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idreezbaba:
This Happens when you don't have a degree in Agriculture ..Us that are are studying for five years.. You think it's a waste?

Yes, it's a waste for most. Most will never have a substantial farm of their own.

Not you, most. So do not get offended darling. Or better yet, do, precious.

You do not have to spend 5 years in a university ranked ?? in the world (UI is our torch/standard bearer).

Now go to any university in the states....nah, scrap that....just fucking read, and learn about whatever your hobby or business idea is.

That simple. Kids in different countries have tried 'home steading' with 6-24 layers, to provide eggs for their families and neighbours. It's fact....some even add pigs to it.

Point is, not everyone has 5 years to waste....also, not everyone has a 9ja mindset.

Lol...when dey no born or raise me for here....that is why I find most of Nairaland utterly senseless. Just like Naija frustrates.

Not gna cock fight with you....no ego...just a vengeful attitude that is backed up...... I hate to even say that, sounds like a brat.

Shut up right? You are not in the top 2 percent globally, so by certification, I shouldn't be speaking to you, cos you are more or less a lost cause....so I should be quiet, and I will.

DM me to find out exactly what I will do, giving you maximum time to counter. You will understand that there is power and there is power mate. You are a commodity simple. I will move and touch you and yours in all ways just for fun.

Take this as evidence if you will...��������

hedonistic:
Logical fallacy (argumentum ad verecundiam, or 'Appeal to Authority').

The Pareto Principle is just that: A [subjective] principle. Not an objective law. So it is just as true (or even less true) as the 'principle' that says 'no romance without finance'... Therefore, it is illogical to assume that the Pareto Principle validates the OP's line of reasoning, or invalidates the counter argument of the majority of posters here.

Wouldn't normally reply.

I agree, but the audience is the audience. It is a failing society...when in Rome I guess.

Also, I believe you understand exactly what the OP is saying, and what I am saying...so to not waste my time or yours...are you being a pendant or a troll?

hedonistic:
Shey na the same thing wey I dey think you dey talk about so? I know for sure that at least in Lagos, yahoo boys have ruined the market for most guys. Na them don scatter the babes market the same way wey the likes of Chelsea, Man City, PSG, and the other cash rich clubs don spoil the football market.

It's a big problem.

Hooking up a chick on the Island for a quick fix is now completely out of it. Basic bitches with average body and average looks sef go dey demand N30k, N40k, N50k. No thanks to the pu.s.s.y inflation caused by these boys.

Who wants to deal with that type of gal...you have just highlighted the type of market or pool you are fishing in.

What are your standards? I'm sure you have some.

Before I begin to climb stairs - elevator really (point of decreasing chance of return), I ask myself...will this chick say or do something that may make me wanna snap her neck? Could I tolerate her shortcomings in the morning?

I cannot do stupid...in fact, I prefer a lady/bad bitch who is ultra intelligent....I wanna learn, so, I fit listen to sensible opinions...

And when you think it's money they want, and know it's sex you want, go to the village or out of town....charter those that are to ur liking....upgrade their lives...your 5/10/20/50/100k will go further. Just remember that NO MEANS NO. So no abduction o

Austinoiz:
Abeg who be this living-in-utopia guy sef?

Thinking that what you know is the globally accepted standard (we are talking about misogyny and sexism here), when you are rural as Bleep...nah, outback....nah cave dwelling.

Some ladies I know have a net worth higher than 95% of the Nigerian population...it ain't beaten and abused currency that they are looking for.

If ratchet is all around you, then maybe remove yourself from that environment. There are some focused gals who could change your life.

It's not a case of utopia.

I can go on, but since y'all have a problem with these ladies actively patting you down and extorting you, maybe start a support group, so you can share the same experiences, to help reinforce your theories.

Those guys without big banks, with good women.....well done!
Those guys with big banks, with all sorts of women......well done!
You are the winners, the 5% that the other 95% make look good!

To the '95%', if women want money, and men want sex....well, that is the oldest profession, no?
A solution is there, and obvious, yet you still fail and complain.

