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For some of them, no one wants them. They're old or fat or unhappy and so on. They become desperate and fall for anyone who gives them attention. Even when they suspect it's a scam, they'll lie to themselves because they don't want to lose the love they think they have

vick00:
I no see understand why those oyinbo people falls into the hands of yahoo boys. I have always been wondering why they are so dumb but I now understand they are not dumb, the are emotionally damaged.

No matter which country, there is always disadvantages shaa. But over there is still better than this Nigeria where you can loose everything you have work for in your life in minutes or maybe loose your life after making everything in life.

Inshort, it is still better than Nigeria. Just don't cut ties with your people back home.

Yes balance is key. Also let go of people who don't choose you. You can't give your way into someone's heart. Let them go. Someone who values you will find you and won't take you for granted

Btw those girls attracted to bad boys are not the kinds of girls you want anyway. They are attracted to toxic behaviors because of their own issues they haven't dealt with

Dpsychologist:
There is something I have observed over the years, and I would like to hear other people's opinions on it.

Many men seem to end up in one of two extremes.

If you are the confident, unpredictable and "bad boy" type, many women appear to enjoy the excitement you bring. They overlook your flaws, forgive your mistakes more easily and sometimes even compete for your attention. You become someone they want to chase, even when your actions do not always deserve it.

On the other hand, if you are the dependable, respectful and genuinely kind man, life can take a completely different turn. Instead of being appreciated, your kindness is sometimes mistaken for weakness. Your generosity becomes an expectation insteadTitle: As a Man, You Are Either the Exciting Guy or the Useful Guy. Why Is There Rarely a Balance?

There is something I have observed over the years, and I would like to hear other people's opinions on it.

Many men seem to end up in one of two extremes.

If you are the confident, unpredictable and "bad boy" type, many women appear to enjoy the excitement you bring. They overlook your flaws, forgive your mistakes more easily and sometimes even compete for your attention. You become someone they want to chase, even when your actions do not always deserve it.

On the other hand, if you are the dependable, respectful and genuinely kind man, life can take a completely different turn. Instead of being appreciated, your kindness is sometimes mistaken for weakness. Your generosity becomes an expectation instead of something valued. Your time, your emotional support and your money slowly become things people feel entitled to rather than grateful for.

Many good men have discovered that the more they give without setting boundaries, the more they are expected to give. The relationship gradually becomes less about mutual love and more about what they can provide. Once they stop providing, the treatment often changes almost immediately.

This raises an uncomfortable question.

Why does it sometimes seem easier to be desired as the exciting man than appreciated as the dependable man?

Personally, I do not think the solution is becoming toxic or pretending to be a bad boy. Neither do I believe men should become bitter or stop being kind.

The real solution is balance.

A man should be kind but never naive. He should be generous but not allow himself to be exploited. He should love deeply while still maintaining self respect. He should help willingly without becoming anyone's personal ATM.

Kindness without boundaries attracts exploitation. Confidence without character creates chaos. Healthy relationships require both love and mutual respect.

Perhaps the biggest lesson for men is this: never build your entire value around what you can provide financially. Build yourself into a man whose presence, character and principles are just as valuable as his wallet.

What do you think?

Do you agree that many men are either explored for excitement or exploited for provision, or do you see it differently? of something valued. Your time, your emotional support and your money slowly become things people feel entitled to rather than grateful for.

Many good men have discovered that the more they give without setting boundaries, the more they are expected to give. The relationship gradually becomes less about mutual love and more about what they can provide. Once they stop providing, the treatment often changes almost immediately.

This raises an uncomfortable question.

Why does it sometimes seem easier to be desired as the exciting man than appreciated as the dependable man?

Personally, I do not think the solution is becoming toxic or pretending to be a bad boy. Neither do I believe men should become bitter or stop being kind.

The real solution is balance.

A man should be kind but not naive. He should be generous but not allow himself to be exploited. He should love deeply while still maintaining self respect. He should help willingly without becoming everyone's personal ATM.

Kindness without boundaries attracts exploitation. Confidence without character creates chaos. Healthy relationships require both love and mutual respect.

Perhaps the biggest lesson for men is this: never build your entire value around what you can provide financially. Build yourself into a man whose presence, character and principles are just as valuable as his wallet.

What do you think?

Do you agree that many men are either explored for excitement or exploited for provision, or do you see it differently?

