Connected1:

Wow
An Army General can be killed here with keyboards, what a nice forum.

But when you see 'Nigerian women are useless' all over this forum, you'll be keke'ing along with them though, abi?

goodnewscliff:

U should understand how the world works...
Men re always richer
The richest woman today got her money from the ex husband....
A man and a woman in this world can NEVER BE equal or u are dreaming!!!!
Men are natural heads for both man and animals...
The richest strongest smartest sensible and Everything is always the male.The man is always greater..... Am sorry but thats d truth...... If thats d problem,, then it cant be solved

House chores.... I dont get.... How many house work do we actually have How long does it takes to just cook clean Every bachelor does this so i don't see what big deal is here....

A woman does or achieves chew gum nd be looking for independence or drag headship... Cos dats d tendencies i see here....

Men re different tho

You're second sentence is a lie. It is not in every case that the man is richer.

So if you do it as a bachelor, why can't you do it when you're married and your wife is earning more than you?

I don't see what the big deal is. You can't admit that woman can be richer and better than some men?

EmmyMaestro:
There certain things in life that should be done in moderation rather than in excess because they can harm our bodies if done in excess. Drinking alcoholic beverages is not illegal as long as you are of legal drinking age (18 or 22 years old), but it is illegal when done in excess and out of proportion. While it is written on most alcoholic beverages, "drink responsibly," some alcoholic drinkers also may not follow this advice.

Many individuals are aware of their limits when it comes to alcohol consumption, and some even drink until they are inebriated. Drunkenness has caused a great deal of harm and has resulted in a great deal of injury. Some people have even lost their lives trying to drive while they're drunk.

This isn't new information. Do people not know this?

soulpeppersoup:



Babe your humor got no chill

I've got no chill? I think I'm pretty funny actually

Looks like a girl to me

Men have stetch marks too.

EMEKUSBOY9:


then next time add " some men" because am a very sweet and responsible man.

In between, is even biblical that men are the head of every family, if u understand this principle you won't find it hard to get a good man, and your marriage will be sweet as your heart

But if you want to go against the bible then God will run from you, and leave u to be your own boss

God point, we should take all parts of the Bible, and not just pick and choose the ones to suit ourselves. Amen.

Jessepaid:
like I said before it is pointless trying to reason logically with a woman.. for no woman no matter how educated can never think like a man...


Now you don shift topic because I said you husband is the head and you can never be equal to the head..


My wife will work...

I like educated women

Your father might have been an okada, however I am not and will never be

End of discussion

So you are saying that no woman is logical. Why would you want to marry one then?

The man is only the head of he delivers what is required of the head of a house. Why would the man be the head if he is not providing?
He can't just be the head because he is a man. That's not how it works, but a lot of men think it is. They just seem to think because they are a man, they should automatically be given respect.

Why should your wife work if you are the provider for the household?

My father isn't an okada, but thanks.

EMEKUSBOY9:


Then if you want me to admit that men aren't as necessary as they tend, then don't get married

If you dnt get married i will take what u are saying serious

That doesn't mean that men are not needed. Some men just seem to demand respect where it isn't earnt. Some men believe you should respect them just for being a man which I don't understand.

EMEKUSBOY9:


Stop been biased...... You did not accept his own reason why men are important but u want him to accept yours?

I'm not being bias at all. Why is he listing things that women don't have? The points he listed like sperm and fatherly care, women have eggs and motherly care. They cancel each other out, right?

He was saying about men providing sex. If a woman isn't there that isn't happening either.

He has not really stayed anything of value.

One of his points is that men are secret keepers? Women keep secrets too.

Just admit that men aren't as necessary as they tend to give themselves credit for.

Jessepaid:
did you just crawl out from under a rock.?


It's the norm...



To retain control over peope, most at times they need to be dependant on you for something..


It's normal and it happens everyday...


Why now making it a case Asif you just discovered fire...


Your boss at your office controls you because you are dependant on him for you means of livelihood..

As long as you have something that someone else needs, you can control them man or woman..


Once a woman starts making money, wahala go dey for house...


You won't understand sha..


It is always pointless trying to reason logically with a woman...


Madam free equality and enjoy your marriage..

Your husband has already been made the head of the family both biblically and socially..


You can never be equal to the head unless you become the head..

Just as you can't expect your CEO to perform operational and lower level functions in your organizations just because you want equality

He is the head and the king let him do as he Pleases...


If you no fit run am go and find a maid and then you invite insecurity and paranoia into your house too...

Feel free to go and find your uneducated wife so that she looks up to you despite being an okada.

All in saying is that your pool in which to pick an uneducated woman is becoming increasing smaller.

Why are men not ambitious? Men should also become more educated. Maybe then they won't have to settle for women they can control because the women can't make their own money.

