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Waiting for season 3 that both of you are perfectly fine.

UDUJ:
Congrats bro. I am so happy for you. Please use proper protection from now on. Chop knuckle for your result

I will advice him to be using two two condoms now. Lol

Congrat though. Waiting for champagne oo

Godhead4:
Chai! See how I missed FTC.
I came before you, I came by 2:46pm

Sorry we saw him before you. Lol

Opentokwowledge:
You can say that again and again Darl, the system is not encouraging at all!

Seriously, one just have to try to survive with little sometimes and with that little as a lady it might be difficult to have your own apartment and all those things prechbills1 is saying.

Chikita66:
I don't believe the wayward girls are the ones getting married the most.

Yes it could be, but base on where you are but where I am that's how it seems to me. I could be wrong though but that's how I see it.

Opentokwowledge:
In this Nigeria?

Am telling you. Is not as easy as it sounds. The fact that it turns out well for others doesn't mean that others are not finding it difficult.

Sometimes you give it your all but it's not just working

prechbills1:
why must they be living in their parents house?

at 25 any lady still living with her parents is a disgrace.

at 25 a lady would probably be a graduate. she should be able to hire a house if she can't build one, she should be financially stable and less dependent on her parents.


I'll create a thread on that later


opentokwowledge, lefulefu, greiboy what do you guys think

By parent's house I mean not married that's under their parent's protection.

The moment you're married you're under your husband not parent anymore.

So it does not necessarily mean they start under the same roof.

Opentokwowledge:
True that. Tributaries make Ocean.

Personal question, how do you describe yourself?

Someone who is not perfect but try to do the right thing as much as I could, someone who love simplicity because life itself is complicated but is left for us to make it less complicated. So am someone who try to live less complicated life.

Opentokwowledge:
You may be right but that would be if waywardness is the prime reason marriages break these days tho.

Not necessarily the prime reason. But you know some of the attributes of a wayward girl which am sure contribute a lot

Opentokwowledge:
Well, I think there is a big difference between boring and good. Some ladies are plain boring under the pretext of being good. It is very essential to know how to balance morality and "sharpness" in this our fast paced world. Wisdom is the key word!

Yes oo.

But do you believe that the wayward girls are the ones most getting married?

One of the reason marriages doesn't last I guess. My opinion though.

Opentokwowledge:
What gives you that impression? Nl?

Naaa, not nairaland but I've seen so many cases where the good girls are still in their parent's house and the so called 'wayward' girls are married and not just married but happily married.

That's why so many good girls are turning bad because they feel that good girl doesn't pay.

Two of my very close friends are perfect example.

Opentokwowledge:
It is only natural that people feel some sort of intimidation towards someone of perceived higher status. In fact, Nobody Man or Woman functions well when there is arrogance in the air. The important thing is YOU! Does your attitude portray levelheadedness? For no reason should one falter at attaining the height of education feasible. For Marriage/Getting the right life partner, your good behavior will pave way for you.

Yea, you're right but these days am beginning to think that the guys even prefer the arrogant and bad behaved girls. Lol

prechbills1:
Some kids said I'm a gold digger and a weak man..
even so called feminist "Amarabae"

Lol. No you are not, you're simply a guy who value a hard working lady, a lady who did not just sit down and wait for a man to make money for her like other girls do.
She is obviously going to be a supportive wife and am sure that's what men like.

Such a woman deserve a guy like you who will appreciate her and love her wholeheartedly.

So if you're so sure of her, just go a head.

Your happiness comes first forget about people.

Like I said in your thread, just try as much as you can to make your mum understand.

CAPSLOCKED:

I THOUGHT THEY SAID "AGE IS JUST A NUMBER", AND LOVE DOESN'T CARE?

TWO PEOPLE ARE HAPPY WITH EACH OTHER DESPITE THE AGE GAP AND YOU'RE BITTER ABOUT IT.


HE HAS A JOB AND HIS OWN MONEY. SHE'S RICHER AND OWNS AN APARTMENT. HOW IS IT YOUR BUSINESS IF THEY PREFER TO LIVE TOGETHER INSTEAD OF SEPARATELY? DOES IT MAKE SENSE THAT HE GETS A PLACE SO SHE CAN ABANDON HERS AND MOVE IN WITH HIM?

HOW IS IT NOT OKAY FOR MEN TO LIVE IN WOMEN'S HOUSE, BUT PERFECT FOR WOMEN TO LIVE IN MEN'S HOUSE?


GET YOUR HEADS STRAIGHT, FEMINISTS.

