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Matinox:
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Sorry o. But what kind of mumuistic planning are you both doing like this? What would have been more important than getting an appartment that you had to spend the money? Who is advising you?

Don't feel bad though, but the way you have handled it is not wise at all. You can pay for a hotel when you don't have an apartment? I am trying to understand. Doesn't make any sense.

Anyway, the best thing to do right now is to stay with your family, nothing else.

I was also in your shoes kinda. The agent was dulling me but I was ready to push the wedding. But I got the apartment about 48hrs to the wedding and I was able to buy bed and kitchen utensils sef join.

If not because a friend paid for my hotel stay. Na wedding....and straight to my house. Why must we all go to a hotel.
I am sure that for that hotel now, you don run knack your wife give am belle, when you dont even have a place to stay.

Guy, always think ahead. Or else this your loving wife will soon disrespect you.

Kdsml:
Thank you so much you says it all my daughter should come first i cannot put a grown up man before her , i haven't touched the 300k yet the money i have used to buy xmas clothes and wrapper was given to me by my daughter god mother. I have given the wrapper to my aunty she is grateful

Shikena, in this economy nobody be big man. If what you want is important to you, dont wait for someone to come to your aid. Your brother is 24, he can carry block, fry akara, drive keke, or learn a tech skill that can support his education than wait for mommy or you just because our messed up society tends to put too much pressure on elder ones to support the younger ones like say na we born them or we no get our own life to live. If he is too ashamed to hustle for his future, he is not ready.

You cannot climb a mountain carrying too much luggages, it's a whole lot easier to help others when you have reached the top of the mountain than when you are still climbing.

since13o:
Thank you for talking about this issue here.

You have saved a soul with this and I really appreciate you.

This is something I suspect I might face in future, but what I am wondering is if it makes sense to even try and navigate it when it starts or just end everything now.

No problem brother. Regarding what you are wondering...Well all I can say is prevention is usually better than cure. It's easier to uproot a plant than cut down a tree. Unless your woman is willing to change and your heart tells you that TRULY she will do that AND STICK TO IT. If not Hanty can remain your baby mama and should find a new husband.

Marriage is not by force.

Kdsml:
Merry xmas every1. Hope you all are having a great night. I nid advice pls

I am married with a kid, my husband traveled out of the country for a greener pasture, I moved out of our rented house and relocated back to my mom's place.

We had sold our properties for 300k he told me he doesn't know how long it will take him to get a job in the new country and I should use the 300k to start up a business so i will be able to take care of our daughter until he will be stable in the new country.

I have decided to start selling foodstuffs in the front of the house and i will use the remaining money for my daughter school fees in January.

My mom asked me to borrow her 120k to pay for my brother school fee and i refused explaining to her why i can't give her the money and she has been giving attitudes and refused to speak to me, i went to the market today i bought xmas clothes for my daughter and a wrapper for my mom she rejected it.

I know she is doing all this for me to give her the money but i will not give it to her no matter what. I don't understand why she is angry when she knows that my husband is not around i should use the money wisely because if i am broke i have no one else to help me.

Am i wrong for refusing to help her?

You are not wrong sis.

The next thing she will say is she carried your for 9 months and this is how you pay her. Especially if you are ibo.

Right now the most important person in that house is your daughter. If there is food in the house she must eat first, if you receive money she must have the first share. Even the oxygen in the house must be given to her first.

Every other person can manage what's left.

Your brother can find a way around his fees. The reason why your mom's eyes are chookin inside the money is because you told her about it. If there was none, she would have found an alternative.

So Hanty, stand your ground, perhaps when you make profit from your business you can give out part of the profit but not this small capital.

By the way how much did you spend now to buy that wrapper and your daughter's Xmas clothes that one go done chop inside the money. Apparently you are already spending from it. Be careful money has wings.

Kswine:
Please what is this thing about mother in-law and daughter in-law that doesn’t make them get along?

Am in the middle an issue and don’t know how to proceed, let me tell you how it all started.

I’m the first born of my family, my father left us with my mom and marry another woman. To assist my mom I had to get a part time job while still in secondary school and this really affect my life.

Fast forward to 5 years ago I met my wife and we begin dating, during this time I won’t lie I saw some red flags about her family but was hoping things will change along the line. Her mom is a prophetess in a white garment church, she said my wife was her favorite in all her children. I didn’t count it because I see it as a normal thing for a mother to love her child endlessly.

To cut the long story short, last year my babe got pregnant and we decided to introduce both families and after that she will go stay with my mom for a while because am not always around and she need someone at home with her.

Now during this time mom do complain that she’s not free and do isolate herself from the rest of the family, on many occasion I’ll sit her down and we talk things out only for it to repeat itself.

On the second month of her stay with my mom I told her to go visit her mom maybe when she comes back things will be better, my wife got to her house and told her mom all sort of things and the next thing she and her mom started insulting my mom. All this thing happened around March this year and since then they have been begging because I told her nothing will make me marry her again.

Family meeting upon family meeting has been going on and at the end they want me to forgive her and bring her home which my mom insist.

Now I don’t want to look like a weak man because she and her family went too far by insulting someone I love and cherish and on the other hand I don’t want my daughter to grow up without a father figure in her life, so I don’t know what to do.

Please no insult

My brother it's better your child grows in a broken home o as long as she is provided with everything she needs to be a huge success in life than you stay in a home with a wife who is likely to break your home, heart or family and make you feel depressed enough to even want to kill yourself.

I am speaking from experience like this. I am also a first born, my wife is also a pain in the ass with my mom. Yes my mom is not the best of mothers but she really doesn't hate her as she claims. I am not saying this because it's my mom. It's what I have deciphered over time.

