U are asking fullish Q(sorry to say, didn't mean 2 insult u), by asking what u suppose to be the next thing u suppose to do. May be u don't know sha abi u know but because love don blind u, u know wan to be sincere with urself. U beter close yah eyes n make the best decision for urself.
ok, may be u dont know, let me remind u , next thin is to rrrrrrrruuuuuuuuunnnnnnnn for ur HAPPINESS.

@ Poster
I strongly believe in given reasons for someone to something rather than forcing it on him/her. Why nt jst sit her up n discuss ur reasons n what she stand to benefit with her. Who knows she could reason with u n settle for a favorable conclusion.
Don't forget love doesn't,

@ Poster
3 things are good here
1. dt u understand his situation
2. dt u know he hate to be pity
3. dt u wont to be there for him
Hw i wish ur boyfriend could ve access to this site n read tru dis thread so dt he can be aware of ur sincere love to make this work in ur relationship n hw glad u would be to see him happy n in good mode again.
U dont do wat he hates lik piting him, show him ur care n also show care to his mother as much as possible lik pay her a visit alone (if possible) n do things dt u know ur guy love most i mean dt turns him on. Don't forget, u can only try to help him gain his happiness so if u tried all n nothing work don't be disappointed just give him a space (time) to recover.
Don't 4get, Cancer has no cure yet.

good luck.

@ Poster
I tell u to me u've raised an issue, and the most touching in ur post is "It was very sweet, wishing him luck in life and all the good things I'll miss about him,". I tell you at this stage of life or time goodbye is not easy to say to someone u still love but want to part way with due to one reason or the other (we think we can't cope with).

So many things may be responsible for the silence of your so called "Ex", smone may be confusing/disturbing him from responding and who knows may be the poor guy has not check his mail box for some times now due to one reason or the other or He may be finding it difficult to respond to your GOODBYE message just like me.

Someone once said "GOODBYE is the most difficult word to say" which I strongly agree with because I have two Ex. which we never say GOODBYE to each other b4 goin our separate ways due to the memories of our "When going is good" and we are friends till now.

I tell you GOODBYE is not easy to say and it may be his reason for remaining silence.

@ poster

True talk! You have a good and reasonable point.
But "Ise lo se da se, Owo o se da na".

@ Poster.

I will attribute your reaction to her as a human being, infact good number of African men would do worse. But you can never tell who is who until you find yourself in the same shoe.

But why do you thing she told you her past before getting married to you?
I think she did dt Just in case if something like this happen so won't be caught unaware (Abi don' t you think so ?) and once you agree to proceed in your marring her it mean you are ready to cope and bear whatever the outcome of her past is with her. So why are you backsliding? why looking back at the time she needs you most? Have you forgotten "Its for better for worse, for , ?"

So I will advice you to go and resolve the issue with her. Don't forget that God didn't give reason or room for divorce. So its a sin against God.

May God forgive you for all you have done to her.

And please reach a conclusion/agreement with her that is the only way she can have her trust back in you (By making your intension for calling her back known to her).

I pray that as you are doing this God will help you.
Cheer and good luck.

PHCN Staff, what are you waiting for? Striiiicccckkkkkkk!!!!!!! (M.F.M)

Hi friend, I want to agree to the fact that you ve not been commited simply because you ve not found whom you really love.
Ibet you if you, by the time you found one you will surely committ yourself because you wont want her to go or hurt her.
Gud luck brother.

Guy I bet u, u ve pinch ladies here n dont expect dem to respond friendly to ur post.

Anyway, pls remain urself n keep on searching with time u will find her.
Pls don't be discourage, keep seaching, !

Gudluck

shacky u are very lucky n i say congratulations.

On which to chose.
From my own perspective (because i ve people working in both companies specifically. i ve an Uncle in 1st Inland Bank and my boss is also one of NB managers) i will advice u to go for Nigeria Brewries Plc. Although both could be time cunsuming at times but i can tell u that Bank is more time consuming unlike NB though occasionally n ur position in NB will determine hw busy u wil be n also determine d kind of treatment of receive. Besides NB is not just a company dt anything can just happen to its too standard for dt unlike Banks. I THINK NB IS D PLACE TO BE FOR ANY1 DT HAS D OPPURTUNITY.
May God guild u through ur decision.

Nice contributions 4m diffrent perspective.

I can tell u boldly that i'm a victm of dis topic.
And my story,
when i was in skol in my very 1st semester, i had a friend n we are very special n found of each other plantonically. But my friends didn't believe there was nothing btw us because of our closeness. Immediatly we sight each other we leave wateva we may be doin to give each other miximum attension, esply wen either of us look dull or not happy. We were like dt for good 2yrs. But 1 thing led to another in d 3yr which propel me to approach her on my birthday outing and she put me on hold (lik a mobile phone) 4 sme month prcisely d followed Valentine day. And eva since den she has been being my only conforter among human being. I love her endlessly infact unexpresingly n vise versa. And God willing we are ending up in marriage because she has all i want in a woman.


