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agrovick:
cc groomed

IMO, asking her out is not what you should be doing, she seems to be into you and I know you want some words of confirmation from her but then which do you prefer, words or actions?

Do you guys spend time together? If yes, now is the time to start going physical; kisses, playful biting of the ears or something as innocent as whispering in her ears, these ensure there is no confusion in what you want from her.

On an ending note, keep your distance a bit, make yourself unavailable once in a while. I know it's difficult but give it a try and as Teddy will say game other chicks.

I hope this helps

thanks bro. Yeah, words of confirmation but I think she is okay with the flow and don't want to declare things officially but would prefer to play along and that is why she gives the action vibes.

I hadn't spoken or chatted with her since 19th but I managed to send her Xmas and new year text few minutes ago.

I think I would settle for the action and forget about the words. But in the meantime, I believe a brief break and distance is cool.

groomed:
Well mine is like this, we started online and she had often insisted that she was not ready for a relationship and I persisted. She complained about guys not caring and helping with real life problems but I proved I have no problem doing any of those and taking up responsibilities when necessary, showing I care.

Overtime, she stopped saying she is not ready for a relationship but started saying we should take things slowly so as not to end the relationship so soon.

initially she would go offline for some days and tell me she does not feel like chatting. When she does this, I don't buzz her at all until she breaks the ice herself. She did this more than 5 times.

Then I made the first phone call to her. It was very brief. while we chat normally. I hardly called her. Then another time, I called her again. This time around very brief too. Like 45 seconds to 1 minute.

On 3rd time i called, she queried me that why do I spend less than 1 minute on calls, so for that day, I obliged her and we spoke for almost 1 hour. It was fun and I could feel the excitement in her voice.

Then we moved on still chatting... calls were reduced but I do call once a while. Then she started calling me when she feels like but still maintain that we should take things slowly.

Sometimes I would send her romantic text,she would appreciate it and some other times she would ask me to tone down the messages. Still when I bring up the issue of us dating she would say she does not fall in love so easily and that it has to come from the inside.

Now here is what I find weird... Her signs!

one day she asked who is the girl on my DP and I told her it is my sister. My sister is very pretty, very very pretty. I bet she was intimidated lol.

So she said she thought I would say my girlfriend because that would make her sad. I asked why and she said because I would toasting two girls at the same time. She said it as if she was joking.

Another time I asked her if she has any last words for me before we go to bed while chatting. And she said I should lock all doors and make sure no girl comes in or sleep over. Again, she said it as if she was joking. Next day she asked whether there was any girl sleeping next to me. I said no, she said are you sure? I said no one... again, she said it as if she was joking.

One time something happened to me and I told her via chat. She was calling frantically to know whether I am safe. She called normal line but it didn't connect and called via whatsapp , which I missed. all through, she asked where I was, if have gotten home and all that.

Again we were chatting and I was talking about how I won't take things from women and she asked if I beat women, I told her no. She said tears of joy( making it seems like a joke) and I said why did you ask, she replied and said it is nothing but asked because of someone she wants to give me (again, joke)

Another time while on phone she asked if I was travelling and I said no, she said are you sure and I said no I am not.

This disposition above and many more is what she has exhibited but each time i bring up the dating issue, she says she does not fall in love easily, or tells me that my sms should be toned down ( I don't send them much but I have stopped cos of the way she reacts). There was a time I sent a lovely one and I was expecting another lashing but to my surprise, she called me that day, few hours after sending it. I asked hope no problem and she no, that she got my sms but decided to call to check on me. One time again, not long after that one, she called me to take her second phone line and save it, which I never asked for and neither did I know she had it.

All these has been my experience and some that I can't remember but the bottom line is that we are cool in all areas, I love and enjoy chatting with her but anytime I bring up the dating issue, I get the aforementioned reaction. Now what I don't know is whether she would prefer I don't ask her out officially and just play along or she just studying me.

at last count, I have decided not to communicate with her anymore for as long as it is necessary but at the same time, I don't want a situation whereby a lady is interested but acting like she is not interested that would make me give up easily.

