Chilota2: Sha looking for something that will bring him back to the time line. Nonsense!
You are one of the oldest he is talking about else, you will understand his message not attack the messenger.
Sorry, no be say I yab you but cant you see the point. An Olodo will always attack the messenger rather than than pay attention to the message. That is the in thing in Nigeria now subtly. Nothing is constructive anymore. An Olodo is always defending even when there is nothing to defend. An olodo will always engage in counter arguments even when the facts are vivid as daylight.
We celebrate mediocrity too much in Nigeria. Infact, mediocrity is Nigerians way of life because everybody is compromised. Everybody thinking of their belly, from presidency to students. Honestly, the Nigerian mind is the Nigerian problem.
chigbokingsley: Hmm! VDM need to give explanation to this.
VDM doesn’t owe anybody any explanation. If only Nigerians are holding the public service holders this accountable, the likes of Tinubu and APC elected officers, maybe Nigeria would have been a better place
A lady has gone viral after sharing her controversial stance on domestic violence. According to her, no matter the situation, a man should never hit a woman back—even if she starts the physical confrontation. In the trending video, she explained that she would rather face divorce, police involvement, or any other consequence than be physically assaulted by her partner. She argued that men should walk away, restrain the situation, or seek help instead of retaliating. Her comments have sparked intense debates online, with many people sharing different opinions on self-defense, gender equality, and domestic violence.
This kind of stupid videos disgust me. Any right thinking woman would never hit a man to start with. This one wants to hit and not only that, expects the hit not to be reciprocated. This is a pure evil and wicked woman who is self entitled from the pit of hell.
I don't hit women but any woman that hits me, I have the right to reciprocate with proportional force in self defense. Don't get it twisted at all. Even men dont mind the backlash than tolerate complete nonsense from a woman.
Ifeoluwadev: Let me start by saying this: I know what you are thinking. "This guy don craze." Even my own mother cried when I told her I was coming back.
I left Nigeria in 2019. Got a visa through my company's transfer program, packed two bags, and landed in Manchester on a cold Tuesday morning that nearly killed my Lagos raised soul.
For 5 years, I did everything "right."
Got a better paying job. Sent money home every month. Upgraded my family's life. Got my indefinite leave to remain sorted. On paper, I was living the dream every Nigerian prays for at night.
But last December, I packed those same two bags now four and came back to Lagos.
Here is why.
1. I WAS LONELY IN A WAY I CANNOT FULLY EXPLAIN
Nobody warns you about this.
You can be surrounded by colleagues, housemates, even "friends" and still feel like a ghost. British people are polite but not warm. There is a difference. You will smile at your neighbor for 3 years and never know his first name.
In Lagos, my street alone has more genuine human connection than my entire postcode in Manchester. My landlord's wife used to bring me food when I was sick. My neighbor knew my name within 24 hours.
I did not realize how much I needed that until I did not have it anymore.
2. THE MONEY LOOKED BIG UNTIL IT DIDN'T
Yes, I was earning in pounds. But London/UK cost of living will humble you fast.
Rent: £900/month for a small flat. Food: £400/month if you cook mostly at home. Transport: £200/month. Bills: £150/month.
By the time you finish doing the math, that "big salary" is already half gone before you enjoy anything. And if you have family back home depending on you, which most of us do, you are effectively running two households.
Back in Lagos, with the savings and investments I had built up, I now run a small logistics business. Last month I cleared more in naira than I was taking home in pounds after expenses.
People forget to calculate purchasing power and cost of living when they are dreaming about abroad.
3. I WAS AGEING WITHOUT LIVING This one is personal.
In the UK, my routine was: wake up, commute, work, come home, cook, sleep, repeat. Weekends were for grocery shopping and rest because Monday was always coming.
In Lagos, even with the chaos, there is LIFE. There is noise and owambe and suya at midnight and people who actually want to sit with you and argue about football for 3 hours. There is color. There is energy.
I went to the UK and became productive. I came back to Nigeria and started actually living.
4. MY PARENTS ARE GETTING OLD I watched my father shrink over video calls. My mother's hair went completely white in 3 years. They never complained, that is the Nigerian parent way, but I could see it.
