Pukkalolo: A goat does not climb a roof unless someone puts a ladder there.
Before you open your mouth to attack “Naija women” for being gold diggers, entitled, or disrespectful, ask yourself one hard question: Who keeps building the ladder?
For every behaviour you complain about Naija women, there are men who encourage it, reward it, and sometimes practically beg for more of it.
Let's look at a few examples.
EXAMPLE #1: Women who are gold diggers and just want to chop men's money.
The women you call gold diggers did not invent the game. They simply noticed that most men still try to buy women's love with money.
If men stopped using money and lavish spending as their primary strategy for attracting women, there would be no such thing as gold diggers anymore.
Example #2: Women who act entitled, rude and saucy towards men
The truth is simple:
A woman does not continue disrespecting a man she knows will walk away the moment she tries it.
But when a woman disrespects you, you double your effort for her. She ignores your message, and you send another message. She treats you like trash, and you keep giving her attention.
What exactly do you expect her to learn from that arrangement?
You’re literally teaching her that the ruder and more saucy she acts, the more you want her.
You become the reason the next man will meet the same attitude.
Good one. It goes both ways. Refreshing to see something sensible like this about dating on nairaland. Keep it up
Openyamind111: Trump and Putin are two powerful, business minded leaders who share a mutual understanding. While one drives global instability, the other profits by selling weapons. both strategically benefiting from ongoing conflicts around the world. Though many argue over who holds more power, the reality is that they operate as allies with aligned interests.
Trump is a business man with no morals or integrity. This is what you're seeing at display here. Let's see how powerful he'll be when he leaves office. Nonsense
You see how almost half voted that Trump is a kind hearted democrat. Tomorrow, they'll complain about bad leaders in Nigeria. They are the ones who vote for them. They are the ones who can't recognize good leaders. Smh
sacajawea: This girl, you went ahead to marry this man/boy, despite overwhelming reasons not to do so? hmmmm Mental.. A real study in mental Illness. Cos you were actually a normal okay person.
Only few who know everything from the beginning and saw the evolution of things would understand that I say this in all 100% honesty.
DMCA: Wetin concern me? my issue be say people d twist d narrative about d video. I talk say him suppose d beat him wife? talk say ur papa or mama never trash u before so why just that slap wey him d slap him piking be big deal?
Goodmarlian: Since childhood I have always being a forgetful, hyperactive and talkative person, no matter how hard I tried to control this condition and worst of it is am a very disorganized and overly emotional person no matter how hard I try to control this weakness it was to no avail it seems that just who I am.
It has attracted so much criticism as a child that it destroyed my childhood because I lost my mom at the age of 7 she was our bread winner, so my family scattered up after her death so I went to live with my uncle and this condition really severed my relationship with my uncle's family because I was brought there to serve as a houseboy.
I couldn’t live up to expectation as a houseboy I was also losing money when I am sent to market, I always forget what I was sent to buy so the insult on me was on a daily basis.
I was a victim of verbal abuse for 3 years until it destroyed my self esteem totally, omo life has really being unfair to me I sometimes I regret being born into this cruel world.
The worst part of my life was my teenage years, I lacked self esteem and suffered severe inferiority complex. I was a totally withdrawn teenager I always compared myself to my peers and saw myself as shit, nobody understood me, not even my family, they were even my worst critics.
But all in all I believe I would have a better adulthood but that was a lie.
I am an adult now in my early 30s and experience and exposure has taught me a lot and I have improved my self esteem and feel a lot better about myself to some extent but I notice that those traits still persist. I am still a forgetful, talkative and restless person.
One day, I was scrolling through the TikTok pages and I discovered a video talking about the mental condition ADHD and it described my condition a 100 percent, that was the first time I knew I had a mental condition not normal.
It has affected my relationship with people. The way I communicate and express myself was bad i have become a forced introvert and forced to stay alone because they wouldn’t like my personality.
I discovered it doesn’t have cure so I feel suicidal. I wish death could just take me soon so I can get some eternal peace I don’t even care about eternity or reincarnation I just wanna fade off into oblivion.
