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jayAjoku:
type your email so I can send it for you there

jayAjoku:
I will check if I still have it

jayAjoku:
maybe check pdfdrive or use Google I think I have it I’m not sure

jayAjoku:
go and read My secret garden by Nancy Friday Ajeh you no go dey the same

dontrulee:
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Haaaaa, a whole 20k.
The day I stopped send ladies money, my life changed.
I recently met with a sexual puritan last week, she's been celebrate for 5years and she's a pastor disturbing her for marriage. When we were together, one thing led to another and sex happened. Few minutes later, the pastor called her and even sent her money not knowing that the lady he wants to marry just moaned and cummed few minutes ago. That day, my fear for women increased tremendously. Women!

Kipaji:
Wow, so you'd pump this?

joeeee240:
Ah yes. Welcome to the journey of the red pill. Dont worry, many men have walked the same path before you. And many will walk after you.

Every man passes through these 3 stages; blue pill to red pill to silent skilled seducer.

The first part of your journey starts when you take the red pill. For most people, it's a heart break. For some, it's losing out on a girl. For some, a bitter divorce. But whatever your reason, the best thing that can happen to a man is take the red pill.

The second part of your journey is the new world the red pill exposes. Like in the movie the matrix, you're exposed to the ugly truths of female nature. The lies, deceits and manipulation. How you can never be loved unconditionally by a woman except your mum. How as man, you must improve or perish.

The second part is the most painful. Filled with anger, rage, self pity, hopelessness. If you're not careful, it might break you.


The third part of your journey which you are yet to enter is finding a way to make the red pill work for you NOT against you.


Your specific situation

While it's bad to brag about the wealth, the opposite which is self pity or self deprecation is just as worse.

Try not to be condescending about your financial situation. You can say your broke without acting out of self pity. Lead with your vibe, personality and charisma. Girls love this more than anything


As for attitude from girls, there are two things that might be the cause:

1) you act rude or give her attitude and then she gives it back. Remember girls mirror the vibe you give off.

2) She was testing you. In this case, the worst thing you can do is to be reactive. You're meant to act unphased. This doesn't mean tolerate disrespect. But if she is testing you, dont get all angry and butt hurt or cut her off.

Hold your frame, pass the test and watch her attraction for you increase

Uptheante:
Is she really a virgin or she's deceiving you while getting fuccked by someone else?

tepes:
Good morning redpillers. I've been a follower of this thread from the early days. Thanks for all your inputs.

I want to share my current experience that happened to me with you all so you can observe one or two things. It will be lengthy

I had a girlfriend who was a friend during my school days. From friendship, we grew into something else over the span of 7 years. We started dating this time last year. This lady chose me not because I did anything special or have lots of money to spend on her. She barely demands a thing from me. I was at my lowest financially but she was there to encourage me. In my heart, I prayed to God to ease things for me so I can settle down with her though I know there's nothing in for a man when it comes to marriage but I'm not a fan of baby mama stuffs.

My girl is not the usual type you find around. She's a strong believer in God and she's quite the modest type. Beautiful, tolerant, understanding and to some extent thinks things from logical perspective. Above all things, she's a virgin which I've confirmed myself.

Now before she met me, I've been in several relationships where I've been sexually active even with virgins and all that. I got the looks you could easily rate me over 9. From a young age, women has never been my problem. They flock around me even the married ones but I'm not the type of guy to go after everything in skirt. We are in crazy times and the statistics of HIV in this country is quite crazy. One has to be wise.

My girl lives in another state and works in a bank so there's practically no time for her to come over. At one point she was with me and things happened she had to relocate back home. I opened a business with the intention of her managing it while I focus on my fx journey with the possibility of travelling out if she could handle things without me.

Recently she said she would relocate back next year but she won't be staying with me because she's not too comfortable with it. I felt a lil bit embarrassed by that statement cux for me I'm trying to fix things so she won't have to over stress herself because she's not the physical strong type. Well whatever works so far she's comfortable in her crib then there's no big deal.

