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viperman:
Take her back and pass time with her while you watch out for a matured woman.
Anybody that cheats on u to your knowing and dumps you afterwards has no regard for your heart. If all went well with her and her 'sugar daddy' she wouldn't be back begging you.
She only came back cuz her first choice didn't workout. You are her second choice, her back-up plan, her fallback-man, her Mr available, the one she just wants to manage.
You are better than that.
So take her back and just place her where she belongs in ur life - in the temporary girlfriend category.

dang that was sooooo right. Couldn't have said it any better.
@ Poster, you are better than that, let her go. You don't need a woman to manage you. No one should ever be in marriage with someone who is your 2nd choice. You need a woman who will make you her FIRST and ONLY choice just as you would make her your as well.
Stay blessed

ibrokay:
Daddy ke,he will use your money to marry another wive,and mothers are closer to the child.

ROFLMAO, but that is soooo true. I am married now so my Hubby is my next of kin, when my first child becomes an adult, i will switch it to him.

Babies
Couple Has Black and White Twins – Again!
Originally posted Saturday January 03, 2009 12:45 PM EST
From left: Alison Spooner, Hayleigh holding Leah, Lauren holding Miya, and Dean Durrant

Photo by: Solent News & Photo Agency
A mixed-race couple has wowed Britain with a set of twins, one black and one white – for the second time.

Dean Durrant, who is black, and his wife, Alison Spooner, who is white, welcomed twin girls in November, one of them dark-toned, the other very fair, The Sun reports. It was a miraculous repeat of 2001, when the couple had their first children, also twin girls, and also of opposite skin tones.

The elder twins' differences are more than skin deep, too. While Lauren, who is very fair, is a tomboy who adores Hannah Montana and is full of pep, twin Hayleigh, who is darker, likes dressing up and curling up with a book when she's not belting out High School Musical tunes.

amaikama:
my home town.

and where is ur home town


As for me Akure

I like Plaintain Fufu. I get it in the powerdered form (blended plaintain and not the skin) and prepare like you would amala. Its called Instant Fufu. You can eat with any type of soup like okra or any vegetable soup.

please run as fast as you can. Don't let this br another case of "i should have known". SAVE URSELF FROM HIM

tope2000:
Roflmao
That is not the reason we get stretch marks after we have kids . . . .its the expansion of the pregnacy that causes it na

the stretch mark is caused by the expasion of the skin, i didn't get but very few. I heard to help reduce marks while pregnant, rub a lot of cocoa butter oil for pregnant women over ur stomach, arms and thighs, it worked for my stomach and thighs but it didn't work for my arms, that is the only part of my body i can say i don't like, if i had the money, i would def. go for some type of surgery. People say it isn't bad and they can barely notice it, but to me, seems like its starring me in the face . Other than that, i'm in shape

i think this has to do with a lot of women and men just relaxing too much after they get married. As for me sha, i have never been sexier than now (if i may say so myself ),, i try my best to keep in shape, after 2 boys back to back, 4 and 3 yr olds. I don't eat any staple like eba or iyan cos I know what it does to my body. I go to the gym 5 days a week. Not just to keep shape but to relieve stress. I also work fulltime. The best thing is that my hubby supports me and encourages me. Even though he was telling me b4 that i looked beautiful. I can still feel his eyes on me just walking ahead of him. I take utmost pride in looking good not just for him but for myself. so it depends on the individual. For me, I personally think a woman should look her best after she gets married.

Too much drama, move on jare. I don't think she is serious. Don't waste your time, just forget about her.

There is nothing wrong in having 2 chief bridesmaids. You just have to set out for them what they will be responsible for on uour special day. One can lead u into the church and the other help u out after service. Otherwise, ask a cousin or sister and make your bestfriends bridesmaids instead. They can also have a different style dress from the rest of the bridesmaids if you want them to stand out from the group.

Congrats and make sure u don't let this get to you oh, Make ur decision quickly and inform them so you won't get stressed out about it.

Thanks Spike, I can't seem to get rid of these suckers for the life of me.

