₦airaland Forum

Jeon:
a woman was called to work as a banker the husband refused,same woman got a call from a secondary school. no way because of her husband and guess what he's jobless. just be moving around with bike doing nothing.

Right! Some men are just moving mad.

Not having a job, or having a low paid job. Not allowing the wife to get a better job than then because it will hurt their fragile ego. Whilst they are sat at home in front of the tv collecting dust.

Bouz:
, Are you angry over an observation. Look at how you opened your laps and butt cheeks like a prostitute, Please cover up.

I'm not angry.

Maybe you should learn to control yourself more?

Jeon:
and some are career killer's but will later turn around and tag laziness to the woman name.

Facts!

Truvel:
Lol, Like I Said B4 Housework Are Womens' Duty. Sweeping, Cooking, Fetching Of Water Etc. It's Only Lazy Women Dat Fears Such Duties. When U Keep Doing Dis Things, They Become Part Of U. U Will No Longer Be Weary Of Dem. D Men Too Av Their Part To Play. Dat A Woman Has A Better Job Dan D Man Doesn't Mean She Shouldn't Do Her Housework. She Should. D Man Can Only Assist Her In D Housework.

At this point you're just confusing yourself.

If you keep doing the housework, you too will become competent.

I didn't say women shouldn't do housework.

Bouz:
Why are you looking like a sex tool on your dp

I don't know what you mean by that. I can't help that God made me beautiful.

You are you mad because of the way someone else looks? It can only be envy.

shomutuski:
Okay. Let's say a man ticks all the right boxes, he's rich, provides for you money and sustainence, houses you etc.


What can you bring to the table? Isn't it all she's complaining of. So i give you money and take care of you na me go still cook my food? For why.

Okay, let's say there's a maid to help you with that what else can you bring to a homestead? You definetely can't spend on me? I earn more than you can imagine, you can't house me. I get my own crib.

Apart from sex what can a woman offer a man and please don't even start mentioning abstract like peace of mind cus we know it's cap.

I will be waiting for your replies

If a man provided everything, i would have no issue, but 99.9%of the time, they can't.

Women also carry children and common sense.

In the same vein, your saying all that men can provide is money?

Connected1:
Personally I don't care if my wife works or not but the day I hear this foolish statement of yours from her mouth, or she supports someone like you.
Then there's problem whether I provide or not, whether I have a job or not, whether I am rich or poor, I am not your equal.
You need to respect men alot and don't generalize because lazy men are in your family or environment and you see them everyday.
You are so stupid, abeg no add to my anger this morning.

Why do I need to, as you say, 'respect men a lot'? I'll respect people who are worthy of respect, men and women.

man and woman are created equally in the image of God and together have dominion over the earth (Gen 1:26–27).
Now what?

I'm so stupid? Please explain why, so I can learn.

SeniorGee:
Some of us are hardworking and legally trying to make ends meet. Also some women are extremely toxic. They enter your last demand nothing works again!!!

I would agree. Sorry this has happened to you.

ednut1:
madam must you date or marry a Nigerian man Men most times also don’t care what you have or bring to the table. Find your match, and if you can’t find stay single, adopt kids or use sperm bank. Stop stressing us abeg

I didn't say I was dating a Nigerian man. I'd rather not put myself in the position where I'm likely to be dating a misogynist to be fair.

99% of the Nigerian men I meet ask 'can you cook?' before they even know anything about you. They should know how to cook for themselves too.

You're only stressed because I'm speaking facts.

Truvel:
Men Can Only Assist U Women. Yes, Men Can Only Assist U Women When D Work Is Cumbersome. I.e If He Is Around At Dat Moment Or At Home Dat Time. U Can Humbly Ask Him, Honey, Pls Help Me With Dis Or Help Me With Dat, I'm Stressed Out. He Will Help. Note: It's Not D Men's Duty, Men Can Only Assist U. Now Regarding Provision In D Home, D Woman Too Has To Support D Man With Her Own Income If D Man's Income Is Not Enough Or Won't Be Enough To Cater 4 D Needs In D Home. Why? Things Are No Longer Like B4. Things Av Changed. D Cost Of Living Is Now High. Do U Get D Logic?

So if things are no longer the same and things have changed, then why is it always the woman taking on more duties i.e going out to work, whilst the men can remain the same?

So what if the woman has a better job than the man. He will take on all the housework by your logic? I can tell you for a fact that doesn't happen.

luminouz:
K

I'll take your inability to form a sentence as a no...

luminouz:
God bless you sister happycreative and once again, do have a nice day

Good bless you also.

You have a nice day also. I'll be working hard, I hope you will too.

luminouz:
Second paragraph again... I guess you still don't get it. Did you even read my post at all?

First paragraph...wrong again. I'm wasting my time with you.


Good morning and have a nice day ma.

Did you even attend school? Maybe this is why you're struggling. Look up paragraph in the dictionary and get back to me.

Even with my explanation you still don't get it.

Make it make sense.

luminouz:
I guess since she has a house and car by herself, she has done it all. She wasn't tutored in a school whose fees were paid for by her dad neither was she fed,clothed and bred by him too. She did it all on her own. I noticed many Nigerian women have this mentality after getting financially independent and I wonder why. You don't need a man to be happy so why acting as if they are oppressing you. No one is forcing you to marry if you don't want to, but saying Nigerian men don't hustle to provide is way off the mark abeg.

Who said my Dad didn't raise me? He raised me well to work hard. So did my mother, but you forgot that bit. I also had to pay my university fees myself.

I don't know why its so hard for you to accept a hard working woman. You seem to be taking it so personally.

