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we broke up

shilenji:
Soo like
If you have the money why not??

thats just stupidity, if he bold e should let his family know bout it

A man has shared his story after his childhood sweetheart left him years after their marriage for a younger boy.


The father, now 41, revealed that the mother of his four children was in her late thirties when she abandoned him for a teenager who still lived with his parents.


He said: "The grief of a partner leaving you for someone else is tough to take — but especially if their new love is much younger.


"I would know. My former wife’s partner is 17 years younger than me."


He revealed that he and his wife met when they were teenagers and married not long after. He loved her and they had the perfect love story, until she fell for a younger man.

David said: "In 2017 my life was story-book perfect. I was married to my childhood sweetheart Daisy (not real name), we had been together for 18 years and married for nine.


"I fell in love at 18, we moved in together at 20, had our first daughter at 23, a son when I was 26, a second daughter four years later and another son followed three years after that.


While life was as challenging for us as for the next married couple, with four kids in after-school clubs, battling playground squabbles and endless sleepless nights, it was good and I was very much in love.


"But in 2017 I had been abroad on a work trip. When I came back I felt something wasn’t right between us.

"So I took my wife out for a date night and said, 'I know I’ve known you for 18 years, but I really love you and fancy you.' She replied, 'I’m really unhappy in our marriage'.


"I had never felt physical pain from an emotional thing like that before."


He said that his wife's revelation made him give up his jobs to spend more time with her but it was already too late.



He said this affected his self-esteem and made him compare himself to the boy.

The man, called David in the article to hide his identity, shared his story with Nikki Watkins 4 years after his wife left him.


He explained: "She said it was because I wasn’t spending enough time with her: I was a school governor, football coach for my son’s team and a local councillor.


"The next day I quit all of that. None of it was worth it at the cost of my marriage.



"We tried to move on, with me spending more time at home.



"One name would be mentioned regularly by my wife in conversation, but not for a second did I think anything of it.

"He is a 19-year-old apprentice in her office — not a threat to me.

"But three months later my wife went to her work Christmas party.

She said she would stay overnight with her female friend, to think about what she wanted, relationship-wise, for the future.



"By the end of the night she had posted some stuff on Facebook about them all being drunk. Something didn’t seem right and I had a bad feeling."



He decided to stalk his wife and, sadly, found out the truth.



He explained: "On an episode of TV show Modern Family, just two days before, I’d seen a character use the app Find My iPhone

"I’m not proud of it but it was a tense situation, and I used the app to see where she was.



"I gave her a call, asked her how she was getting on and she said she was at her female friend’s house.

"I felt sick as I said, 'How come your phone is in a Premier Inn?' She hung up. I tried calling her back, but she didn’t answer.



"A few hours later she called and admitted she was with the apprentice.



"She came home the next day. The kids were being looked after by my dad and didn’t have a clue about the upset.



"She spilled the whole story and admitted she didn’t want to be a middle-aged mum. She wanted to be young and free again.



"I asked her to leave, and broke down. I think she felt she was done with all the grown-up stuff and wanted to feel youthful without all the responsibilities of being a parent.



I continued with life, bringing up our kids while we divorced and she set up a separate home. Her lover was still living with his parents.



"I was so sad, as I trusted her implicitly. It broke me."

From that moment, he became a single dad, raising their 4 kids.


He said: "In some ways it was very helpful being a single dad of four as I didn’t have time to wallow.


"Every day, looking in the mirror, I had to tell myself, 'You’ve got this, you can do this'."


Despite trying to move on, David said the fact that his ex-wife's new man is 17 years younger than him made him suffer self-esteem issues.


He said: "I would have been able to understand if it was someone hugely successful my own age or with Zac Efron’s levels of beauty — then he would offer something I couldn’t.


"But to be left for someone so much younger and so inexperienced in life, I saw him as a poor version of myself back at his age. It was embarrassing.


"It was quite emasculating. You’re told men get better with age so I thought I should be getting more attractive, not less.


"I’ve always tried to take care of myself.



"I do wish she had chosen a grown-up as this person will be a male role model, an influence on my children’s life.



"This bloke is about 24 now and I feel he has no ability to guide them as he is still going through stuff himself. He is just six years older than my daughter. His age never made me feel old and boring.



"I looked at myself and thought, 'Don’t start thinking negatively. You have hobbies, friends and interests'.


"But it took a while to imprint that on myself, because the love of my life was basically saying I wasn’t enough for her.


"It knocked my confidence massively and I kept thinking, 'If she prefers him to me what the hell does this say about me? Am I looking at myself through rose-tinted glasses?'


"But I tried to make the best of it and, after four months, I started dating. I made a decision to never, even for a second, bad-mouth her in front of the kids as it is already tough on them.


"She’s their mum and she still deserves their respect."

He said he and his ex now co-parent their kids.


"We now co-parent 50/50 and last year her boyfriend moved out of his parents’ house and into hers," David explained.


He added: "This nearly broke me but I’m in a really good place now and making a fresh start. I’m mostly happy."



source : lindaikeji blog

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as a music producer am. just gonna let u know this.

1 u get the voice
2 lyrics too simple
3 u off beat most of the times
4 best u stop listening to hype people

shes looking like a mummy

Iyaebe:
What has he contributed to the church?God first should be our slogan

wat have u contributed

Iyaebe:
What has he contributed to the church?God first should be our slogan

b happy for someone biko

How Do You Respond To These!!! From A Woman You Intend Marrying?

