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DikeOha882:
How does number of Igbos and Awusa amount to domination, did you give this people money or land free to amount to domination?

DikeOha882:
How are non yorubas dominating your land?please do explain

proxillin:
[size=15pt]Thats the problem I have with you. You know the story more than I do.

FYI...,Before we concluded that she is cheating, we have seen a lot.

The DJ proposed to her. The DJ asked her out and she accepted. Thats why she too admitted and felt sober when she was caught.

The DJ is not at fault. The DJ only saw a single girl, so he is taking his chance

She engaged the DJ in flirty chat.
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The venue of their meeting is a restaurant.

Moana:
maybe you didnt read the first post well, when is going out to eat with someone the same as having sex with a woman? Please help me understand.

why did you not answer the first question? How was it different from a man going out for food with a female colleague or friend on a lunch break?

The DJ started asking her out for date. She agreed to meet the DJ for a date somewhere.

Moana:
Can you tell me how it is different from a man (married or not) who goes out for lunch with a female colleague or friend?

Does eating out with another person, imply that you have an emotional connection or attachment with such a person?

And how does deciding to physically cheat with numerous women after marriage equal to going out to a restuarant with one guy before marriage in Nigeria?

Im sorry i cannot wrap around my head on why a sensible person would blow something that can be fixed with effective communication out of proportion to the extent that he feels it will justify his behaviour later on.

It is either you choose to fix the problem move on and if your ego can't handle it, you break up with the person. It does not in anyway make sense for a matured adult to retaliate over something so trivial.

What will he do if real marriages challenges to do come? Run to the first exit or take the path of revenge? [

proxillin:
madam, I didnt ask for your help. I didnt ask for you advice.

I only ask a big question which is also the title of my post.

My question was:

"Is it normal for a lady to go out on a date with another guy just a month to her wedding?"

I dont know why its difficult for a grown adult to read and digest a simple text passage.

Not my fault jor


So my expectation is for you to say "She is right or not" Doing that will prevent this unnecessary argument.

Keep your advice. Answer the question.

If I need advice, I will say please advice

proxillin:
And instead of the society to help the 30 year old man, the society is busy trying to justify stinky moral. The guy is wrong on his decision. The lady is not a saint. Atimes our corrupt behaviors doesnt allow us to think like a mentally sane person.





You have problem with reading?

[size=15pt]Lesson of it all is: Only sane people give correct advise [/size]


A million dollar question. Who wants to be a millionare

Question:

Do you inform your fiancee when going out on a date with another guy?

proxillin:
And instead of the society to help the 30 year old man, the society is busy trying to justify stinky moral. The guy is wrong on his decision. The lady is not a saint. Atimes our corrupt behaviors doesnt allow us to think like a mentally sane person.





You have problem with reading?


A million dollar question. Who wants to be a millionare

Question:

Do you inform your fiancee when going out on a date with another guy?

proxillin:
People have proffered solution. You can start reading from page one for sensible comment. None is here arguing that the guy is assuming. The lady too admitted on going for a date, but she is not gonna fck. Every girl that goes on date always think they wont fck. they always say that. The whole world knows how it end up (not all dates sha)



She met the cake woman without his knowledge too, and they did business with the cake woman together. DJ must be an exception



Thats why she will relocate to a secret location to pick the DJ's call. A wife niyen. You are right






Please leave jor. Go with your confusion. The story is clear enough.

proxillin:
Until you answer these simple questions, you are just fooling yourself perambulating around.
Yes I posted the issue for people to learn and see traps. Like I told you, this is a public forum where people are educated.

The reason why this tread is going 20 pages is because of people like who know the story more than I do. You wont allow sensible people to learn or comment, you are just here to paint the story wrong so you they wont bash ladies.

1. Did you inform your fiancee that you were going out on a date with them?
2. Why would the DJ suddenly be secret?

Please shutup if you cant answer these questions. No need to digress to other things...Jez answer the damn questions. Thats was how the lady was behaving, I asked her the same, question, she started digressing.

proxillin:
We have asked you many logical questions here today with no answer.

