₦airaland Forum

God1000:
https://www.cbsnews.com/news/iran-injuries-us-service-members/?

Very unnecessary war. These people should just stop. Now US will retaliate and then Iran will also retaliate. Pointless waste of life

kenben:
Oga don't be offended please but I would like to ask, are you married? Because you see that your number 4 about finances ehhhh...e get as e be

It's subjective. It's ideal in the ideal marriage but not all marriages are the ideal. Sometimes financial secrecy can be good for the man or the woman. For example when there's lack of financial responsibility or when there's abuse involved

motymop:
these people PM do not last at all

do other govt trust them with their leadership instability

Honestly. I'm starting to think the issue might be with the new king. This never happened when queen Elizabeth was there. Is Britain now a failing state? The instability is crazy

socoharley:
Thank you!!
I just realized I am toxic because the signs also reveal a disciplined man.

Which of the signs reveal a disciplined man?

He's clearly advertising their services in the disguise of celebrating his woman. Smh

chatinent:
No hate but is this actually necessary here?

There are white men who will do that and there are white men who won't.

There are black men who will do that and there are black men who won't.

There are a lot of lazy white men with no ambition. You can't make general claims

Love800:
To me, they are afraid that the person might go about abusing it. I don't really know how to explain this abuse.

If you give a white man knowledge, he will twerk it to a meaningful, modest and profitable manner in which it will make that skill last a generation-times.

I might be wrong though.

kakaG:
I was too adventurous that I missed her

Take heart. Hope you find someone better

It has to be mutual. They have to be each other's first choice

FreeStuffsNG:
Smh. I think it is disrespectful that anyone married did not marry a 'first choice'.
If who you married is not your first choice, you married wrong niyen.

kakaG:
Painfully no. Though every night I wish I did....it's quite painful

What was the reason?

If someone killed your family, what will you do? If this one survives, he may be even more dangerous

Belurved1:
Something wey your papa die on top, as a young man wey unexpectedly find himself for leadership, you suppose use diplomacy instead of following your forefathers' mentality. No let the population of your country deceive you.

If you don't disrupt yourself, someone else eventually will.

To achieve nothing. US will just keep bombing them for years. US has entered a forever war

writetopoka:
Please we need more of these bombardment from the USA

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Who said I support Iran?

Hamas is still in control of Gaza. How did they lose? Mind you, Israel has made even more Palestinians want to join Hamas after killing their kids

You can't bomb an ideology. Killing people anyhow only strengthens the hate those people have for Israel. It is not a good strategy long term

Bluntemperor:
Ideology kill you there, for it's better some of you leave Nigeria and relocate to Iran,as Visa is Free.
This Iran is Blood tasted Demons 👿- using Pseudo ARMY 🪖:
-Hamas-in Gaza-but thank God, they lost.
- Hezbollah Proxies in Lebanon - and foolish people want Israel to be looking and the question,is -What Is Iran doing in Lebanon❓
-Houthe in Yemen - and is the Problem of that Country ,
-The Sudan War has Iran Support and
- In Nigeria - Iran is Supporting the Elzazaki movements-in Kano, Kaduna and Abuja Metropolis.
- in Saudi Arabia - Iran have been causing Destabilization now and then, during Holy Prilgrage.
•Iran Is A Country that doesn't want PEACE and should never be allowed to enjoy Internal Stability as well.

Even Israel admitted it. They lied about it at first but later admitted it

billyG:
How do you know they are civilians where you there?

You need to communicate red flags. If they don't try to do better, you leave them be. No one is perfect