What will you guys advice?
cc xxxtedyxxx:

@putit

putit:
From what You just wrote above, You seem like a cool guy with high self esteem. kudos to you..
I will be honest you, I have experience these sort of scenario count full numbers of times with women..Right now, I'm writing a post on how to know "If a girl is really ( as in really)interested in a guy".. Just keep in touch with my thread..
Merry Xmas

merry Xmas, I shared the main story about this case with this girl somewhere. I will mention you so that u can read to get an idea

putit:
From what You just wrote above, You seem like a cool guy with high self esteem. kudos to you..
I will be honest you, I have experience these sort of scenario count full numbers of times with women..Right now, I'm writing a post on how to know "If a girl is really ( as in really)interested in a guy".. Just keep in touch with my thread..
Merry Xmas

Oh cool, I will be expecting it. Thanks.

putit:
Bro go and read my controversial thread on "how women manipulate men"..
After reading it, you wouldn't feel the need to ask this kind of question again..




Are you still here I said go and read it now.

I gave you a like on the thread and another one. Why? cos you spoke the truth but sadly, the person I am dealing with not exactly what you describe.

My experience generally is that girls who are not interested in you do not call you, especially the ones you are asking out. I rarely even call this one. They don't even show signs that they are interested in you. It is more like once or twice a month thing.

Also, I am not lacking in supply but there is something I want...,not just beauty but a communication channel, a good rapport, someone that is bold enough to contribute into my life by way of advising me when I am wrong or suggest something and this girl in question has been just that. We flow well.

I will tell you what... I had this other girl before this one, whom I wanted asked out and she started this whole thing again and told me that what she can offer me is just friendship blah blah. I said okay ( I am not the kind force myself on a woman as I have out grown that already). Well it happened that when she needs help, she would call on me and I do offer help, mostly financially.

We talk and when she is down, I give the best I can to tell her to calm down. I kept doing this from time to time and making her know it is not the end of the world. I was always there and in more than 6 months later, she is the one asking me if I now have a girlfriend and also willing to fork me but bro, 1 year plus I keep giving dates for meet ups but never fulfill any.

As it stand now, I am keeping my distance. I have learned to turn off emotions and I have mastered how to get girl off my mind when she says no which means, I am not forcing myself on anyone. Only asked this question because I know that once I move on and she comes acting with all the excitements and interest, just like the story I shared few paragraph above. It happens and has happened more than twice.

I have even deleted her number, chats and pics from my phone at this moment. Just letting you know I am not weakling like you think... this thread is born out of curiosity, just in case her NO isn't firm. I had this other one too who did same and all of sudden I stopped all communications going into 3 months with no calls from me. She called me TWICE,Then I was in school.

The bad thing about this kind of tactics by this girls who take months to decide is that when they finally come back, the chances of me taking them serious is drastically reduced and that relationship is likely to fail, EXCEPT the subject has a good dose of value she can bring to the table because unfortunately, sex don't move me.

Your thread shows you are well experienced and don't tell me you have never experienced this scenario I painted here. Thanks anyway. Merry Xmas and Prosperous New Year in 2018

BraidedChannel:
Your use of English is really disheartening. You still have much work to do mate!

shut up your mouth you bloody fool. You started it, let's finish it. you head like a rejected sacrifice by the gods of your land.

BraidedChannel:
Are you not in the country? You must be silly for asking such question. You can continue wallowing in your foolishness by making a girl your priority despite the problems in the country.

you are mistake your parent should have flushed down the toilet. You moronic simpleton

Escalze:
OP You are part of the problem of this country.

So many issues to think and talk about and your worry is about a girl?

so what in the country am I to talk about? enlighten me.

igboboy3:
Hmmm

Well mine is like this, we started online and she had often insisted that she was not ready for a relationship and I persisted. She complained about guys not caring and helping with real life problems but I proved I have no problem doing any of those and taking up responsibilities when necessary, showing I care.

