@tpia

Encourage mudslinging I see eh? I am sure you are much more intelligent than that. Now, could you tell us your views on the topic.

@icecube

Thanks. All gave strong views except the Mudslingers

Peace

its not just menopause but the fact that the risk of high blood pressure e.t.c

a 35 yrs old woman is three times likely to have a child with chromosonal abnormalities, not my words
http://www.tinyprints.com/pregnancy-after-35-thirty-five-years-old.htm
moral of this is that either menopause or complications e.t.cthe fact remains that medically its better to have it all done and dusted whichever way(either getting married or not)by the time a lady is in her thirties,its perfectly okay to be picky WITHIN REASON not an average girl looking for taye diggs or will smith as if she herself is a beyonce,however if you believe the girl still has 23 yrs more of searching over her 27 years then no worries she should take her time and maybe wait for the 6ft 7in, 6 pack silver spoon and career accomplished guy who is caring,takes care of kids and faithful e.t.c

27 is still a good age for a woman but i think she shd think of settling down because in another 3 years she has shortened her "comfortable child bearing window"to like 6 years. anything after that the stress of childbirth is doubled or sth.
Ultimately the choice is hers

Exactly.

Its her Choice, The Clock would stop soon.

But 27, not old yet.

Even though the 30s for an unmarried woman is usually seen as bleak

however if you believe the girl still has 23 years more of searching over her 27 years then no worries she should take her time and maybe wait for the 6ft 7in, 6 pack silver spoon and career accomplished guy who is caring,takes care of kids and faithful e.t.c

What does this have to do with the thread in general?

its not just menopause but the fact that the risk of high blood pressure e.t.c

The black race in general is predisposed to high blood pressure.

My question is what about women that start from 20s and continue to have kids in their 40s, what's to be said about them?

KarmaMod:

What does this have to do with the thread in general?

seeing as you fink she s got 23 years till menopause,she might as well make good use of the 23 years by looking for the best specimen of the male race

KarmaMod:



The black race in general is predisposed to high blood pressure.

yea but the odds are higher when a woman is having her baby over 35 years old,besides high blood pressure is justone of the complications amongst other side effects on the baby, downs syndrome,scattered teeth e.t.c

KarmaMod:





My question is what about women that start from 20s and continue to have kids in their 40s, what's to be said about them?

first of they r not having their first kid in their thirties so the risk ll be lower moreover a lady of 27 still single still has to vet the right guy,courtship period of at ;east a year then engagement,wedding e.t.c so they r definitely looking at 35 or just over

lucabrasi:

yea but the odds are higher when a woman is having her baby over 35 years old,besides high blood pressure is justone of the complications amongst other side effects on the baby, downs syndrome,scattered teeth e.t.

I never hear this one before.

DavidDylan:

I never hear this one before.

i see,enlighten yourself by clicking on the link above or asking any medical personell if these are proven facts or a figment of my imaginatn!

lucabrasi:

i see,enlighten yourself by clicking on the link above or asking any medical personell if these are proven facts or a figment of my imaginatn!

"enlighten" me first. That your link said nothing about "scattered teeth".

Lmao @ scattered teeth. What is "scattering their teeth"?

first of they r not having their first kid in their thirties so the risk ll be lower moreover a lady of 27 still single still has to vet the right guy,courtship period of at ;east a year then engagement,wedding e.t.c so they r definitely looking at 35 or just over

What difference does it make in having a first kid after 35 and having a 5th kid at 43. Are you saying the 5th kid wont be predisposed to genetic diseases because the 1st one was early?

ther r times, really late at night, when its completely silent and i am lying in my bed. . i think i can just about hear a very faint ticking. . . thats d closest i've come to hearig a biological clock.

my mum had me at 30 and my bro at 33 so i reckon i've got a little more time left

I got pwwwenty of twme

Scattering of teeth? you meant a genetic mut. ?

The truth is just plain simple. For guys, we have no clock, no ticking, no expiration day (thanks to viagra), nothing. At 60, with the right account, we could marry an 18 year old.
Ladies on the other hand, at 13, the clock starts ticking. By 30 they are in the emergency zone, by 40 the red light comes on, by 45 game over. _{(My opinion)}

Didnt Palin have her kid at 45

Marcia Cross had her twins at 46

The miracle known as mordern science, my dear

KarmaMod:

Didnt Palin have her kid at 45

Marcia Cross had her twins at 46

The miracle known as mordern science, my dear

got an aunt who had early menopause at 45, she wanted to hav another child but it was too late

Didnt Madam Obama have the first daughter at 35?

HR.hotness:

got an aunt who had early menopause at 45, she wanted to hav another child but it was too late

why would she want another at 45?

Im still confused at why Palin had another at 45 after already having 4 kids. but hey whatever na her own palavar

KarmaMod:

why would she want another at 45?