Tomorrow they'll complain there are no jobs

PDPdestroyer:
Misguided and ignorant students. This is not your fight, let the criminal drug pushers fight their battle against South-Africa alone, don’t be tricked into fighting what doesn’t concern you

Thundafireseun:
Try asking ChatGpt if you don't believe me

How? How is that possible?

Thundafireseun:
The kitchen is Dirtier than the toilet...

That's a sad truth many refuse to accept

Honestly. If they put all that time and effort into something legit, they would go far in life. Smh

Dreal1247:
Don't go and learn work. Continue trying to embark on the so-called Yahoo. There is a need for our young ones to be given proper orientation on life with enduring richest and wealth. Get rich quick syndrome is a sure route to untimely death. Meanwhile, the blessings of the Lord maketh rich and added no sorrow to it.

Try to understand why she does that. If she's not trying to meet you half way, it may be a red flag because it shows she may not care about how her actions are impacting you. Keep in mind that marriage amplifies those red flags

Goodmarlian:
I am just tired of this my girls approach towards our relationship,this girl is good ,well behaved and has a good job shes doing at hand but the problem I have with her is that she barely picks my calls or reply chats don't get me wrong we talk so very well offline we can gist for long and all that but we are no longer together forget it she will never reply my chats or calls
I have complained a lot about this to her she will apologize but still continue now I think it either she doesn't really like me as I think or she just want to weaponise communication I just want to continue with the relationship for fun while a find someone else who is ready and prioritizes me for marriage ,I see poor communication as a huge red flag .

They will never listen. Even Israel supported Hamas

Those countries use those so called terrorist groups for their agenda when it suits them then brand them as terrorists when those groups no longer serve their agenda

How many of these nairalanders know the history of Iran and how the US destroyed democracy in Iran?

NaijaGoBetter2:
America and Israel are the real terrorists terrorising every Muslim nations.
Almost every terrorist group have connection with America, Al Qaeda, Boko Haram et al. Yet some useless people still associate terrorist to Iran.

You can't talk as if Iran is totally innocent

God1000:
God bless the Islamic republic of Iran, the invaders and land grabbers will be put to shame

Both sides will be losers

Why do you think you didn't lose interest in her?

I think when there's deep emotional attachment, you don't lose interest in sex with your partner. Is it that for you?

Nackzy:
the only time don't sleep with my woman is when she's menstruating.. it's been like that die years

You think they don't have intelligence on who is there? They knew about the grand daughter. They knew about those school children. They did double tap on the school and could clearly see

Continue justifying senseless k*llings of innocent kids as if you're better than terrorists

billyG:
Did the regime not kill children too?or did US deliberately target children?

Continue with your terrorist mentality. You people justify senseless k*llings and still think you're better than terrorists

billyG:
Who survived the bombing to know a 14month old was among?or are they using babies as human shield?

Continue with your terrorist mentality. As if you're any different. You're no better than them

BlocksNG:
If you are afraid and don't want your children to reap what you sowed, you are a terrorist. My children will surely reap whatever i sow.

Why are you people like this? What do you mean by my children? So anyone who refuses to lose their conscience is Muslim? Nonsense

BlocksNG:
of course, your children will reap what you sow.

Wasn't expecting this trash from you. Keep becoming the terrorists you criticize

Kobojunkie:
The rule of war has been to utterly decimate your enemy. That has been the case even before Islam showed up on the horizon and remains the case to this day. You are a literal eejit if you cry victim when decimated by your enemy in a war you literally stoked and caused.

2. You are a supporter of Islamic terrorism. How is that any different from being an Islamist?

You complain about terrorists committing atrocities but turn a blind eye when the people you're supporting do the same thing. Is that not hypocritical?

So I am Muslim because I refuse to take sides and lose my conscience? You're not serious

Kobojunkie:
Ah, I see! It is OK when other people's babies and children are killed by your Islamic warlords. Heck, in Somalia, Iraq, Syria, Afghanistan, Libya, Mali, Burkina Faso, Sudan, etc., Islamists kill babies and children literally every day. Not a peep from the Islamic world about those because it all means absolutely nothing.

However, the moment you can pin the death of babies and/or children to kufar in war against terrorists, the goal post immediately shifts, abi?

Point of correction. 14 month old not 14 year old. Have some conscience. That poor girl was innocent

BlocksNG:
What was 14 year old doing with a terrorist?

