pansophist:
The problem with good guys is that they appeal to ladies logic, instead of her animalistic instinct. They shower gift, they have no personality, easily controlled and can't stand on their ground.

Worshipping and treating her nice will only earn you the "mr nice guy" title (and proberly consider you a mugu). The kind she needs advice from, the kind she calls her brother and the kind that are faithful members in her friendzone tribe.

Men will still continue to date and marry super attractive women regardless whether she is nice or not, simply because as men, we are naturally drawn to beautiful women and only such activates our attraction. A woman that has nothing going for her except being super nice will finish last. Same rule goes for women as well. If being nice is the only thing going for a man, then expect shitty treatment.

Humans are not attracted to niceness, and if being nice is all you have, then expect to be at the bottom of the romantic pool. Attraction are combination of charm, mysterious, unpredictability, in control, masculinity, etc.

tosyne2much:
I believe you saw the word "sometimes"

habdulafeez:
Just pondering though...

Good guys aren't overly flirtatious. They are usually found deeply engaged in activities of passion, they are hardworking and goal oriented... its totally difficult for them not achieving a set goal or target. But one thing baffles me.... Finding a good companion is really very challenging! Why is this a common trend?

.... the real issue here is that where are the good girls that could easily be lucky enough to get such men. they are obviously enchanted with the societal trends of forming slay queens baselessly when Mr. Right is somewhere lurking around hoping to see them in their natural self.

There are humble girls though....but they put on a shield (slayer shield) that won't allow them accept the offers and advances of the good guys.
#Godhelpthegoodguys

Cleopatra4:

Gbam...
U just nailed it..
D good girl is out there wondering if she will ever find that good guy too..

alexialin:





Am telling u . u are so right .

Have had an ill luck of been saddled with bad guys and betrayers , every time

And I ask myself , it seems am destined to be single for life.

The more I give benefit of doubt towards a guy when he strolls along with his sweet words , the more he hits me were it hurts ..

I just give up on dating . have had enough .

alexialin:





Am telling u . u are so right .

Have had an ill luck of been saddled with bad guys and betrayers , every time

And I ask myself , it seems am destined to be single for life.

The more I give benefit of doubt towards a guy when he strolls along with his sweet words , the more he hits me were it hurts ..

I just give up on dating . have had enough .

Maj196:
Its nice being a good guy but not overboard. Just cuz u love a girl doesn't mean u should always do er bidding, she'll get bored in no time and disrespect you. Why? Cuz dey tink being too good equals weak. To get a good girl be a good guy in ur heart and a bad boy to her. Be mysterious, be in charge, don't always do er bidding, be a man. And she's ur forever.

Mosseuirdoctore:


Who is actually'good'??
If I don't cheat on my girlfriend??
What if I don't cheat but physically and psychologically abuse her..? Am I still a good guy..?
What if I don't cheat but drink and smoke chronically...?? Doesn't have a plan nor vision..??
Who really is a good guy..??

Cleopatra4:

Really swt it has happen to me countless times.
One good to thing Is I have learnt my lesson.
I just let go of d relationship thing and play d same game too.
Like this Time around I use my head not heart again..

alexialin:






Have beginning to start using my head .

A guy was wooing me today , he has been on my tail for like one week, I said guy! Right now? Am not in the right state of mine to date u . I like u as a person, but what u are seeking for ? My mind and heart is not ready to accept it .
If u push too much. I wil say yes but for me ? U mean virtually nothing to me and the relationship means nothing , cos my heart is not ready to start loving .
The best deal I can give to u , is to be my friend . If I see how sincere u are with friendship , then possibly my heart will succumb and start loving u, but for now? I can't deal with dating again.
So , Is that what u want? I asked him with an angry look!

He sighed and said ok he wil be my friend and won't pressure anymore and its not like he wants sexxx and all but he's ready to be patient . And to be friends ,its better than , me shutting him off !
I said ok , thank you!

Mehn, relationship arrggh! Can't deal.

alexialin:






Have beginning to start using my head .