It's been a year we saw eachother. My business wouldn't permit me to move an inch cux of terrible staffs and her banking job won't let her due to lots of restrictions. Our sexual life is zero. The last time we tried to even have sex, it took alot of talking . I'm not the guy used to such cux my belief is if a woman is into/chose you, she won't stress you. The sex didn't happen so I left her virginity intact cux I'm not the one to pressure.

So she made a statement yesterday while we were chatting about how she likes hugging others but she finds it weird and hard doing it around me. So I asked her why it so then she was like she has these bad stuffs in her head and she's a child of God. She pulled the religious card on me and trust me I'm not a fan of over religious people. It's a huge turn off for me. There should be a balance. I told her since she's a child of God, I am of the devil. Light and darkness cannot meet so why even bother been with me?. How long I'll stay in this sexual hibernation?. I told her blank that on the long run this won't work cux I'll go outside to satisfy my sexual side which is basically cheating.

Now if she was not selfish and tried to put herself first, she would have asked what we could do to remedy the situation since relationships is all about understanding. She didn't even make any efforts or such. She just said its okay, she won't get in the way of my happiness so our relationship became over. I didn't initiate that conversation to end the relationship, but from her reaction, it looked like the relationship didn't mean anything to her though she was saying emotional things but for her to just accept things like that shows the level of her commitment and how much she desired me.

The moral lessons I got from this relationship that ended is quite intoned with the redpill we all preach here daily.

1. Sex before anything else.

2. Her actions will always speak louder than any emotions

3. She can choose you and still put herself first.

4. A woman doesn't really love you.

5. As a man, always show that sexual side. If they don't want or accept that, then move on to the next. It's not ideal to keep her around if she doesn't please or satisfy you. Always make sure you are getting something from her.

6. Value should begets value. Avoid a one sided relationship.

7. Never be afraid to walk away no matter the bond or history if your needs as a man is been neglected.

8. Get them to commit thier sexual side. That's basically their trump card. A woman that has been with you sexually can't easily walk away. To her, she has invested in you.

9. Avoid the over religious. That "holy than thou attitude". It never ends well.

10. Any sex that's withheld is not worth it. Life's full of uncertainty. You dont want to be that guy that builds women for others to wife. If she's saving herself and wants you to still play the role of a provider all in the promise of a union someday before you get to lay with her, then you are walking into a trap. I find these type of ladies with this mindset highly manipulative and unreliable.

11. She will never fully give you authority in the union. She tried to sell that no sex crap to me in hopes that I'll commit to her. I wonder what would the future would look like cux majority of the times I'm certain she would want to control the sex in the home because I would have actually given her that power during dating. I actually wanted to wife her up but the logical side of me can't look past these things. My sister would always say that a failed relationship is better than a failed marriage. So in all, I thank God for the outcome.

Men out there please be wise. These ladies will always put themselves at an advantage. I'm thankful I didn't overdo things financially due to my redpill exposure. It would have been a mess. No matter how much you love her, open your eyes to the truth standing in front of you and never fail to vet her. Always have options so you dont fall for their manipulations. Keep focusing on you kings.

Cheers

SEGUE1:
Mtchew... I'm not surprised

Pukkalolo:
Asking this question actually shows you are an intellectual dude... because at the core, the ability to withstanding pressure and maintaining emotional control is one of the most important skill a man can have when dealing with women ( and life in general).
This skill is far more important than your physical fitness. It's more important than how smooth you are or how good looking you are.

Fews years back I was invited to a interview where there were about 15 candidate who were in attendance.

When it got to my turn to be interviewed, I was invited to the Manager's office(a Man) who would be interviewing me.

After scanning through my CV carefully, he looked at me and said, "Look, succeeding in this business is about taking control of situations that you encounter in your day to day sales activities, and to not allowing these situations to control you."

I said, "Ok?"

Then he looked dead in my eyes and asked, "So how do you take control of highly pressured situation that you'll encounter and not allow the situation to control you?"