See how these Nairalanders defending US and Israel won't say anything about the 14 month old they k*lled. They have no conscience

dermmy:
This is a perfect time for the burial. Iran is using It to pass a message. Iran is portraying unity. leaders from around the world are attending and sending dignitaries. The war really backfired on Israel/America.

It has united the Iranians the more. Killing Khamenei was a foolish move. You can't kill a leader revered by his people, bomb and ki their children in their school destroy their universities and schools and every thing they depend on fro survival and still think they would rise up against their leaders that's stup!d!ty

This is absurd! A 14 month old! Israel and US won't mention the 14 month old they k*lled in the process. They know their people won't support it

FreeStuffsNG:
The dead being honored include a son-in-law, his eldest daughter, a 14-month-old granddaughter and the wife of Iran's new Supreme Leader Ayatollah Mojtaba Khamenei, the son of the previous leader who remains in hiding after reportedly being wounded in the attack.

K*lling his 14 month old grand daughter was what? K*lling the 100+ schools girls was what?

There is a very thin line between US and Israel and the people they call terrorists

BlocksNG:
Isreal sent him beyond, say NO to terrorism.

They should focus on better things. New uniform would not help NYSC grads get jobs

altteemy:
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Power and influence

ILoveNG:
What is the point having bases in other people’s countries ?

US and Israel simply can't afford to do that. Their weapon production is very expensive and very inefficient. Israel does have the capability to become more cost effective but I don't think US would want that.

Iran was forced to find ways to produce weapons cheaply for their survival

Willie2015:
US is just showing restraint.

If US retaliate with the same 8000 ballistic missiles...

And Isreal also fired 8000 ballistic missiles... thats 16000

I simply wonder what/who will remain in Iran by now....

Yes, US is very inefficient in weapon production. It will be very expensive too

TimeMachine2:
Showing restraint? You must be a clown! Iran dealt with them mercilessly! USA won't be able to replace her inventory till 2030

We told you from the beginning that Iran is not Venezuela that you clowns 🤡 thought you could overrun in minutes. I heard you guys are planning a ground inversion?

There's no point talking to you. I'm out.

INJESUSNAME:
Most of your claims here are baseless.
America formed the groups and asked them to go fight jihad?
Another is that nobody called Palestinians a hundred years ago, just recent name for people living in the area. Can I ask you where are the children of Israel, the Jews talked about in the Quran, where is their land according to your religion book? Where did your prophet mention Palestine? I have seen some muslims who claim the Jews are the rightful owner of the Land bases on hard evidence, not emotion or sympathizing with fellow muslims.
Where is your historical and archeological evidence to claim some people called Palestinians lived in Palestine with their capital city of Jerusalem thousands of years? Truth will always prevail against lies as some muslims now realize the true owner of the land and have stopped fighting Israel over it.

By the way, 20% of Israelis are Muslims.

I will say if that is true, the hamas are stuppid then to allow their enemies fund them, still went to attack their sponsor and still expect victory.

Of course, you won't hold Israel accountable

Provide evidence Palestinians have been living on that land for one hundred years let alone thousands of years.

What?? ?? You don't know this?? ?? You don't know history?? ?

America not sponsoring terrorist groups

Are you serious?? ?? They sponsor them when it suits their agenda

Many Israelis are celebrating

As I said, the ones celebrating are extremists. Far right extremists. Some of them like seeing those innocent Palestinians k*lled and some don't care.

Israel is also not telling them the truth all the time. They lied to them that Israel wasn't involved in the Hind Rajab case

To your other comment, it's good that you don't think all Muslims are terrorists like some Nairalanders.

As for me, I don't have double standards. I will condemn anyone k*lling innocent people anyhow.

I condemn Hamas for harming innocent Israelis. I condemn Israel for harming innocent Palestinians.

I will not turn a blind eye because you're from a particular country or because you have a particular religion.

