Godoverevery:

I agree..but the decision is left to the woman to stay with such man or walk away.

You can't blame such men ooo.... money naturally makes people proud

True, I guess.

Some men only want women to work if its in a lower paid job than the man

Has he specifically said he needs your help?

Panacea278:
Good day all. I have been an ardent follower of nairaland, but i had to create this account for an issue currently bothering me. I will kindly like to know if it is advisable for me and girlfriend to marry as we both have asthma. I will like to know the probability of the kids having it also.pls anyone with relevant knowledge can help me. Thanks

About 50% of people who have asthma are due to genetics and 50% it's due to environmental factors. It depends which you both were

Mrdealer4all:
I am a guy in his early 30s.
I am a final year student of state poly.
All my life I have never had a girlfriend.
The problem I am facing is my level of maturation.
Each passing day I always masturbate and this thing is frustrating my life.
My life is just useless and hopeless.
I need to stop this masturbation of a thing

Do you attempt to talk to girls at all?

tunjilee003:
22

That's paedo behaviour if that's your age mates doing this.

Why would you have sex without a condom of you didn't want to deal with the consequences?

tunjilee003:
those guys who got them pregnant are my age mates, we grew up together...

and how old are you?

I'm confused. Does no one ever buy gifts for their friends? Why are you giving a gift of you expect something in return.

Why are men buying gifts for women, just so they can have sex with them? Have you got no personality? That is shameful. If this is the only way you can operate, go find a prostitute.

Men

Prettydevil:
imagine almost committing suicide everyday and girls everywhere u go play the fineboy/fineboy game with u when all you want to do is die. sometimes you even fantasize about killing these girls and you think maybe it will bring u peace.

Please get help. There are professionals to help if you're feeling this way.

Prettydevil:
I get naked in public often just so girls will spit on me because I am a loser with a worthless life. they say commiting suicide is a sin so I send naked pictures of myself to random girls on Facebook so they can insult me. I dont know how to give myself a scar? I want a nasty scar on my face so everyone will spit on me, and hopefully someone will be irritated enough to kill me. I hate me, God made me miserable. nothing I do works, 30 years old waste of space. I pray I die, I'm broke and useless. tomorrow I'm going out naked again, will rub mud on my useless body because I'm a waste. my parents don't even love me, they dont give a fuckkkk if I died today. I will ruin my life so much till someone will take me out.

Why do you think your life is worthless? Except for the money issues?

What do you want to do in life? Have you got a passion?

360clips:
So many of them! If not all of em. You don't even have to know them, it's written all over their faces! From they way they look at everyone & the way they walk & act. They also suffer from very bad herd behaviour(follow the crowd)! Just yesterday I was riding my bicycle around my street, as I was riding it I saw a guy just smiling like a fool looking at me but I just ignored, some few minutes later I saw that same guy bringing out his bicycle. Why did he do that? The guy has probably been wanting to ride his bike for a while but as very low self-esteem and suffers from herd mentality so he decided to wait to see people riding first before then deciding to ride to! This is how most black people act! Instead of acting based on their own decision and information, they rather wait & act based on the crowds behaviour! Change your mindset black people! Stop waiting on people! Do what you wanna do with your life!

Don't you get tired from being this angry all the time? Have a day off pal.

Netcry0:
There’s a gal I’m crushing she said she like me I told her I also like her bla bla bla so recently when we started talking on the phone she started calling babe and not my name �, so I’m confuse by that name

Can't you just ask her to call you by your name?

ruffkenny:
Mere intuition.
Bravo!! So analytical

Who says i am envious? You,
Who says I am angry? You

Do I have any reason to be angry or envious over what I don't know if its cooked up? No. As a matter of fact am not jobless like you assumed,

Besides only a poor man will be envious of people and am not in that category..U are just a woman and that's all your small mind could come up with,I understand..

No one comes to a faceless forum to brag about his/her achievements ,It only indicates that something is wrong,My father always say " One who dreamt and said he saw a ghost chasing him in his dream" Who are we going to ask

Oooh I did not add most Nigerian girls can lie for Africa...

If you aren't envious, why would you say I was lying?

You say you're not jobless, so I believe you.

It's not my fault I am educated and have a good job so can afford the things I want. I wasn't bragging, i was merely stating facts.

ruffkenny:
Op Nigerian girls are cheaters,brainless weak,unimaginative and stupid all of them..They are the toxic ones and the ones who bring nothing to the table but expect everything from already made Nigerian men..u bought a house, bought a car because u had to use your body not that u are smart or intelligent like u portray..Maybe one of your sugar daddies got that for you lol..Just imagine your arrogance and rudeness in a public forum!!Gosh..