I wrote in my story that she admitted she is going on a date. She admitted she is going on a date.

Please read my story. You are just hell bent in arguing.

Answer the following again:

1. Did you inform your fiancee that you were going out on a date with them?
2. They planned with cake, decoration woman together. Guess because the docoration woman is a female, so no date is required.
They planned for feeding together, they planned for the hall together. Why would the DJ suddenly be secret?

Why running away from questions ?

Continue running away from fact...the more you do, the more you sound bias

Moana:
Not that i would expect a bushman to know that she could have been discussing the music to be played and the playlist and how is should be played out. Or you expect a DJ to just pitch up on the day and play whatever comes out of his assssshole abi

I should stop corrupting your ladies when you don't know how to communicate in a civilised manner without throwing insults at me for not agreeing with you? Your girls are already being corrupted by rogues like you and your lack of decorum, i really have no hand in it whatsoever.

yes you might have to to something about your reasoning problem.

if my husband-to-be were to meet up wit a female DJ, wedding planner or flourist, i would not foolishly suspect that they ended up in the same bed. i know how to communicate so i can always him to go with him everytime they have a meeting or better yet have her communicate with me about anything that concerns the wedding so we can all be on the same page.

for what?

proxillin:
LOL she knows all these...she is just trying to defend her se.x. She sees it as men versus women.

Moana:
i read all of it, i dont seem to understand why he changed the story to romantic and erotic texts when all he said in the very first post was that he only saw chats of when they were planning to meet out.
I don't know maybe in Nigeria meeting someone for lunch or something is the same as being romantic and _erotic.

She cannot pick up calls in front of him, so whats wrong with him requesting her to stop excusing herself whenever she receives calls or better yet answer the calls himself and make the guy aware that he is crossing boundaries he isnt comfortable with?

She only went out to meet the guy and he concluded that she was cheating from that. I know an insecure man when i see one.

If you are mature enough for marriage you should be ready to look for solutions to your problems, not look for the next lady to _undress everytime you assume your partner is up to something.

One day, my friend was going through her whatsapp chat with the DJ. The WifeTB told the DJ that she needs the service of the DJ for her friend’s wedding. She didn’t tell the DJ she is actually the one wedding.

The DJ started asking her out for date. She agreed to meet the DJ for a date somewhere.

My guy saw all that, yet he kept quiet and didn’t want to raise the issue with the lady as their wedding is close, before people start saying he is jealous, he is spying on his girl blahblah.

But my friend could not endure the whole thing again when the DJ started calling her repeatedly. They engage in confidential phone calls. She will be laughing…all Yes No Yes No Ok.. Ok hmmmm conversation, so that someone nearby will not understand what they are saying. At times she excuses my guy to go and pick the DJ’s call.
My guy finally confronted her, why all conversations with the DJ are not business and formal. Why is she hiding things from him?

Moana:
so if you go meet someone somewhere it means you have gone there to cheat? You have never gone out for lunch or breakfast with a female friend or even female relative without having any sexual conduct of any nature with that person before? You clearly have insecurity issues bothering you as well.

Only a man who is not sure of himself will resort to cheating instead of communicating and trusting his own woman. But then again its your life to destroy not mine. Have a noce day too

1. A DJ that will play on your wedding for business, Can you chat eroti_ca and romantic with him? What has business got to do with Romance?

2. The DJ asking her out and she didnt tell him she is engaged and infact about to wed. Can you do that to your man?

3. She was denying having confidential chat with the DJ until my guy presented an evidence before she admitted she is going on a date, but she doesnt love the DJ. Must you love someone before you fck that person?

4. Why cant she pick the DJ calls in front of her husband to be. The same person who will pay for the DJ.

Based on the item above, If you keep mentioning the woord "Assumption" like a zombie, then you have a problem.

Moana:
im not one of your girls so please leave me alone.

Moana:
Pick which one you want, didnt you already say " deep down you cannot advise him to cancel the wedding" ?

By going on a date im assuming you mean meeting the guy for a meal and probably discussing the wedding right? Why not clear up the issue on why they met outside without him and why they still communicate regularly before deciding to revenge on something he is not even 100% sure of?

