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CaseSensitive:
The only 'nation' killing and destroying people and countries in that area is Israel. Iran didn't carry out the genocide of 75,000 people, including kids, in Gaza. Iran didn't bomb their own kids studying in school. I'm also sure Iran isn't carrying out ethnic cleansing in the West Bank.

You can't say Iran is completely innocent. Iran sponsors Hamas. Israel is not innocent because they enabled Hamas too, but neither is Iran

Solofresh2:
You just said women can't drive because they drive short distances. Then you said their lower accident rates prove it. That's circular logic. Pick one.But let me give you what you asked for,a rich woman who married down, fought her family, and chose her man:
Queen Elizabeth II and Prince Philip.
She was the Queen of England. He was a broke Greek prince with no kingdom and no money.Her family didn't want him. They thought he wasn't good enough.She married him anyway. He gave up his career, his name, and his title to serve her.They were married for 73 years. She called him her "strength and stay."

Jacinda Ardern and Clarke Gayford.
She was the Prime Minister of New Zealand. He was a TV presenter not rich, not powerful, not royal.She earned more than him. She was more famous. She was more powerful.They married anyway. She had his child. He stayed home while she ran the country.

3.Serena Williams and Alexis Ohanian.
She's a billionaire athlete. He's a tech entrepreneur wealthy, but nowhere near her level.
She out earns him. She out fames him. She out everythings him.They married anyway. She chose him. She had his child. She fights for him publicly.

4 Nicki Minaj and Kenneth Petty.
She's a global music icon worth millions. He's a registered sex offender with no money and no status.Her fans hated him. Her family questioned it. She married him anyway.

Meryl Streep and Don Gummer.
She's the most decorated actress in Oscar history. He's a sculptor not famous, not rich, not powerful.They married in 1978. Still together.She out earns him.She out fames him. She chose him.

These women didn't meet your conditions. They weren't ugly, rejected, or damaged. They were rich, powerful, and wanted. And they still married down.
You said 'no rich woman would ever marry down unless she's ugly, rejected, or damaged.' I just gave you five who did it without any of those conditions.

Your case didn't fall. It collapsed.

It's nice to see a very logical person like you who thinks critically here on nairaland.

Dtruthspeaker has a very black and white view of women so he may not understand the nuances you're presenting

zoedew:
Primordial and racial sentiments don’t cut ice with me. Obama is a messed up specimen of a human being. Transgender stupidity et al is not something to celebrate.

Obama is and will always be one of the most loved and respected US presidents ever. Loved and respected by many Americans and many around the world.

People who are transgender, etc will be like that. Creating laws against it won't change anything. They will just do their thing in secret while pretending to be straight in public

PROPHETmichael:
I'm proud of this action by my president.
Freedom of speech doesnt mean freedom to lie

You mean freedom to say anything I don't want you to say. Smh

U09ce:
I used to think that the US had strong institutions that are far powerful than any individual. But Trump ha shown me that it's a faux

Not entirely. They keep reversing a lot of his policies. Trump would have done much worse if not for their strong institutions, but true, their institutions are weaker than expected

bassdow:
ReCall during the Covid Era, He was the only president who said it was a lie and setUp.

Years later, truths started coming out

And what was he doing behind closed doors? Trump was busy secretly taking supplements to protect himself from covid. Smh

zoedew:
Glad he has reversed the terrible deeds of Obama WH

Of course, you will fault your fellow black man who was one of the most loved and respected president in US history. Instead, you'll be celebrating this despicable president called Trump who knows nothing but abuse, coercion, corruption and so on. Just as you celebrate Nigerian presidents like him. Smh

Ezeama400:
https://www.facebook.com/share/1DkPy2tp8W/?mibextid=wwXIfr

Why are there so many cases of s*xual assault by Nigerians in UK? What is going on?? ??

Dtruthspeaker:
This is your wish talking

Lol. I know women like that. It's not a wish

givedemwotowoto:
Nicki Minaj is a global music icon and best selling female rapper of all time



Source




Source

Is she Nigerian? She needs a Nigerian citizenship. She's very passionate about Nigeria's problems

Dtruthspeaker:
All women are like that. They only just postpone the day they show you

Not all women are like that. If you use money to woo women, you'll naturally attract those kinds of women

SmartyPants:
Meaning you also consider that your side chic dead meat?

