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My hubby is my next of kin in life insurance, account and everything that requires a next of kin and vice versa

I ahd my first child almost 4 yrs ago.

The 9 months of pregnancy was a breeze, no complications. I was excited all through until the 9months when I knew the baby would be coming anytime.
Watched discovery health channel every day of women going into labor and giving birth, Made me very nervous, sometimes I cried but always assured myself all would be well (I consoled myself by saying 'if my mum could go through this 5 different times, I can do it as well').
Labor started in the middle of the night at 11pm, but I really was not sure it was it until 2am when I could not ignore the pain, Unfortunately I was the only one home, my hubby was on his way back from NY attending his sisters' wedding. I called him and he was 30 mins away, Called my dad ( a retired MD in Nigeria) and he was literally timing my contractions on the phone as we spoke, he finally asked me to call my doctor because my contractions were 5 mins apart and miraculosly my hubby made it home in 15mins as oppsed to 30mins (he came with the police behind him. He was speeding all thru and the police tried to pull him over but he did not stop until he got to the house.) He then told them his wife was in labor and when they saw me, they helped get me to the car and we were on our way to the hopsital.

The drive to the hospital was most memorable, I cried and screamed when the contractions started and made jokes and laughed with my hubby in between (he was cracking the jokes). I saw him wipe his eyes twice during the ride ( he was trearing up seeing me in pain).
Got to the hospital, on epidural and some meds, gosh it was like heaven on earth, still in pain but the meds took the edge off. I prayed for my hubby during this time and thanked him for his love and care (he told me all this, I really didn't remember cos I was doped from the meds). I had labored for 13 hrs. My son peeped into the world with his body still inside of me, his shouldres were stuck and as the doctor asked me to push, I told him I couldn't my husban knelt down beside me and pleaded to try to push 1 last time, he told me I could do it, he gve me the courage to suck up the pain and push. Finally had my son at 1pm Saturday afternoon a week before Xmas (naming was on xmas day). He was beautiful, i cried as I saw my hubby cut the umbilical cord, he was gorgeous at 6lbs 10oz.

All went well could I not sit properly for a week because it still hurt a lil down there, but everytime I saw my childs' face, I KNEW IT WAS WORTH IT. I took him to the Ped, everytime he had a lil sneeze, cough or temperature. After visting the pediatrician almost every day for 2 weeks straight, they asked me to call a nurse line before comign in ( I guess they didnt want to see me anymore lol).

My son will be 4 in a month now, grown up to be a God loving, handsome bobo like his dad.

mohawkchic:
[color=#006600]~It's My Wedding Anniversary today y'll & am feeling that special inner glow as i reflect on our marriage,i think of the dreams i've shared & still share w/ my hubby!!Am all loved up Today!!

Happy anniversary mohawkchic many more happy and fulfilled years to come.

Talk to your OBGYN, Please DO NOT self medicate. You could ruin your chances of conceiving later or worst the meds could kill you.

Make sure you are doing this for the right reasons, Remember you have a say in this too. If you say ur child is now 1 he will be 1yr and 9months (almost 2yrs old)when you have this baby. Don't abort because he is making you do it. Afterall it's your body and you have a say. The deicision should not be onesided. However make sure if anything should happen between you and your hubby and u split ( because of his behavior) you can fend for yourself and the children. The Ultimate decision is yours.

If you decide to abort PLEASE Next time use protection, birth control boku for market oh.

I feel ur pain, had the same issue with my older son.

Take a day off work, the night prior, make sure he is fed close to his bedtime so you know he isn't hungry.