I read that thread. To me, it just shows that the guy knows what he want and is not intimidated by the girl's success.

As far as they both love each other and have clean conscience, I don't see anything wrong with that.

planetx13:
I asked this in a previous thread and I will still ask again... is men the only thing women have to talk about now. It's getting rather scary .... all they talk about is centred around men, be it love, relationships and what have you. Will their vocal cords rust if they talk about business ideas , politics and other progressive things??.... men are this , men are that ..... but still you won't let them be.

Secondly I think it will be better to try and work on yourself to be a better person not just expecting someone to accept s.hit just because you want someone to accept you for who you are .( would you advice your fellow lady to remain with a woman beater because she has to accept him for who he is ?? .. I think not). ..

Marriage is about compromise and sacrifice. To be happily married you just have to let something go and understand that things must not always go your way. As I always say, if you want anything good in life , you have to work for it .... if you want a good husband, you must prove that you are worth it, if not your waiting might be longer than 3rd mainland bridge.

Ciao

Sometimes you don't blame them for that, the pressure from society makes them think like that.

Let's be realistic, how many times have you seen the parents or society insulting a girl for not getting a job?
But do you know the stigma that comes with not being married at a certain age?

Imagine people telling you that with all your education and money, if you're not married you're nobody and some men even get intimidated by a woman's success.

When I told my hairdressers that I just went back for my master's program, she shouted and was asking which man will like to marry me, that they get intimidated oo. I was shocked at her level of reasoning. So just imagine how many people reason that way.

Hmmm, this remind me of the movie titled ' addicted'

She is obviously a sex addict and in need of a therapist

Wow! I served in kebbi too in a village called gulumbe under brinin kebbi LGA. The people there are nice I must say, we still communicate a times

The heat there was something else but all in all, it was a nice experience.

Lovely orientation camp too.

Xcelinteriors:
My brother was 15years and he died yesterday though he has been sick for a while and we ask my mum to bring him to lagos so that me and my senior brother can take adequate care of him. My senior brother took him for a test where he was told it is kidney problem and needed urgent attention but was giving Tuesday to come for treatment(navy hospital at satellite town). Just yesterday, in the morning, he said he can't breath again and there was serious traffic on the road, so my senior brother suggested we use bike which I didn't agree to but he gave up on the road. We love this boy so much, I can't control myself please just tell me something to calm myself because the thought alone is killing me. My parent are still in shock, but why will God allow my brother to die, anyway I can't question God

Trust me I know exactly how it feels because I lost my immediate elder sis recently.

We were so close, that I had so many sleepless nights crying and thinking about her.

Before her demise, she was seriously sick, she was so in pain that seeing her in that state was heartbreaking.

If I say I have anything to say to make you feel better I lie but trust me your brother is relieved of pains you wouldn't want to see him go through.

ubunja:
you know what? maybe you have a point. it was her personality type coz since since i never met a girl who was cool about such things like her. but even though virginity maybe wasnt a big factor it did have an impact to a small extent. point is, she never denied i could cheat but she never counted on me to leave her for another. and i never, coz our relationship crumbled when her family meddled. to this day she doesnt touch my phone but i always go through hers when we meet..
you are right. it was her personality type. nice one Hapi.

I like her level of maturity. Most a times, girls that check their partner's phones, such relationship is mostly full of dramas. Demanding explanations everyday.

Moments you would have used to say sweet things to each other or talk about things that will help build your relationship, you will use it to answer interrogations which can lead to fights.

And maybe what the partner saw isn't a big deal but they will end up making a big deal out of it. Personally I don't think is necessary.

ubunja:
virgins never have any issue with you checking their phones. i remember an ex who never touched my phone but hers was like a second phone to me. we once had matching phones and one morning she took mine to work by mistake. she told me although no suspicious calls happened it was the worst day of her life coz suspense killed her. meanwhile on hers the only person who called was her boss. after that incident her trust in me multiplied 100 times. but had she opened my 2go app she would have died. that was my pvssy supply.

Lol. Are you is because she is a virgin?

I think is her personality and the level of trust she had or was trying to develop on you.

InfernoNig:
Bros what are you saying na. Going through your lovers phone is like suicide mission. Mostly on the part of Girls. I remember how I take check my ex babe bbm, that night i did compulsory vigil, sleep nor gree catch me, i just dey look ceiling for darkness.

Lol. Can't stop laughing.

I personally think is not necessary, what you're looking for, you will surely see.