There are many fancy and flashy answers to that questions, but at that point I just wanted say what I felt.

I said, "Well, I'll take control of the highly pressured situation by letting go of the situation."

I paused for about 3 seconds, trying to think if what I just said make sense to me. But then in my mind, I said, "mtcheew, Bleep it."

Then I continued confidently: " I'll take control of the situation by not trying too hard to fix the situation.... there are somethings that are just beyond my control... Knowledge is knowing when to keep pushing for something. Wisdom is knowing when to respect myself and Walk away."

After I made that last statement, there was an awkward silence between us that lasted for about 7 seconds or so. The man seemed to surprised my answer. He never predicted that answer.(well, I don't like being predictable)
I didn't say anything else. I waited patiently for what he’ll say next. After a long silence that seem like the whole world freezed for a while, he cleared is throat and said, "So why should we give you this Job?"

I said, "You should give me this job because bla bla bla bla bla."
I said some cliche answers I've crammed from the internet.

"Well, we'll get back to you," the manager said while gesticulating for me to get Bleep out his office.

Of course, you'd pretty much assume that they were never going to get back to me... because Obviously it looked like I performed very poor in the interview. Even me, I was a bit worried that i didn't came up with smarter answers.

But to my greatest surprise, 3 weeks later I was invited back to discuss the date it will be ok for me to start the job. Out of 20 people, only I and two other guys were invited back.

Although this my answers seem weak:
" I'll take control of the situation by letting go of the situation" and " I'll take control of situation by not trying hard fix the situation. there are somethings that are just beyond my control. Knowledge is knowing when to keep pushing for something. Wisdom is knowing when to respect myself and Walk away."

But that's actually the way forward.


Strangely, ability to withstand pressure and maintain emotional control requires no superhuman strength or endurance. It's just requires the ability to let go and not trying to force things go your way all the time.

So the question, how do one get emotional control from within your internal self, as in internal control not the external.

Obviously, the solution is to stop trying to get control from the external.

Here's is an example of trying to get control from the external: Trying to make a woman like you.

Trying to make a woman like you is an unhealthy goal because #1 you can't always control if a woman will like you or not--and since you can't control it, you’d always be ruled by fear.

And Because #2 you’ll only cause yourself headache and make things unnecessarily stressful for yourself.

You can imagine the kind of stress you have to go through to make her like you:

You’ve got to interact with her in a pleasant and cautious manner.

You’ve got to put up with het saucy and disrespectful behavior.

You’ve got to put up with her abusive behavior.

You’ve got to do things to impress her friends and family.

This put your emotions at the mercy of the woman. As long as she like you, you’ll feel worthy and confident about yourself. But the moment she act cold towards you, your whole world is shattered. You start trying hard to fix the situation.

And remember, in that interview, I said " I'll take control of the situation by not trying too hard to fix the situation."


The ability to let go of a woman when you want her the most—is one of the most important skills you can develop in your interactions with women.

The harder you try to persuade a woman to accept you, the less you succeed in accomplishing that goal.

Life itself is paradoxical. Avoiding negative experiences rejection, criticism or mistakes only increased your chance of getting those negative experiences.


Letting go doesn't mean you're weak; it means you understand that there are some things that are just fucking out of your control.

Letting go of things that are beyond your control, doesn't mean you're powerless; Is simply means you're mature enough to understand that, sometimes not everyone would like you or be interested in you.

When a woman reject you or show no interest in you, you might be tempted to try to convince her and try to force her to see things your way....but in reality you are only wasting your time and disrespecting yourself.

The solution is to simply "let go" by walking away and moving on the next available chick.

Many guys have the mentality of:

"What can I do to get this woman to like me so that I can feel great and confident about myself?"

That's a weak ass mentality. This is why you can't withstand the pressure of being disliked or being ignored by her.

My mentality is:

"What can I do to feel great and confident about myself so that it wouldn't really matter if this woman like me or not? "

This is how I get emotional control from within my internal self.