When she says

Your money is our money
my money is my money.


What is your response?

egbeda

d truck just dey em dey.
na wow oh

endsarrrs:
For the sake of peace. Science is god. God is supreme

u ended up saying nothing

noise

the man proberly got tired of d woman matter

Candidlady:
Don't even think bout settling down... Till you are financially stable or on the average.!!

Don't allow that poor girl suffer cuz her mum is laying pressure on you.. If you ain't ready don't make the move!


And yeah since you are not financially stable do not have sex with her or anyone please

Thank you

stop being foolish

chatinent:
Life is a mist.

shey

Legendary wrestler Scott Hall a.k.a Razor Ramon has been confirmed dead, days after being placed on life support.



The WWE star died at the age of 63 on Monday, March 14. His death was confirmed by fellow hall of famer and good friend, Sean Waltman, better known as X-Pac. "He's gone." Waltman tweeted.


PWTorch had reported that the wrestler who underwent a surgery last week, suffered a serious setback when a blood clot got loose,



Hall reportedly suffered three heart attacks on March 12 and was being treated at a medical facility in Georgia. Hall was reportedly still "fighting" hours after being removed from life support.



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Wendy says she always remembers the day her marriage crashed as if it were yesterday. “Michael, my husband, had always suspected me of playing away from home and I’d always denied it,” she recalled.

“Of course I’d flirted occasionally but nothing as serious as wanting to pack in my marriage of close to 15 years. Only this time, I’d run into Seye, an old flame who was separated from his wife and with whom I’d once had exciting lunches and flirty discussions in my office.

A few of my divorced and single friends had talked about meeting men at parties, clubs and through mutual friends and they made it look as if I could easily do the same any time I was up for it. So the day Michael walked into my office, waving Seye’s steamy letter in my face and told me bluntly he was fed up with my shenanigans, he told me he was moving out to one of the flats he let out. The marriage was over but I could stay in the matrimonial home with our three children. I sat and calmly listened to what he had to say. Not once did I plead with him to reconsider. To talk things through. To try to make our marriage work. If that’s the way you feel,’ I told him as he walked out of my office and out of our marriage.


After the shock of our separation had sunk in, I was eager to explore all those options I thought I had for meeting prospective partners. It sounded like a different world, a sweat shop filled with thrills and excitement – all available at my fingertips. The pick-me-up I really needed. It took me about six months to realise I would do anything to be back with my husband, listening to the sound of his key in the door. Like countless other middle-aged divorcees, I’d found the world of dating to be a tawdry, loveless moral abyss. In fact, I’ll be the first to warn any married woman secretly thinking the grass might be greener on the other side to stay firmly where she is.

“Since I’d been back on the much anticipated dating scene, I’ve been shocked by the number of men who think it’s acceptable to send you pictures of their private parts. One man started sending me lewd messages, asking me what I’d like sexually. When I refused to interact with him, he sent more messages until I blocked him on my phone. What I find particularly depressing is that these men think that’s what women today have been reduced to – that it’s the normal way to speak to a woman in 2017.


The supposed dating sites are even worse. For any woman whose last experience of meeting partners was many years ago via friends, work or in a nightclub, she will find the dating landscape has changed considerably – and not in her favour. Because, though dating sites offer the prospect of meeting thousands of men, the power dynamic has sh8ifted once you’re an older woman. First, the pool of potential partners is much smaller. As a 40-plus woman, the choice is very limited. There may be men in their 20s and 30s who want to date you, but the chances of them wanting a relationship rather than their much expected fling with a ‘sugar mummy’ are, sadly, slim.


Even when a woman goes on a date with a man, it’s likely he’ll have other.....




Continue the story here
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n then every body will there own ideology bringing into groups n d killing starts.guy rest

maybe a video will

wat do u except from a known failed country

ehya

from the moment i put leg for ground

Comradewhy:
And I am telling you the importance and why most ladies make use of it,looks like the average Nigerian always have a hard time understanding little things.

u d one having time with d topic, u just dont wanna agree u going off topic

nig women are only here for the better, simple.

nothing breaking here

Comradewhy:
Who does that when there are proper toys. First you need to start small, so you would not damage your anus by tearing it, and then gradually increase the size. I would suggest to start with your fingers, then purchasing the set of butt-plugs for beginners, then going for air inflatable butt plugs and larger dildoes and plugs.
It's a gradual process.

she saying for enlargement not for sexual pleasure.

zubimete:
Lagos don turn red zone. Nawa

shey

KokobySandra:
So I open a thread to share my truth. Something that a lot might be dealing with and also living in denier, I got comment with backlash, I got mail from guys asking me to be their girlfriend. It’s funny how you guys have turn this forums. Loads of kids in adult body here. I shared an honest story and all I got was insult. Someone even call me a slut( ashawo) seriously Nairaland has lost her value and I do not regret leaving for this long. Goodbye please.

add ur profile, so we can see d queen that's talking

the site (soundclick) it self is depressing

WallyT:
A young talented and driven artiste called Sammy Elho posted this on his twitter handle

There are many upcoming artiste in the country ,and many would spend anything to get to the spot light .but not much really have what it takes ..

Was this track worth taking the risk for ?
Is it even worth listening to
What do you think ?
I spent my rent fee on this track ,now my landlords up my ass
But I'd like to know ,was it worth it ?


https:///ywgVNIJvTP https:///8ZsukWoch0

d link u posted not working