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SportsRe: After Mayorga, Two More Women To Step Up With Allegations Against Ronaldo by Herrmes: 9:12pm On Oct 08, 2018
domino4211:
And you know they are accusing him falsely how??
How do we know she's telling the truth?
SportsRe: The Document Cristiano Ronaldo Signed With Katheryn Mayorga by Herrmes: 9:01pm On Oct 08, 2018
Misinformation
LiteratureRe: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by Herrmes: 9:42pm On Sep 24, 2018
Nazae:
The way people voice out their personal opinions and expect people to take on that same mentality is amazing. If bride price to you means that the bride is being sold or otherwise, just keep it to yourself. When you want to marry, do it your own way. Chimamanda Adichie is beginning to misuse the voice she has in the society and it is really bad.
Who is the one saying she's using the voice she has, if it's not those that don't agree with her?
Do you get my point?
LiteratureRe: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by Herrmes: 12:37pm On Sep 24, 2018
Xavier5:
The opinion of one person doesn't warrant the change of cultures and customs of a society okay. If you are so interested in aborting customs, why don't you start from homosexuality to pedophilism to pornography to abortion to nudity and immorality to human sacrifice to jungle justice to corruption and oppression etc
The customs that we should abolish, we aren't abolishing it, rather it is the ones that doesn't need to be abolished, that's the one that needs to be abolished.

Misplaced priorities everywhere.

#Xavier.
Irrespective of how you look at it, there's that part of the man's mind that tells him he's acquiring property and it's a trade when he pays bride price, just to be with a female for the rest of his life and that female with him, females are not property, they don't have to submit, it should be a mutual understanding between the partners on how the relationship is going to proceed, societal laws don't mean anything if they are not made for the benefit of those in the society, the ones that benefit from that particular norm are not the ones who are to be together, otherwise it's just tyranny and a headache, most people don't enjoy doing it, why do it?
LiteratureRe: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by Herrmes: 12:27pm On Sep 24, 2018
Xavier5:
The issue of bride price is a cultural thing. There are societies and cultures that allows/ practice it (African Society) and there are cultures and societies that doesn't allow or permit it (Western Worlds). Coming down to those that allows it, there are cultures and societies that mandates only men to pay bride price (African Society) whereas there are cultures and societies that mandates only women to pay bride price (Indian Society).
So you see, paying of bride price is a cultural thing. If your culture permits you as a man or woman to pay bride price, my friend do it, but if your culture doesn't permit you to pay it, good for you.

The opinion of one person can't change the cultural practice of a society. Because you aren't a fan of it, doesn't mean, they aren't people who aren't fans of it.
If she isn't a fan of bride price, (well that's her opinion), she should deal with it because Cultures and traditions won't change because of her.

I that isn't a fan of homosexualism and that always kicks against it, has that made it to be abolished? Of course not, likewise she not being a fan of bride price payment doesn't mean bride price should be abolished, It is a practice of the African culture and society. Let her deal with it.

I'm a fan of Chimamanda Adichie but sometimes she dey fvck up sha.

#Xavier.
World is moving and changing bro, her opinion might not change anything rn, but it's a seed, will provoke thought in a lot of people then it turns to action, next thing we're deliberating on how to abolish bride price, because I'm sure there are people that her opinion resonates with, let me not get ahead of myself.
HealthRe: Dangerous Habits That Can Damage Your Liver by Herrmes: 10:58am On Sep 24, 2018
If I hear
FamilyRe: "If My Mom Slaps You & You Slap Back, I Will Beat You Blue & Black " - Man by Herrmes: 12:20am On Sep 19, 2018
My mother cannot strike my wife, if she does then, I will have to punish her, and apease my wife, if it were another person's mom, I will retaliate ASAP and very violently.
Music/RadioRe: There Were Rappers By Adewale GP by Herrmes: 11:34am On Sep 17, 2018
Nigga ain't put Nas, WTF...
FamilyRe: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by Herrmes: 1:39pm On Sep 13, 2018
Debra911:
ohh, sorry, as if I know someone will yet say "the Bible beginning" NL no dey tire for arguments
Just keep it real.
FamilyRe: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by Herrmes: 1:38pm On Sep 13, 2018
cvibe2:
If you are waiting to be influential before your wife can change her name to your's then she probably wears the trouser in your marriage.
Name changing has nothing to do with the trouser wearing bro, and you misunderstood that guy's post, some women are the bread winners and still bear their husband's name, tell me, according to you, who wears the trousers in that marriage?
Responsibility, that's what trouser wearing is about, to this age feminists, the name changing, has to be a thing of equality, and they also have a problem with patriarchy, which is okay...
FamilyRe: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by Herrmes: 1:23pm On Sep 13, 2018
Debra911:
In the beginning God created Adam b4 eve, I think feminist needs to accept this natural phenomenon. No matter how we ladies wail, it can't change 'the beginning' I'm still wondering why God never created Eve first if actually he knows women will be the one to carry 90% of Child upbringing?
In the bible beginning...
FamilyRe: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by Herrmes: 1:05pm On Sep 13, 2018
TroubleMaker47:
Rubbish talk!
I have said it severally that ALL feminists have mental problem!

