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habdulafeez:
turning to the social media has been documented as a veritable means for actualising an aim....in this situation, it's a quest targeted at finding my missing ribs. Allah help me with a pious Muslim bride....a perfect fit for me, surely Allah is most merciful.
I am Afeez Adedamola, age:30 years from Lagos State and resides in Lagos State. Genotype:AS/O+
I am Interested in a pious Muslim lady with age bracket:20-28 Genotype AA, and attained a tertiary education level.
A lady who is openminded, honest and kindhearted. She must be from any of the southwestern states and resides in Lagos.
About me: introvert but a sanguine, loves meeting people, writing and watching football. presently working with the Lagos State civil service.
Insha Allah....this will be a success.

Mofpearl:
Found this to be very comprehensive. Posting because it might help someone else.

100 PRE MARITAL QUESTIONS

What is your concept of marriage?
Have you been married before?
Are you married now?
What are you expectations of marriage?
What are your goals in life? (long and short term)
Identify three things that you want to accomplish in the near future.
Identify three things that you want to accomplish, long term.
Why have you chosen me/other person as a potential spouse?

What is the role of religion in your life now?
Are you a spiritual person?
What is your understanding of an Islamic marriage?
What are you expecting of your spouse, religiously?
What is your relationship between yourself and the Muslims community in your area?
Are you volunteering in any Islamic activities?

What can you offer your zawj (spouse), spiritually?
What is the role of the husband?
What is the role of the wife?
Do you want to practice polygamy?
What is your relationship with your family?
What do you expect your relationship with the family of your spouse to be?
What do you expect your spouses relationship with your family to be?
Is there anyone in your family living with you now?
Are you planning to have anyone in your family live with you in the future?

If, for any reason, my relationship with your family turns sour, what should be done?
Who are your friends? (Identify at least three.)
How did you get to know them?
Why are they your friends?
What do you like most about them?
What will your relationship with them after marriage be?

Do you have friends of the opposite sex?
What is the level of your relationship with them now?
What will be the level of your relationship with them after marriage?
What type of relationship do you want your spouse to have with your friends?
What are the things that you do in your free time?
Do you love to have guests in your home for entertainment?
What are you expecting from your spouse when your friends come to the house?
What is your opinion of speaking other languages in home that I do not understand? (with friends or family)

Do you travel?
How do you spend your vacations?
How do you think your spouse should spend vacations?
Do you read?
What do you read?
After marriage, do you think that you are one to express romantic feelings verbally?
After marriage, do you think that you want to express affection in public?
How do you express your admiration for someone that you know now?
How do you express your feelings to someone who has done a favor for you?
Do you like to write your feelings?

If you wrong someone, how do you apologize?
If someone has wronged you, how do you want (s)he to apologize to you?
How much time passes before you can forgive someone?
How do you make important and less important decisions in your life?
Do you use foul language at home? In public? With family?
Do your friends use foul language?
Does your family use foul language?

How do you express anger?
How do you expect your spouse to express anger?
What do you do when you are angry?
When do you think it is appropriate to initiate mediation in marriage?
When there is a dispute in your marriage, religious or otherwise, how should the conflict get resolved?
Define mental, verbal, emotional and physical abuse.
What would you do if you felt that you had been abused?
Who would you call for assistance if you were being abused?
Do you suffer from any chronic disease or condition?
Are you willing to take a physical exam by a physician before marriage?
What is your understanding of proper health and nutrition?
How do you support your own health and nutrition?

What is you definition of wealth?
How do you spend money?
How do you save money?
How do you think that your use of money will change after marriage?
Do you have any debts now? If so, how are you making progress to eliminate them?
Do you use credit cards?
Do you support the idea of taking loans to buy a new home?
What are you expecting from your spouse financially?
What is your financial responsibility in the marriage?
Do you support the idea of a working wife?
If so, how do you think a dual-income family should manage funds?
Do you currently use a budget to manage your finances?
Who are the people to whom you are financially responsible?
Do you support the idea of utilizing baby sitters and/or maids?
Do you want to have children? If not, how come?
To the best of your understanding, are you able to have children?
Do you want to have children in the first two years of marriage? If not, when?
Do you believe in abortion?
Do you have children now?
What is your relationship with your children now?
What is your relationship with their other parent?
What relationship do you expect your spouse to have with your children and their parent?

What is the best method(s) of raising children?
What is the best method(s) of disciplining children?
How were you raised?
How were you disciplined?
Do you believe in spanking children? Under what circumstances?
Do you believe in public school for your children?
Do you believe in Islamic school for your children?
Do you believe in home schooling for your children?
What type of relationship should your children have with non-Muslim classmates/friends?
Would you send your children to visit their extended family if they lived in another state or country?
What type of relationship do you want your children to have with all their grandparents?
If there are members of my family that are not Muslim, that are of different race or culture, what type of relationship do you want to have with them?

Adebayolove:
If you've been searching for a wife for a while, don't despair, because its in this waiting time that you're being tested with patience.

Allah SWT says in many places in the Quran that patience is one of the virtues of the people of Jannah, and we are commanded to remain patient when afflicted with misfortune and to seek help through prayer:

'And seek help in patience and As-Salaah (the prayer) and truly, it is extremely heavy and hard except for Al-Khaashi'oon [i.e. the true believers in Allaah -- those who obey Allaah with full submission, fear much from His punishment, and believe in His Promise (Paradise) and in His Warnings (Hell)]' [Surah Baqarah 2:54]

In this verse, Allah SWT acknowledges that remaining patient is a difficult thing to do, but also explains that this is the hallmark of the believer. In another verse, Allah SWT specifically says He is with the patient:

'Surely, Allaah is with those who are As‑Saabiroon (the patient)' [Surah Anfaal 6:46]

Patience has a special virtue in Islam:

'Indeed, the patient will be given their reward WITHOUT account.' [Surah Az-Zumar 39:10]

The Scholars of tafseer have explained this verse to mean that you will be given your reward in the akhirah (Jannah) without having to go through the scale that other people will.

