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Lack of sex can be fatal to manhood.

KarmaMod:
and his which is emotional support

what of providing him some emotional support when he asked for it?

It's time to swallow the whinny. Leap out from behind that bush you're hiding and release yourself to another man.

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All of this can be avoided if she performs her marital duty.

people don't always marry for love. arranged marriages come to mind.

What's wrong with growing up in Bariga        _{just kiddin o}

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psycho crazy

congratulations sister jimmy.

KarmaMod:
Um or she'll just leave the house for you while you deal with kid of a woman you just slept with just to satisfy sexual urges when you could have easily spoken to your wife. Abi you think all women are trapped or would just accept such a situation?

I assume you watched that Si GboGbo Obinrin movie. What happened to Moyo? Didnt she leave? She was offended by her husband's actions but she left. She admitted what she did wrong in the marriage but she still left and thankfully she didnt have a kid with the dude thus they wont be any problem for her to marry again

  yeah     but she was hurt .  it was all her fault.  i'm still laughing about that movie.  you know nigerian women hate divorce.

if i'm lucky, the other woman might be a gem.  it doesn't always result to kids.  he can just wear rubber to save all that drama.

KarmaMod:
Unfortunately for you, not every woman finds porn offensive. She'll probably even provide the chips and lube for you.

    .  She will find it offensive if I call out my ex-girlfriend's name when I bust.

KarmaMod:
so? who's the one dealing with the baby?

Let's compare the price of "Honey you havent been yourself, is everything ok? Lets talk" vs sending illegitimate baby to school, clothes, shelter, blah blah blah, upkeep for the mother of the child, etc

If he doesn't mind spending the money, dealing with the baby will be no issue to him.  She, on the other hand, will be sad, hurt, emotionally violated, you name it . . . over what the man has done to her.  He might even decide to marry the other woman, or welcome the kid into his home.

Sisikill:
If she's not in the mood after 1 month. . . ehn, I guess you will just thank God for giving two good hands and the Indiana Man down the street whose liqour store is the only who carries Playboy and Penthouse. Abi. . . What elese is there to do?

About the liqour store and Indian Baba. . . I'm just guessing ooh. I really don't know nothing about that kind of thing.

jerk off?  you just talked about men being insensitive towards women's feelings, yet now that it's the guy's turn to get what he wants you refer him to 7-11  

In that sense, if that's what she wants, i will start watching Indecency in front of her in the living room while I do the jerking.

ibkaye:
ehen now, a month is too much, something must be wrong, it is now both your duties as a mature married couple to discuss the problem amongst yaselves, don't just keep it locked in and expect your partner to take a nice cool dive into your skull and fish for clues on why you are feeling this way etc

Partner no be Sherlock Holmes.

lol.  when is our marriage  

@ HCH
Unlike men, women are not emotionally detached about sex. Men are able to compartmentalize aspects of their lives. . . That's why they can say thing like "Yeah, I slept with her but it's you I love". Women are not built that way, you can't call your girl names, treat her unkindly and then expect her to open the gateway to paradise without so much as a a token. You can't dismiss her needs, her wants or look down on something she's interested in  then expect a warm reception when you want some.

Honestly, jokes apart. . . Why is it so hard for guys to understand that it being nice and considerate is all a woman asks? Something as simple as "Honey, you look nice today or did you do something to your hair" will touch her than expensive crap because it shows you are aware of her. It's not rocket science for goodness, sakes.

I guess it is true, Men are from Mars and Women from Venus.

i understand. But women need to realize that men are not mind readers. We deserve to know when you are hurt, what caused the hurt, and what can be done to relieve the pain. You know men have egos. The typical guy has way too much pride to go completely out of his way to apologize to his woman. If she continues to refuse even after 10 apologies, she caused her own trouble. He will start sleeping around with other women.

he shows up with another baby 10 months later, talking about " this is what I did while you refused to sleep with me"

ibkaye:
Sex is an IMPORTANT part of marriage.

Those who use it as a 'weapon' e.g deprive their spouse for 'punishment' or 'bribery' are just being immature  

Thank you babe.  I mean, of course it's alright to say you're tired sometimes, but imagine a whole month.    

michelin89:
Abeg e. Onyinye stop this hypocrisy. Your wife is not your sex medicine but your husband is abi?

Why can't they expect the same things we demand from them?

Tell me, if your husband denies you sex for a week,will you be here saying: "he is not my sex machine so everything goes".

A spouse has duties and sex is one. If you don't want such responsibility don't get married and don't get upset when he cheats on you.