Overtime, she stopped saying she is not ready for a relationship but started saying we should take things slowly so as not to end the relationship so soon.

initially she would go offline for some days and tell me she does not feel like chatting. When she does this, I don't buzz her at all until she breaks the ice herself. She did this more than 5 times.

Then I made the first phone call to her. It was very brief. while we chat normally. I hardly called her. Then another time, I called her again. This time around very brief too. Like 45 seconds to 1 minute.

On 3rd time i called, she queried me that why do I spend less than 1 minute on calls, so for that day, I obliged her and we spoke for almost 1 hour. It was fun and I could feel the excitement in her voice.

Then we moved on still chatting... calls were reduced but I do call once a while. Then she started calling me when she feels like but still maintain that we should take things slowly.

Sometimes I would send her romantic text,she would appreciate it and some other times she would ask me to tone down the messages. Still when I bring up the issue of us dating she would say she does not fall in love so easily and that it has to come from the inside.

Now here is what I find weird... Her signs!

one day she asked who is the girl on my DP and I told her it is my sister. My sister is very pretty, very very pretty. I bet she was intimidated lol.

So she said she thought I would say my girlfriend because that would make her sad. I asked why and she said because I would toasting two girls at the same time. She said it as if she was joking.

Another time I asked her if she has any last words for me before we go to bed while chatting. And she said I should lock all doors and make sure no girl comes in or sleep over. Again, she said it as if she was joking. Next day she asked whether there was any girl sleeping next to me. I said no, she said are you sure? I said no one... again, she said it as if she was joking.

One time something happened to me and I told her via chat. She was calling frantically to know whether I am safe. She called normal line but it didn't connect and called via whatsapp , which I missed. all through, she asked where I was, if have gotten home and all that.

Again we were chatting and I was talking about how I won't take things from women and she asked if I beat women, I told her no. She said tears of joy( making it seems like a joke) and I said why did you ask, she replied and said it is nothing but asked because of someone she wants to give me (again, joke)

Another time while on phone she asked if I was travelling and I said no, she said are you sure and I said no I am not.

This disposition above and many more is what she has exhibited but each time i bring up the dating issue, she says she does not fall in love easily, or tells me that my sms should be toned down ( I don't send them much but I have stopped cos of the way she reacts). There was a time I sent a lovely one and I was expecting another lashing but to my surprise, she called me that day, few hours after sending it. I asked hope no problem and she no, that she got my sms but decided to call to check on me. One time again, not long after that one, she called me to take her second phone line and save it, which I never asked for and neither did I know she had it.

All these has been my experience and some that I can't remember but the bottom line is that we are cool in all areas, I love and enjoy chatting with her but anytime I bring up the dating issue, I get the aforementioned reaction. Now what I don't know is whether she would prefer I don't ask her out officially and just play along or she just studying me.

at last count, I have decided not to communicate with her anymore for as long as it is necessary but at the same time, I don't want a situation whereby a lady is interested but acting like she is not interested that would make me give up easily.

What will you guys advice?
cc xxxtedyxxx:

Most times there are cases whereby you want a girl and decides to ask her out but she would turn you down by saying know, even though she likes you and want you. This could go on for weeks and even months.

What signs does she exhibit to make you know she wants you and what do you do understand such circumstances?

OfficialDad:
That is to say Oti ya weyrey ri

na buhari economy o.

chivic:
Is ronaldo bearded ?A lot of online propaganda this days targeted to configure people mind.


Everyone speaking as an authority.And basing their findings on subjective and confused perception

bros, it is true. Ladies love bearded guys. I recently uploaded pic of my bearded face on facebook and you need to see the kind of likes and comments I got. Even ladies that never really liked my pics before gave me like.