Maybe you do have ADHD, but be careful. Some of the symptoms in the picture you showed describes who I used to be. I grew out of them naturally. Sometimes doctors in those countries use diagnosis like this so they can sell drugs and make money. Some peoplebecome trapped in victimhood and blame all their issues on it and believe that's who they are, that they can't change. It's best if you can get diagnosis from a genuine health care professional. Good luck
zegxy: You are a generational hyprocrite. We are talking about suffering in Nigeria, so what has that got to do with Trump ? An American citizen of your age isn't t suffer like you are; They have stable power supply, affordable health care, affordable transport system, child's welfare support, inflation not as high like that of Nigeria Which one are you enjoying here in Nigeria ? I don't know your present location but can you afford to travel by air when you embark on journeys?
You don't get my point. A lot of Nigerians can't tell who is a good leader and hence don't vote for good leaders in Nigeria
Racoon: Effects of bad leadership and the evil people supporting them. Nigeria must be delivered from these wicked demons in govt.
Seeing that a lot of nairalanders are supporting Trump, it's obvious that a lot of Nigerians can't recognize bad character in leaders. Even after seeing all the chaos and damage he has caused in US, they are still supporting him. A lot of Nigerians need deliverance from their ignorance
DMCA: Coward for disciplining a 13 year old who be him daughter? Ur papa or mama never cane u before? then u d talk less of small small slap Abi u think say na adult? because d kid don grow like agric fowl?
Physical abuse is physical abuse. He's beating her because he's angry. He would never beat his fellow man like that. He also beat his wife. He's a coward
It's sad that Nigerians like you have normalized physical abuse in the name of discipline. Go and google the negative effects of a parent physically abusing their child
DMCA: About d Video, Na NaNa d record and d talk. d person wey d chop quality slap na their daughter.
For d video, All I see na a loving father wey no want spare d rod so that him cherished daughter no go spoil By d way, as for him wife, we know d common adage, "hell hath no fury like a woman scorned". she go take advantage of any situation to get back d man no send even though she d record because him just d discipline him daughter d correct African way. she even get luck say cane no involve. I fit bet say na d woman d spoil and enable d girl
What nonsense? Let that girl slap him like that. He's a coward. He will never slap his fellow man who's his size like that. It's his wife and daughter he knows how to slap. He's pathetic
seunmsg: Thanks to the highly beloved peoples Mayor of New York for celebrating with Nigerians. How I wish this guy is qualified to run for president, he will beat the hell out of JD Vance or any other MAGA the republicans want to put on the ballot in 2028.
Honestly. He would make a great president. Unfortunately, he can't run
Veteran Nigerian rapper Ruggedman has never been one to bite his tongue, and his latest interview with YBits is proof. At Ambassador Wahala’s Pensioner comedy show held at the Transcorp Hilton, the man also known as Ruggedy Baba didn’t just show up to support a friend—he showed up with fire in his mouth, and by the time he was done, the entire Afro beats conversation was left smoking. It was also his birthday, September 20th, and instead of just soaking in the love, Ruggedman used the moment to drop a bombshell that is already sending shockwaves through the industry: “Afro beats is a genre of music that a lot of talentless Nigerians hide behind.”
According to him, the problem isn’t the genre itself but the lack of depth. “The only thing I’ll say is missing is the same thing I always say all the time—depth,” he said. “Right now, we have too many people going into music as a means to survive, which is not a bad thing, but if that’s the only reason, that’s when it’s a problem because they will do almost anything and call it music.” For Ruggedman, too many artists are getting away with repeating a popular street phrase over a beat and calling it a song. “Get a popular street phrase, get a producer who can giggle [create] a better beat, and then repeat that catchy phrase over and over—maybe say it like 15 times—and then say some lines in between as a verse. That’s it,” he said. “Most of them, I don’t even know how to categorize them—if they are rapping, singing, talking, or chanting. If you remove the beat, all you hear is chanting.”
And he didn’t stop there. He threw a challenge at the artists who he says are hiding behind the beat: “Put them on the stage with a live band. Let them sing live. Oh, you go fear fear.” Ouch.
But before you think Ruggedman is just throwing stones from a glass house, he made it clear that his criticism is not aimed at everyone. When the conversation turned to the Big Three—Davido, Wizkid, and Burna Boy—he drew a sharp line. “No, no, no, they don’t fall under that,” he said. “They’re good. They make music, and they’re not Gen Z’s really. They’ve been doing music for a long time. So they don’t fall under that Afro beats [criticism].” He even noted that Wizkid and Burna Boy have said in the past that they don’t consider themselves Afro beats artists, a point that adds another layer to the never-ending debate about what the genre really is.