If na lie, na lie. Only truth hurts. Please begin the cursing and swearing...like I give a shite.

Will you keep quiet...
If 80% want money,what difference will the remaining 20% make..[/quote]The Pareto principle states that, for many events, roughly 80% of the effects come from 20% of the causes.

moscobabs:
What 90% ladies want from men is Money and what 90% of men want from women is sex

I dey lie?

Now consider the statistics....your mum, sister, and future daughter....where do your people fall?

90% or 10%

Are y'all that blessed, moral lottery winning family?

It is a hypothetical question...do or say as you please.....

gbegemaster:
I wonder why Boko Haram is always doing something nice whenever Buhari arrives or is about to leave.

Just saying.

Also look out for world events, particullarly when your network is down. Blanketing/black-out. Happens in 1st world countries, so it happens here

*** replace 'eschew' with spout.

Also, apologies for poor sentence structure here and there...working on phone.

AryaSand:
World People :- He wasted too much cash on this.

Okay, yes he did. What's the way forward? Should he continue this way or he should sell the birds, get back his capital and start again on a smaller scale? Is an expert willing to put him through if he does that? If not then leave him be, he's an adult. If you think he made a mistake/was not properly advised send him a mail and proffer solutions stop making him feel less of a man in Public. Ya'll didn't ask him before he showed you all these.
Well Done OP, I wish you all the best.

To person I'm replying to, agree with you mostly.

First off, to OP...well done to the man that dares. Definite purpose has propelled you to act. Not just move your lips, or punch your keyboard....you did, and backed it up with money, time and effort. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

I am fairly certain that you are not one that would cry in a board room because you feel a Chairman or owner has hurt your ego. I am also fairly confident, that you are not after validation from 90%+ of any given demographic or cesspool. If you are, then take this any which way, you are effed....which is why I think you will not be emasculated by opinions. Besides, I see no facial pictures or profile picture anywhere, are we now protecting the egos of handles, user names and user profiles. We don't know what is doing us yet!

All those getting emotional and religious...praying to God only gives you someone to blame when your halfhearted efforts fail. The fact that you may not have started that thing that you really would want to, is down to FEAR.

If you say it's MONEY, then by the same token, pray to God to allow you money. If you don't have it still, you are not praying hard enough, or Gaahd just don't want ish poppin for you!

Ever seen an investment show with tame VCs? They go hard and deep....like your red team. Tear it up. No room for UNNECESSARY sentiments in big business. Sure OP knows this.

I'm gna skip my point and maybe DM OP.

To those who speak, and cannot bet their lives on the accuracy of the information that they eschew, can STFU.

80% of global, English-speaking universities have online resources...they are mostly free to download.

When googling, dont use an African version...they omitt so much.

If we have 200m of 7bn, we are effing under achieving. FEAR is the biggest culprit, leading to self doubt, leading to inaction, leading to senseless invalid statements when others DO.

SMH LOL SMH LMAO all the way to the bank.

BlueAngel444:
https://www.nairaland.com/3992671/tithing-truth-history-origin-catholic

Emperor Constantine....that is all....rabbit hole/follow the money(power). That is really all

Are there any available pics of you in your laboratory/testing facility?

StrawberryGloss:
If drake could breakup with all them endowments ,
it means it takes more than curves to keep a man

Or, variety is the spice of life

softwerk:
Awwwwwwwwww this is very remarkable

I hope his p*enis still gets an erection to enable him enjoy the fruits of his labour!

Can't you see the hoe in his hand?

nwamehn:
But he can always marry without kneeling to any person. His point is that he wouldn't kneel and if u say because of that he shouldn't marry, then u ar wrong, because there are millions of ladies of various classes in the world ready to marry without expecting someone to kneel before them.

There is no limitation, but the mind. Many women in the world, throughout time, have proposed to men.