Not that I never had beards, but i had been shaving them and then it happened that I was going through some kinda mental engagements that needed serious tackling.

I let the beards grow and didn't shave for about 2 months... when I uploaded the pic of my bearded face, people were just commenting and liking. What drew my attention was the fact that ladies who hadn't liked any of my pic previously liked it.

There u have it

bbbabes:
More of her cute photos here
http://www.blackberrybabes.com/2017/07/this-young-actress-regina-daniels-looks.html

How much do you make from your blog per month bro? Care to teach me your traffic tricks?

PedroJP:
Mine is, Osibanjo said Buhari is in a high spirit, fine. If by chance something happens to Buhari and he never makes it back to Nigeria, then i will support any means to remove Osibanjo from there and never allow him ascend that throne as he lacks integrity and sincerity. Otherwise, let him ride on.



Woe unto him that he intentionallu kept telling us lies and later feels we should support him ascend the presidency against Cabals" wishes.

As much as I understand your point, what would you have said if you were in his shoes considering the consequences?

pocohantas:
Nooo. I don't blame the guys at all.

I only blame the guys for drooling over every ass, like they gat no brains. If they stop giving such girls attention, maybe they will get sense.

Can you put a banana in front of monkey and expect it not to eat?

I have come to realise that Nigerian girls can't take correction or simple criticism, even though they are damning wrong while you try to correct them. I just got my, maybe, 5th block because I spoke the truth.

I understand that we are adults and people have their lives to live but then these girls go around presenting and still blame guys after luring them indirectly.

Let me give what happened few minutes ago.

While scrolling through my facebook feeds I read from a certain girl saying that the next guy who would say that hope her puzzy is like her lips will get the embarrassment of his life. I cut in and told her that she caused it. If she had not encourage such idiot in the first place, he wouldn't have such courage in the first place. The next thing I got was a block. She blocked me immediately.

Now here is a run down of this...

She is still young, likely in her mid 20s and she is a single mother. Lucky enough to have a mother who took her and the kid in. Most of her post on facebook is always about revealing herself, taking pictures as she want... and talk about grabbing a guy's dick while do other nasty things, talk about hot romance and sizzling things. She takes pictures of her skin and post them, upload picture of her dancing... a total revelation of someone who does not have any plan or job for herself and likely hoping that she would end up putting her in his house.

I have no problem with any of these BUT why complain or feel bad when someone tell you that hope your puzzy is like your lips after presenting yourself as sex object on facebook? And you are told the truth, you click on the block button. Little wonder a guy impregnated her and didn't take responsibility because of the way she presents herself and I see it happening again because she has not learnt a thing.

They say dress the way you want to be addressed.

I have no pity for most of you who end up miserably with guys that have no respect for you including those domestic violence because your brains are not functional at all.

folakemigeh:
"If i hear peem for your mouth"

That part was really funny

lol.

NevetsIbot:
lol. No be small vexing this woman vex

" The man involved is an idiotic fellow who would not stop soiling his hands with his immoral ways....
Wait for it:His mum thinks her son is a priest.
He has no shame foe family and is a public toilet .He cant even afford good clothes oh. ...... "


Hahaha. Savagery

no b small thing.

Apparently, all is not going down well with a woman and a lady. I am tempted to believe her story since the culprit is a banker. I recall a similar story that a friend told of how a zenith bank female staff did same on him when she saw Total is the company he works for plus the money in his account.