LordKO:
You're partly right, but then, you couldn't avoid being hypocritically disingenuous, which of course, is a major hallmark of everyone with persecutory delusion. A fair-minded person in your stead would have known that your observation isn't exclusively males/Nigeria males issue but a relatively modern generic issue being perpetrated by crass/self-absorbing and or opportunistic people, regardless of gender.

Well, on the menace, which isn't exclusive to a particular gender, blame it on the conscious normalization of abnormalities by a majority of the people - wannabe liberators and libertarians. It'll get worse provided that self-absorbing and opportunistic people are allowed to always infiltrate every ideological movement initiated by people with noble cause or provided that sane but gullible people continue to embrace every nonsense ideological movement they initiated or support, and provided that there're gullible people who're genuinely victims of the shenanigans of this same self-absorbing and opportunistic people from both genders who pose as enlighteners.

Can you share with me where you feel I've been Disingenuous?

While I agree it's not just Nigerian men, they do make up the majority of people I've fealty with. I'm only talking from experience.

You seem to be using a lot of words without actually saying a lot. Your 2 paragraphs could have been 2 sentences.

Truvel:
Yes, They Learn 4rm Their Mothers But Dat Inborn Strenght Or Power To Do It Or Be Consistent Is In Dem Except They Chose To Be Lazy. Some Mothers Or Parents Spoils Their Daughters By Not Allowing Dem To Do House Cores While Some Mothers Or Parents Allows Their Daughters Do But Probably Their Daughters Refused Or Took It D Cores Granted. When They Got Married, They Started Having Difficulty In Cooking Or Doing House Cores.

I want to try and understand but it is simply not true.

In other countries, the girls and boys have to do chores equally and both do them well. It just seems to be in Nigeria, boys for some reason don't get taught this which then perpetuates your reasoning that it is somehow 'ingrained in women'

Connected1:

So you mean "you are mad"
&
"You need psychological help" are not insults?,
I am not perfect but don't correct me by verbally abusing me.

I wouldn't categorise them as insults, rather facts and suggestions.

Sorry that you feel triggered.

Jessepaid:
...

Hehehe...

You don't sound married at all...

Even if you are married


You have just said your problem...


Your are meeting men that are not financially buoyant...


And thus when they ask you to to perform these duties you mention, you get mad because you think because they are not as rich as you or more than you, they should be under you and not the other way round...


I didn't want to mention you cuz normally ZZOR and ko keep on making threads like this just for clout..


If you are married, I suspect you earn way more than your husband..


If you are not married and you want to be,

Weda obi gi...

If you continue this way you will repel men ..

I have a man thank you for asking.

I'm not asking a man to be above or below me, all I'm saying is equality if we both have to work a similar hours and earn the same amount.

I don't earn way more than my husband. I just know that men now choose women who are less educated than them and earn less, so the man can retain control. Its sad.

Educate yourself ladies

Connected1:

It's fine, don't quote me anymore.
I don't welcome insults & I am sorry if I insulted you
Do what you like & don't blame anyone.

I don't think I insulted you, but apologies if you feel this way.

You just seem to get upset if someone tells you that you are incorrect.

Men, it's OK to be wrong sometimes. Use it as a learning point and grow from it.

Connected1:


Calm your rage, I don't quarrel with women neither do I like giving out insults to them because they can't handle them.
It's only a child that didn't live with his Father that can boldy say he didn't offer any support either morally or socially.
When you let the negative features of someone outweigh the positive ones, then you can never see anything good about that person, even if you do then you can't admit it.

Why are you saying that because I've chosen to reply to you, I'm angry?

All I am saying is that you can't tell someone what they went through when you weren't there

If someone had more negative features than positive ones, why will you continue to focus on the few good things they do?

SJay7:
This thread is very unnecessary �

Why do you say that? Because you don't agree with it?

Truvel:
It's Not Men's Duty. It's D Women's Duty. It's Only Lazy Women Dat Are Scared Of Such Cores. I Av Met Av Met Hardworking Women & Lazy Women Too. Some Their Kids Will Poo, D Poo Will Be There For Days. Some Can't Even Clean Their House. D House Is Always Like Where Mad People Live. Funny Enough, Many Of Dem Are Full-house Wives. So, It's Only Lazy Women Dat Are Scared Of Such Cores. Dat's Why Many Of Dem Get Housegirls. Any Woman Who Has Undergone Proper Home Training Won't Be Scared Of Such Cores.

If that's what you're saying then it's not the woman's duty to provide, but I'm sure you'd be more than happy if your wife went to work.

Why is ok for women to work but you don't think it's OK for men to do chores.

You keep saying that women are born with this trait, which they are not. They learn it just like they learn everything else. At this point you're just confirming that men are lazy.