Haba! Frigid women should stay off marriage.

 

onyinye2:
I'm see why some women use sex as a bribe and as a punishment. This guy will divorce her just because of it. Is it FOOD, WATER,NOR SHELTER?? nope. But if you are in addicting need of it and your wife won't give it to you, ASK her why. don't get all upset.

It's not a matter of addiction.  Something is wrong if you refuse to let your husband release some semen without letting him know what he has done wrong.  Even the elders in the village will tell you that's how ti works.   They will convince the man to look outside.  It's a delicate matter.

rampant:
she doesnt even have to refuse u for a month before u ask her what d matter is


lets look at it this way,when a man is in d mood for sex,and in dire need of it,he goes to the wife and then tries to initiate d whole thing,and then d woman says "sweetheart im not in d mood" the very first question d mans asks almost immeidately is  "honey wats wrong" has he not asked ?

yes he has asked.  if she doesn't tell him what's wrong, what else do you expect him to do?  prostrate

for example, if she refuses you sex for a woman, always saying "i'm just tired baby", "i'm tired" .  for a whole month.

KarmaMod:
Seems like acd has forgotten the many times when husbands are frustrated and annoyed over things and the women is the one following him around begging him to tell her what's going on

i did not forget. it's bad both ways.  with some delicious food the man will confess.

onyinye2:
Divorce your wife over sex? Water boy, you are showing your true colors. Your wife is not your SEX MEDICINE. she has things to do throughout the day. And God forbid the woman is tired at the end of the day and just wants to freaking sleep. Must she be constantly in the mood? I mean shadang, give her a break. Just because she won't let you "hit it" doesn't mean she is angry just tired. Gawd how sometimes i just don't just don't understand what sex has a hold on you men.

biko! ogni? sex is grounds for divorce abeg, you just don't understand. who said constantly in the mood? i said a woman who deprives her husband of sex. that's a cruel woman. you women say men are dogs, but even if we are we don't demand it 24/7.

rampant:

sighs  the topic is talking about if she refuses u for a month or more

and yes weneva a woman is refuses u ,the first thing that comes to a mans mouth is

"whats wrong"  so you're already asking

oh hell no.  if she refuses me for a month there has to be something wrong somewhere.   believe me, if after two weeks i notice she's gone a complee 180, I will ask her what's wrong.  do the best I can to understand the reason for her unusual behavior.  if she continue to keep moot, what's a man to do?  at some point she must let me know. can't read minds ya kno.

okay so basically you're both saying anytime my wife says no when i want to hit it, i should ask her why she's angry, because there has to be something wrong?  husbands are not certified psychologists you know.  


by the way, i dont' support marital rape. would never do something like that.  i would rather divorce my wife over such.

what the Bleep does fixing problems have to do with keeping the pussy shut?  if something's bugging you, open your mouth like a grown ass woman, tell your man and attempt to work it out with him.  don't just keep quiet locking the pussy because you're angry.

yea u answered with have i ever met a woman. but what does that have to do with . . . .
ur excuse is she's insane, right?

onyinye2:
Didn't ignore. I answered.

How does my meeting with an abused justify the killing?

onyinye2:
Have you ever met a woman who was being abused? guess not.

Keep ignoring what I wrote.

onyinye2:
Where will she go? Not her friends because her abuser stripped her of that. Not her family because he has pushed them away.

Leaving is a better alternative than staying. If she was seriously mistreated her best option would be to flee and report to authorities like I said. Cops have those spousal abuse protection facilities you know. Put her on watch, etc. Don't pretend she has no options. She just didn't want to use them.

onyinye2:
You guys don't understand. That is why it is called ABUSE. when you abuse someone, you strip them of their dignity. You terminate their self esteem. You cease their self worth. So you think after being robbed of all this, you can just leave? Oi dey.

You can't leave?  You just lay there like a dead dog enjoying the punishment?  Use your senses.  Only a murderer would think death is the lone solution to an abusive relationship.  Sigh! Women are victims of their own minds.

nubila:
Naw, I doubt she would have lived to see the day he would let her walk away. She would be running for her life everyday of her life. I'm talking about dangerous men here.

Why do you doubt?  Have you read the whole story?  Do you understand the grounds of the abuse?  No, you just automatically defend her.  You just jump on the bandwagon like a criminal-minded husband killer, deciding murder is the only way to get out of the abuse.  There are authorities she could report to you know?  She could have slippeed out of the house while he was asleep to get help, or to report the case to the police, but no.