Subhan'Allah! What a beautiful reward for the ones who are patient!

If you've been searching for a wife for a while now and it's not yet happening, then this is proof that He SWT wants good for you - as long as you understand that patience means having full acceptance of Allah's decree, making a lot of dua and not despairing of His Mercy or complaining about your situation.

It's perfectly normal to feel upset, depressed or become anxious when you can't find a suitable spouse - but there's great wisdom behind you struggling to find the one.

The real test of your patience is you placing your trust in Allah that HE will do what is best for YOU, as long as YOU keep striving towards your end goal of marriage - and this means you continue to talk to sisters and not become restless or impatient because it's not happening.

Remember, if it's not happening for you, don't lose hope - rather increase in your istighfar and duas and remain content in knowing that Allah SWT is with you and you WILL by His permission, find a suitable spouse - ameen!



Jazak'Allah Khairan

Pure Matrimony

Adebayolove:
Well, that's why I mentioned the good ones. You can research on them.

Adebayolove:
Why not try genuine and good Muslim matrimony site. Purematrimony or HalfourDeen.

Hydris:
May Allah provide you with a good muslimah that wud help to strengthen your deen

Hydris:
May Allah provide you with a good muslimah that wud help to strengthen your deen

habdulafeez:
,....gathered so many views already, you could just be the missing ribs. nairàland could just be the platform for linking up , Whatsapp contact is rightly stated as my signature. #Allahworkwonders

Coccoh:
You didnt include ur preferred genotype

piroux:
Hi, i'v been in a state for the past couple of months and i am wondering if others have ever been through it.

I was a 20 year old in my final year and there was this wonderful guy who was crazy about me. He was nice, sweet, caring, selfless and Godly but.... at the time, i thought i was too young and wasnt ready for a serious relationship and he was.
He was a few years older, also in his final year and was very serious about me. I didnt want to be married too young to my first boyfriend so i lied to him about having another boyfriend which i didnt have. He was hurt but he let things be, i later confessed to him when we graduated but he didnt trust me anymore and i let things be. Years have passed and i have met cuter, richer, more intelligent guys but no one has cared about me as selflessly as he did. Now, i find myself thinking what if?
Who knows, i might not be happier or as fulfilled but a part of me wishes i had given him a chance, you know? So share your own stories....

faithchubby93:
Op ask yourself why is it difficult For the good girls to get a good guy!?

Blackfire:
Munafiki

kepstone:
Well... I have followed may reply on this post and my conclusion is. Good or bad guy is not d issue here. The issue is the last u are involved with. Many ladies are regretting marry the so called bad guys who in marriage have impregnated their house maid, secretary, ladies outside. Etc. Listen every responsible !an is a good guy. U can not expect a responsible man not to be honest and tell the truth. A lady who prefers lies is digging her grave or let me say she is not even matured for marriage. Forget sweet words marriage is beyond that. If you are looking for a long term relationship and commitment u need to be with someone who u can be able to give account of his character and access his base on who he is or she is, u don't want to end up with some who wows in with word and cause u tears in a lifetime journey. I think may people here are not really matured for marriage or relationship. Any lady that treats a good guy anyhow is not matured for marriage and does not deserve d guy. I am nice I am cool and no one can change DT about me, been me is for me if u don't like it waka. The day my girlfriend will mess up becos if my niceness that day I will show her d road. I always out her in check not by shouting but by firmly letting her know my mind. Every relationship has elements of boredom so it's a phase, just like we have mood swings so it's with relationship, u can not expect me to be wow wow wow all the time. There are real issues of life that requires commitment requires thoughtfulness and thoughtfulness. So pls good guyz remaining good and responsible is a plus to u. The girl that will honour and respect u for been nice will come. The Devil is d fada of lies if a lady prefers lies den it means she is not a wife material. Marriage is heavy it sweet, it's beyond the mystery stuff and blabla. Let's think we'll and treat our partners nice this applies to both gender. I will not even settle for a voracious woman, wahala go dey.

habdulafeez:
oh Allah! bring her to see this post for her to know how much I await her.... #mymissingribslocateme_o

Blackfire:
Asamu alaiykum kaffri

Blackfire:
Op blow yourself up.... 72 wide eyes virgins are waiting for u.


Asalam alaiykum

bukason212:
introverts u mean? Because there are good extrovert guys . And this is not applicable to them.

WORDWORLD:
"Women impure are for men impure, and
men impure for women impure, and
women of purity are for men of purity,
and men of purity are for women of
purity: these are not affected by what
people say: for them there is forgiveness,
and a provision honorable". Suratul Nur verse 26.

What it means is that if you REALLY want a good woman, then you have to be GOOD yourself. All those self deceiving boys who after being FVCK BOYS become VIRGIN HUNTERS when the want to settle down are the funniest of Clowns. Am not refering to you. Its a general over view, the Irresponsible male mentality. I WISH YOU SUUCCESS IN YOUR SEARCH.

Despacito:
Np: Micheal Jackson - speechless

ikeepitreal:
That was so very funny,man.

CROWNWEALTH019:
allah they save them for una for Paradise ... You wan blow fresh ones here kan still blow fresh ones in hell?

faithchubby93:
Op ask yourself why is it difficult For the good girls to get a good guy!?