Not judging you for having a side chic but I wonder how you rationalize these two contrasting positions.

Double standards

Dtruthspeaker:
You are referring to women.

It is women who come and go as money comes and goes

Those kinds of women are like that for men who wooed them with money.

patrickcollins:
Iran and the Houtis have tested Israel and know it's ever war ready, it's still a mirage how Iran attacking Kuwait, Bahrain and other gulf state for hosting USA soldiers and facilities excluding Israel that's hosting thousands of American soldiers and equipments, is that not JuJu. For Houtis they know they ain't match to Israel.

If Iran attacks Israel, will Israel tell US to stop attacking Iran? Of course not. You don't understand Iran's strategy. Iran attacks those countries because it makes them apply pressure on US to stop attacking Iran.

Obaofaba:
This is serious.

Trump is sent to return the world to the stone age.

USA in particular. China is busy minding its business and focusing on innovation. US is busy waging useless wars. Smh

Obaofaba:
Saudi is allowing Israel into misleading her.

Israel that can't protect themselves can't protect you obviously.

Israel is so desperate that they don't care about damaging other countries to survive. Just like how they've dragged US down, they will do the same to Saudi. There's a reason why you should be cautious of people or nations in survival mode. I don't blame Israel

Fenomenal124:
It can only happen only in Africa.

And America. Don't forget Trump

dre11:
https://leadership.ng/n100000-dangote-refinery-investment-can-make-investors-millionaires-in-two-years-dangote/

Disappointed in him for saying this. False promises. Why?

happney65:
The woman is older than him? Are you sure?which type of low sef esteem is that?

What low self esteem? In fact, his self esteem is very high. He went against societal ideals and went for a woman he loved even though he knew people would judge him and look down on him

cr7lomo:
Stop saying nonsense...so u are among that murderers supporter.... iblove what they are doing to womennin Afghanistan.... women dont deserve freedom ...justifying the killing of kids... Do men justify rapists?? Thats its also due to hormones.... or ex soldiers that have PTSD that shoot and kill their wives... or u don't know Ted Bundy also had psychosis... mention one man that killed his kids or wife that was set free... or men that supported that man

It's not about justifying. It's about understanding. That woman slit her wrist and throat and jumped out of a second story window to kill herself. She ended up becoming paralyzed. Does it sound like she was okay mentally? It would have been a completely different story if she hurt her children then continued on with her life as usual. If that was the case, it would have been guilty straight. In this case, it's clear that she was not in her right mind

Think of a mad woman. Is a mad woman capable of making proper decisions?

Who are we to judge that woman? Maybe they should allow her to do death sentence to herself if that's what she wants. As for me, I can't say she's guilty or not guilty. She's not mentally okay

uche87:
https://www.facebook.com/thevillagetowncrier

One of the problems women like her face is finding a man who sees her as a human being. Most men put women like her on a pedestal that's why it's harder for women like her to find true love. You can see how the writer was humble enough to discount himself. He would have probably been the kind of man ideal for her because his ego was in check

It would be nice to hear her side of the story

Againstthewall:
Who proposes in a relationship, man or woman? Who asks the other out in the first place? Have you asked a man out before? The truth is, a man typically has a greater say in a relationship than a woman, even though it takes the agreement of both for marriage to take place.

If he wants her but she doesn't want him, the relationship won't take place. If she wants him but he doesn't want her, the relationship won't take place. Period

Women on average get asked out by a lot of men so they have to be picky. How can you say the man has greater say? If he's among the 5 men who's asking her out, what makes his say greater than hers?

cr7lomo:
But he is absolutely right...we are seeing it in Nigeria and western society....look at how women are supporting lindsay clancy....the Governor is absolutely right ... men of past generations treated women same cos they knew this as a fact ..

How are women empowered in Nigeria? Don't compare Nigeria to Western society.