To all the feminists out there!!!
Why are you bothered about it?
CelebritiesRe: Genevieve Nnaji Speaks On CNN About ‘Lionheart’ Acquisition By Netflix by Herrmes: 5:16pm On Sep 12, 2018
Afam4eva:
The importance is that before now, they never bought any Nigerian movie and they paid some money for it too.
Who controls the profit?
PoliticsRe: Omoyele Sowore Tear-Gassed At Ooni Of Ife's Palace For Refusing To Prostrate by Herrmes: 10:52am On Sep 11, 2018
hakeem4:
he should have prostrated to avoid issues.

when you are in rome you must behave like a roman
Must? More like should.
PoliticsRe: Homosexuality Is A Crime In Nigeria And Ought To Remain So - Donald Duke by Herrmes: 4:07am On Sep 04, 2018
jchioma:
It is against the divine principle of marriage and procreation.
Guy, what is the divine principle of marriage and procreation?
Can you explain the concept?
PoliticsRe: Homosexuality Is A Crime In Nigeria And Ought To Remain So - Donald Duke by Herrmes: 3:58am On Sep 04, 2018
Mariangeles:
Let us stay behind THANK YOU!
ONLY GOD SEES THE END FROM THE BEGINNING...
Even nature is against homosexuality 'cause it's a threat to procreation
The Western World would soon know the consequences of their decision to allow perversion and then realize that they were not wise afterall
Is that what nature told you? That's it's a threat to procreation? Did nature ever explain to you too why it happens, while you're at it?
CelebritiesRe: Rosey Meurer: Rumours Of Me Plotting To Marry Churchill, Baseless by Herrmes: 6:18pm On Sep 01, 2018
She's dope.
TravelRe: Canada's Refugee Board Makes It Harder For Nigerians To Be Granted Asylum by Herrmes: 8:12am On Aug 23, 2018
Deservedly so, I'm afraid.
PoliticsRe: Benjamin O'Keefe Calls Obianuju Ekeocha "A Joke Of A Black Person". She Replies by Herrmes: 5:08pm On Aug 22, 2018
chineloSA:
Yet you were colonised, enslaved, so many injustices done against your race and you tell me about one human race.

You are a joke of a Black person they are referring to grin grin
You preach love in your previous posts on this thread then turn around and say something like this, what is really the problem?
There's sense in what he said
Christianity EtcRe: Woman Who Used To Go To Church 3 Times A Week, Stops After Visiting UK by Herrmes: 6:31pm On Aug 21, 2018
hopefulLandlord:
Hmm thanks for the compliment but I'm certain that I've changed minds on this platform. several people have sent PM talking about how my posts are shaking their faith. many Nairalanders have opened threads saying that reading my posts are what started their journey to enlightenment

I believe there are many more like that who probably didn't send PM nor opened threads
All the best
Christianity EtcRe: Woman Who Used To Go To Church 3 Times A Week, Stops After Visiting UK by Herrmes: 6:17pm On Aug 21, 2018
hopefulLandlord:
Work without faith works

