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topup:
You can't be serious!!

Well at least it is positive advice.

Noted.

I'm 100% sure that post made you chuckle. You must have thought your prayers were answered by God.

topup:
I hope he's begging for you now, or if you're completely over him, I hope he's left you alone.

It's been two years. I don't think she's going whacko like you.

topup:
I've come to notice that

have you really . what else have you noticed

topup:
You are truly uninformed but you feel it necessary to go full force and make outlandish statements despite this.

I said the words, now when someone refuses to reply, call or text you, makes excuses not to go out with you, see you, argues with you, wouldn't you say they've ended the relationship I may have been the one to have the guts to say 'let's end it' but it wasn't me who wanted to end the relationship. What I did was smart, I went against my feelings, because all signs were saying this guy wants to leave. Infact he had already left emotionally. Now before you go off making statements and accusing me of lying, why not just simply ask for the full version. There is no bias in this, whether I was the reason for him wanting to leave or it not, it doesn't matter! What matters is that he called it quits and I released myself by saying the words, in fact I think he was pushing me to say it, after behaving this way, he still could not muster up the courage to say he wanted out. I had to say it! Do you not think I am frustrated with this relationship enough?!! Do you also have to add your own!?

He pushed me away and HINTED to an extrem degree how much he wanted out of the relationship, told me he couldn't commit and everything, so yes he HURT ME! HE HURT ME!!! Especially as he claimed to love me only a week before he started this behaviour. I repeat. HE HURT ME! So, now that I'm ok and willing to talk to him, he is ignoring me, That is not okay, even if I did ignore him first, I had the right to after HE HURT ME!

Geddit!?

lol. you are still missing the most imortant details. not denying he had anything to do with your decision to leave him, all I'm saying is you popped the question.

topup:
Yes, I honestly did miss that part, it wasn't him who distracted me, it was these 6 or so topics I'm trying to keep track on and keep up with the 'various disagreements' we are having on them,

Lose already (the sun is coming up where I am!)

typical self-righteous canary. i'm very sure that bloke was responsible for the distraction. he has you wrapped around his pinkie.

i don't think she's into lesbian affairs miss topup.

topup:
Hmmmm, HCH3COO , I'm used to it being written as CH3COOH with the positively charged hydrogen ion on the negatively charged oxygen.
Since there are two carbons on the chain, I would say this is ethanoic acid. Or commonly known as Vinegar. Man, I still remember my chemistry.

You're not acid just vinegar, nice!

I don't think you want to start discussing chemistry here, when yours is in complete limbo.

lol! never speechless.

topup:
But she is asking what should she do, not what would/should he do.

This isn't personal.

did you miss the part where I said "in your situation, i would say move on" , or were you too busy being distracted with thoughts of your ex.

topup:
Both

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topup:
Yes, there could be hidden sarcasm behind your every word, !!!!!

TEll me about it.

Get a load of yourself. Was that addressed to me or the voice in your head

topup:
We get it, the jokes on me. For feeling emotions I can't control, and instead of crying on my pillow, and keeping it all inside I am talking about it.

It's okay hun. It could be worse, right?

topup:
I'm not going to apologise that I enjoy Nairaland that much and find most interest in the romance section. If anybody knew more about me they'd know that I am a very romantic person. On other forums, I help teens and give them advice on sexuality and relationships, only Nairaland are the people on my back.

In response to Ruby_Pearl , I am not currently crying at this moment. I am currently trying to forget about how my ex seems to have moved on without me, and it's not helping if everybody keeps refering back to him as the reason for my interest in the romance section.

ROTFLMFPBAOPIMFPASWIP! Break ups get level sha.

i think girls hurt more. topup has been going psycho crazy ever since she lost her boyfriend.

lol.

Bro, why are you ressurecting dead ancient threads ? Are you okay?

eiye lo'nje akalamagbo.

akalamagbo - type of bird.

and yes, hehbor(ebo) is a sort of sacrificial offering.

Lol! I understand what gamine said.  o npa owe ni.


busy_body
when she said ebo

ebo pronounced hehbor - like those used in rituals.  just think ebo oritameta   

onyinye2:
Hmmm. . . . that is true. I rather sit on my porch, listen to Gerald Albright, and sip my ice tea. But doesn't mean the man shouldn't attempt to console me.

He shouldn't try to console you. You know what happens when he does that .

poster, to me it depends. in your situation, i would say move on. if my beloved suddenly breaks up with me because i hurt her, i will make some efforts to repair the damage.

Frick

Some women prefer to be left alone when under stress.

michelin89:
I know say na curse. My Ishan sense nor dey lie!

me sef i get ishan for body.

sisi wetin be tehee

KarmaMod:
Who cares? You think women ENJOY begging? You think they don't have pride? Abeg come up with something better. That lame excuse of "men have ego" is tired.

I think it's funny that you mention how women should do "martial duty" yet I say as long as the men provide emotional support and now you are making up pitiful excuses.

Dont expect something if you can't do your own "duty" as well. It's that simple

Who cares?  Men do.
It's not tired.  Begging just seems so feminine to most men  .  Imagine a story of a woman hanging out with her friends, telling them how she cuddled her husband, made him food, massaged him, caressed his feet because she saw him worried, then made love to him to ease his mind.  The women will go "awwwww, how cute" .  If a guy does the same while hanging out with his boys, telling them how he cooked and did all that hoopla, but in the end she refused sex. . .  they'll call him a  .

Men, good men, take care of their duties.  But don't expect us to automatically scan your minds when something's wrong.

michelin89:
Women don't have pride abi?

well, women's pride. . . . . they can usually afford to give it up. most women do.

Ok! Leave in peace and regain your health elsewhere!

exactly.

topup:
I believe intially you should give each other the space to think and breathe. Then contact each other to try and reach a friendly medium.

I didn't quite manage to pull that off and that's why I'm here sulking on the romance boards. I think definitely seek for friendship, they were once part of your life, in future you may want to say hello and how can you, when you've lost touch, you've disconnected all their lines, you've given them every insult in the book, or shown them your stalkerish side.

Well, from my own experience, I am trying to be friendly and he is taking his sweet time to reply, despite him being the one to end it.

I will always be there if he wishes to talk, but it's an ego thing. You gotta suck it in, trust me it might seem humbling, because it is! You feel hurt but you must be there for the other person, like I said before, you were part of each other's life. Eventually the other person should come around, if not, just treat them like a distant friend, a hello once in a while, but don't beg or grovel for responses. Just let them be, if your distance friend does not reply, don't try and force it, don't escalate it to trying to call him, or trying all his emails and contacts.

Try and find out the sneakiest way you how he's feeling about the breakup (as in he should never find out).

Quit lying. you ended it. In fact, after the breakup it's no longer compulsory to reply your emails, talkless of the days it takes.

michelin89:
Ok! Die in peace!

ogini cannot kill yourself over such woman.

KarmaMod:
[b]Wives usually do. [/b]They usually sense things are wrong from the beginning and they try to get to the bottom of it. Most men don't care if they're wives are bothered by something until it gets to the point that she starts withdrawing sex.

Wive do but we men don't?  What of those wives who couldn't give a damn if you eat or not because they care too much about 50-50.  Women know that men have this big ego/pride that makes them frown when it comes to begging.

michelin89:
No procreation?

Or well, I don't think we'll extinct tomorrow!

No. High blood pressure, ucler, fever . . .

na witchcraft.