Connected1:

Ever heard the proverb that said a woman controls the home despite the man being the head, if you see a broken home, do proper investigation you would notice that at some point the woman made a mistake.
Some women feel too tired to cook or have sex, that's why you see married men patronize restaurants & hotels at nights, should they force her or rape her? The answer I believe is No.
Marriage isn't a fairy tale script but most women always think so, it's work.

You really need psychological help.

Why is the woman too tired? It's because the man isn't helping.

Connected1:

You actually killed yourself, your weaknesses are better left undisplayed, I refuse to insult you.
I am sorry for that, not because he didn't do it, but because you didn't understood him, fathers care for their children by their actions, unlike our mothers that spends 10k on you & always remind you of what she went through to get it so that you would feel pity for her.

Were you there?

How can you be telling this lady her own experience when you weren't even there?

The lady is saying that her father didn't give her any advice and you're telling her that she just misunderstood?

You are mad.

Connected1:

Like I said earlier, Divorce is of the Westerners not African, if you copy them, then you should also expect what they get.
There are so many failed marriages because women are now overly ambitious & they forget to take care of their husbands the supposed African way.
In respect of that, the sharp unmarried girls usually snatches these men that are lacking feminine care by either performing the wifely duties or using kanyamata. Do I explain more?

So you're saying the only reason people get divorced is because of the woman?

You're a clown.

Why don't men ever admit that they can do wrong.

Is it everyday blame women for everything? Are you not tired?

Bouz:
Am not the one that created a thread, crying over men! there are alot of bitter women on this forum and your a typical example. ladies jilted by men .

I've got my man, I'm happy.

No one seems to be crying here except the men, because they can't handle facts.

You're the one that is getting angry with how a woman looks, for no reason.

Connected1:

Your own written/pirated Bible said men should submit to women, the one others know said men should love their wives, abi that one no join?

Those 2 statements aren't mutually exclusive. I was just pointing out the bit that you missed in the actual bible.

Bouz:
Women putting me in my place, please just shut it. Now you feel you are mentally stronger? You don't sound smart. that's why you are crying over how you've been neglected by so many men. Take your frustrated life out of my mention. .

Why are you so angry? Who hurt you?

I'm not crying? Who said?I'm just making conversation. It's that not what Nairaland is for?

Connected1:

They are too many my dear, they are;
Spermatozoa (the children)
Fatherly Care ( a child deviod of this always ends up a simpleton)
Erotic Love ( No woman can be happy without this)
Protection ( you can explain this one better)
Problem Solving Skill ( women barely solve their major problems as they lack the logicality)
Sexual Satisfaction ( Forget lesbianism & dildos, they can never match up to a dick)
Secret Keeper ( tell your secrets to your female friend or even yourself & you risk being betrayed, but with your husband, the vault is permanently sealed even when you quarrel)
They are too many, you never smart reach that way.

First off all, half of the points are the same point.

Sperm? Women provide the egg so that is anull point.

Fatherly care? Women in that case provide motherly care. Children are more likely to do well from single mothers than single fathers.

Secret keeper? Really? That one is the most nonsense.

I would say that women are the most logical of this thread is anything to go by.

Connected1:

It's not a matter of having high ego, it's our culture & tradition which has always favoured our society.
In a bid to copy the Westerners, that's the reason you see so many Nigerians in relationships but not in marriages.
If you cannot submit to a man regardless of his social status, age, physique or financial stability, then it's better you don't marry a Nigerian man because divorce would be the end result.

Why are you just picking bits of the bible to suit you. It also says husbands should submit to the wife too, or are you forgetting that bit because it doesn't suit your narrative?

Bouz:
You should be advicing her to be decent not me

Sorry why do i i need to be advised? You don't know what I look like everyday.

Why don't you concentrate on yourself? Why are you concerned how I dress?is it affecting your life?

You just can't stand that women are putting you in your place and you can't handle it.

Sorry that you're not mentally stronger.

Bouz:
Abeg who involved this bi-sexual into this conversation, you don't even know your gender yet, and you are putting your mouth into what doesn't concern you

So if a woman doesn't agree with you, the only thing is to attack how they look?

Connected1:

As an African/Nigerian, I don't need an overly ambitious woman i.e N.O.I, you cannot be more wealthier than me, just do my home the African Queen way, teach my children good culture & not to chase only after money.
You are so stupid because you actually think Nigerian men bring nothing into marriage instead of the reverse
The only thing a woman can boastly talk about to me is her virginity and that's if I took it, because it's priceless.
If it's any other thing then forget I no send

Why can't a woman be wealthier than you? You're so worried because you think it's emasculating.


Apart from money or something relating to money, name me one thing a man can bring.

This is why you don't want a woman who is wealthier than you, its because it's the only thing you're bringing.