If women of past generations were happy with the way they were treated, won't they have wanted to maintain the same treatment? I don't blame those women for wanting more freedom. If you look closely at a lot of these so called independent women, you will see that their mothers were mistreated by their fathers but they had to stay in the marriage because they had no source of income, so those daughters decided to never depend on a man as adults

Have you properly examined the case of lindsay clancy? There are even men who are supporting her. It's not a black and white case. That lady was suicid*l. She tried to kill herself too but was not successful. Even when men did the same to their children and themselves, they got support from women too.

I'm not condoning such actions towards children. I'm just saying it's not black and white. You need to understand the context properly

OkpaNsukkaisBae:
He's not totally incorrect. A society that empowers women more than men is ruining her historical foundation

When women are empowered, they pass it on to their children. They empower the future generations, both men and women. There's data based evidence behind this globally

RandDigital:
How's this different to Nigeria where there are less than 5% of women in the senate and congress?

Number last in Africa 🇳🇬

Rwanda happens to be probably the most advanced African country. Interesting to see that women form majority of their parliament. Maybe that is also a contributing factor aside from the good presidential leadership

flokii:
Wow.. can't believe I read the whole story. This is really touching and painful at the same time.

I watched a clip once where a man made bold the claim that most women only act nice to guys because they want marriage, that the moment the guy falls into their trap, he'll see their true nature. They will disrespect, disregard, insult and frustrate his life till the guy will start questioning how and why he fell into the lady's trap.

If not for procreation (having kids), most guys today won't have any business with women, because relationships drain guys emotionally and financially. Just imagine the ingrate the OP laboured to take care of for 2 years insulting him for leaving home to clear his head.
Any woman that is not educated and has no job is a big red flag, they are just leeches looking for the next guy to jump on and drain.
Forget se.x.. any woman can fvck you but not every woman can build with you.

Couples like them are deceiving each other. The man is spending money to impress her. She is acting like an angel to get what she wants. After marriage, he will expect her to manage with less money and she will also show her own true colors

zoghys:
Boy, I have read some of your comment here on NL as regards some topics and I can conveniently say you are a disturbed soul. You need help help and that must come really fast.

I just skip her comments. Can't stand reading them

Worthydefender:
Single mother or no single mother, man no suppose marry if u actually want peace. There are happy marriages and thats when you are always dropping money. Once a man is broke aswear nothing like happy marriage cos the man is surely gonna see hell. Bro if they give u the child fine, if they dont, leave her with them so that they wont use that to control you.

You're generalizing. Those men are also to blame. OP said it himself. He spent money on her to impress her. That was a very big mistake. Look for a woman who loves you for you. When you have a woman like that, even if you lose everything, she will still love you

manitobor:
I am so pissed off right, knowing that I wasted close to two years with a useless lady with no skill, who has a terrible and sordid past that I cannot mention here and who has turned out to be an ingrate, disrespectful and vile. Her baby papa abandoned her for years. When she gave birth to the first son, the baby daddy didn't even pay the 50k hospital bill they were charged 4 years ago. He said he had no money and ran away. They didn't go to his house to harass him to come and pay. They stayed in the hospital for up to a month until the family rallied around within themselves to sort out the bill and bail them out of the hospital. Yet, my ungrateful fiance and her jezebel of a mother have ganged up against me and are calling me all sorts of name just cos I left for a few days.

I have decided that I am no longer proceeding with the marriage. I feel sorry for my daughter who would grow up without her real mother cos I've decided I am taking custody of her. I can never allow them bring up my daughter in a public yard where they live. They would ruin my daughter there.

I made a most costly and terrible error of my life putting up with a single mother with no tangible skill, who is extremely lazy, who is possessed by a dark force. I sincerely feel so bad right now and wish I could turn back the hands of time to go back to when I first met her and tell the dumbo that I have no interest in marrying her. I remember all the money I've wasted to please her and impress her and I bite my fingers in deep regret.

Men, learn from my terrible mistake, never marry a jobless woman, especially a single mother who is jobless. Cos, that's the major bone of contention. If this lady had sustained the business I started for her, she wouldn't be short of cash to support the family in this trying times.

I deliberately left out some details from the write up, cos if I attempt to write down all the terrible experiences I've had in the hands of this terrible, marine spirit possessed single mother, you would weep for me.

Let me stop for now.