INJESUSNAME:
I will say if that is true, the hamas are stuppid then to allow their enemies fund them, still went to attack their sponsor and still expect victory.
Provide evidence Palestinians have been living on that land for one hundred years let alone thousands of years.
America not sponsoring terrorist groups, they are willing to be terrorists based on their religion like alqaeda, ISIS , boko, lakurawara, etc.why didn't they reject to be used to destroy their own region and why quoting Quran and shouting allahukbar while attacking and fighting?
When hamas hide behind children to attack the IDF while you are blaming the IDF for their deaths is dishonesty.
Some moderate muslims countries have made peace with Israel but the radical ones who still believe in the predictions of their profet still want Israel destroyed to prove that the profet is right and Islam is true.
War is not a game , it is destructive and traumatizing. What do you say to numberless and nameless children that are dying across war zones all over the world mostly in the hands of muslims in Syria, yemen, Sudan, and even here in Nigeria? Did you see the conditions of Nigerian children in the captivity of Muslim bandits here in Nigeria? What is their offence? Why are you not protesting? Why only the Jews who are defending their own ancestral land only the focus? How many people died all together in Gaza compared to Sudan, Yemen and Syria? Many Israelis are celebrating, infact some think Netanyahu not doing enough, pray the next leader won't be tougher than the current one.

There are many reputable sources with evidence that Israel supported Hamas. Why? They didn't want Gaza and West Bank to have the stability to form a Palestinian state. Ironically, that is what would have given Israel the peace they claim to want.

Why is it hard for you to believe? How many times has the US sponsored terrorist organizations?

Search for the air strikes Israel conducted on safe zones. FYI safe zones mean where civilians expected to be safe from military attacks. They don't care for civilians as they make it seem

Look up Hind Rajab, the 5 year old girl they k*lled who was stuck in a car waiting for an ambulance. Israel k*lled those in the ambulance who were coming to rescue her too. There's a voice recording of the call. She was still on the phone and you could hear them shooting.

Did they look like Hamas? This is just one of many such cases of them knowingly k*lling innocent people in Gaza.

Till today, Hamas is still the one controlling Gaza. After all those unnecessary k*llings, they still haven't taken out Hamas.

How many Muslim countries are friendly with Israel? It is not about religion. It is about land. If Palestinians didn't live on the land Israel is on for thousands of years, this conflict between Israelis and Palestinians won't exist.

Even Israelis are protesting against the actions of Israel in Gaza. Even some Israeli army members are taking their own lives because of the trauma they experienced. Some have PTSD.

The only people celebrating what happened and is happening in Gaza are the extremists in Israel and non Israelis who don't really know the full story.

INJESUSNAME:
Anyone can put anything on the internet, show where Palestinians and Hamas claim this.
Israel tried to separate civilians from Hamas militants, that is why they always warn the civilians to move away from conflict areas, but the militants mix themselves among the children and women, however, Israel must fight the perpetrators of October 7 even if they hide under the children beds. The civilians have the obligations to expose the militants and run away from danger if they want to live.
The conflict is more of religion except you want to lie. Jews are hated naturally by Islam. They were driven away from all Arab lands, radical muslims never want any non muslims, especially the Jews alive.

Africans have made Canada stronger. First time they ever qualified for round of 16 in history

planetx:
What happened to the German machine team we knew growing up, when they started being politically correct by packing Africans into the team, I knew they were done.

Is no one really above the law? If he was a middle income earner, would he have been able to run for president?

S*x offenders really struggle in the US. Trump was able to run for presidency because of his wealth and connections.

But true in a way. He wouldn't have gotten this verdict if he was in Nigeria.

SheikhMuniru:
This is a country where nobody is above the laws. But here in Nigeria, never will a supreme court found ordinary governor guilty not to talk of a sitting president!

You don't need to wait for Hamas to tell you that Israel funded them. Google it. Your beloved Netanyahu was well aware and supported it

Israel should go after the Hamas they funded. They shouldn't be k*lling innocent civilians anyhow in the name of revenge.

There are many peaceful Muslims. It is more than about religion. What's going on between Palestinians and Israelis is about land, not about religion.

INJESUSNAME:
Let the Hamas come out to tell us they are being funded by Israel or shut up.
Why always blaming Israel and US for the problems rooted in religion?
Why couldn't these people take responsibility for their actions except you point at another persons? Is America so powerful that the people obey America orders other than that of their god?
You are blaming Israel for the deaths of children when Hamas fighters hide under their beds, in their schools and among the civilians? You expect Israel to let go so another Oct 7 can happen? Peace will come when the people begin to take responsibility for their actions and start to reason and understand the consequences before taking actions.

You already made your decision. Why post?

NassBoy:
So, he should die first?
Go tell your brother to do it