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Cheating as a form infidelity can cause you a lot. It can change your orientation about your new partner.

It is completely confusing to discover that your partner has violated your trust. You begin to question the whole relationship, struggle with feelings that you are not good enough and especially ask yourself if the damage may or may not be repaired.

One thing that can offer you at least a bit of comfort? If they have cheated and deceived you, you are not the only one. In fact, in 1/3 of marriages, one or both couples have committed some cheating during their relationship.

Although there are innumerable articles that encourage you to leave your unfaithful partner, there are also ways to help you in case you decide to try your relationship a second time. Many individuals have fallen into abusive relationships.

After all, if Beyonce and Jay-Z could do it, why not? If you have decided to stay with your partner after being deceived, you must know what is needed to heal.

Read on to discover how to rebuild a relationship after cheating.
Take some time to separate yourself
If you discover that you have been deceived, this can lead to severe disputes between you and your partner.

These fights stop being productive quickly. As soon as that happens, they will make cruel turns that can make it much harder for you to move on. If you still live or spend time together in the same environment, you may want to consider leaving. It will be impossible to resist the temptation to cut your partner or ask for forgiveness.

Whether they cheat you or you are cheating, you must lose yourself and your partner for a few days.

First, you can purify your mind. Second, you can request the support and advice of your friends. It will also help you get away from a toxic environment. So book that Airbnb dreams or spend a few nights on your friend’s couch.

Consider Counseling
Improving communication with your partner after being deceived is one of the most important things you can do to heal.
To ensure that both parties are heard and that problematic questions are dealt with fairly, it is a good idea to have a therapist as a mediator and give objective advice.

If you want to find local therapists in your area, you can search online or ask your friends if they know someone who can help you.

Remember that cheating is often caused by underlying problems in your relationship. It may even be the result of your partner’s emotional imbalance. It is essential to address these problems immediately if you want to rebuild trust. You should be careful of partners you choose, read here, 12 types of men you should not date.

Resist The Urge To Smell
20% of men go through texts and photos in a relationship. If they deceive you, the desire to spy on your partner can be incredibly strong. Although it may be satisfying or offer a sense of relief if you do not find anything, it is important to think big.

Remember that spying on your partner indicates a serious lack of confidence. If you want to continue with infidelity, you have to learn again how to trust your partner.

This starts with resisting the urge to check your messages on social networks.

Do not forget that it is a process
If it goes well with your partner, it can be tempting to throw the past through the window and return to your previous routines. It can also be a challenge to stay if the changes you want to see do not happen soon enough.

Give your partner the opportunity to improve and give yourself time to heal. Remember that recovery after infidelity is a process. If you treat it like a race, both lose.

IsYou:
OP please add graphic pictures next time.

Instagram model, Symba took to Insta-live to flaunt her curves while wearing a two piece bikini.

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Hey Hubby I know u smiling down on us like yea u did ya thing yesterday! I know u proud of me Babe I did not cry at all I stayed strong through it all! I felt like u were right there with me the whole time I smiled from ear to ear feeling ya presence! I just wish I can see your smile again like u saw mine but baby I’m telling u I felt u by my side every step of the way! I was just there to make u proud! I’m going to take good care of our son!
I can’t wait baby we have a couple more days I can’t wait!

Chika Adaobi Anumudu: It is not plastic fish please…. Sometimes when you catch a mammy water that turned to a fish, It’s usually very difficult for it to cook fast. Except you pray and add a little anointing oil. Stop accusing supermarkets abeg. It’s not their fault.

Ikechukwu Ebubeogu: that is the main reason why Nigeria will lock their car wit remote and still check it with their hands to know if its truly locked. any tin can

Jeremiah Ike: What is this world becoming into we have fake everything including human beings as dull but well in blood igbos are linked to Israel while in business I think igbos are related to China.

Shofowora Olamilekan Micheal: Just thank God u didn’t eat it or else u would have become Male Sex Doll full with rubber ��. But this country self ehn,we have seen it all.

THIS WICKED LAGOS STATE PASTOR OF ASSEMBLIES OF GOD WILL SOON BE EXPOSED BY ME

An Assemblies of God pastor in Lagos State, Pastor Charles, from Anambra State, is heartlessly maltreating a choir member in his Church, of about 19years, that was deflowered and impregnated by his son of about 26 years.

He rejected the girl, in collaboration with his wife and shamelessly suggested that the girl should be sent to the village to stay there and give birth. He insisted that his son will never have anything to do with the girl, because his son will still further his education.

To worsen the whole issue, he suggested that the guardian of the girl should look for any woman that will be using her fingers to widen the private part of the pregnant girl to enable her undergo easy delivery, or, the girl will be using her own fingers on her body frequently. In another words, he is systematically leading the young girl into lesbianism and masturbation.

I will post the phone number of the pastor, his surname, the branch of the Church he pastors in Lagos, the name of his son, the name of his wife and the name of his village, if after the meeting he will have with the family of the girl on Saturday yields no fruit.

Meanwhile, the pastor only announced last Sunday that his son will start occupying back seat in the Church for committing fornication, without giving full details of what his son did.

May God have mercy on the hypocritical generation of Christians, especially the so called men of God we have in our present day.

I love GOD, I love CHRIST, I love CHRISTIANITY, but I have lots of issues with a lot of my fellow CHRISTIANS, because of their hypocritical life styles.

SEQUEL TO MY PREVIOUS PUBLICATION ABOUT THE SON OF AN ASSEMBLIES OF GOD PASTOR THAT DEFLOWERED AND IMPREGNATED A YOUNG CHURCH MEMBER, I WILL BE LIVING BY MY WORDS, AS I EARLIER PROMISED THAT IF THE MEETING DID NOT GO WELL, I WILL EXPOSE THEM.