Because when you're focused on being liked or being accepted... she tends to have more power than you in the interaction.

This is why I say things like: having low tolerance for a woman's bullshit; Boldly expressing yourself; Immediately NEXTING a woman if she's not cooperating; not allowing her influence or manipulate you with feminine sexiness and so on....because those things are in your fucking control. This is how you maintain emotional contol regardless of the response you are getting from her. This is what makes you a confident and dominant man.

I hope this was helpful.

hazard7:
With the way things are going with married women, marriage is becoming a "never an option for me" cause God, damn.

There is a married woman whose husband is an acquaintance of mine but the husband is a simp.

I was having dinner in her place and she was overtly flirting with me, like Jesus. Can you please respect your husband while you are in front of him?

The worst part is that he can't seem to say anything, only to say "she's been having a rough day".

Thank God for my core principles, especially regarding married women, cause she is just crazy.

She wanted to seduce me several times that I have been there but Nah, I didn't take so many pills to be overcome by lust.

@Ubunja @Martinez09 @Caveadullum @Heartofcity and others. Keep giving us more useful content and God bless.

Martinez39s:
Most people today underrate strong and sound fatherly influence.

Blackavast:
Can you recommend any book YouTube channel on game I want to learn

Mhistaedie01:
Please please please redpillers I came about this issue while flirting with a girl, it seems she caught feelings and asked me if I like her. I don't want to give her a plain yes since I know being direct with girls isn't the right thing to do. Please I need a way to respond to this girl please help it's urgent

CaveAdullam:
1. If you understand the level of commitment, sacrifice, sweat, and blood men put into romance and sexual relationships just to ensure the setting and building of a family you'll know why they always go extreme in doing things.

2. Jealousy reigns in men's veins. They can kill to secure a mate or protect their mate. "Simping" is rooted in men's psyche. It is because of our conscious awareness of female nature that's even trying to liberate some men. Despite that, they do go astray sometimes.

3. From the external, "the man is a weak man. He killed himself because of cheap pvssy. He is not fit to be a man blah blah blah" people will say.

But no one ever cares to see his level of sacrifice. No one cares to know how much he has tolerated just to make sure the relationship works. It is men that make a relationship work not women because it is men that have the bulk of the workload.

4. Heartbreak hurts. But women always have options B, C, D, E, F...as a fallback. No matter how much a pvssy is fvcked, it never becomes a man's property, it remains the woman's. But commitment is a sacrifice. Once it leaves the man, it is gone forever.

5. It is stories like this that are making men check out of the dating market - MGTOW, monks, VCEL, etc. Because there are no incentives for men in marriage. The sexual market has been so polluted that women can commit an act of depravity that breaks their marriage vows and still get paid for it or excused. So, why should men care to start the marriage journey anyway?

6. As far as I understand, as the sexual market gets worst, there will be a raise of sociopathic, toxic men who will cause great harm to women who jilt them. Women may see it as a game and anchor it to their evolution, however, these men don't care. For a temporary time let these women feel they can have their cake and eat it with gayness.

7. But we will try our best possible to preach the message so that more men can be redeemed or know what to do.

8. Truth be spoken, the family is a core unit of civilization. And civilization is built upon the shoulders of men. Therefore, men must have great incentives in whatever they do as far as it brings growth and prosperity.

9. The fact that this young man committed suicide doesn't necessarily mean he's weak. His death is the greatest sacrifice in the relationship even though he failed to understand female nature.

He wanted to close his eyes forever than bear the shame and pain of his name being ridiculed because of the reckless behavior of his wife and (children). The waste of his commitment for decades. He just wanted to protect his ego, albeit, the wrong way.

May his soul finds peace.

DAY 305, REDPILL 2022

Authority: Put yourself first.

Abba114:
i dont believe that the main reason is KPEKUS. nigger is going through a lots in silence and the woman add more to it. why dont rich men commit suicide over women?