For your piece of mind and sanity just don't

prechbills1:
I've my own money.

sorry our love is genuine

If you're sure the love is genuine and she makes you happy, just go a head and marry her.

Am sure your mother wants your happiness, just let her know that the girl is your happiness. Finding someone that makes one happy is not easy these days so stick with your happiness first.

I pray it works out well for you

Failing us and still rubbing it on our faces.

Unapologetic failure of a President.

Wow! They look like mothers. Are they chibike girls or chiboke mothers?

The first girl looks great though and she knows it, the style of her picture says it all.

Let's just pray that the politicians are not playing politics with the precious lives of those girls.

biggy26:
You spoke well my sista. One plate of Nkwobi on me.

Thanks, am coming to eat and wash it down with chilled drink right? Lol

This is how they will keep deceiving the president that everyone likes him except the corrupt ones when it's obvious that most people don't like him because he is incompetent.

It's better to protest in London because if it's in Nigeria, they will end up shooting half of the protester sporadically by the so called security men.

So the fact that we didn't protest in Nigeria doesn't mean we are happy but we are sacred of being killed.

Sometimes I wonder if the right to peaceful protest has been wiped out of our constitution.

UDUJ:
SirToby please don’t bring religion into this. God is not punishing you for any activity you feel you did

You suffer from Anxiety. Anxiety is a mental health disorder and affects over 60% of Nigerians but because of the way our society is designed we decide not to treat it cause of the supposed stigma attached to such. When people think of anxiety, they think of worrying and stress. They think of fears and a feeling as though something is going to go wrong. Anxiety is seen in thoughts and actions.

But anxiety has a tremendous physical component, and one of the key contributors to those physical sensations is long term stress. This Stress has a tremendous impact on your health, and one of the most common conditions is feeling ill.


The stress from anxiety can cause feelings of very genuine sickness. These feelings often mimic the way illnesses make you feel. Your stomach can feel like it's rumbling and you may even feel like you are having fever or malaria. Feeling sick may be a sign that you've fallen ill, but it can also be a clear sign of anxiety.

When we are stressed and the stress is a prolonged one (e.g. grief), it is physically very hard on the body to maintain this stress response for a prolonged period, so we have to find ways to take our body out of this stress response. Some of these ways are spending time with friends, counselling, medication, mindfulness, making sure we eat and sleep enough, massage, hypnosis etc. There are lots of different things that can help.

Anxiety can weaken your immune system, increasing the risk of suffering from mild illness.

Feeling ill is something that often causes concern. Some people feel so sick that they vomit or experience profound nausea that keeps them away from their activities. Some people experience more than just nausea as well. They may experience other symptoms that are similar to catching a fever, malaria or flu. They may feel like their organss are swollen, or their tongue is dry. They may feel lightheaded. They may even cough or experience severe stomach discomfort, like indigestion.

When anxiety is causing these symptoms, they're not dangerous. Anxiety is simply your body's misfiring of the body's natural fight or flight response, and the way your body reacts is designed to make sure that you know you're supposed to be fearful.
The problem isn't the signals themselves, the problem is that you're experiencing them all the time, often when it is inconvenient. People feel these symptoms for different reasons:

Situational anxiety is actually natural. It's inconvenient, but it's natural. Back in school, if you felt severe illness before a big test, it's because you genuinely feared that test. While tests shouldn't provide that fear, the reaction is not unexpected.

But on the other hand, the one you should fear and what I think you have is Feelings of chronic illness from anxiety which is even more problematic, because when your anxiety won't go away, the feeling of being ill won't go away either. It becomes something that makes you feel worse about your health, saps your energy, and can ruin each and every day (all symptoms you are feeling now).

My recommendation: go to the clinic and see a trained therapist. He will prescribe some good anti-depressants. You will be okay.

As always you never disappoint. Always like your comments. You look young but speaks with great maturity lol. Thumbs up abeg. #myfavouritenairalander#

Peter Azi. Plateau state

CarlosTheJackal:
Let's sit down and wait for the best day of our lives. #Lol

Lol. Yea

May we see that day in good health. Amen

CarlosTheJackal:
yes

It seems difficult finding November 7th here, guess we are not much. Nice to meet you birthday mate.

CarlosTheJackal:
Good.

Are you November 7 too?

Interpretation:

Most of PDP members that have left PDP to APC to settle in this current administration claiming saints if investigated will be found guilty of election rigging for the past administration they left which is PDP.

Let me add my own: those same people will still rig election in their promised land which is this current administration, because rigging is in their blood.

Like MTN they are everywhere you go.