The meeting actually held yesterday, but the pastor only accepted to give her some money for antenatal tomorrow, Monday. In the meeting, he (the pastor) deliberately ensured his son did not attend. He did not say anything about marrying the girl or giving her shelter before and after delivery.

If after the next meeting, he refuses to walk on the path of honour, I will publish every thing about him. I already have all the information I need about them in my archive.

But for now, I will post the picture of the randy son of the pastor. His name is Uche Rienne.

NOTE: I am not judging or blaming him for getting the girl pregnant. What I am against is the way and manner he, his father who happens to be a pastor and his mother who is know as “mummy church” are treating the poor girl.

If they are not ready to marry the girl, then, let them create a conducive environment for the girl to give birth. Also, they need to give the girl the best medical attention to a certain if there is any damage caused by the several failed abortion attempts the boy secretly carried out on the girl.

Meanwhile, I just learnt that the girl just gained admission into the university before the randy boy deflowered and impregnated her. No one is forcing the boy to marry the girl, but he need to do the right thing, especially to enable the girl continue with her education, undaunted by the pregnancy.

FINALLY, I have the phone number of the boy and that of his father with me. I will make them public in my next post if they fail to comply. I will also go as far as getting that of his mother, so that you can ask her how she will feel as a woman, if her her sister or grand daughter is treated the way they are treating the poor girl. She has only male children.

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The joyful tears flowed freely, as the fiance of a Nigerian lady identified as Jennifer Uzuakpundu, proposed to her, with a car.

The excited Nigerian lady wrote on Facebook;
Yesterday was the height of it, who God done bless,no man can curse, Wen people are happy celebrate with them Wen men are casting down,God is lifting up.

However the engaged lady’s revealed that she got a car from her fiance too;
I cannot come n carry last for dis one ooh Issanengagementcarsomething Congrats baby girl, u deserve d best

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NaijaTechGuy:
Let me drop this one

elvischukie:
mine is simple

designVATExcel:
Mine got bad few weeks ago, how I get dre beats this valentine.

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Some Nigerians have condemned the Big Brother Naija (BBN) show saying it is a profitable show, but a cause for alarm.

The third season tagged “Double Wahala,” commenced some weeks ago with 20 contestants competing for a N45 million prize and a brand new SUV.

Some of the viewers of the programme told newsmen that the show was “an insult to their intelligence as it promotes immorality among contestants.”

They condemned how the housemates were kissing each other as if they had been legitimately being married.

Mrs Olabisi Afolabi, a mother of two teenagers said, “BBNaija becomes addictive when one indulges in watching it.

“I always engage my children in productive activities while the show is on. “My children are under eighteen. They should not be exposed to anything that is pornographic in nature.”

For Abimbola Coker, BBNaija shows should be censored by government approved regulatory agencies to remove all obscene portions before transmitting it for public consumption.

“Obscenity and nudity become rampant in the show and such should not be encouraged in our society.” According to Samson Ogunsunlade, “BBN has shaped the perspectives of youths to glamorize or embrace unethical and immoral scenes as if it is a convention. “It is an avenue to make fast money without meritorious cause and a perverse drama costumed with the facade called ‘entertainment’.”

Some viewers said that the organisers of the show should improve on its organisation to make it more educative because many teenagers were watching either legally or illegally.

“A balance should be created between fun and depth.” They, while comparing the 2018 show with the 2017 edition with the theme ” See Gobe”, said that the 2018 show had not been entertaining enough.

This is the second week the show kicked off and many Nigerians had said that it was not entertaining enough.
Cassandra Smith, a banker, said that the housemates were not serious and it appeared that they were more interested in catching some fun in the house than winning the whopping prize money of N45 million.

She said they looked unambitious and were attending to issues nonchalantly referring to when the housemates lost their wager in their first week in the house. “The housemates are not serious, they are there to entertain us, and they are not doing anything serious that compared to the housemates from the 2017 edition. “They should be made to sit up and entertain the viewers because that is the essence of the show,” she said.

Also, Hope Samson, an Accounting student of University of Lagos said that Biggy’s voice which was one of the endearing factors to the show was not audible enough. Samson said that Biggy’s voice was a brand on its own and wondered why such loud and baritone voice would be changed this year to such that was not audible enough.

“Biggy’s voice should be as clear and audible as that of 2017 because we see that voice as an attraction to watch the show,’’ she said.

Mr Alao Lawal said that the scrolling pad on the television screen was not clear enough for viewers to read comments. “ To me, the show has been interesting, mostly at night during their daily task but the information pad on the screen has very tiny characters which make it difficult to read through except one moves closer to the television screen. “I expect that this should be improved on,” he said.

Elizabeth Afolabi, a staff member with a courier service said that the show had been boring as only a handful of the housemates had been entertaining so far. Afolabi advised Biggy to work on them so that they would be themselves and stop being pretentious.

“In my own opinion, I am always finding the show boring each time I watch it because I feel the housemates are still pretending to be what they are not. ” Biggy should think of more tasking activities that will force them to bring out their true persons,” she said.

Mr John Ayilara said that the show should inculcate educative activities and minimise obscene scenes which could influence children negatively. “I see no sense in watching something that will not influence me positively and my children will not be able to come and join me to watch. “Indecent scenes should be avoided so that when children switch on the television set on their own, they should not be welcomed with immoral acts, ” he said. NAN

Atlantia:
I got the audio from a whatsapp group a few minutes ago. No picture, just a warning and the audio.
I don't know what to believe anymore.

xty50:
This picture has been going round since 2011 after buhari lost election that year to jonathan.

GreenArrow1:
Okay. So what exactly, should we do with this information?

LifeIsGuhd:
Awwwn,
I really like how close they are...