Boxnaijatv:
We've all done it. Saw the sign clear as day, felt that small alarm go off somewhere in our chest, and still convinced ourselves "maybe it's not that deep" or "people can change." Then months (or years) later, we're sitting there like "ah ah, but I saw this coming now."
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‎Let me start us off honestly:
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‎For me, it was someone who talked badly about every single one of their exes — like every single one was "crazy," "toxic," or "the problem." At the time I thought "ah, this person has just had bad luck with people." Fast forward into the relationship myself, and guess who eventually became "the crazy ex" in somebody else's story? Should have picked up on that pattern immediately — when everyone before you is "the problem," you're just next in line, not the exception.
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‎Some common ones I've seen people mention over time:
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‎🚩 "I don't really have close friends" — and thinking it makes them more focused on you, when really it can mean isolation later
‎🚩 Love bombing early — excessive attention, gifts, "I've never felt this way before" within the first few weeks
‎🚩 Getting weirdly upset over small things very early — a preview of how conflict will actually be handled later
‎🚩 Money inconsistencies — vague about income, spending habits, or debt, brushed off as "we'll figure it out"
‎🚩 Watching how they treat waiters, drivers, or people who "can't do anything for them"
‎🚩 Jealousy disguised as "I just love you too much"
‎🚩 Anger issues explained away as "I'm just passionate" or "that's just how I am"
‎🚩 They talk about family in a way that quietly foreshadows exactly how they'll eventually treat you
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‎The scary part isn't that we don't see these signs. Most of us do. We just talk ourselves out of taking them seriously — "maybe I'm overthinking," "nobody's perfect," "the good outweighs the bad right now." And by the time the red flag fully reveals itself, we're already emotionally invested, sometimes years deep, sometimes with kids or finances tied in.
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‎So let's hear it — what red flag did YOU see clearly, ignore anyway, and later regret not taking seriously? Doesn't have to be dramatic, even the "small" ones that turned out to matter a lot. Let's help someone reading this recognize theirs before it's too late 👇

Honestly. I worry for the future generations of US and Israel. At this rate, they will never have peace. US and Israel leaders don't think about tomorrow. Force is the only language they know. They don't even try to understand what kind of people they're dealing with. They're so naive

Princedapace:
War does not work like that o. Go and ask Russia, u go bomb tire and the longer the war, the stronger the enemy gets. As it is, someday, soon, Iran fit dey hit US main land. It will get there. The US intelligence are already signering the posibility. Na to find one bloody Mexican criminals, pay them well and attack. And the Iran missle is getting longer and longer. U cant force people into buying ur idea if they dont want. Cant u see even after killing all these people, these guys still dey fire. US and Israel bombed these guys o but they stil no gree

Yes, Trump doesn't know what he's dealing with. Maybe he forgot how civilians surrounded the bridges and plants the last time he made the threat

Helinuse:
Trump has yet to realize that the IRGC and Gaza terrorists don't care about the bridges and plants.
In fact, left to themselves, they will gather their children and women inside there for maximum casualty.

Trump doesn't think long term at all. I still can't understand how you can take out the leaders of a country then expect them to be friendly with you

Dogalmighty17:
Is it by force to talk? This man is clearly insane. If he dares bomb any of Iran's Civil infrastructure, Iran has the liberty to wipe out every refinery and crude oil drilling platforms in US aligned gulf countries. The only language Trump understands is that if crude brutal force. Iran should force the price of international crude to go up by sabotaging as many crude oil export terminals as it can in the gulf.

They're bombing military assets in coastal areas

Basicend:
This is an outdated news.

He had started bombing them since the past 4 days in a row.

Iran is receiving it left, right and center now. I really pity Iran. With the way things are going, Iran will be a bigger pic of Gaza in the next few months honestly.

IRGC are clowns. Their only leverage is the strait of Hormuz. But US and some secret arab nations are levelling their ground to dust gradually.

They can't face Israel again, they know Bibi dey wait for them. They can only threaten Gulf nations that have not yet sent billions of dollars to them as compensation.

FYI Hamas still controls Gaza. You can't bomb an ideology into submission

Enddy50ty:
This is why I love Israel 🇮🇱. No too much talk and drama, just maintain intensity. Bomb them to submission

FYI US overthrew Iran's democratic government

DIVINEEVIDENCE:
Omo.
Na by force to talk?


Simply bomb the terrorist country to smithereens and install a reasonable democratic government or restore the former monarchical system they had before now.

This Trump na talkative.