Then came the moment everyone will be talking about. When asked which of the Big Three he would pick for a collab among Wizkid, Burna Boy and Davido, Ruggedman said he would rather just do a song with all three. “Any of them you do a track with, it will move—it’s a hit,”
Ruggedman also spoke about why he showed up for Ambassador Wahala’s Pensioner show. “I came up in an era of loyalty and respect and standing by your words. So that’s why I’m here,” he said. And while he was there, he made sure to plug his new perfume line, “20 by Rugged Man,” which he launched on his birthday. “Check it on my Instagram from next week. We’re pushing. That’s what I’m wearing right now. And it smells nice,” he said.
Love him or hate him, Ruggedman has once again proven that he is not afraid to say what many are thinking. Whether his words will spark a much-needed conversation about talent, depth, and live performance in Afro beats, or simply ignite another round of online drama, one thing is certain—Ruggedman knows how to make headlines.
Watch the full interview here:
Follow Ruggedman on Instagram: @RuggedBaba
What do you think? Is Afro beats really a hiding place for talentless artists, or is Ruggedman just stuck in the past? Drop your thoughts in the comments.
Do songs that have depth do well? They never become popular
What do you mean by US in not Nigeria Americans are treated equally blah blah blah...You obviously know nothing about this...you belive the west is perfect abi? You're obviously blind to the systemic racism that blacks and hispanics face.
When the police who you believe don't make mistakes or won't go for someone without evidence went and raided AfroMan's house...what was the outcome?
Oboy rest abeg.
I said treated equal in the court of law irrespective of their celebrity status. US courts are not perfect but they are by far more fair than in Nigeria
But His lawyer brought up his status....not Rick...abi u no watch the video too?
Do you know there's the possibility of false accusations in an attempt to get "half" of his wealth.
Abi u dey there when she dey love am? If not for money Rick resemble who babes go dey die follow?
Yes he shouldn't have touched her and if he's found guilty I hope he gets maximum penalty for such.
US is not Nigeria. All Americans are and should be treated equal in the court of law
Police wouldn't have been searching for him if they didn't have evidence and the fact he turned himself in shows he knows he's guilty
Even if she liked him for his money, he entertained her. There are wealthy men who make sure their women love them for who they are not for their money
Recent events happening on October 1, 2026 shows arrest of rapper Rick Ross (William Roberts II) on domestic violence related charges, including felony battery by strangulation and misdemeanor battery. The viral photo shows his bond hearing before Judge Mindy Glazer, where she pushed back against his attorney's argument that Ross' celebrity status should affect his bail conditions. Ross has pleaded not guilty to all charges.
Recebt Key Timeline
Oct 1, 2026: Rick Ross turns himself in to Miami Beach police and is booked at 6:10 a.m.
Aug 28, 2026: Alleged incident occurs at Ross' Star Island home, triggered by an argument over an Instagram photo tag claiming his girlfriend was cheating on him.
Sep 30, 2026: The alleged victim reports the incident to police, providing photos of injuries.
Oct 1, 2026: Judge Mindy Glazer sets bond at $5,000 total, orders Ross to have no contact with the alleged victim and surrender all firearms.
Oct 22, 2026: Scheduled arraignment hearing for the case.
Case Status & Other Claims
Prosecution alleges Ross slapped, choked, and struck the victim multiple times during the August 28 argument.
Ross' legal team states the accusations are false, noting the alleged incident was reported a full month after it supposedly occurred.
Ross has formally pleaded not guilty to both charges and is currently released on bond pending his court date.
The judge's widely shared line "what does that mean" was in response to Ross' attorney arguing his high-profile status should be considered for jail housing. More information will be updated as the case is presently ongoing.
FSBoperator: News flash: marriage is transactional .
Always has been.
No woman would ever love you like your mama.
Why should a man be with a woman who only wants him for his money? No one knows what will happen tomorrow. A woman may not love a man like his mother, but a woman can genuinely love a man through his ups and downs. They are fewer but they are there
Olaolar: Avoid red flag' avoid red flag" in woman if you're about to settle down for marriage.. My question is that is there any woman that doesn't have any bad habit one or two attach to her??
Like someone gat to wait angle to come down from heaven and marry o..
Because have dated almost like six ladies for the pass four years, haven't found plain one among all .. Something red must pop up in are attitude.
Red flag are things that you should not tolerate. Bad habits may not really be red flags. Some cam.be overlooked. Also, are they open to listen and improve in those areas?