Please something for Strethmarks?

ican:
@ Poster
Will like to share my thoughts with you, As u prepare for your HoneyMoon, invariably for the Married Life, Start studying the Scriptures that are related to Marriage, (Husbands love ur wife, wives be submissive to your own husband, Ephe 5:22-33), Also, get books on this issue, I mean good books, I recommend the "Act of Marriage", u may start to read the book two weeks to ur wedding, it is loaded and it is strictly for married couples or couples intending to get married soon, not for boys and girls,
Then during Honey Moon, you guys should discuss some issues, and then agree on standards you want to set for your marriage, e.g, how do you intend to resolve conflicts?, how many children do u intend to have, will you like to travel abroad later, and so on, important issues of marriage could be discussed during this period,
Then, if your wife is a virgin, then u may need to get a gel (pls not VASELINE!, I recommend K-Y Gel) that could help in the disvirgining process, it could be very painful without this, u can drastically reduce the pains by applying this gel, A clear description of how to use it is in "The Act of Marriage", the book I recommended up there,
You may discover some differences during HoneyMoon or sometimes later in Marriage, but pls whatever, always know that you are in IT for forever, so always seek to resolve not to aggravate issues, Tell God about ur concerns because He is very interested, HE is the author of Marriage, He knows all about it, He brought the idea of Marriage up in the first place, So talk to Him when there is/are concerns,
And also know that whether yor marriag ewokrs or not, it dependly on YOU SOLELY!!!!! dont ever blame anyone for your failures, you made the decision to get married so u should stay up to your decison, like I said God is there to see u through.

Finally, have FUN!, dont let the devil rob you of the fun of your Honey Moon (invariably marriage) cus of one unnecessary argument(s), here and there, Be quick to forgive your spouse if any offence comes up, if u dont forgive, you will miss the joy which you should have in marriage,

Marraige is fun, enjoyable, beautiful , wonderful and full of Blessings, BUT it is Hard work, u have to work at it to make sure it is what God calls it,

I hope I have given some tips, All the Best,

All above is true, however i would storngly advice the bolded part above be discussed before marriage?

Someone has something to hide.

As for my hubby and I, that is not the issue at all. We both ahve full access to each others phone and we don't have to snoop around for anything.

What pisses me off the most is that you aren't even thinking about your Fiance. How would you feel if he was doing this to you. Women like you are malicious and selfish. You have no right to ask no one to abuse you becos u sure do deserve it. I am a woman and I soooo feel for ur fiance. You are only a few weeks away from getting married to the same man I am sure you have been professing your love to while sleeping with another man. You don't deserve a good man. Please leave ur fiance so he can find another woman worthy to be called a GOOD wife. Go to ur fling because that is what you should have. What you have done is despicable. I wish I knew the man you were about to get married to so I can tell him about your escapades. The next thing we will read is that you got married to the undetecting man, have 4 kids and 2 of them aren't his. Bull*shit.

Poster please come back and answer chaircover's question. That will shed some more light into ur situation and you can get some advice.

Oga oh and u are a graduate? What were you doing in class when English was being taught or how did you happen to pass any of the exams? I truthfully don't understand one sentence in your whole write up. This is indeed a sad sad sad thing and I am so for you.

Wow, I don't know what to say but maybe someone else will have an advice for you.
What baffles me is how a man or woman can contemplate marriage in this day and age without dating or even having a friendship with one another. Marriage should not be taken lightly, don't settle if in your heart of heart you don't like this guy. Marriage is forever a convenant between you two (at least that is the way I see it).
Put this in prayer, u know what? I don't even know what to say. Sorry you are in this situation.

OGA OH, Oponu po loja

chrishenzo:
Hello poster, things might have fallen apart but it doesn't mean the world has come to an end. We are all afraid of AIDS because we know that our days are numbered once we test positive.

What is the essence of taking your life? If you take your life, what difference does it make? Do not be afraid of death rather be afraid to die a sinner.

The most important thing is to live your normal life.There are millions out there who suffer more than you do.You are among the lucky ones. I said you are lucky for the following reasons:-
1. You are already married and you are excepting a baby. Many are in the same situation but they have no family and soon their names will be forgotten in the history of the world. No one to remember them.No generation.
2. Your husband is also positive; that means he won't make life miserable for you. I believe you both are mature to enjoy life to its fullness.
3. You still have the whole time to raise a family, give your children the best education, see the smiles on their faces while they grow up, give them the best of mother's love. They still need you. Please live for the sake of them.

I know a couple who are still alive and it has been more than 11yrs when a doctor broke the news to them. What are secrets. It is nothing but they put smiles on their faces all the time. Eat their healthy foods.Follow adhere to their treatments. And they look so healthy up till this very moment. HIV patients start dying as soon as worry sets in. Don't allow that be you.

