₦airaland Forum

Double check and shave ur armpit especially if you have a sleeveless dress on, Visible hair is a MAJOR-TURN OFF

This over 40 with an exposed tattoo on her boobs, MAJOR TURN-OFF

Now this is beautiful, need I say CLASSY!

How to scare a child

Major turn-offs.
Please if you do not see anything wrong with these made-up faces, an evaluation of your makeup regimen is highly recommended.

Olorun ko ni je.

I can share anything else but my husband,

Fhemmmy:
You have made God the foundation and that has made your marriage great and good for you and wish u the best.
See all the red bold, those are things that are very important.
Most Nigerian women want the man to always initiate sex and when he refused for some time, the woman assume, the man must be cheating.
Some Nigerian men will think the woman is bad if she is too experimental, so you are blessed.
Some women will talk to the man anyhow and yet want the best of him.
So your mama trained you well and you doing great.

Thank u Fhemmy.

Ladies, please take time to always look ur best for ur husband. Just because u are married does not mean you can't take time to get ur hair and nails done.
Just because u are married does not mean you can't even look better than you were prior to marriage.
Marriage is the beginnng of a journey and not a destination.

Thease are a few things I do every first day of the year (adopted from my mama ad not old school at all)
1.) compare my before an after pics and praise my hubby for a job well done taking care of me. Of course I do all the work getting in shape and trying to look my best. 2.) I thank him for being a good father to our children.
3) I pray for him
4) I cook his favorite meal and spend the remainder of the day praising God.
He tells me these few things makes him feel like a king. Of couse, our home is his castle, so he should feel like one.

I have been married for 7 yrs now. Still consider myself a newly wed so I am so excited about this thread and hope people can keep contributing to it.

Here are part of what we do to spice thing up.
We still go on dates once every 2 weeks
Our sex life has never been better. We never wait for each otehr to initiate sex. The policy is u want, come get it.
We do a lot of experimenting when it comes to our sexual life. This is the 1 person i have vowed to have sex with for the rest of my life. So to keep it hot and steamy, we usually try new things. Most of the time, I BRING IT UP and my hubby is always in awe. One time he said, "so which one are we doing today", lol
When we finished out dream home, I took the kids to my in-laws. Got the key to the new house and christened every nook and cranny of the house with my hubby (hope u understand that)
I always make sure my hubby seem to be in control of everything.
I never belittle him either in front of others or when we are alone. There are ways of telling a man what you want without making him feel like nothing.
When we make love, i tell him what i want and how i want it, no shame is that. If he calls me ashawo, I call him my only customer.
When we have misunderstandings, I never let either one of us sleep until the issue is resolved. If it means we do not sleep all night, then so be it, but its got to be resolved before AM.

So far God has been so good to us, it hasn't been easy but just like my mama told me, "u have to keep watering and nuturing your garden to produce beautiful flowers".

It should definitely be your grand dad, he has always been the father in your life.

If i were in ur sister's shoes, I wouldn't even invite the man (dad) to my wedding talkless of him walking me down the aisle.

Absolutely against it (For me personally).

As much as I love my husband, I really would not want to work with him in the same company. The only option would be if it was a govt. job and we were in seperate buildings and never have to interact with each other (work related).

I am just fine saying goodbye in the morning, going to work, chatting on the phone, sending sms messages during the day and seeing each other later. As much as I love my hubby, I also need my own SPACE,

My hubby on the other hand would not mind working with me. He started his own business 3 years ago and sincerely asked if I could run the company with him with my expertise, my answer was NO. When I work, i mark my territory and stand up tall when someone is in the wrong, if I had to do that with him, katakata go burst cos he won't back down either. How will I go home at the end of the day, see the same man that probably pissed me off at work and still want to do the deed.
I don't want wahala in my marriage.

I would rather remain single, no be by force to marry. Can't deal with an irresponsible or lazy man.

So sorry she broke ur heart.