75% of the people Israel killed in Gaza are civilians. What are you talking about? They don't give a f*ck about civilians

mikeapollo:
US is only interested in striking their infrastructure and installations.
But Israel would first go for the govt officials, military personnel, nuclear scientists etc because they don't want the ordinary civilians to suffer

It won't change anything. Trump will never learn. He doesn't know who he's dealing with. That's the problem with US leaders. They think everyone is like them. They don't understand there are different cultures and different ideologies

Mattswaggz:
Video:-
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m2ogE6agC_c?si=ntXOPCEcmDR-9y0a

https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/cy0608wy8pro

I really wish more nairalanders were thoughtful and open minded like you.

It's similar for me. Seeing the amount of innocent lives Israel took was too much for me. Not to mention the thousands of kids they left orphaned, injured and handicapped without limbs

The hypothetical scenario you gave is understandable. Bombing apartment buildings and the neighboring buildings is what I can never understand. And when they do this, they only tell Israelis that they killed that one terrorist. They won't mention the sometimes hundred plus innocent civilians who were killed in the process

Sometimes I wonder if they do it to show Hamas that they’ll go to any lengths and civilians is not a weakness they can exploit

Or is it that Israel does it out of revenge? Their actions don't look strategic. I saw a Palestinian man saying he'll join Hamas after his kid was struck by an Israeli air strike. So Israel is creating the next generation of Hamas?

The only way to solve this is for both sides to compromise. Will that ever happen? I think a new generation of leaders on both sides is the only hope. Younger generations don't like wars

I was shocked to find out that Israel, including Netanyahu, enabled the funding of Hamas. Apparently, they didn't want the Palestinian Authority to have the stability to form a Palestinian state. If Israel really wanted peace, won't they empower the non-terrorist Palestinian Authority? The Palestinian Authority even condemned the Hamas October 7 attack. Imagine

There's more to all this than people see. Netanyahu would have been in prison if not for the October 7 attack and the subsequent war. He probably started the war to avoid prison

The Israeli government is not even telling their people the full truth of the atrocities they committed in Gaza likely because they know Israelis won't like it. Then there are some Israelis who enjoy seeing Palestinians killed anyhow and even mock them. Are those heartless Israelis any better than Hamas?

I just hope younger leaders take over and end this senseless war once and for all

safarifarms:
To be honest I supported Israel to deal with the terrorists. But the level of innocent lives lost got me disappointed. However, the modus operandi of Hamas leaves me confused if Israel could have really been able to do it better. I feel the conclusion will be so much more time taken to get their targets with much more casualties on their side. Imagine a terrorist pushing an innocent Palestinian in front of him to shield him while coming out to confront an Israeli soldier. If the soldier should hesitate because of concern for the innocent civilian, he gets killed. What do they do? An Israeli soldier doesn't hesitate to kill both and move on. I think of it, if I'm in his shoe, what will I do? Will I risk being killed or will I risk being labeled genocide soldier? This is just a hypothetical scenario. Israel sees a building with several terrorists and many more civilians. Of they send in foot soldiers, there will be so many casualties. They choose to bomb the whole building. That's extreme. But I can't prove that there's a better way. They will drop information for civilians to move but the terrorists won't let them move. Its a sad situation. I don't know how best to judge it.

They're so ignorant and they just can't see it

Razzness:
So you are holding Hamas who are a terror group with no sense of morality to the same moral standards as state of Israel. Oooh! I like where this is headed.

I'm not in favour of Hamas and I'm not in favour of Israel. They both kill innocents recklessly

Using so called terrorist actions to justify Israel's military actions? Are you serious? You yourself are saying Israel's military are terrorists

safarifarms:
Does the terrorists mention the number of innocent Palestinians and Israelis they kill? Or those killed by Hamas doesn't matter?

I don't think Iran cares about their leaders getting killed. They see it as an honour. Those people are fearless

This is why US can't win a war with them. They don't think like that. Americans are not willing to make sacrifices anyhow

FreeStuffsNG:
US and its proxy were using the Southern side of the Strait of Hormuz to move military assets and logistics to get closer to Iran and launch missiles on Iran.

The civilian vessels were a decoy Trump wants to use to gain a strategic military position close to Iran for killing Iranians.

Iran has created a lane for ships to take in the strait, if US is interested in ships movement then it should not bother anymore but Trump thinks the Iranians are stupid.

Iran will not sit idly and watch Trump kill all Iranian leaders. It is US that will eventually be forced to flee the gulf region like the Talibans defeated them in Afganistan.