Like recent posts have highlighted in various ways, it's down to culture, beliefs, expectations, paradigms and auto-imposed restrictions. Naija is unique, but not always in a positive way. Too happy to adopt foreign beliefs and trends, as quickly as we can.

Some want something unique and exciting, yet desire the same, tired, old things.

pocohantas:
Why is this kneeling paining you people?
I've seen lots of proposal pictures, the men that knelt down, you romance sections guys are not in any way up to them.

It doesn't make them less men, it doesn't make you any better.
OP, it's not a must!

If majority of people (with same beliefs/background/study group) do the same thing, it doesn't make it right. More often than not, it's wrong.

I agree ppl from certain cultural/sub-cultural backgrounds (in this case, nairaland as you have pointed out, and Naija at large) have certain limitations.

This arises from how we feel about/want for ourselves...it seems mostly ego/pride related for guys, and romance/equality based for women.

This is a reflection of society at large...gender roles and expectations.

If I jumped out of a plane with SO and upon approach to a beach...the words "marry me" not even "marry me?" were etched into the sand, with a table for two, or some other commemorative activity/event planned, I fully do not expect to be asked to propose again. Just because I wasn't kneeling.

Horses for courses, I guess.

Although I'd have no problem kneeling, i do question why so much is invested in this standardised, common proposal method.

1. Someone had to have done it first, cannot be the only way to express all the qualities or feelings encompassed by this "gesture".

2. I am certain some women don't need or feel anyway about it. Billions of women do not have this programmed into them- It's a cultural paradigm...thanks Hollywood, and Disney for the fairytale expectations.

3. With high separation and divorce rates, it means sweet Bleep all. Indigenous people didn't kneel - probably had other courtship/copulating rituals though- and they seem to stay married longer. Western influence?

In the history of the human race, this is a fad/trend at best. It hasn't been happening for 5000 years, and I doubt it will last much longer. In 150 years, proposal will have taken a different format in all likelihood.

Im so indifferent to it (I.e. Whatever floats your boat lady; if that is THE contributing factor that makes you happier than you've ever been, then...; smh) however, it would be reassuring to know that not all women require, what seems patronising.

Most guys do it cos they feel they have/expected to, or because it's the societal norm...indicating a willingness to conform to an egotistical, possibly misogynist gesture. Hardly trailblazing.

Left to their own devices (if all courting couples were isolated/shielded from external factors) I doubt most men would come to the conclusion that they had to kneel, and most women would probably not even think of kneeling as a copulating requirement.

If something else was the norm/paradigm, we'd be all over that, unrepentantly.

Then, you have the thing about showing vulnerability once, maybe - as would be the case with casestudy alpha wolf, and then reverting to the norm.

Seems to me that, if gender roles were somewhat even keeled, this wouldn't seem like the monumental, role-reversing, gender-equalising, token that it seems.

Would a woman prefer a healthy guy who provided, protected, changed diapers and cooked 30-50% of meals, but didn't kneel?

See hyena mating rituals, preying mantis and more examples from more species.

Im sure there are women out there who do not need this gesture, to trigger chemical/hormonal reactions.

However, if it makes the person that makes me happier, happy...then I'd do that and more.

Can't believe I'm doing this. Your research efforts and honesty about the conundrum that has you perplexed has triggered sumt in me. Or maybe it's some of the bull being spouted on here.

Size matters to a point, but that point is different for every gal.

Fingers, tongue, dick. You have them, so use them. Each one offers you at least two ways of using...get creative or reading.

It's not all about length, girth can be just as important. Past that, remember that the first 3 inches of her vagina are the most sensitive (not sure now if it's cm or inches, but figure it out).

Been with women of most races, and (apart from cultural attitudes) there are some physical differences (just like male negroids rank high, and far eastern males rank low). From this, I had to learn that different women generally are stimulated in different ways.

Figure out your woman, let her help you to help her. Clitoral, vaginal wall, g spot, heck a milf begged to be face bleeped...got her off. Don't forget breasts and nipples...lick, pinch, bite, twist, flick, scratch lightly, blow..endless possibilities.

