officialmario:
Good morning Nairalanders

I want to use this medium to seek for your advice..

Me and my wife has been together since 2014, although we have not done marriage as we only did introduction, but we planned having our marriage this year, we had two kids, but I think right now I'm not comfortable living with my wife.

I am not enjoying this relationship anymore, she keeps beating me whenever there is quarrel between us, she is fond of slapping me and giving me punches, at times she makes use of wire and and broom to scatter my head.

The one that happened on Monday is really giving me much concern, she checked my phone and saw a friend I was chatting with and instead of her to ask me about the lady, the next thing she did was to slap me and she started beating me to the extent of having right hand dislocation.. It's not as if she can beat me if I decided to fight back, I don't want to raise my hand on a woman, it's a curse and I don't want to do that, this is getting out of hand and I am not living comfortable at home again, we sleep on different bed, she doesn't allow me touch her again.

She is even planning to get a room by ending of this month when she gets her salary..
I told my sister about her behavior, the advice she gave me is that I should beat the hell out of her whenever she raises her hand to beat me.

I have pleaded with my wife to let us continue the way we have been doing before but she wouldn't listen to me.

I am really confused and I don't know what to do right now..

I need your advice my great people of Nairaland.

chatinent:


Welcome to the Fraudral Republic of Nigeria.

saintbillion:
It can't fly again. Don't even know why

SeunWedsLinda:
To those people predicting doom as this lockdown is undergoing gradual relaxation. You do not know what it means to continually remain indoors over a virus with 5% chance of death. Hunger on its own has 100% chance of death. If you wish to help spread the 'stay home' gospel, start by attending to all these nairalanders dropping account numbers everywhere. If you can't, mind your f*cking business as people go about their daily businesses. Capisce

properties4sale:

School me sir

Ochiban:
Vow within your own heart that you will not look at another woman lustfully

properties4sale:

Not racist bro, that's being real to ourselves... maybe you should travel out and see things for yourself, Jobestky bro, we behave like cavemen in this part of the world. We behave like monkeys.. I don't blame westerners when they call us that, honestly.

kponkedenge:
This is a wrong sitting arrangement, it should have been zigzag and not a straight line.

Also I want people to know that wearing of mask isn't enough, avoid touching railings and resting on surfaces.

femi4:
You are more knowledgeable than the translators. You were there when they ALL mistakenly translate "virgin" to "young woman"

Bravo! You ve mastered the Hebrew language via google

CSTR2:

The idea of urgently does not really explain it well.
Urgently in this term means God needs to intervene at this point in the grand scheme of things.

He already knows he will do this thing at a point in time and then he does it.
It doesn't mean it is an unplanned event.

For example, God already told Adam about the coming of Jesus thousands of years before he came.

God told Abraham that his descendants would needed to be delivered from slavery in Egypt with a strong hand, hundreds of years before it happened.

In fact, At that point in time when God was telling Abraham that prophecy, his wife Sarah was barren at over 80 years old.

parksg:
There was no loss of virginity

CSTR2:

You have a freewill to a point at which God's sovereignty overrides it.

Which means, God allows you to do whatever you want until when he needs something done urgently.

And then your free will become irrelevant.

Fortunately or unfortunately, God does not exercise his sovereignty most of the time.
He lets you do you 99% of the time.

Daejoyoung:

Yeah so Matthew was reading from the septuagint. ln my belief ( and l might be wrong) no one truly knew much about the birth of jesus as at the time the gospels were written probably because Mary must have died when they were writing, as well as the siblings of jesus and as at then there were probably different traditions on the birth narrative. Mark doesn't even bother about the birth of jesus, and for john, jesus already existed from the beginning. Matthew and Luke were trying to write an all round biography, and could only write down what they have heard and what was popular in their own community.

femi4:
There is no miracle in a young woman conceiving but a miracle exist in a VIRGIN given birth. The miraculous birth is KEY here

Is 7:14

Therefore the Lord himself will give you a sign: The virgin will conceive and give birth to a son, and will call him Immanuel. NIV

Therefore the Lord Himself will give you a sign: Behold, the virgin shall conceive and bear a Son, and shall call His name Immanuel. KJV

All right then, the Lord himself will give you the sign. Look! The virgin will conceive a child! She will give birth to a son and will call him Immanuel (which means ‘God is with us’). NLT

midnighter:


Yes, I have seen that but my point is still valid.