I agree some men work hard, but a lot of men think that the world owes them something just for being a man. That they can do the bare minimum and make all kinds of crazy demands to his spouse.

2buffagain:
This is what happens when a trashy female, who has the presentation and personality that can only attract area boys, wants to talk about her "experience" with a calibre of men she has no hope of attracting.

Everyone and their African/ akata friends know that even the average level Naija man is all about carrying responsibility without complaining.
Talk less of high level Nigerian men.

But when all your life it is only agberos and visionless touts that can stomach the smell of your stank pussy, you start to think that your limited experience amongst the underbelly of men that you could pull, is how every other man is.

Who hurt you? I pray for speedy recovery for your broken heart. It's obvious that this woman is still on your mind. Heal my friend.

luminouz:
Second paragraph...If you read my quote well, you'd see i was talking about marriage, but I guess the whole point flew over your head.

First paragraph...it's simple really. Marry a man who is happy to do as you like.

Your second paragraph was the one about the chores, so I guess it flew over both or heads...

If the quote about the woman was your wife, why wouldn't you refer to her as your wife and not a random woman. Put some respect on her name.

luminouz:
What's it about chores and these modern women?

I keep hearing house chores as a burden and I wonder what exactly is in house chores that they must share again? Anytime men complain of financial burden, women counter with house chores. I keep wondering how the two is related.

A woman once told me she can't gimme pounded yam because apparently she can't go to work and stress herself pounding yam for one man. I told her, but you do it for your father at home without complaints with a mortar and you even wash all his clothes without washing machine. I told her, I will buy washing machine and also limit pounding to twice a month but you said no way. She said, that is my father na...my husband is different. I can't stress myself. I said,lemme get you a housemaid then. She said no. I must pound my yam myself and still help her wash plates. Cook for me nko? She said anytime she feels like.
My reply was simple... Please marry your dad.

One lady told me she hated how her husband watches TV anytime she is the kitchen. I told her, it's simple really...JUST BREAK THE DAMN TV AND HE WILL START COOKING FOR YOU TOO.

Why would the man complain about financial burden if you expect the woman to do all the chores? you can't complain when a woman expects you to provide since you don't like 'modern women'.

'a woman'? So not your wife? Why would she do that for be she doesn't have a commitment to?

XXXXTENTACION:
what use


Apart from sex can you name other ways a Nigerian girl is useful to a man.

They are intelligent, have jobs, are funny, have common sense, they are able to carry babies.

Explain to me how men are useful.

Truvel:
Men Are Not Good Or Gifted In Those Areas. Women Generally Av Dat Inborn Strenght Or Power To Do Those Things. E.g A Woman Can Be Cooking, Breastfeeding D Baby, Carrying D Baby & Be Sweeping D Room At Dsame Time. U Can Now See What I'm Talking Abt? Dey Could Be Doing 3, 4 To 5 Things At A Time.

That is a load of nonsense! While I agree, men can't breastfeed babies, men can do all other tasks you have mentioned above. Women aren't born with these cleaning talents, they have been taught.

lilvicky68:
Nigerian women are even more toxic always demanding from clothes to hair to shoe to soap to cream till infinity..since you brought your own table you can fill it up and stop expecting men to do so...

I don't expect another man to. I've never asked a man for any of these things. I've bought my house and car myself too.

Uncle93:
Well its not the same situation in every home. Some women are proud of thier husbands efforts. Everything in life is 50/50. Just like how some women are working class( complete package ) while others are not

True, I fully agree. It does depend on each family dynamic

lilvicky68:
After bringing the table what more should we bring before you ladies appreciate us..

What does that even mean? I've brought my own table and chair. Now what?

Truvel:
Yes, But Not All D Time.

What if the man and woman both work the same amount of hours?why will they not both do the same amount of chores?

Uncle93:
Well you have a good point there. But it only relates to few people like you! 90% of Nigerian women offers nothing but their body, cooking and children and expect to marry a made man who provides everything in this world for them

What else do you expect women to provide?

A lot of men say that a woman should also work, but the men never offer to do any of the housework or look after the children. I don't think that is fair, just saying.

Truvel:
D Man Has To Get A Job & D Woman Has To Get A Job Too.

So the man will also help with the chores in that case?

ABANGWABOI:
#ILMOVON
#Attitude
#Bliv



We don't have to bring anything to the table.. we are the damn table..

How so? This is just a generic quote you've found on the Internet and thought it sounded good, with no facts behind your statement.

Uncle93:
In Nig. The man must be the one to get a car for the family, pay house rent, school fees and other responsibilities .. Y'all just sit back and get lucky and youre here spitting trash. Maybe men in ur city are as useless as the women in it.

That's just something that men have placed pressure on themselves.

I bought my house - myself
I bought my car - myself
I have a job

I wouldn't ask a man to buy these for me all himself is were both working.

odinson1:
All of them

So you've met all Nigerian girls to be making such generalised statements?

Truvel:
Cooking, Cleaning, Taking Care Of D Kids Are Part Of The Duty. To Be Educated Or Av A Career Is Very Important.

So if the man has no job and isn't providing, what then?

XXXXTENTACION:
Just use and dump.
the bitches are useless.

So In saying that, you're admitting they do, in your opinion, have a use.

Truvel:
Cooking, Cleaning, Taking Care Of D Kids Are Part Of The Duty. To Be Educated Or Av A Career Is Very Important.

Yet these same men demanding these standards are unemployed and not providing...

XXXXTENTACION:
OKPETU.

Nigerian girls are useless.



lazy, broke and poor..

Yet you continue to pursue them