No amount of money sent home replaces presence. I know that sounds like something on a greeting card, but I promise you it is true. My father's face when I walked through the door in December is something I will never forget.
I refuse to be the child who shows up for the burial after spending the last good years sending money instead of time.
5. OPPORTUNITY IN NIGERIA IS UNDERRATED This will be controversial, I know.
But hear me out. Nigeria is hard. The infrastructure is a disaster. Fuel prices are criminal. The government is not your friend.
AND YET, for someone with skill, international exposure, savings, and the willingness to grind, Nigeria rewards you in ways that a saturated Western economy cannot. The competition is not as fierce at the top. The gaps in the market are enormous.
I identified a logistics gap in my area. Started small. Now I have 6 staff and three vehicles. I am building something. In the UK I was building someone else's dream.
THE HONEST DOWNSIDES, I WON'T LIE TO YOU
Light situation is still a spiritual attack. Generator fuel is expensive. The roads want to kill me daily. Some things that should take 30 minutes take 3 days because of bureaucracy. I sometimes miss the simple efficiency of abroad. Ordering something and it actually arrives. Bills that just work.
I am not here to sell you a fantasy. Nigeria is hard. But it is MY hard. And I am building something meaningful inside it.
FINAL WORD
I am not saying don't Japa. If you have the opportunity and you are young, GO. Gather experience, save money, build skills, see the world.
But do not let anyone make you feel like returning home is failure. It is a choice. And for me, it has been the best one I ever made.
I am home. I am building. I am alive.
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Nice write up. You just completed the first phase. Now you begin to work on the second phase which is the British passport. Your sojourn in the UK will not be complete without that after getting the ILR. I understand where you coming from and it is okay. That is basically the idea of most who left for UK. To create options for yourself, however, to have the complete package, you need to complete that trip and now is the time to do so. The good news is you just need to be in the country for a year uninterrupted then can apply for your BP. Do it now, time waits for noone...
givedemwotowoto: As long as there’s no fundamental unrecoverable problem with SpaceX, this is probably the time to buy
How stock works in a very simple overview is, let’s say a company wants to sell shares for $1 per share.
Before they go public, they first of all sell to private investors at let’s say 50 cents. They may even do multiple private rounds at different prices.
When the shares finally go public at $1, that’s when you and I (the ordinary people) buy.
After the public sales, initial investors sell off their shares. If you bought at 50 cents, you’ve automatically made 100% profit.
Once they sell off, the prices drop like you see now. That’s when some ignorant folks start selling at a loss out of panic, thinking there’s a problem.
Funny thing is, if it drops by 50%, the same investors who sold off will buy again. When it starts rising again as they’re buying, some of us will jump back in again due to FOMO, then they sell off again, and the cycle continues.
I explained this in the simplest form without boring you with technical jargons.
Note: This is not financial advice. DYOR
My own this APC for life girl who is now the symbol of vote buying. Chai...
goslowgoslow: The guy himself is a criminal if that is what you have to say because he also took illegal short cuts unfortunately you cannot read to comprehend.
Trust me, nothing in Lagos is straightforward. If things were straightforward, people wouldn't cut corners but this Lagos, nothing is straightforward because those in position of authority want you to make mistakes so that they can fleece you.
Gagame: Good evening everyone,so i can came back from work this evening and i saw this..though not to lie,the people that collected money from me didn’t give me any document to back up the money they collected till date even the soil test people did not give me documents after collecting money from me,they only told me to start work after they closed the place two years ago,now i hear there are new people there..what’s the best step to take pls becuase I don’t have lots of money to throw around.Thank you will be in the comment section
Do what Peter Obi would do, the right thing. Go to them and ask how you can do the proper documentations without them bringing down your house and begin to follow their procedure. Then speak with the oga patapata else, that Lagos wey I know, dem go obtain you like no man business and go still demolish your house
I don't understand Nigerians. They minute you see someone pass out, you engage DR ABC and begin resuscitation and medical help, but no, recording the lady and creating content. Life means nothing. Everybody looking and just acing ignorantly.
Dancebreaker: Wills and Testaments are successfully challenged everyday at the State High Court, where there are legal grounds/evidence/court marriage, etc.
And Customary and Sharia courts if marriage were done under these systems.
