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topup:
Though I doubt you'll believe me, I am NOT the possessive type, I have never received closure on that relationship. I don't know the reasons, the true reasons because he wasn't honest enough to come out with it.

I was not at all possessive and at the slight warning that he wasn't putting in his effort into the relationship, I let him go.

You heard that song by Mariah Carey 'Now you want to be free, so I let you fly',
That's what I did.

But the problem is every once in a while I question why things are the way they are. When two people aren't speaking it is usually because of a misunderstanding I am a very reasonable person, and I always begged him to be frank with me, put feelings aside. I was met with reasons such as; "I don't know why myself" what the!!! Puh-lease gimme a break.

If I can't express myself on this forum, then where can I

My ribs hurt.  In bold, you are philosophizing - plato style.  Breakups should be made illegal.  I feel so bad over your heartbreak.

topup:
AND NO! I would not jump back on him, because like I took the decision to LEAVE HIM, against the way my heart felt,

truly questionable.

I will also once again use my logic over my heart to see that if unchanged then he's just the same guy I decided to leave, not an improved version.

Thanks for your attempt at predicting me, but you are far from wrong. I did NOT say I wouldn't think about starting something again, but I am wise enough to see that it must start from the beginning, anew, afresh, from the start.

Too bad he's not here to defend himself. Let's hope you are truly able to start afresh.  So far, all the signs aren't in your favor.

Not really insulting. You just sound very possessive.

Joseph6:
str8 and direct

str8 should not be in your vocabulary jare. goatfucker.

~aceticacid giggles~

HAHAHAH  You will never get over that guy.  If he came back tomorrow you would jump on his back. 

Hmm! No wonder some guys are scared/skeptical of boning virgins.

topup:
As if! You don't even know me. Now why would you be afraid? I'm only letting off some steam, I wasn't even hating, just being honest, you guys are making it seem like it's unnatural,

Im sorry. Please forgive me. And I'm glad your steam is limited to the internet. Could be worse.

onyinye2:
@topup
Of course you have to draw the line. That is why when i enter a relationship, i tell the guy upfront what the boundaries are and to respect them. I'm cool with kissing, and maybe a wee bit of caressing

please tell me more . what parts of your body do you like caressed.

ibkaye:
who is ibukun?

you.

topup:
I don't see anything wrong with kissing, was discussing about the line drawn after kissing,

please don't say that. he must have been a terrible kisser. those knee bending kisses are enough to unwrap your clothes jor.

if i was the guy i would be afraid to come near you.

ibkaye:
Dreams are good for the mind

this dream is beyond your reach ibukun. comot jare.

onyinye2:
Conceited Much!!!

if you want a bite all you gotta do is ask.

if you kissed me you would change your mind.

you're still not over this guy ehn.

shuppie:
how do you know, with very cold water, sugar is not neccessary, anything goes, groundnut, coconut, fried meat (especially ileya meat), fried fish, just name it.

u read my mind
garri ijebu with milk and milo.  ijekuje. ijebu cereal.

lol @ tpia and joseph

Dr Kitaun:
Acetic acid

am I not ignorable

well . . .I guess You DONT KNOW WHAT TIME IT IS

i was just about to ask you the same question

but i guess you failed to look at the time too

bridget007:
Thank you all. I am not marrying him, his mum met one of my daughters the other day and even asked about her today. He has puposefully pushed me out since his mum has been here i think to see if he can bear to leave me. We talked today and I told him his behaviour since his mum has been here has made me adamant that i can not marry him now.

It was a sad day, he is going to London to try to get an extention on his visa but he doesn't hold out much hope. As I left he said that if he returns to nigeria we would be over as he can't see how we would continue a relationship. He told me again today that if I didn't have the children things would be so much easier, yes, but why talk of something that aint going to be and he always knew I had them.

I am very sad and confused when one minute he and family are talking about our sons first birthday party but then he might be back in Nigeria and moved on with his life by then.

that sucks

Dr Kitaun:
am sure u don't get where I am coming from, worse still I don't owe u an explanation . . .

sarcastic metaphor my arse

i get it bloke.  i don't require an explanation  

feed ur arse to the dogs  

shuppie:
ijebu garri is the best,

ijebu garri to kon daada. to wo eyin.

Dr Kitaun:
whatever this means  

I can bet my left nut this thread will soon be off to the thrash bin  

god of education, get it?  moderator of  It's a sarcastic metaphor.  Nevermind. boo you suck.

sorry, no. just my choice.

hai4real:
who is debosky in this forum i want to know his role here

debosky is the god of education. he is heir and ruler of this section. his commands shall ye obey.

tpia:
huxley is tpaine?

weird. Tpaine seems different from Huxley.

alter ego ? lol

Arguments about religion are so predictable and boring to me, that's why I don't bother participating.


I'm a christian, so help me God.  Y'all have fun.

onyinye2:
I understand that Nna, but to be content means you are with how things are or what you have. But with Huxley, he is not content.
If he was content, he would not see the need to continue to prove to people that Christianity is nothing but a big hoax (Father forgive me). He would just accept the fact he is Atheist and leave it at that. But look at all the threads he opens. Does that look like a man who is content?

I have reason to believe you did not read my post.  Although I'm in no way supporting his agenda, who are you to determine what makes Huxley content?  What if these types of questions are partly responsible for his happiness (weird as that may sound)?  The questions he asks might alleviate some of the doubts he has in his mind about the credibility of the Christian religion, especially if he finds someone who's able to convincingly answer those questions to his delight.  He is content with other parts of his life, but is not satisfied with what he reads in the bible, that's his prerogative.   Dissatifaction doesn't diminish his worth, nor does not strip him of his title of content in other areas of his life.  Your argument is that he's unfairly targetting christians, sure, maybe. But the lord does not oppose people questioning the facts presented in the bible; in fact he welcomes it.  Those formidable facts are indefatigable by us mere mortals.  

Huxley, people say your wahala too much, why not dive into islam for some time

onyinye2:
Mayne and folk tell me im stubborn.Answer this.

Contentment has different meanings to each individual, onyinye.  It has to do with being content, and what makes me content might not be enough for the other person.  Maybe Huxley's contentment has very much to do with his expectations of life and the people inhabiting it.

What's the balderdash about Ijebu girls? Leave them alone if you don't want them I beg, somebody else will.

Eyin odomokurin ibile yooba, eweso o, se daada la baa yin lo ni?

Since you are a product of western society, I understand your plight with the family's refusal to welcome your kids. I would advise you to stick to what you hold dear to you - your kids. They are your pride and joy. If your husband-to-be's family is not ready to welcome and accept your joy (your kids) into their life, I would seriously recommend against going further with the marriage. It may come as a surprise to you that family is an important part of marriage in most Nigerian families, if not all. If his family is not ready to be supportive and accepting of your children now, that could create havoc in the future.