreciate the fact that you spared me your time by following those threads.. when I broke up with her, she made a statement that made me laugh which was 'but you Bleep up'...

I am happy I can breathe again

BEG96:
This guy asked me out last year and I agreed. We have been dating for the past 1 year(or so I thought). Fast forward to 2017: I caught him sending love messages to several girls in our class on WhatsApp, he said it wont happen again but just on Friday last week, I just found out that he has not stopped this behaviour. He was sick and I offered to come visit him but he said I should not bother but then he asked sb else to come visit him. His words to her were " I wish you were here with me" We talked about it and he said that what I always view on his phone is not real in reality and that I mean a lot to him. I don't know what to do.... Your nice comments will be appreciated.... im thinking of calling it quits....

My dear op, you had better go on with Your decision..let me share a little experience with you..

My ex would always send romantic messages to her male buddies and claims that they aren't what she meant in reality..on several occasions I have caught her lying and she has betrayed my trust for her..

imagine one of the messages I saw on her whatsapp.

'babe how far, when you go reach my side, I wan fork you na' and she replied 'I never know'

when I accosted her she told me that she actually wasn't going to go to his place and that she didn't mean what she typed.. there are so many others that I have even forgotten sef..

The best I could do at that point in time was to call it quit and now I am a free man.. do yourself the favour and run for your life..

thanks

I cut all ties with my ex's.. I always burn the bridges..

lanzar:
I am trying to be careful o...thanks!

Good to hear..Engage yourself in fruitful activities and worry less about this because if you ask me, she ain't ready for anything serious.. besides her excuse in a way is lame.. There is nothing wrong if she goes out with you even if it's just once since she is considering costs and all..

my dear op just be careful and be on the alert..

cashkid:
Thanks bro, I just confirmed from an officer now....God bless bro.....no be my fault....na Nigeria factor...you know now

I understand you brother, no hard feelings.. I would have done the same thing if I were in your shoes too as well.

cashkid:
ok

if you are eligible, qualified and not doing anything at the moment, do yourself the favour by applying.. thanks..

IdeyFindWife:
Pace yourself. Be your own man for a while, know what you really want and really can live with.

Choose wisely this time. Follow your Heart but take your brain with you!

All da best bro!

Thanks brotherly, I won't leave my brain while I embark on another journey because that was what saved me.. once again, thanks .

Guys, my mind is really cleared of all the tussles now..Finally I have broken up with her, at last I am a free man. This life is too short for me to suffer any impending heart break..

I officially welcome myself into the league of single men..

for all those that have been commenting on my threads, I really appreciate you all for your advice and thoughtful inputs.. for those as well who gave funny and hilarious comments, I really appreciate you guys as well.

thanks guys, love you all..

applied already..

cashkid:
Cheap scam!!!

Make sure you get your facts right before jumping into conclusion...

kindredspirit:
We advised you to let go of her then when you created a thread about her lying to you and cheating with her ex. You agreed to do so but I knew you wouldn't going by the way you were emphasising how "she cried, she's still crying" etc.

Almost two months down the line, you're still dithering and are now seeking advise on WHEN to break up with her. You and I know you won't break up with her, Gpopsicle. If you could, you wouldn't need advise.

well, thanks for your input I really appreciate.. The point is after the last thread I opened concerning the issue, my mind wasn't into it again.. To me she no longer existed.

all I want to know is if it's appropriate breaking up over the phone or face to face?

invinzible1:
Anytime bro.. She might have even dumped you first.. Base on some of the things you said... Just do it right now.. Call her and tell her no hard feelings bro

thanks, I do appreciate it

I felt going by my previous posts on this section there was no need for me to spell out the reasons but it's obvious that it's pertinent for me to do so..

she has betrayed my trust not once,not twice but on three good occasions..This alone has given me enough reasons to always doubt her.. She also lies alot.. sincerely I don't take her words for truth anymore.. This has made me to question her movements and actions and this ain't healthy for any relationship which is progressive in nature.

I have tried my best to see if I can live with this life style of hers but it's so obvious I can't.. I can't trust her anymore.. Even after the last issue we had, she has lied to me unknowing to her that I know the truth but I didn't make a fuss out of that..I had wanted to take it to the next level but with these and all, I think I have to halt.. presently I placed the relationship on hold.
the straw that broke the camels back was when she said she ain't sure securing a future with me.

so as it is now, I want to put an end to it now and stop the deceit..i don't want to waste time and resources.. though I have been given her attitude this days..

my question is when do you think it's appropriate for me to call it quit based on what I earlier posted? thanks

Good evening guys, I trust you all are having a sunny and cool evening.. Guys I simply need your advice pertaining an issue..

I want to call it quit my lady but I don't actually know the appropriate time for me to carry out such decision.. the reason being that, at the moment she ain't around and I don't consider it OK telling her via the phone..

she would be coming back for a friend's wedding which I would also be attending.. will it be appropriate for me to break the news to her while she is around for the wedding? or should I wait till the wedding is over? mind you she would be leaving immediately for school and we might not have the time to discuss.. Also I don't want to keep on prolonging the matter, I just want to tell her my mind and be free.


forgive my grammatical errors, thanks..

Bumbae1:
Ok , happiness first

yes sure, thanks for understanding..

op how potent is the drug. at least show us some proof that this thing work effectively well..how can it be delivered to one who needs it?

Bumbae1:
Lol on the verge
What happened

alot my dear.. I think I am making the right decision and taking the right steps..

this is highly informative.. thanks sir. I am on the verge of breaking up with my girl. at the moment our relationship is on hold..