Now thank God you found out, otherwise she may have tried to pass this pregnancy off as urs. Take this as a gift from God.
DON'T THINK TWICE, LET HER GO ASAP. The moment she got pregnant for another man, she ceased to qualify as ur fiancee. You are too good for left overs, "you can do bad all by urself". In time, God will heal ur heart and give u a befitting partner and not a low down woman like her.

AjaraEwuro:
He wants to dump you, dump his arse first- cant you read the handwritten on his butt and butt hole?

@Poster, Girl act smart and dump him first,

Secretz:
Heroin?
Crack?
Weed?
Paraga?
Meth?
. . . . . . . . . . . . . . which one is it?

lmao, u go girl, He sure seems to be on something

@Poster, it shows u ablsolutely have nothing better to do with ur life than to try to ruin the life of others.  Point 1 finger at her and the remaining 4 are right back at u.

wa wa very okay!

blapo:
Ladies u don come again, you have Gold and now u're looking for silver, someone that has been with you for 2.5yrs, u want to dump him and go for someone that is only interested in your toto, follow your mind, i'm sure u have one of them at heart.

I completely agree with u.

@ Poster, in this day and age, education has no age limit. U may loose PURE GOLD for a mere DUST OF SILVER all becos if Skin complexion?

To each his/her own. Iin your case, Someone will have to compromise and it will be either u or ur fiancee.

The real thing here compromise, However, in my case, I did the compromise and this is because there are so many other things he also compromised on. We had the conversation years back and I knew he detested men wearing jewelries (that's just him). FYI, my father and brother are all big on jewlery which i liked oh and my mum ain't a novice to that either.
My hubby's sister was asking why I didn't MAKE HIM WEAR ONE. I cannot MAKE HIM do anything he detests, he is not a child that I would order him to go against his will on an issue such as wearing a piece of jewelry, just like he cannot do to me. Instead I will keep that altimatum power to other important issues that needs to be addressed and not on a ring. In all, its the understanding we both have that works for us. I just don't believe in forcing a spouse to do something they absolutely do not like especially if they have told you about it beforehand.

My hubby does not wear a ring.

While we were dating 8ys ago, i noticed he never even wore a wristwatch and I asked him. He said he didn't like jewelries on him. Being a jewelrya ddict myelf, i asked if that would be a problem if i wore them cos i love jewelry, he said no. He never liked wearing jewelry and that was when he told me he never intended to waer a wedding band either.
Well 3 yrs later, he proposed, we went ring shopping and I asked him if he would wear a band if we got it, He said he told me that b4 while we were dating. Well its 5 yrs since we've been married, we never even wasted money buying him a band. I wear jewelry enough for 2 and i certainly don't have problem with my hubby not wearing a wedding band. Wearing awedding band will nto stop a man from cheating, aimoye married okunrin, cheating left and right. Its all in the heart and commitment towards each other.

I never forced it on him becos i knew he never intended to, so why is she giving herself a headache over nothing. You can have a wedding ring on each finger, if the man will cheat, he will cheat, Like i said, the commitment is fromt he heart, not from a wedding ring.

scottN:
Start by asking yourself this question 'WHY AM I NOT HAPPY ABOUT IT?'

Yep, that's a good way to start. You can then try to find a solution to the issue.

Lmao

emekatimsu:
If not for this present ASSU strike,i won't have found myself in this present tight corner.
I school in the Eastern part of Naija,at the inception of this stupid strike,i decided to spend the break at my elder sister's place at Akure. She stays in a self contained bedroom, and since she's single & comes back very late from her bank work,i usually have the room to myself during the day.
I was watching movie one day and the landlord's second wife came knocking on my door. She said she wants to borrow a movie, i innocently let her to come & search 4 herself, when she came in, she took a CD plate & asked me if i have a blue film(mojo), of course i personally have,she now ask me to play the film. I was suprise but i played it. And that was it, b4 i could open my mouth and close it my landlady has pulled off the wrapper in her waist. What i saw,i could't resist. That was the beginning of my predicament, anytime she wishes she would sneak into my sister's room and make me commit adultary. She would call me omo igbo se kiakia. [color=#000099][/color]Pls fellow NL how do i tell her off since she knows am sleeping with the landlord's 1st wife's daughter. And has threatend to expose us if i don't sleep with her. Wot should i do b4 iut becomes worse.