Spending money to impress is another big mistake a lot of men keep making. Glad that you have learned from this and are taking steps to protect yourself. Take care of yourself. You'll come out stronger

manitobor:
I am not one for sharing my family problems on the internet, but I really have to share this on Nairaland so that some men can learn a thing or two and for you guys to advise me, cos I am totally in the worst emotional state right now due to a serious problem within my family that had barely started. This is going to be a really lengthy read. Bear with me.

I got acquainted with a lady towards the end of the month of March last year, 2025. Prior to that time I had decided that it was time to settle down and start my own family. So, me and this lady started talking and getting to know each other around March and it grew into a relationship shortly afterwards.

Now, the greatest mistake I made and I wish for any man reading this to avoid at all cost was that I ignored the fact that she was a single mother, she said that her baby daddy was very abusive physically and gave her several wounds on her body with different weapons for no reason. She said she'd never cheated on him and never disrespected him. She also said that he had never bought her anything as a gift as he was unemployed throughout the period of their entanglement. He never gave her money for her upkeep.

Second red flag was that she is uneducated (didn't even sit for waec), thirdly, she has no real marketable skill and was only working as a lowly-paid salesperson in a clothing shop.


Though I was a little concerned at first, cos I was wondering how I would end up marrying an uneducated, skill-less single mother. I shrugged it off cos I thought she seemed well-behaved and meek, which are qualities I cherish in a potential wife, and that those would make up for the shortcomings.

I was totally wrong about her character as she has since displayed her true self and shown that she was playing chameleon all along. At the initial stage she was all over me, putting pressure on me to take the relationship to another level. She always wanted to visit me every day. Any time she told me wanted to come to my apartment and I told her I wasn't around, she would be very sad and even suspect that I didn't want her to come or that perhaps I had another girl over at my house. Sometimes she would just show up unannounced, without prior notice at my apartment. She never gave me chance to think about the whole thing. I hate to admit she bamboozled me and hoodwinked me.

I asked her the business or trade she wanted to do so that I could set it up for her last year. I made a lot of suggestions and she turned them all down saying that the skill she really had was culinary skill and that she wanted to have something like a restaurant or bar where she could sell food and drinks. I am a great cook and by my assessment she isn't really a good cook. And moreover, I didn't like the idea of my wife doing such a business, and told her so. I suggested she seriously considered the other options I initially listed. But it appeared to me that she was fixated on the restaurant/bar business of which I vehemently stood my ground against the idea.

So in the meantime around May of last year we both agreed that she should stop the lowly paid job she was doing, which came with a lot of disrespect from her employer, while we give serious thought to what business would be best fit for her. I was the one footing virtually all her bills. Giving her money regularly for her upkeep and that of her son, worst mistake of my life as the current situation has proven.

One of the major mistakes you made was believing everything was her baby daddy's fault. She was not able assess herself to see what her faults were. That itself was a huge red flag

Olaolar:
Hmmm, an international, caring man like me, I emotionally too get attached fast..
Lol true love no go kill me ..

MY PROBLEM IS THAT AM GOD FEARING THAT'S WHY

But since tiktok arriver, have learnt alot about relationships, from all this female therapist, including coach gehgeh ..
Women has used me,took me for granted, love covered my eyes, I'm getting hurt often ..

Currently now with the man am becoming, am scared of how I will treat my wife if I later got married .
I'm that dude that defend woman alot before , I use to support them by all cost , against my fellow man not to treat woman anyhow, not knowing nowadays ladies are not to be compared with our mother's ..

How will I change if I mistakenly found a good woman, if truly one is existing..

I always feel guilty when I hurt a soul ..

Don't allow yourself to become a bitter man like many of the men here. If you become a toxic man, be prepared to only be able to attract and keep toxic women

Keep being that intentional caring man, but also look for an intentional caring woman. Train yourself not to get attached too fast, until the woman has proved to you that she is worth it. The problem with getting attached too fast is you will overlook red flags

God1000:
https://punchng.com/trump-offers-americans-5000-if-republicans-win-midterms-election-retain-congress?

Trump is an absolute disgrace to USA. I will never understand how this man became president again. How can a grown man be this ridiculous and pathetic? He needs to go for some psychological exam. There's something very wrong with him