And to dis end i will say there is no big deal in it infact if u will not say it because i'm a victim, i will say dts hw it should be sincere all dt everybody want in his/her relationship or marriage is happiness, joy and happy home. And where or who else can offer u dis other dan smeone u call a special friend dt understand u beta dan any other person.
If u can't marry ur friend who else do u want to marry? ur Enermy or a Stranger? Don't 4get a relationship has to start 4m smewhere.


Good luck!

Nice contributions 4m diffrent perspective.

I can tell u boldly that i'm a victm of dis topic.
And my story,
when i was in skol in my very 1st semester, i had a friend n we are very special n found of each other plantonically. But my friends didn't believe there was nothing btw us because of our closeness. Immediatly we sight each other we leave wateva we may be doin to give each other miximum attension, esply wen either of us look dull or not happy. We were like dt for good 2yrs. But 1 thing led to another in d 3yr which propel me to approach her on my birthday outing and she put me on hold (lik a mobile phone) 4 sme month prcisely d followed Valentine day. And eva since den she has been being my only conforter among human being. I love her endlessly infact unexpresingly n vise versa. And God willing we are ending up in marriage because she has all i want in a woman.


And to dis end i will say there is no big deal in it infact if u will not say it because i'm a victim, i will say dts hw it should be sincere all dt everybody want in his/her relationship or marriage is happiness, joy and happy home. And where or who else can offer u dis other dan smeone u call a special friend dt understand u beta dan any other person.
If u can't marry ur friend who else do u want to marry? ur Enermy or a Stranger? Don't 4get a relationship has to start 4m smewhere.


Good luck!

vexxy:

How did he get home? Does he smell like another woman? Does he smell like sex? If someone robbed him, what do they look like? Where did it occur? What time did this happen? How long was he at the grocery store (if he was ever there)?

All questions I would ask myself and him before making a judgment.

U must be a member of FBI.

@ Poster
There wont be confusion in dis issue if he has been known to be a flirter or cheater b/4 . If not or neva caught in such act b4 den, then there may be confusion .
All tings been equal, his facial appearance will go along way in drawing d conclusion.

I love guys we too get sweet mouth esp. for a thrend like dis. Even if u wish n ready to withness d delivery don't u think dt nurses won't allow n let u in.

Guys lets not deceive ourself, if u withness d moment with ur wife in d labour room n u sincerely love her, u will neva wish her in dt room for d rest of her life (n u know watdt means) because u will believe its an incident dt should happen to ur enermy n ur enermy alone.


Infact u will thank God for not bein a woman, i tell u.
Ladies u ve a work to do,  a u ready? bt dont be scared, it's well.

I'm talkin from experience although not married yet. 

@ Poster

I think it should be said by both sex but it may be at diferent time or diferent locations as dey may wish.
Simply because both of dem has to seek each others consent n reaply positively for d relationship to be successful n peaceful.

Orikinla:

I am 100% behind Governor Fashola.

I have been in Lagos since the day I was born and I have been very active socially with the poorest of the poor and with the richest of the rich. From # 28, Obalende Road, in Obalende, to Muliner Towers in Ikoyi, Lagos. From Shomolu to Victoria Island and to Ikeja G.R.A. From Omo Iya Alakara to the daughter of the Minster of Communications, I have dated all the datetables babes and ladies. So, I am going to say the truth.

Only girls who are hawkers dress like prostitutes.

Prostitutes and armed robbers are regular bed fellows.

They should be arrested and sent to rehab.

Yah, Orikinla I can see dt u are a typical Lagos boy anyway we a same therefore I strongly surpport u and in addition if 20% of dem a not prostitute den dey ve smethins in common for arresting dem togther.

@ Poster
there is dis sociologist saying which says "ur freedom stop at the nose of others" i.e. wen ur freedom begins to make others unconfortable den ur freedom should be teminated at dt point.
and if u will agree wit me dis rude dressin is really increasing d no of rapist in own society n dey ve been penalise 4 wat dey were lured into due to others careless dressing.
So pls Gov. Fashola countinue d good work.

@ Post

My guy, if u ve doubt on taken any dengerious decision like dis d best thing is 2 forget it.

And if u really want to let her go dis is not d best time to discharge her u look forward to another excuse to nail her to d cross but not at dis moment dt d case is still hot (i guess).

But 1 tin is clear; u want to know? U A NOT COMPATIBLE.

Dont forget nobody will be there 2 face d consequnces for u if u end up marring her n she begins to pay for her miss deed.

Be wise pls.
good luck

@ Post

Dts a good research work.
But as for me oo, i dont stop babies from crying n because i love the sound itself wen dey are crying. i mean i do enjoy it.