That was the funniest part, got me lmao, sorry i have no advice for u.

There is nothing worse than a man who refuses to take responsibility in the life of his own child.
This man has made is clear he does not want to have anything to do with the child. What you need to do is take a stand and take care of your child. Make sure you take him to court to get a child support order. This is not for you but for the child. If he refuses to pay, you have a record on hand to show that you made an attempt to get him involved.
You do not need to lie to your child. When he is old enough to understand and he starts questioning you, u tell the child the truth, that his father does not want to be involved. If he wants his father's details, you make sure u give it to him.
You cannot force a man to love or care of his child. It will be to his on demise in the long run for making that choice. Just do your best for your child as a mother and leave the rest to God.

hmmm the question is why are u both checking each others phones? Is there no trust in your relationship? Was there a reason to start this phone checking in the first place.
You both need to have a deep conversation and sort this trust issue out piece by piece, otherwise my dear, this will eventually lead to a heart attack.

I don't know about others oh, but i don't go anywhere without my wedding ring. Once i take a shower in the morning, it goes on my finger and does not come off until bedtime. Being married for 5 years now same routine. The only time I don't wear it is if i am doing something that could cause the ring to snag against something else, I learnt my lesson last year when i lost my diamond, but thank God insurance covered it.
Most of my friends and women i know are attached to their ring so this is kinda out of the blue to say Nigerian women discard thier rings too early.

hmmmm sorry i didn't get that either.
As Chaircover said, can u expantiate on what advise you need or are you just pouring your heart here, If the latter, then it is quite okay.
And for the man that will accept u and ur child, There are still good men out there who will love u regardless, Goodluck

Fhemmmy:
That is givng "under duress" cos he wasnt in his right sense of mind when he give whatever you ask for after you just gave a brother a head.

No that is not right, Abeg, i don't ask right after, its not like he can't think because it turns his head, its different from asking a drunk person who is under the influence. I ask later in the day or whenever i feel the time is right. Sometimes, I don't even ask for anything or expect anything in return, he reminds me of what I asked before and tells me gives me a positive answer or he does whatever he knows i want. And even if is it under duress, he his my husband,, i can do whatever lol

thank u jare prittigrrr

Yes i do it willingly, even though he rarely asks for it. I know he does enjoy it quite a lot and i do love the look on his face afterwards. I do it on "SPECIAL" days unexpectedly especially when i want something from him he may actually say no to prior

ekakids:
its not that i dont get the monthly pay to stock up the house with food stuff,just that i feel i should be getting my own personal allawance

I thought the husband posted the topic. If you are the wife, we are all on your side. Yes, you should be getting allowance for your own personal needs. If you don't how do you intend to take care of yourself e.g clothes, hair and other things women need to look good. Request for it otherwise, you need to get urself a job or ask him to give you some money to start a business so you can get some spending money from ur porfit  cos it seems your husband cannot take care of you.

If I were in your shoes, I would gladly give her an egg. As long as it will not affect me from having children later on, I am cool with that. No question about it at all. However, that is just me and i know lots of other people would not agree. I know the joy of parenthood and it hurts my heart to see a couple struggling to have children when for me I get knocked up the first time my hubby and I decide to have one. Even if the couple aren't relatives of mine, and i know I can help, I would give it up. As long as I know they are good and well grounded to take care of a child.

oga oh, so if she isnt working and you don't give her an allowance other than grocery money, how would she take care of herself and buy the things she needs. If she needs sanitary pad for her monthly or need new underwear, would you prefer she come to you to ask for that or would you want her to give you a list of what she needs so you can get them for her. If she starts looking hagard now, you will be the first to complain about not looking the way she was before you married her. If you know what is good for you and you don't want any problems in your marriage, you better take care of your wife.

I work fulltime and still get allowance from my hubby, and its not like i even asked him for it. He pays for my hair to get done and my pedicure to be on point. I take care of whatever else i need and part of our bills with my paycheck.