Finally, if you think of committing suicide, I suggest you first take a walk to any general hospital. Look at the sick people around there. Spent at least thirty minutes with them. Then from the hospital, go straight to the mortuary tell the attendant to open the door for you. Just spent about 15minutes watching the immobile men/women/children as they lie as if they were never born.

After that, I believe you will realize the amount of love God have for you.Please never think of suicide again.It pains me even though we don't know each other. Enjoy your life. Everyone has his own problem.So you are not in any trouble. Everyone has always been in trouble from the moment Adam and Eve left the garden of Eden.

Poster sorry u are going through this but need I say more than what was written above. I am not in ur situation but I have my own problems too, this post above jsut summed it up

sistawoman:
Hell to the NO!!!!!

If my husband/bf was so inclined as to cheat on me while traveling then I would think that he would at least respect me enough to get a condom and use it.

But under it all lies an even greater concern. The lack of trust.

If I was a male and found that my wife/gf had packed condoms in my travel bag I would be highly upset that she is so distrustful of me that she would do that.

If you cant trust your man to stay faithful while traveling then why the hell are in a r/s with him.

I would never ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever dream of packing condoms in his bag for him. If i ever did that the r/s is over.

Thank u jare, that is not even in the realm of a relationship. Some people say they are being proactive and I say they are being stupid. I guess they feel like he their husband has a right to cheat. Lai lai not on my watch will I be packing such. If i ever get to that point, then I guess the relationship is as good as DEAD.

I'm guessing if it were the other way round, you'd accuse him of being a mummy's boy? [/color]
[quote][/quote]My exact thoughts,

Poster, u have to amend with ur hubby, ur mum should not be involved in this issue. If you know your mum is a woman that will talk when small issues like this arise, then make sure she knows nothing that goes on in your marriage. She is meant to give you advice and not to open her mouth and talk to your husband or even act like she knows what is going on.

No one deserves more respect than the other. Adults should respect each other period

Your hubby asked u to give ur passport to his sister, is this to travel?
If it is, u should have talked about it with ur hubby, ur mum did not need to get involved in it. There are some things u straighten out with ur hubby that no one needs to know about, especially ones parents. Just the talk of it being illegal and u not wanting to get involved is enough for him to understand and if he doesn't that is his own cup of tea. You still did not have to tell ur mama about it. He shouldn't have called her a witch either. But hey, we still don't get the full picture of what happened. You mother might have been out of the line too. Your mum should have backed off and not even said anything to him about this issue. If you even talked to her about it, she should have adviced you on what you could do to get your hubby to agree with you but not for her to get on him about it. I'm sure that is what pissed ur hubby off.

@BIG BUMPER, no end in sight oh. I really can't even tell. I don't care anymore though. I go out with my hubby anytime I please. I used to be depressed about it but not anymore. God gave me the strength to overcome the drepression and now I live my life like there is no tomorrow. She knows now I dont care for her or her wahala so she is the one hurting now 

HMMM, my parents in law have been living with us for 4 yrs now, tried everything to get them out of my house especially my MIL, and the woman refused to budge. Now that my children have started school, she has nothing to do, she is now pestering me to have another baby, WTH COS THAT AINT HAPPENING. I guess so she can stay for another 3 yrs abi.
My FIL still works so he is hardly ever home, but u know how it is with women. 2 can't live in the same house without one bickering about something which is usually her. It used to hurt me b4 but i have developed a think skin and it hurts her more now that I don't give a damn what she thinks or says.

God willing, I vow never to stay with any of my married children for more than a month (invited by them) at a time. I can't put another young woman thru what I ahve been thru.

Poster, I so feel for you, On the other hand, there could be something wrong with your wife.
Did you notice any sign of laziness before you proposed to her?When did she have the baby (baby blues)? How does she act around you compared to before? She could be depressed. Try to spend some one on one time with her, Have someone take care of the baby, maybe for a weekend and try to find out what is going on. Talk to her not in an accusatory or put down manney but as a concerned and loving husband. She may not be lazy afterall, she may jsut be going thru some things emotionally. I hope you are already praying for her, otherwise start now. Its not too late. I wish you well. It would be worth your while to try YOUR BESTand save your marriage and not become another statistic.

I was wondering about that too, when I couldn't see a reply button. Makes no **mn sense to me.