As someone else said, if all the women you're dating truly have red flags, there's something you have to adjust
Kelklein: They keep exhibiting these terrorist behaviour but Palestinians and Iranians are the terrorists that must be wiped out from surface of the earth..
When US destabilizes countries to exploit their resources, you'll keep quiet. When Israel destabilizes West Bank and Gaza, you'll keep quiet. When groups from those countries retaliate, you'll call it terrorism. When US and Israel retaliates and kills tens of thousands of women and children, you'll keep quiet. When groups from those countries retaliate, you'll call it terrorism.
Who are the terrorists? All of them are terrorists. Stop having double standards
Sonnobax15: No wammmm . So long say the raba dey,no banny on earth get taste
This is another testament to the fact that bannies are naturally wired to be attracted to a man who's got wealth.
As a man,the earlier you realize this ,the more reasons why you'd see making more money as your number one priority . And the same time stop attaching so much importance to a woman
My perspective about this whole stuff changed back in 2007 when my 60 years old father married his 28 years tear rubber wife who later became my step mom . No be say my p.man too guide oh . But even with the small change wey dey show for him body that time,she couldn't say NO
Why would you want a woman who only wants a man for money?
Fiscus105: I pity whoever will end up in your yard, even description you wrote with your hands, you are toxic and would be very difficult to leave it, in addition to covertly narcissist.
I won't surprised if you are married and remarried in future, if not end in single father til you grow old.
Goo0dHardDick: Like in the days of Blackberry (BB), why do ladies, especially Nigeria ladies, value or obsessed over iPhone so much? They wouldn't mind giving you their bodies to get it. And if you are a phone seller, these ladies can sleep with you as much as you want just to get an iPhone (only a foolish business man will agree to this).
Imagine a girl instructing her boyfriend to get an iPhone x or XR, or 11, saying she doesn't want her android phone fixed but would rather prefer an iPhone instead meanwhile she didn't contribute a single dime to purchase the iPhone.
Guys hardly show off with their iPhones or expensive gadgets as they do not see it as something worthy to die for, probably because they bought it with their own money.
A girl came over to my house and upon sighting an iPhone on the table, she immediately told me she was using an iPhone 11 but got damaged and someone had to give her the current android phone she was using. I simply told her "ok" and then changed the topic. She again went back to the iPhone topic and kept telling me how she's a huge fan of iPhones and the android phone she's using she's just managing it, bla bla bla..
Why do ladies obsessed over iPhone?
Seun should make it possible to block people like you permanently. Why am I seeing your post again?
saintkel: not true ...d major cause of problems we face today r Islamic terrorist.....infact, I wanted to say Islam but I have good friends practicing that religion, so out of respect, I'll go for dis senile terrorist.
If USA didn't go around destabilizing countries in the middle east to exploit their natural resources, would there have been terrorism there?
If you want to talk of Gaza, go and see how they are treated. In many places in the world where an ethnic group of people have been repressed, there have been resistance movements that resorted to violence and terrorism. It has even happened in Nigeria
I'm not condoning terrorism of any form, but you can't overlook the contribution of the US. US even created and used terrorist groups themselves
CaseSensitive: You're right. I wouldn't say Iran is completely innocent because they sure fund Hamas. Hamas appeared to operate as a Palestinian liberation front but some former Israeli officials also say Netanyahu preferred keeping Hamas in control of Gaza because the political split between Hamas in Gaza and the Palestinian Authority in the West Bank weakened prospects for a unified Palestinian leadership.
In fact, Netanyahu funded Hamas through Qatar. He received intel that Hamas was going to attack military base and take hostages (as a bargaining chip for imprisoned Palestinians/Hamas members in Israel) on Oct 7 apparently and didn't act on it. To me, the sinister twist I can't wrap my head around was that the Nova festival where Hamas murdered ravers, was meant to finish on the 6th of October. IDF gave permission to extend it till the 7th of October.
The question is - Why did IDF extend the event till 7th of October? Did Netanyahu intentionally let Hamas in, sacrificed his own people to justify the genocide in Gaza? I mean the genocide is disproportionate to Oct 7 and can never be justified but it looks like the justification that Netanyahu would need to create Greater Israel.
You are well informed unlike many nairalanders here.
I won't be surprised if Netanyahu intentionally let Hamas in. There was even a court case against Netanyahu at the time for corruption. He could have ended up in prison because of it. Another motive for him to have allowed October 7 to happen - distraction from his court case
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Americans are treated equally blah blah blah...You obviously know nothing about this...you belive the west is perfect abi?