Let him cry and it out, he will be fine, Just make sure not to give in. Once u do, it will never ever end and become more difficult for you to wean him off it. The most difficult part will be letting him cry it out because it hurts parents to hear their children cry but you will have to do this to get him off it. He will understand this paci is not coming back and fall asleep, FYI he may cry again the 2nd night oh, but just keep at it, in time (less than 5 days hopefully) he will forget it. Make sure you don't let him even suck on it during the day time.
Good luck

Outstrip I feel you jare, My case is almost the same. Sometimes I wish I could just pack up my things and move back to Nigeria where i know for sure I can get help.
There is nothing wrong in getting a helping had takign care of your kids. Below is my familys' Mon-Friday routine

In my case, I am a professional as well as my husband. I cannot give up my career because I loveeeee my job, At the same time I love my kids so I have to make things work.
My hubby leaves for work at 430am so he can leave early to get the children from daycare and kindergarten at 230pm.
I wake the kids up at 5am (If I had a househelp, they would not have to wake up until 630am which means they just lost another 1.5hr of sleep (hence why they go to bed early to make up for it)., then I give them a bath, make breakfast (cereal and milk 5 days a week cos I dont have time for fancy breakfast) and while they are eating I take my 5-7mins shower and get dressed for work.
This is between yelling at them from the shower to make sure they eat their food (3.5yr old and a 2yr old) because I don't have the time to monitor them as I have to get myself ready as well. I finally drop them off at 730am and get to work at 8am.

My hubby pick them up at 230pm, gets home and cooks lunch, helps with the 3.5yr old with homework if any while I get home at 530pm.
Most times, we have dinner at 6pm, my children go to bed at 8pm so inbetween those times, we have to spend time with them, talk about school, clean the house, wash school uniforms and get our clothes ironed and laid out for the next day. At this point you can see it in both our faces that we are tired and retire to bed at the same time as the children (keep in mind that we still want to have some grown up time as well so we may end up finally sleeping at almost midnight and then start the routine again).

If I were in Niger, I will most definitely have a househelp to do my housework and even still take the younger one to daycare while the older one goes to nursery school. Keep in mind that Daycare also helps your children start interacting with other children early by learning the simple things like sharing and been self composed. There is nothing, absolutely nothing wrong in having a houselhelp you pay to help you around the house, That will be a dream come true for me.

My husband is my bestfriend. There is nothing I cannot tell him.
I never have to pretend with him.
We understand and compliment each others weaknesses.
Even when we fight or argue, we always find a way to compromise.
He is not the romantic guy but his ways of showing me love has non in comparison.
When I dress up, he does not tell me I look beautiful but I can see it all in his eyes and it makes me feel like a sisi eko looking HOT .
We text each other during the day and call just to say hello even when we really have nothing to say.
He spends time with the children and they love him to death.
We are like twins, when he is upset, my day crumbles until we resolve issues and vice versa.
We have been married for 9yrs and have never let the sun set on our anger to each other.
He travels and takes me out even when he just wants to be home.
He puts the childrens needs and mine ahead of his ALWAYS.
He makes me feel like a partner and I RESPECT him for that.
He is my first love and my only love (God being supreme).
Honestly I don't know what my life would be without him. I am the bone of his bone, the flesh of his flesh and the rib from his body. WE ARE ONE FOR LIFE.

I am sure when the poster said 150k per annum as a good salary, that would be in terms of $ not Naira.

As per biological clock ticking, it will be in her mid thirties and some women have children much later than that even though the doctors advice it is better to have children earlier due to some birth defects, however there are still women who have put career first and child bearing until later which stil works out freat for them.

It should be her choice, not anybody elses choice as to when to start having children, at least she has to find a husband first now abi? She will be the one to take care of the child and go through with the pregnancy so she does nto need any pressure, There is always the option of adopting (too many children in this world without parents). Maybe isn't even the married type, maybe she does not intend to. I know most Nigeria relatives will frown upon that idea but whatever happens happens. It is her decision.

Nigeria sha, o ga o sad story. Too bad for the girl @ 15

The crazy part in this story is the arrest of the boyfriend, what has that got to do with the suicide? It is a tragedy that she got her heart broken which happens everyday. Nigerian Police God will help us.