Wow, judgmental.

I actually bought everything myself from my job.

Instead of being angry and envious, why don't you try getting a job too? Maybe then you can also afford these things.

DEMZEE:


I just answered all ur questions but u are not logical cos u are a woman so i understand that u can't introspect.

Women are the gateway life source, that doesn't negate that men's SPERM is not involved too

You didn't answer my questions at all. You just reworded what you had previously said.

But you were trying to say that men's sperm is the only thing that creates a baby

Just admit that you are not as smart as you think you are, then we can all go and continue our nice day.

DEMZEE:



Women don't think, they only emot-think ie they think based on their emotions and not their brains.
God primarily created women to support man and multiply his seed that's why he gave her a vagina and a womb. Women are human procreation entities.

Why didn't God give man a vagina and a womb and why did God not give women testerones too.


Ur second point, exactly that's why we have high value alpha males and we have beta males. But it doesn't negates that women are sexual objects and men are success objects

You still haven't answered my question. Where does it say that God created women so that their primary function is to just carry children?

You also didn't answer my question, why did God give females brains if he didn't want them to be used?

You do know that you need both a man and a woman to create a child, right? It's not just the means sperm. The women's egg is also necessary. It's 50/50, or did you not learn science in school?

That's like saying why didn't God give women a penis? What is the point you're trying to make?

You're talking a lot of nonsense. Please use your brain. I'm using my brain to think, just as God intended. I suggest you do the same.

Lycanowner:

She doesn't work, but I am saving certain % of my income so that i can start up a business for her (she is educated though and can get a job but I prefer she own a business so that she can have time for the kids when they start coming). I live on the rules of gold from the book "The richest man in Babylon" so I basically save a certain % of all my earnings. "Negotiate" I think I love this, but rather than negotiating, do you think we should plan the budget together? Thanks for your time and opinion, its really helpful.

Yes definitely decide on the budget together. Maybe if you find you will be short of money after planning your budget, maybe she can have a part time job alongside the business until you start having children, so you have more savings for the kids and the business?

Anyway you seem to have thought a lot of things through. You are an admirable man.

Qrash:
I ate poison

Oh no, why did you do that? Poison isn't good for you, dear.

handsomeyitayo:
hello Nairalanders,

the reasons behind this is that many of them don't want to struggle with any man, they have forgotten that, A woman that struggle and endure till the man is successful is a woman of virtue..the man will never leave her no matter how anything because during the struggling ,she was there, and she support him with prayers..
I know of a rich man that slap his girlfriend all because she insulted his wife ..he told her that didn't her know that his wife was behind his success right from grass till grace...she suffered with him, they drink garri all day when there is no money ...no meat on food, but he remember when his wife use to force him to church to pray and he has to obey her...that if not for the wife ,he would not attained this level he is...that who is she that will come and talk rubbish against his wife.
but nowadays none of them want to suffers,
go to eateries, restaurants, shoprite, malls you will see them wondering about like herdsmen,
looking for rich guys that will do shopping for them or give them money and most of them ended up been a victim of rape, rituals, kidnapping...
you said you want to marry , yes .. your expectations is that" he has to be ok"....normal but let me ask you, when your mum was about getting married to your dad, did your father has rolce Royce, bentley, bugatti, e.tv..and they both married manage theirselves till they brought you up.. your own turn now is ..he has to have car, money, House,

I know of a lady that do say this in a church I attend, she is always fund of praying my husband must have a car, house, and money..only they prayers I see she do pray..
forgetting to say God give me a God fearing man..

and she is growing older, her face has shrink... They are many in churches...

what annoyed me is that when pastor said, if you are single come out.. you will see them running outside but same ladies I knew, they have boyfriends and I do see some of them in bars, joints with their boyfriends, you said you need a husband .. it will start from courtship abi...why did you come out again to say am still single..

as a lady if your motives of marrying a man is money, my dear you will ended up been lonely or more than loneliness.sheybi is car , houses money that you are after continue....

you call your self a Christian, go to church to pray, you can't pray for your man that God should bless him...suppiort him with prayers, you will see that he can never do without you...because he knoows that you are behind his success..

as a lady if you abuse your boyfriend or your husband to be or husband all because there is no money , you are drawing curse on your head and you can never succeed and have a happy home, becareful never abuse any man, you are not God .. renmber that God created both of you..and the bible say speak good things , prophesy with your mouth good things, why are you going to church ...since most of you are just going for fashion, seducing pastors, e.t.c...