They will never mention the civilians killed in the process

Razzness:
Lol! They will conveniently forget to mention the 100,000 civilians they killed in the process

Don't become heartless like them

chatinent:
The xenophobic people, I have no pity for. Call me wicked, heartless, yes I am. That's my name.

For killing Nigerians (both the reported, underreported, and unreported), y'all know how much from the bottom of my heart what I want for you all, right?

For you to have such hate, you're becoming like them. Don't stoop low to their level

Nwaokunkpara:
I don't think that south African souls deserve to rest in peace

It's good that you're not thinking all women are like that. That's why it's good to look for a woman you can be friends with

Also think about what drew those women to you. Men who use material things to attract women are making a big mistake

Kalatium:
There is one question every man should ask himself before calling any woman the 'love of his life' .

If everything you have worked for disappeared tomorrow, if your job was gone, your business collapsed or your income suddenly stopped, would she still look at you with the same love, respect and admiration? What if she starts Earning more than you, will she remain with you?

For a long time, I believed the answer would be yes because love was supposed to be unconditional.

Life eventually answered that question for me, not once, not twice, but eight different times in a period of 10 years. Every relationship was different, every woman had a different personality, from different ethnic groups but the lesson at the end was painfully similar.

Story One: When I Lost My First Job

We had been together for two years and I genuinely believed we were building a future together. When my former company downsized and I lost my job, the first person I wanted to speak to was the woman I loved because I expected comfort, encouragement and reassurance that we would get through it together.

Instead, the conversation immediately shifted to : What would become of the relationship now that I was unemployed. The warmth gradually disappeared, the phone calls became less frequent, the replies became shorter and within a few weeks she had emotionally checked out. Before long, she had moved on with another man. Two years of commitment disappeared almost as quickly as my monthly salary.

Story Two: "I'll Find Someone Else"

Months later i got into another relationship. As of then i started a business i got introduced to and at it was booming. Then came a point, where the business became slow and money was unusually tight. For the first time since we started dating, I could not spend the way I normally did. I communicated this to her and she said okay but just a few days later she called and asked me to send her money so she could buy a dress and shoe she saw.

I honestly explained that I was struggling financially and simply needed a little time to recover. Instead of asking how I was coping or understand me or encourage me to stay strong, her response was, "It's okay. I'll find someone else." Those six words changed the way I see her because I suddenly realized I had been valued more for what I provided than for who I actually was. This was a major trigger that orchestrated our breakup later.

Story Three: Betrayal After Sacrifice

The lady was very lovely that i thought we will get married. She was from a humble background, looked gentle and portrayed herself like the kind that will be faithful to me (ride or die). I paid bills, solved problems, handled emergencies and constantly made sacrifices because I genuinely loved her and believed we were building something meaningful together.

Unknown to me, another man with a bigger bank account had quietly entered the picture and was doking her. By the time I eventually discovered what had been happening, she had already moved on emotionally while I was still investing my time, energy and resources into a relationship that had quietly expired. I felt betrayed and shattered.

Story Four: I Helped Her But She Left
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This one pained me the most because of extend i went for her. She is in the health profession and graduated without securing an internship placement. She was frustrated about her future because her mates have already started and are already ahead of her. I refused to watch her struggle alone. I reached out to people I knew, made several calls and eventually helped her secure internship in where i did mine previously. While she worked without salary for months, I continued encouraging and supporting her financially because I genuinely wanted to see her succeed.

All of a sudden everything changed. The communication reduced, the effort disappeared and eventually she walked away from the relationship. She gave no solid reasons saying it's not me it's her and she needs to find herself. Later, I got to found out she had already started earning before she broke up with me. Looking back, I sometimes wonder whether she simply felt she no longer needed me as she is now earning or feel i will ask her for money or what . I became an overnight philosopher.

Story Five: She claimed not to have money and later got scammed.

We dated for three years and during that period I never hesitated to support her financially whenever life became difficult. Helping her was almost natural to me because I believed that was what partners were supposed to do for each other. This was the lady i loved the most.