I'm still confused at why Palin had another at 45 after already having 4 kids. but hey whatever na her own palavar

she had her first at 40. . . for whatever reason.

its the idea that modern science can let them do whatever they like, my aunts doctor was sayin that if my aunt had frozen her eggs they cld hav gotten around d menopause thing.

HR.hotness:



its the idea that modern science can let them do whatever they like, my aunts doctor was sayin that[b]if my aunt had frozen her eggs they cld hav gotten around d menopause thing.[/b]

That's true. But most people don't really think that far

KarmaMod:

That's true. But most people don't really think that far

they shd tho, esp if they r in no hurry to produce off-spring

I am sure when the poster said 150k per annum as a good salary, that would be in terms of $ not Naira.

As per biological clock ticking, it will be in her mid thirties and some women have children much later than that even though the doctors advice it is better to have children earlier due to some birth defects, however there are still women who have put career first and child bearing until later which stil works out freat for them.

It should be her choice, not anybody elses choice as to when to start having children, at least she has to find a husband first now abi? She will be the one to take care of the child and go through with the pregnancy so she does nto need any pressure, There is always the option of adopting (too many children in this world without parents). Maybe isn't even the married type, maybe she does not intend to. I know most Nigeria relatives will frown upon that idea but whatever happens happens. It is her decision.

Well, I dont think so the right guy will come at the right time, but then she should try dey look out for a man,

Guys i think the poster means $150,000 (US dollars). That is a damn good job

If she is not in nigeria no wahala, her biological clock dey kampe

Well, if she is at hme, u know how our are people are, I dont think she needs to worry about her age. She just needs to pick wisely and be open to different guys

KarmaMod:

Didnt Palin have her kid at 45

I hope u know the state of Sara palin's last child 'Trigger'. the poor dude has downs which has high probability of happening if u give birth at that age.

I warned @post bout this in my earlier post.

@Lacrimose
I got sent to the recycle bin by some local champion for enlightening them on the point u just made.

diggler:

I hope u know the state of Sara palin's last child 'Trigger'. the poor dude has downs which has high probability of happening if u give birth at that age.

Keep in mind that her 5th kid and not her 1st

There are those in their 40s whom their 1st borns are normal.

pity women, so much criticism, for something out of their hands.

Their marriage life decision depends on a man, yet they are crucified for it. Thank God I am a man.

Sorry to be a nuisance but i promise this is the last question

Marriage/kids over career or vice versa?

Whats your stance on this

Do you think a person should take care of marriage/kids first or its better to have the career first then marriage/kids?

Peace

a girl can control her career to a large extent - she can search for it, pursue it, and invest your time and resources heavily, and it will definitely give her returns if she does things right. (plus no side comments on how desperate she is, or lonely or whatever)

finding a man to have kids with is a whole different ball game. she can't search actively for him, can only hope to meet him sometime soon (and even that doesn't have a timeline). as a girl, she certainly can't pursue him (or he'll get skittish and take off too )and no matter how much time and resources she invests, it doesn't always lead to marriage. or be beneficial for that matter.

so, yes i prefer to be devoted to the career first - we don't marry the second we finish secondary school, and it keeps us out of trouble too - and when the right guy comes along, we'll take it from there.

A 56-year-old woman who gave birth to her triplet granddaughters a month ago is recovering from a Caesarean section and hopeful that one of the girls will be home from the hospital by Saturday.

Jaci Dalenberg, 56, of Wooster in northeast Ohio, offered herself as a surrogate when her daughter, Kim Coseno, and her husband, Joe, were waiting to adopt. Coseno had two children from a previous marriage but was unable to have another baby because of a hysterectomy.

Her ovaries could produce eggs, so she and Joe Coseno, her husband of three years, tried in vitro fertilization. The embryos were implanted in Dalenberg's uterus.

Dalenberg said she wasn't frightened to be pregnant at her age.

"I've always been really healthy. I did get medical clearance, including psychological testing," Dalenberg told The Associated Press on Tuesday.

What were you guys saying again?

Thanks all

Blessings

I have a friend who is 29, soon to be 30. Professional, well-educated career lady but guess what she's freaking out 'cos the "right" guy is not in sight. Her case is similar to your friend's but she admits she thinks about it a lot. If your friend is African (or shares our values) she will have concerns no matter how much money she makes or how successful her career is.

I think it is important to not be in denial and think that at 27, she still has a lot of time. Even though mathematically she does, marriage / relationships does not answer to such calculations, so she should make it a priority if she doesn't want to be in a situation where she has to eventually "settle". If she is overly-picky, then it might be part of the problem. For example, I know a lady who once told me she wants a Jewish medical doctor and she is African. That is really restrictive and meeting such a man is one thing, but the man must also be interested in marriage and kids, like she ultimately wants. I think at that age, a lady should know herself enough, know what she wants and have realistic expectations. Without realistic expectations, a lady may keep waiting forever and all the decent guys may be all gone.