If there is any truth at all to what he is assuming is happening, why is he not making any effort to clear things up with his wife-to-be and the DJ in question, instead of just running off to say i will cheat and bring girls into our home?

Fumade:
I like your objectivity, true doesn't mean she wants to sleep with the DJ, but hiding from her Fiance' to pick calls does mean that she is somehow interested and a little push from the DJ can land the DJ under her Skirt. That being said, I think its better to call off the wedding rather than wait till after the wedding and put the children that wud be born to the matrimony at great risk and danger for me its a sign that our guy the Fiance should take to his eels while he still can and call off the wedding.

proxillin:
Dem defenders coming to defend her. SMH.

Some even saying they need to hear another side of the story.

No one has answered these questions up till now.

Why didnt she let the DJ know she is getting married?

What does she want to achieve by going out on a date with the DJ?

Why is her chat and telephone call not a service delivery for business?

Why excusing her husbandTB whenever she wants to receive the DJ's call ?


Until any one answers these questions, then all attempt to defend her is just nonsense

peppyluv02:
I know a man whose wife broke his head with a lamp stand days to their wedding,Infact she was always fighting him even thou she was much younger. Friends advised him to call off the wedding but he kept saying 'what about the expenses made so far?' I have paid for the venue decoration and we are already married traditionally'. Well, in such cases,I leave the advising to his male friends or else people will misinterprete it that I don't want my fellow woman to marry. But,if he is my brother, that wedding is a no no.
Marriage is not a child's play that is why most people are scared to go into it. I once had that fear. You should be prepared,with the right person thou no one is perfect but physical abuse and cheating should not be tolerated.

proxillin:
We attended a friends party. On our way back, one danfo drove dirty so we stopped to challenge the driver. This WifeToBe went gaga and started exchanging word with the agbero, she went to the extent of calling the agbero names, she even locked his shirt and daring the agbero to touch her.

The whole show happened in-front of us (Guys) . Her fiancee could not do anything but embarrassed.

Thats when I concluded she is arrogant

agarawu23:
was the guy blind when the lady started the conversation with the DJ ?

I think I have share my own view, you can share yours too.

agarawu23:
still on my point, The lady left her conversations because her mind is clean. we are only reading the guys part of the story without hearing from the lady so we can't just jump into conclusion.

she told the DJ the wedding is for her friend doesn't mean she wants something from him, she might just wanna be free to beat the charging price and moreover that's not q big deal on the issue on ground. I may have money to buy a car and when I get to the dealer, I can tell him I am buying it for my friend and he doesn't have much money cos I am the one lending him just to get get it at cheaper price.

[b]She isn't picking the dj's call in the guy present doesn't mean things are going on between them. [/b]We are talking about marriage and not bf and gf issue o because I still blv the guy has a lot of choices before he chooses to end up with the girl. If he doesn't trust the girl, he won't have wanna marry her so therefore he should hold his trust and tell the lady to end all conversation with DJ.

The guy way know pure cos he has already made up his mind flirting around after marriage that means even of this issue didn't come up, he will still fvck around.

we shouldnt trust the guy that much jare. though ladies aren't to be trusted too but this issue isn't what "WE" think

hinwazaka:
You are mistaken, because no one expects much from opposition elements. The spotlight is left for the full glare of the party in power. So PDP don't have to do much. All they have to do is wait and capitalise on any mistakes made by the APC. Its not rocket science to play in the opposition field but its harder than quantum physics to survive in the spotlight

hinwazaka:
The strategy by the APC to convince the people to accept totalitarian rule, by trumpeting the supposed weakness of the opposition is an outdated one. They had better go back to the situation room and put their heads together to brainstorm on new effective ideas. This one is simply DOA

hinwazaka:
If the PDP have performed poorly so far, according to you, then you should be happy and need not post this epistle. Their low marks, according to you, puts them in the region of a club like Everton. Now ask yourself, why should Chelsea or Manchester city, which here can be related to the almighty APC care about what Everton's preparations are for the new season