I have many ladies I know are suffering today because they are not in proper relationship and marriage due to say I want a rich man with car...

there is another one that got accident why driving his rich man friend car, trying to impress are neighbors , she is on wheelchair till now.

who looses , the Same man friend is with another lady ... you see all because of money...

there are many skills out there they can learn..it is due to impatient...

I blame the movie industry celebrities especially the females ones their social life has influence our ladies,. In terms of marital life, attitudes, pride , fake life e.tc...

they act movies to the realities of life issues so that we can learn from them..
but they themselves still misbehaving in marriages ,they will not want to be submissive to their husbands, ...most of them are single mothers..

look at them flaunting cars, houses, Money....

they will complain that village people after them,
or evil people...
why are you complain as a lady....it is because you are after money not love..

I told guys that there is nothing like love, God is love...it only take grace of God to see a God fearing lady....

As a lady continue to be looking for rich man, when you realize that you have attained the age of 50 years ..
No rich man can stay with one woman...

it is a bad omen for ladies to be after money,..
why can't you start up a business,
all is sit-down doing shopping, materials things..

buying expensive clothes to parties, this that...

you will see some of them fighting their husbands because of that...it is stupid mentality...
let me drop my pen here....any time inspiration comes I will write..if they like they should take heed....Guys should be careful of extravaganza Ladies...if you spot one please japa....
if you don't want to spend money on hypertension sickness

Why would a woman struggle when she doesn't have to?

Women have so many choices in a man, so why would they pick the one who is Struggling.

You are sad that women aren't attracted to you because you are not successful.

Don't blame the woman, blame yourself.

Qrash:
please someone assist me

What illness do you have, sister?

DEMZEE:


Women don't think

God made the role of child bearing primarily for women. He didn't create women to think, He created them primarily to multiply Man's seed.

That isn't answering my question. Why did God create women with brains if he didn't want them to think?
Tell me where it said God primarily created women to 'multiply Man's seed'

DEMZEE:

Men are success objects

yet many of them sit around jobless, or wander the streets

firac:
Pls help

I don't airtime, sorry. Surely you will use it all eventually. Just take time to save the money and buy the other thing you needed at a later date?

1Sharon:


Lol! Im happy someone finally understood the quote!

I was reading the other replies and people were just not getting it!

May you continue with your humour

firac:
Pls help i want to recharge 1k airtime from my bank account and I mistakenly recharge 10k. Pls I help I need the money to do something
. Pls if you are interested let me know on
WhatsApp.. https:///s/6043f893f305b

Learn from your mistakes

Afolashade01:


Managed to start a little business, my kids are 2boys..still in secondary School, we give thanks to God..we've been managing with the little business I'm.doing. Thanks everyone

I'm glad. God bless you.

Connected1:

A typical Nigerian woman that earns more than you do & also settle majority of the home bills will;
Always embarrass you publicly,
Bring another man to your house in your own presence,
Take most of the major home decisions without your consent,
Turn your children against you and will,
Finally leave you at the end to become single once again.

Ask any Nigerian & they tell you one of these things, the few ones that are different are the ones I have seen in our Nigerian Movies.

When you see us Nigerian men tell you we don't want a woman who earns more than we do, you just have to let go, we know who we are, everyone including the Devil wants peace of mind.

I can't tell you what you feel. That is not my place, but in regards to your statements :

Always embarrass you publicly, How? For what reason? It is not every woman. I haven't seen this.
Bring another man to your house in your own presence,So she can't have male family or friends round?
Take most of the major home decisions without your consent,if people do this it is not a good marriage anyway.
Turn your children against you and will,in what way would she turn them against the man? Is marriage not about partnership? Could the man not do the same thing?
Finally leave you at the end to become single once againWhy would she get married in the first place if only to become single again? It wouldn't be to take the mans money would it?


shikenan

Lycanowner:

Ma, what do you mean by outgoing? I have a budget for me, but what about her? How do i fix her budget into the monthly income?

Sorry, outgoings are things you spend money on every month like bills, food, petrol etc.

If you're spending a certain amount on food, increase it by about 50%. It shouldn't need to be doubled because there will also be less waste in assuming.

Does she work too? Will you combine finances? If not am her how much money she expects from you. Negotiate if necessary.

Also save money with each paycheck in case of emergencies like car or house repairs.

1Sharon:
Good morning, why are you gay?

That video is bants

Lycanowner:
Hi everyone,
Please, will you advice i marry with a monthly income of 100k? Is anyone here married with this income scale? Is it sustaining?

Thanks for your opinion.

Have you worked out all your of outgoings? If you still have money left, then yes it is possible.

You need to put together a budget.