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nikkykay: Please ladies we dont hv 2 condemn her for having 3 abortions for a guy. Do u know how many some have done wit different guys. For the fact dat she decided to spread her dirty linen outside here doesnt mean we shld condemn her.
Now that she has come to her senses, she has decided to keep ds one cos she knw what she had lost in d past and wot d repercussion culd ne if she tried to abort ds one again.
We are all guilty of one sin or the other so we shldnt just throw stones anyhow.
1 , 2 ,3,4,etc is all sin and it culd even happen whn dey were in school
And now dat she is independent and now that she can afford to take care of the child, she decided to keep it.
Do u know hw fertile she is? some ladies can go a yr without protection and dey wil not get pregnant while some can get 2ice in a month. I used to hv a friend like dat. We called her pig

@ biolabee
Thanks jare! I got in touch wit him dn cos my family said i shld let him know d child had been born but ds didnt change him at all.
My prayer is dat we shldnt meet him again in life. I dont pray he needs our help for anythg. I

for me comin hia n askin for advic ws a rily hard for me to do..I knw sm pple wil condemn,som wil even mock me..jst lyk u've said let he wu is witout sin be d first to cast d stone..al wat I nid isn't pity or insults..we al av skeletons in our cupboards too..m nt proud of wat I did in d past bt d only reason y I cam hia is becos I wnt pple to advis me,I dnt want to mak anoda mistak,even nw dat m bringin in an innocent soul into d scene..tnk u

Dyt: Giggling . . . . . .
These are part of d things desperation can cause, nt sayin she wz desperate o
Bt she loved him way too much
Wen u so in love sometimes, u 4get whom u are

Enuf of d name calling pls
Nt helpin matters

tnk u

[quote author=thorpido]A lot of girls/ladies need to use that grey/white matter in their skull and stop thinking what is on their chest is what makes them women.[/quotehmmmmmm]

pheyikemi: . I c, now I undastnd u

aite...I jst want a complete family for ma bby

pheyikemi: I seem not to get u again madam hummingbird, at 1st u sed u grew up wtout a father bt u want ur growin embryo to knw its father so u told d guy jez in case, now ur mum wasn't thr 4u but ur parents r supportive of u sinz u told 'em u r pregnant. If u dnt mind o, hu r these parents of urs? How many parents do u av?

I grew up witout ma mum..dts wat I meant by sayin I grew up witout a complete family

Dyt: women!!!
God bless us

amen

nikkykay: Guys please dnt condemn her for unprotected sex.
She had a 3yrs rship with a guy. Am sure whn dey started dey were using condoms but later on dey stopped using dats y she could get pregnant thrice.

@OP
I think he has seen anoda person since u r far away from each other. Regardless of ur age u have to b strong now.
I will advise u dont beg him to come back to u cos he is gone for good. Just make up ur mind and b strong cos u r about to start a very tough as a single parents esp during the cause of the pregnancy. Be strong and call him dat u r pregnant but dnt have it in mind dat he might come back cos of dat cos dat guy doesnt love u any more please.
If he tells you to keep it dat he wil b responsible, fine. Just relax till anoda man who wil accept you with ur child wil cme.
If he says no dat u shld abort it, fine. Just tell him u cant abort again and dat u wil take up d responsibilities.
Then the time to involve ur mum comes in now. She may have offended u in d past but like someone said u shld thank God that she didnt abort like to did thrice. you are going to be a mother 2 very soon so try to see ur mum as ur confidant now and tell her the situation of things. She is the only one who can stand by u now.
I hope u have ur job. Let ur job keep u busy my dear. Make urself happy and dnt let anythg weigh u down. It is not easy but am telling you dat ur baby wil bring you joy later on. Emotionally u wil suffer but its for a while am telling you.
Ask God for forgiveness of fornication and for bringing an innocent soul to the world in a wrong way. And begin to pray for a man dat will love both of u.

Am talking from experience my dear cos it happened to me. A guy left me with 3mths pregnancy. I was devastated during the pregnancy but God in HIs mercy saw me thru. My job helped me as well tho it was rough. My mother stood by me all thru and my brothers /sisters never left me till now. it was even my eldest sister dat stayed with me in the labour room all thru the nite. My baby clocked 1yr recently and am telling you she is still the best thing that has ever happened to be. Now I hv met a man dat loves me and my child more than anythg in the world. A fantastic man indeed. When God began with me, i had diff suitors that were ready to accept both of us but i had d chance to even choose.
For now dnt look @ man but focus on God cos he is d only one who can sail u thru>

it is well

....tnk u xo much..u cnt begin wat a reliev dis hs brot in2 ma troubld @...as a mata of fact,m flowin wel wit ma mum nw...sinc xtadai,d tot of bin a grandma soon is evn makin ha ovajoyous...we r jst 2 u kmw,jst me n ma sister....mariag is d last tin on ma mind nw...i jrt want ma baby to grw wit a complete family...al d same..i apricia8 it...God bles u

uj_sizzle: OP, it's a sad situation you're stuck in right now. All i can say is, you need to move on with your life, hopefully you've learned a big lesson n will try being a bit cynical in ur next relationship. We ladies need to be smarter than this dear.