One day I genuinely needed financial help myself and reached out to her after other options failed. She calmly told me she did not have any money. This was my first time of asking her this and since i trusted her, i thought she actually didn't have. Many days later, she was moody and closed off. I asked repeatedly what was wrong only for her to end up crying, saying someone had scammed her with a significant amount of her money. The painful part for me was not that she got scammed. The painful part was realizing she had the money all along but told me she doesn't have anything. She simply chose not to help me when I needed her. I felt betrayed. When i reflected on everything i realized that even when i am in a precarious situation, she won't ever help me. I never took her serious since then.

Story Six: I Was Always the One Giving

This relationship forced me to reflect on something I had ignored for a long time: reciprocation. I was having this mentality that when my woman needs help, I will always show up immediately without thinking twice. Whenever she faced a challenge, I considered it our challenge. However, looking back today, almost every meaningful sacrifice came from my side and i was shooting myself on the foot.

I began to notice that whenever I genuinely needed emotional support, encouragement or even small acts of kindness, there was almost always another excuse, another reason or another delay. I don't like to keep score but i can't help but noticed she has never did anything worthwhile, even when monetary aspect is kept aside. She is always asking and taking but have never giviing and she is 30. Loving someone should never feel like carrying two people on your shoulders while pretending the weight is equal.

Story Seven: The ₦100,000 I Never Saw Again

This relationship was still very new when she called saying she had an emergency and urgently needed ₦100,000. I explained that the money had already been set aside for something very important, but because she was my girlfriend, I agreed to lend it to her after she repeatedly promised to repay me.

The money never came back. Whenever I reminded her, she started making me feel guilty for asking for money i send to her oooo. At one point she even asked why I was behaving as though she were a stranger. That moment taught me that borrowing money should never automatically erase accountability. I ended the relationship out of disgust. This was the shortest relationship i had ever been.

Story Eight: The Experiment That Changed Everything

After everything I had experienced, I recently decided to quietly test one relationship earlier this year after the lady was claiming she is not after a man's money. So I deliberately reduced how much I spent while making sure nothing else changed. I still called regularly, stayed emotionally available and continued showing genuine affection. The only thing I reduced was the money.

The result shocked me. Almost immediately I was accused of no longer caring, no longer trying and no longer loving her like before. Nothing about my character had changed. My attention had not reduced. My commitment remained exactly the same. The only thing that changed was my spending, yet that alone completely changed how I was treated. That experiment taught me one lesson no relationship expert ever could.

My Overall Reflection

Before anyone misunderstands this post, let me make something very clear. I am not saying every woman behaves this way because that would be dishonest and unfair. These are not all the ladies i have been in a relationship with but this is a result of majority of those i have been with. I know there are loyal, supportive and emotionally mature women who genuinely stand beside their partners during difficult seasons.

My concern is that I have personally experienced this pattern repeatedly as well as others, and many men quietly carry similar stories without ever talking about them. Society constantly reminds men that their value lies in what they provide, while very few people ever stop to ask what emotional support men receive in return.

A man is expected to provide, protect, remain emotionally strong, solve problems and carry responsibilities without complaining. The moment he experiences financial difficulty, many people begin questioning his worth instead of asking whether he is mentally exhausted, overwhelmed or silently struggling with responsibilities nobody else can see.

Money is important. Bills are real. Responsibilities cannot be ignored. Every serious relationship requires financial responsibility from both partners.

Genuine love, however, should never disappear simply because someone enters a difficult season. Every human being will eventually experience moments when life does not go according to plan. Character is not revealed during comfort. Character is revealed when circumstances become uncomfortable.

Today I no longer judge relationships by sweet words, romantic promises or social media displays. I pay attention to how people behave when there is nothing material left to gain because hardship exposes intentions that comfort successfully hides.

My biggest lesson is one I will carry for the rest of my life.

Money can attract attention.
Money can attract admiration.
Money can even attract temporary affection.
Money cannot buy genuine loyalty.

If someone's love expires the same day your money stops flowing, then perhaps what you had was never really love.

It was simply a transaction wearing the mask of a relationship.

So let me leave you with one honest question.

If you lost everything tomorrow, would your partner still choose you, or would they quietly begin searching for someone with a healthier bank account?