faith without works is failure

why have faith then? why not just skip faith altogether and just work?
You try too hard, not criticising you, your efforts aren't appreciated enough.
CelebritiesRe: Linda Ikeji Poses With Her Parents In Atlanta As They Await The Arrival Of J's by Herrmes: 9:08am On Aug 20, 2018
niceprof:
Money can even buy conscience and make people throw away moral values.No matter who is involved,pregnancy outside wedlock should not be celebrated,especially by parents who should know better.
Whose morals? I think we have had enough shaming from society to recognise that life has no manual. And not every one is inclined to listen to what the bible says.
CelebritiesRe: Tonto Dikeh Reacts To Sex With Pastor Shepherd Bushiri. Releases Whatsapp Chats by Herrmes: 11:50pm On Aug 18, 2018
Scene hoe
CelebritiesRe: Wizkid, Burna Boy Crown Nasty C As “The Best Rapper In Africa” by Herrmes: 10:13am On Aug 17, 2018
Shane Eagle for me.
CelebritiesRe: Toke Makinwa Releases Another Topless Photo, Fans Blast Her Again by Herrmes: 3:37pm On Aug 15, 2018
Those eyes are too clear...
SportsRe: AS Roma Signs Steven Nzonzi From Sevilla (Photos) by Herrmes: 3:36pm On Aug 15, 2018
Monchi is working
RomanceRe: How Do I Tell A Friend To Stop Bringing Girls To Have Sex In My Apartment? by Herrmes: 12:02am On Aug 13, 2018
mhd5757:
I don't even see how this is a problem, my friend also brings girls to my place and I don't mind, I just let them use the spare bedroom.
You this op you are a difficult person even me that I am an introvert I don't mind.

I think your problem is that you are feeling left out that you friend is getting some sweet Ass while you are there with your dick in your hand not getting any. So why not get a girl for yourself too and bring her over. That way, you will no longer feel left out.
WTF? In his house?
CelebritiesRe: ”Staying In An Abusive Marriage Cos Of Financial Gain Is Lame” - Toke Makinwa by Herrmes: 3:16pm On Aug 10, 2018
chriskosherbal:
it may or it may not depending on the circumstances and the official you are dealing with at that point in time .

However, my best advice is for you to go to court to swear an affidavit to back up your claim in case of incasity, you cant tell.. undecided

Goodluck to you..

Meanwhile.... in response to the above topic yes it is good women should be financially independent especially in case of emergency, be that as it may, toke should not coerced a woman who has 5 children for a man to leave the home just like that there are other ways this type of thing can be taken care of..

No home is free of one disagreement or the other , no one is promoting domestic violence here, but we must also put into cognizance the emotional and psychological damage the split will do to thier children..I swear it must have a negative toll on thier future. ..

Nevertheless, men should learn to love thier wives ( even though we don't know the Genesis of it and we have not heard from the man too) and women should learn to respect thier husband ( a very rare case with most of this modern day ladies. ..except when cash many huh ).

In conclusion I hope we are not here for another feminist episode cos we know you toke ..


Peace ..
No you don't know her, you just pretend you do.
No abusive marriage is worth it, if it's the female getting abused she should leave, its not even worth fixing, cause almost never stops...
CelebritiesRe: ”Staying In An Abusive Marriage Cos Of Financial Gain Is Lame” - Toke Makinwa by Herrmes: 3:15pm On Aug 10, 2018
srclark:
This one should stfu leave one man and still have to depend on another man after leaving the first one just like she depends on married men and peoples fathers .We need more of marriage counselling in these country not going to family members and pastors or older couples the church should employ real counsellors and the government also ,then couples should not wait till trouble comes before visiting the counsellor it should be a regular stuff maybe monthly
Marriage is not worth it.
Car TalkRe: 2019 BMW M2 Competition Arrives With 410 Horsepower (photos And Details) by Herrmes: 3:08pm On Aug 10, 2018
Too muscular not elegant enough but I think that's the idea...
CelebritiesRe: BBNaija's Gifty Shares Bedroom Underwear Photos by Herrmes: 10:29am On Aug 06, 2018
Adakintroy:
Why don't you read before you comment. I said " I was speaking from my own understanding".

Yet you still saying speak for yourself. Na wah!
And I said speak for yourself.
CelebritiesRe: BBNaija's Gifty Shares Bedroom Underwear Photos by Herrmes: 4:36am On Aug 06, 2018
Adakintroy:
No one is lieing or telling the truth here. We are talking about sense. As in right sensing.

Let me break it down in my own understanding. Permitt me.

When it's all said and done, we not whites. And our idealogy of life is not fitted completely from absolute freedom. We are very cultural people. Thats why we still do traditional weddings despite everything we have come to accept of western culture.

We are watching too many television. Make no mistake we are not there yet as regarding this life. Any girl or guy who gets too carried away with this life. Will just be wasting precious time. Cus he will still need to come back here and start all over. By that time his/mates would have left long time ago.
Speak for yourself.

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