Ok ,usually i have no business with side chicks but when a side chick hits close to home and runs her mouth at the wife of the man she is frolicking with,Then its time to Call her out and i will do it by first throwing away my stand on it
Out here is A girl called Chidinma Igwilo.She works in access bank in Adeola Odeku.So madam banker,Believes that a married man should be her taxi driver.If your husband owns a hugeaccount balance,Madam will start with the man even before he even knows who she is.Even with koboless ones that dont have 100k to their names,Madam starts to struggle.
Her name on instagram is @didigwilo.
The man involved is an idiotic fellow who would not stop soiling his hands with his immoral ways....
Wait for it:His mum thinks her son is a priest.
He has no shame foe family and is a public toilet .He cant even afford good clothes oh.He would take care of his family but he has just enough to go round to the side chicks he acquires .
A blood sucker that sucks the energy of the woman who has spent her last years with him in misery.Cant even but his own kids decent clothes to put on their backs.
Chidinma igwilo,I will make sure you see this. We would come and disgrace you since you are a habitual side chick and you have refused to Get sense.You started with Emeka .You disturbed him until he almost left the bank for you.Emeka is married,only God knows if you still throw yourself shamelessly at him
You moved on to J.O.E. Your end is near.
I am calling you out because you had the temerity to blab your stupid lips at his wife....
I will call out the husband soon.
If i hear peem from your mouth,I will release videos that will make you commit suicide.
PS:I do not need your sermon of leave the side chick and fight the husband.With the anger in me,if i know you personally,I will ignore you and delete your comment.If you are someone i don't know,I will block you.
A woman shouldnt be the reason why another woman is emotionally down.
Women pulling them selves down before Jesus came

abejide1000:
:DThe connection and information is what we want, and that make us to be better than other places. I don't know why you always hate Lagos

I don't hate Lagos, but hate what it has become over the years. Traffic, overpopulated, no light

nairalandfreak:
And you guys in Lagos think you are living the life

lol. no mind them. I will choose calabar over this nonsense. It is only good for making connection and getting information.

lady2lady:
Build an online presence!

so women like you like online business?

vedaxcool:
mynd44 lalasticala I have ignore him but he now follows me arround insulting me without any provocation

Fool, you are calling on mod to save your ass. You are lucky this is online... I would have had your intestine removed and served to the dogs while you painful watch them eat it.

xxxtedyxxx:
Bro, the first mistake you made is telling her how you feel. That move, 90% of the time, backfires if you don't do it in the right stage. As a rule, never tell a babe how you feel. You Wana keep her guessing. Being indifferent and acting like her bf already achieves that effect easily.

Telling a babe how you feel kills all the attraction. It's like you are telling her " ok, I have told you how I feel, now tell me yours, or let's start dating, or let me into your life". it's like you are asking for permission to be a part of her life.

It seems she has friendzoned you...dont chat her up again. You will need to change tactics, which will make her see you in a different light.

All You need to do is start acting like her bf already. Don't ask for permission. Don't ask her opinion.

Send her a lovely night text.

"oh babe, hope you have eaten and yur day wasn't stressful...Have a great nite ( insert her name) (appropriate smilye here". Will call you in the morning."

Call her in the morning, and ask about how her night, hope she didn't wee wee in bed....What she is up to for the day, breakfast ideas. You need to be fun. Relax, and don't be too serious. Don't stay long on the phone. Eject with sth like.

" Great, do have a swell day...ama buz you later babe"

always you babe, sexy, cutie. Don't use dear, or bae.



Try that for a week, and see how invested she would be. you can then follow up with a date request.

Pls don't ask her out to be your gf. focus on fun bro.

And make sure you are packaging other babe's too.

The more the merrier

I hail.

Does adding a gift to the list of things to "act" make sense or she will perceive you as mumu and a maga?

Ginaz:
I tend to please people at the expense of my comfort, it's true. But I'm stopping now, I'm being taken for granted on that.

Introverst love helping people to their own detriment. Just try and loosen up a bit. I used to be worse until I change. Now I can talk to anyone and walk up to anyone if I want but there are still traces of it.

BiafraudExposed:
Please any one who does clearing and forwarding business should post his number here. Thank u

goto www.nairaland.com/autos

Dem boku dia.

Airforce1:
23 years old a kid?

How old you think I am?

Nigga get lost you're just a hater..


Infollows thread as usual.

Get a life dude. Guys are out there hustling but alll you do seek attention on nairaland with different girls.