If you're short on girth, she may want to be filled (assumption based on the cucumber), so maybe get a penis pump, if that's her preference. Or get to fisting, do use some lube though. While there, intimacy gadgets and aids may help.

Talk. Lock yourselves away for a weekend. Doesn't sound like you know what turns her on or gets her off. Find out. pre-intimacy, massages, teasing...sounds tedious, but will rarely last longer than 10/15 except you're teasing/witholding. You may even enjoy it.

I hate predefined gender roles, and I commend your bravery and honesty. But, you need to take control bro. Like, its just part of being a man.

Be confident, daring, bold, dominant, unapologetic (not saying be aggressive. Light S &M and role play can be fun though), considerate, sensual. Being all these is reassuring, and can make her ridiculously aroused in itself.

Wipe fear away from you mind, even though you're clearly concerned. It has a foul and obvious stench. Oh, and try risky shit (car, park, on a balcony, a room in a public building) don't get arrested though...peeps be crazy and quick to drag ppl into the street in 9ja.

Start slow if you're not sure, but talk to her...we can all lead you down the wrong path, if you're not even aware of the actual issue(s).

Oh and don't forget the parts of the body that are sensitive that you won't automatically associate with sex. Back of neck, small of back, behind knees, it varies from person to person.

theSpark:
The guy and the girl going down are disrespecting themselves. If they don't mind doing it in the presence of someone.

BTW, I don't know you and I am not against you personally. Just disagree with an idea of yours, which is subject to perception and contextual interpretation.

So, anyone who no gree wit me, no popped blood vessels pls. It's not that serious...I don post before remembering what forum I was on.

theSpark:
The guy and the girl going down are disrespecting themselves. If they don't mind doing it in the presence of someone.

Bit prudish, no? We are not even talking about promiscuity. I guess that's why some religions and countries ban PDA.

When you perform other primal acts like eating or sleeping, do u care? If it's primal, look at other creatures, for some insight. If it's a religious thing, well we all know the Christian creation story. If it's about unclothedness, we were born so. If it's about courtesy, you may have a point. But others have shown courtesy when found in the position of reluctant third wheel, so what's the issue.

I would ASSUME that you'd fare horribly in a group session. But that's 'cos that's not the righteous (judging) Nigerian way or culture (paradigm), so I'd understand if anyone was reluctant to try that.

And for the self respecters, why don't you respect yourself and say no to political oppressors, conformist societies or forceful parents. The ish that really affects your life.

I'd say such a woman (I don't how/why it'd be different for a guy, but I'm observing a pattern) who could be so free, probably respects their individuality/freedom/desires more than you could imagine. No fear of judgement or beliefs, while practicing a natural act.

I am probably worse than anything anyone may think I am. Probably better too. Who gives a shite?

Spoiler: think your parents don't get down and nasty? Jus cos they don't do it in public, doesn't change the fact that they do.

peterphd:
Don't know why people are hating this man for being a heterosexual male with libido.

here is another reason...

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CANNOT be arsed to create a Jumia or OLX account for this...questions? Fire away....

I'm in IB City, but I gets about.

Opinions are like a-holes....we all have one, and we think ours don't stink. Any pendant can correct my grammar if they so wish.

If my sister was married to dude, I would have a lot to atone for....simples.

How she dresses or presents herself, is irrelevant, given the platform and the new social media norms. Not on social media, but I'm sure if she was more over exposed than some of those our youth look up to, the profile pic would be a no-no.

Opinion/paradigm is defined by dated/ancient/binding/restrictive/subservient cultural or religious beliefs.

By the same token, the clown of a man, appears respectable to some, yet, he acts like a depraved sexual predator. Seems 3sty to me. Maybe, the Mrs wasn't putting out, or he didn't wanna put in.

Double standards, much? Sad state of affairs really.

If that was your father, would you defend him? Coward couldn't even gracefully walk away when warned...self inflicted, no sympathy for the weak man.

I welcome any difference of opinion, seeing as I don't give a flying....