Having a child out of wedlock doesn't mean that you're consigned to the dustbin but it doesn't mean that people who try to give birth in the order that God ordained should be derided.

People here keeping saying "God can use anybody" as if people who try to do the right thing are stupid.

Virgin or young maiden or whatever, pointing out a good quality in another person shouldn't make you flare and jump up to rubbish it unless you have an unresolved issue within yourself.

It looks like inferiority complex if you ask me. That you failed somewhere doesn't mean everybody should fail too so that you will feel better.

nB "you" here is an impersonal "you", not that I'm necessarily aiming my post at you

ImmaculateJOE:


You thought about Immaculate Conception is wrong. Immaculate Conception is not about Jesus Christ but about Mary herself. She was conceived without the sin of Adam & Eve at her mother's womb

femi4:
Being a virgin is part of the sign

It validate the non Adamic nature of Jesus

Daejoyoung:
Some people argue though that the translation of the word almah in Isaiah 7v14 is not virgin but maiden. The translation of the Hebrew bible to Greek about 200 years before christ may have translated it as virgin. That is their arguement, and l don't know enough yet to refute it, but someone here who is familiar with this arguement should bring in his/her own perspective.

Either way Merry Christmas to you all.

midnighter:


I was grappling with this concept after reading.

God still used immoral and undeserving people to prove his points so is this argument not circular?

But since the question is about Mary in particular, her own particular path in life was tied to being a virgin, among other things.

How will you know what blessings you missed if you don't keep the law? That God redeems people when they fail doesn't mean they actually have license to indulge their failures.

This is what people who are insulting the OP refuse to understand. See how they're flaring because of a simple message.

Because God will still use non-virgins, that's why nobody should be encouraged to remain chaste right? Smh

jesusjnr:
Lol!

You're right that Mary didn't choose to be the mother of Jesus but she was chosen by God, for the is the message of the Op, but i just discovered that I made an error in the thread title and left out a word.

Thanks for your correction.

God bless.

Righteousness89:
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You don't own yourself! You can't keep yourself!
You Have an Owner..
and that is GOD ALMIGHTY...

He can do whatever HE wills with you..

Christophorus:
A single mom with integrity and swag!

texazzpete:


Of all the statements around this Sanusi issue, i find the 'the amount kept changing' argument to be the most intellectually lazy and dishonest one.
Essentially because it betrays a complete lack of understanding about the issues.

Sanusi never claimed $49bn was stolen. NEVER. Check anywhere.

Guess what happened? President Goodluck Jonathan sat on the memo and did nothing, despite being personally clueless about the reasons for the shortfall himself.

Only after the memo leaked...

There was NEVER any carelessness with figures.

Figures will always change everytime reconciliation effort is put in.

Trust Nigerians. An ever cowardly, misguided lot. It's the person who blew the whistle that exposed discrepancies that is being attacked today.

blazhykowskyi:


But okonjo confirmed that $10.8B was missing.

texazzpete:


Nothing SLS said was a lie.

You corruption loving GEJ acolytes will not rewrite history to suit yourselves.

Mynd44:
The scene I will love most is if Ganduje dethroned Sanusi
Sanusi contests to be governor in 2032 and wins.

Then Ganduje will know the neaning of "inside life"

soberdrunk:
If you know you don't have money for Chicken this xmas just buy Chelsea dry gin #200 and one cup of dry corn #50 and contact me for instructions, you will fry so much chicken that your neighbors will think you have become Chicken Republic Ambassador #Helpingthepoor

bluebay:

Stop saying what you don't know brother .. it's not about the name but about who's Hot at the moment in the industry.. can you still remember that Wizkid was paid 45M to perform in Dangote's daughter's marraige? There's no doubt Marley can be paid such for he worth it..

Dammytrager:


Haven’t seen you around, Do you play Asian dynasties

Dammytrager:
sure man, are you on voobly