For now, you have to tell him u're pregnant when u are sure you are. What you do next will depend on his response tho i dnt think it'll be any different from what he made you do in the past. Only this time, think about yourself, your future and that of the unborn baby. Can you carry a pregnancy to term and afford all that's needed to nourish d foetus? When u deliver, are u financially buoyant to support it?
Is there someone or people who can help?
Think well. I'm against abortion, but this is a personal choice of yours n a decision u need to make yourself. Be wise.

tnk u xo much...bt criously av got no prob finacialy..av tot abt it xo wel,abortion is a no no 4me

sammynaijaguy: Babe stop it are you not lucky she did not abort you like you did to the 3 odas
Most nigerian parent are not emotinally dere for their kids. I grew up in d most roughest situation why judge her

..m nt judgin her at al

thorpido: That u are in love is no reason for a lack of sense.What u obviously lacked is education and probably a kind of mentor in your life,someone who could have guided you right.

yeess I grew up witout a mentor..my mum ws neva dia for me or ma siblings..but av long forgiven her..m nt holdin anytin against her again even if she's d archeitect of al dis

thorpido: I'm shouting loud and jumping up as I type this:

YOUNG GIRLS WHY DO U ALLOW UNPROTECTED SEX?

You said you've aborted three times.Didn't u ever hear of condoms?Don't u know how to calculate ur period and know why u are not safe?
I dey tire for girls o.Why don't u always apply common sense and understand that u need to protect your body cos at the end the female suffers more?
Anyway I wish u all the best with a life of single parenthood.It's not going to be easy but u have to keep your head up and make the best out of your life.

if u r truly in love wit smone u loose every comon sense u av..u dnt realise it until d deed hs bin done..d only person dat can undastnd me nw is smone who hs bin dia,smone who hs xperincd dis

nyere84: This is exactly wat my frnd is passing tru rite now. Their introduction is suppose to be by march dis yr, but the silly guy just realized she is not good for him again.

And, she is already pregnant for him. The ediot(guy) ve the guts to say she cnt satisfy him on bed. therefore, he cnt go into marriage with her. Can u imagine?

guys can be so callous...dey are xo @less..I jst got ma test result...m in ma sixth week..I undastnd wat ur friend must be going tru cos m going tru hell hia ryt nw

andromida: How old are you? do you have a family?

m in ma early twenties,ma parent are very very ok,at least above d average nigerian..n dey are into dis wit me..eva since I told dem,dev bin suportiv

sexybash: @ humming bird good luck with single parenting, it not easy but the lord is your strength , been a single parent it not easy expecially when you. Are not ready for it, but like they say impossible is nothing take care and remain focused.

amen...tnk u very much

pDude: You better start gathering materials on single-motherhood because that is what you are about to become. When they tell you to use common 20 naira condom, una nor go listen. Ntoogi

Congratulobia by the way. To get belle nor be beans

Endless cycle of single parenthood.

yesss..visitin d nearest bookstore very soon...

190: [color=RED] sweetheart - talk 2 him and let him decide
[s]if he doesnt want the kid, then u know what 2 do[/s]
if he does want the kid then u know what 2 do!

im the realest and most honest and sincere dude around these parts
if u gat the dough to kip d child and working alongside it, then goodluck and all the best[


forget yield - SHES JUST A NOISE MARKER [/color]

thnk you very much

190: b!!ches wanna start sometin they ent capable of

lyk criosly @190..dis isn't a funny matter..d only tin dificult hia is nt leavin him..gud guys are stil out dia..bt of course,dats nt wats on my mind...wats on my ma mind is d pain of bin a single mother,raisin a child witout a complete family..I ws raisd as one,d void of d absence of dat parent wil always b dia

Yield: You think you are pregnant? Is that what you are going to tell him?

Av decided to let him he is going to be a father...jst for knowin sake...I wil takia of d bby xo we'll even without him

Tnk u all for ur comments and advices...I apriciate...av bn tinkin abt al da wut ma family n friends,its beta I let I'm go@mecussy,d only reason y am sad is because he's d only man av eva loved...I dnt even knw dat oda men existd befor nw..n abt d baby my parent hv instistd I av d baby(I undastnd dey r doing dis out of luv too)....he ws damn too perfect..no one knew he cud even hurt a fly..

Xriously abortion is the last tin on ma mind..av ad 3 for I'm in d past..n I dnt wana tie I'm dwn with d baby or make I'm marry me out of pity...I just finishd twkn to him..he wsnt even moved wit al ma cries n pleas..its lyk my lyf is crashin ryt in front of me lyk a pack of card

Please I need your advice and comments please

@aadetoyin thank you so much...but the real problem is that I think am pregnant..I was about to break the news to him when he told me he no longer have feelings for me again

@mmm,on a more serious note..its not about val..he stays in the north..am here in the west..we had plans to make it official next year..so the sudden 'loss of feeling' baffles me

Dear nairalanders..please I want you to advice me..I had a discussion today with my boyfriend of 3years.I noticed he is be behaving strange in the past weeks so I decided to have a heart to heart talk with him..he told me doesn't have feelings for me anymore..I asked him if I have wronged him in anyway..he said no but he didn't tell me because of things we've been through..he still came to see me last month(January)..right now I can't think straight...he is my first and only boyfriend.I dnt know whatto do.please I want you to advice me please..am fast losing it..the shame,the betrayal..thank you in advance