A guy was wooing me today , he has been on my tail for like one week, I said guy! Right now? Am not in the right state of mine to date u . I like u as a person, but what u are seeking for ? My mind and heart is not ready to accept it .
If u push too much. I wil say yes but for me ? U mean virtually nothing to me and the relationship means nothing , cos my heart is not ready to start loving .
The best deal I can give to u , is to be my friend . If I see how sincere u are with friendship , then possibly my heart will succumb and start loving u, but for now? I can't deal with dating again.
So , Is that what u want? I asked him with an angry look!

He sighed and said ok he wil be my friend and won't pressure anymore and its not like he wants sexxx and all but he's ready to be patient . And to be friends ,its better than , me shutting him off !
I said ok , thank you!

Mehn, relationship arrggh! Can't deal.

Cleopatra4:

Nice one bae
My heart Don turn stone..

1234IKECHhukwu:
Cleo m damn surprised u sounding this way,when u have not settle down into matrimony,what is the hope of the man that 'll finally tie the knot with u

Henrychris:
God bless the op for this topic,honestly am a victim.Am the best guy any lady can dream to have,but have not been lucky to have a good lady.
You need to be close to know how good and devoted I can be to a lady.

Cleopatra4:

Not my fault..
I tried my best..
My mumu don do
Until I find a reason to believe..
Lemme keep on exploring like a Friend would say.

sirfee:
It is a pleasure,happy new month.

addictiv:

Most are naive....btw u look like a good girl

habdulafeez:
Just pondering though...

Good guys aren't overly flirtatious. They are usually found deeply engaged in activities of passion, they are hardworking and goal oriented... its totally difficult for them not achieving a set goal or target. But one thing baffles me.... Finding a good companion is really very challenging! Why is this a common trend?

.... the real issue here is that where are the good girls that could easily be lucky enough to get such men. they are obviously enchanted with the societal trends of forming slay queens baselessly when Mr. Right is somewhere lurking around hoping to see them in their natural self.

There are humble girls though....but they put on a shield (slayer shield) that won't allow them accept the offers and advances of the good guys.
#Godhelpthegoodguys

bukason212:

introverts u mean? Because there are good extrovert guys . And this is not applicable to them.

BrightEye:


pls what do you mean by " like you're in the 18's" , in your post? I love what you wrote, so true!

kepstone:
Well... I have followed may reply on this post and my conclusion is. Good or bad guy is not d issue here. The issue is the last u are involved with. Many ladies are regretting marry the so called bad guys who in marriage have impregnated their house maid, secretary, ladies outside. Etc. Listen every responsible !an is a good guy. U can not expect a responsible man not to be honest and tell the truth. A lady who prefers lies is digging her grave or let me say she is not even matured for marriage. Forget sweet words marriage is beyond that. If you are looking for a long term relationship and commitment u need to be with someone who u can be able to give account of his character and access his base on who he is or she is, u don't want to end up with some who wows in with word and cause u tears in a lifetime journey. I think may people here are not really matured for marriage or relationship. Any lady that treats a good guy anyhow is not matured for marriage and does not deserve d guy. I am nice I am cool and no one can change DT about me, been me is for me if u don't like it waka. The day my girlfriend will mess up becos if my niceness that day I will show her d road. I always out her in check not by shouting but by firmly letting her know my mind. Every relationship has elements of boredom so it's a phase, just like we have mood swings so it's with relationship, u can not expect me to be wow wow wow all the time. There are real issues of life that requires commitment requires thoughtfulness and thoughtfulness. So pls good guyz remaining good and responsible is a plus to u. The girl that will honour and respect u for been nice will come. The Devil is d fada of lies if a lady prefers lies den it means she is not a wife material. Marriage is heavy it sweet, it's beyond the mystery stuff and blabla. Let's think we'll and treat our partners nice this applies to both gender. I will not even settle for a voracious woman, wahala go dey.

faithchubby93:
Op ask yourself why is it difficult For the good girls to get a good guy!?