Now they don't have clashes at all. My wife just plain refuses to reach out to her in any way she can but I do reach out to her parents who are good people by the way.

Her reason is that according to her, my mom (my dad is late) does not like her. Which is not true from my own standpoint. My mom has a hard time showing she likes someone, but if she hates you, it would be almost similar to having an ad on that billboard in lekki tollgate...my point is everyone will know.

I have decided to leave them at different poles, one in the north and the other in the south. So we have no clashes and I don't have to pick a side because the truth is I like to be neutral and tell you how wrong you are no matter who you are.

Now in my case, here is the problem. My wife will always make sure my daughter spends time with her family but once it has to do with my family...my mom or sister. There is fire on the mountain.

She claims stupid things like since my family does not like her they will take it out on my own daughter. Forgetting our daughter is also theirs. They share the same blood. So why do you assume stupid things like that.

This is the issue we are presently having. She seems to want to break the unity with this issue.

Brother see I have been married for about 4years now and I can beat my chest and tell you that women....you see these women...okay let me say most women in this country are soooooooooo selfish.

Everything they do that looks like they love you it's because of the benefit they stand to gain from you not because they truly love you. So your woman is acting up and staying aloof because your mom is not the one she is benefiting from. It's you.

So she feels she does not owe her anything, no respect nothing. But when you come she can kiss your ass to get what she wants

If you doubt me. Go broke. And see if she will not do the same thing she is doing to your mom. You will lose respect almost instantly, and she will more or less stay aloof because she has nothing to gain from you anymore.

What you should do my brother is this. Stand your ground. Demand nothing but respect. You don't need love, the only true love you can get is from your mother (just trust me) they might call you a Mama's boy, Omo that's their business.

Take good care of your mom. But provide for your family and demand fucking respect from your wife. I did not say just respect. I said fucking respect. Of course that does not mean she has to kneel down when serving you food or pull your shoe when you return from work. That's slavery.

Accept her but on the condition she respects you and your mom most especially. Those are the terms. If she can't take let her stay in her father's house. No be fight.

When she gives birth take care of your child with every sweat and blood you have.

That's my 2 cents.

Just came in

Hey guys I have decided to drop my daily earnings as they come

Phantom233:
sure you're a cheap scammer looking for more preys.

I can show you a video of my recent earnings so you can shut your mouth. I am not going to offer this to unserious people who only look for free stuff but want to get out of poverty. If you think 1k is too much for my time and effort, please search the internet everything is free there, I wish you luck

Phantom233:
I believe you don't know what is the meaning of free, even if you're selling d booklet N100 then it's not free. If you're sincere make the booklet in soft copies. So you can share via email.

Please read this part.

P.S This is not for everyone, please stay away.
* If you are a yahoo boy
* If you only want to get things for free without putting time and money
* If you think that every money making online is a scam
* If you think I am a scammer and want to scam you of N1000

I have made over $800 online
from blogging let me show you how I did it for free

Yes I will show you for FREE

See this economy no dey smile,
everything is becoming more and more expensive
Fuel is scarce, no light, no water.

You make money and you cannot confidently say
this is how I spent it.

You hold 5k now and it disappears before you finish
saying japa

We just dey suffer dey smile
But it doesnt have to be so.

What is the solution to this wahala
Having side hustle that pays you in dollars.

Yes I make money in dollars online from blogging
by writing 1 simple article and getting paid

I am not making millions (yet)
but the little one I am making is paying some
of my bills.

Why? Because it is in dollars

So even if bad as e be, I make $30 thats still like 24k in one day
at least I fit use that one pay for light, transport myself etc

If you would like to know how I do this,
I will be hosting a FREE seminar at a location, date and time that you vote for, Afterwards the details will be communicated.


Note: The seminar is free but you have to pay for a handout (ebook) so you can take it seriously. This is to weed out unserious people.

The ebook contains everything I will be teaching at the seminar. So it will act as your manual to guide you even after the seminar is concluded.

P.S This is not for everyone, please stay away.
* If you are a yahoo boy
* If you only want to get things for free without putting time and money
* If you think that every money making online is a scam
* If you think I am a scammer and want to scam you of N1000 you

I am only doing this to help and share my knowledge because I have some time on my hands to do so. I cannot promise you, I will hold this seminar a second time or accept N1000 for the handout later.

So if you are serious here are the steps to take.

1. Visit the link in the image below
2. Fill the form and vote where and when you would prefer to join this seminar
3. We will communicate the chosen location and details on how to get your handout
4. You attend the seminar and start practising all you learn.
5. You make money and send me egunje.

The voting closes soon.

So let me know if this is something you will like to learn.

noobody:
FOR mobile isp I have tested
MTN
MTN
airtel.

9mobile is the worst thing that has ever happened to Nigeria ,if you are serious with your life and your means of hustle depends on 9mobile,kindly go and port your lines to MTN
Don't even mention glo,dead on arrival.

LOL you seem pretty angry with 9mobile, thanks for the hint

What are the top 3 Fastest Internet Providers in Nigeria? Please vote one you have used personally and not one you heard works.

I am selling off my camera equipment combo for 350k. The reason I am selling is because I need the money to buy a better camera.

Items inside
* Nikon D3300 camera
* 24-55mm Nikon lens
* 50-200mm Nikon lens
* Akaso V50x Action camera (good alternative to gopro) and all accessories
* 3 Light stands
* Manual camera stabilizer
* 2 Neewer 480 bead Led Lights
* 5 Lens filters
* 1 Tripod (this is added free)

This combo is great for anyone getting into media and is interested in the business of shooting videos for weddings, birthdays and corporate events. I have used these tools for most of my work since I got started in my career and I have barely used some of them. Dm me if this is of interest to you