In the court of law, reasons abound why the judge may hold the view that the Will is void:
If the Will maker/testator was under duress. Was too ill, like having dementia, to know what he was signing.
Will incorrectly written or not signed correctly.
Will not correctly witnessed. And several others.
Even the execution of a Will has a legal guideline. If the will is wrongly executed, it can put the Will itself in jeopardy.
Even legal experts sometimes get it wrong when they write their own wills.
Best is to ensure the will is not contested later. By following all the rules or settling beneficiaries before one dies. When contested, it can take years to sort and anything can happen.
People can obtain interlocutory injunctions fairly easily these days in our kind of judicial system.
So, some wills cannot be settled in court or executed for decades, with several potential beneficiaries dying already.
dominique: The man actually drew a will where Helen was allocated properties but the court threw it out after the estranged wife challenged it. She claimed Helen was a concubine who made him draft a will that would favour her and children she had for another man. Meanwhile she had been separated from the man years before he and Helen married o. Helen stood by the man till his last days, took care of him as his health failed and the end of the day, she got paid by being referred to a home wrecker. The man did her dirty, she also did herself dirty
Nobody can challenge a will. If the man willed it, then the will be executed. Simple.
The first and only politician to buy made in Nigeria cars for the traditional rulers and judges and didn't have to inflate figures over the purchase. How about you talk about that....
omenka: The same Gringori that said Kanu shouldn't be in jail, that he was merely throwing jabs at the government over the radio, is the one who can't tolerate Ken throwing a jab at him on social media.
Hypocrisy has built an impregnable fortress in the hearts and minds of Gringori and his horde of unconscionable supporters.
That is not a jab, that is a lie to defame and spread malicious information that questions the very integrity of PO. NDC is not Obi.
Am very disappointed in Kenneth but his matter is for another day. In time, it will be addressed.
Don't forget tinubu had lekki free trade zone and eko Atlantic
Good. I believe you have Chatgpt or Gemini. Go and type your questions there else, hold on to the FTZ and Eko Atlantic. Lagos that has this is the largest debtor in Nigeria. You don't need to vote Obi. Vote your chief chronic loan master, Tinubu.
Amotolongbo: Can you give us the proof? Please no beer parlour gist o
Proof of what? Even if i give you proof, you won't accept it. You would only continue to argue it. So there is nothing to proof to you. You just have to believe the guy, give him the opportunity. Tinubu has had his opportunity and he failed. Even he himself said, if I don't give you power in 4years no matter what, don't vote for me. The question is ask yourself, has he given power to Nigerians?
Let us stop giving people 8years for job they can deliver in 4years if they competent. The country has a population of over 200million, we can't just be wasting eight years to test people whether they will deliver or not. We have too many options than to do that. Our time, lives are the victims.
You know, if you dont want Obi, vote somebody else but let us stop reinforcing failures.
Kennitrust: Finally, the real winner of the last election has spoken.
This truth is visible even to a day old child.
If you want to be called your Excellency, the process in which you arrive at that position must be excellent.
Our current Loanaldo who want to loan my ten generations to the world Bank will learn the hard way in the next election.
Ofcourse the evidence are there, it exist. If it didn't, Wike wouldn't be minister of FCT. Mahmood wouldn't be Ambassador designate. There is a reason why these guys were rewarded and obviously not because they had integrity.
Anybody that denies this truth is just a complete liar.
Jaylord12: How many Nigeria leader can say such.....? Hate or like him,in the political space based on honesty and integrity few people can match him...
Very few ke, politically speaking, I don't think there is any match. Even Datti that I thought was of a rare caliber fell my hand cos Obi went with NDC.... at that point, I understood Politics is not anybody mate. He is consistent, has been, and am pretty sure will always be.
It doesn't imply he is perfect, but I can boast of his consistency
zoedew: lazy blokes who will end up as hewers of wood and drawers of water unless they change their unproductive ways of life. entitled mentality is unproductive. you can own the land and be owned on the land: that is South-Africa summed up!
If you ask me, i think they don't own shit. Not even the very land they stand on. They are the real immigrants....
My message is to Nigerians, dont let your country slip into an abyss like SA. That is where entitlement mentality ( Emilokans of Nigeria) takes you. Vote competent leaders that will give you enabling environment to thrive and
richmond500: There may be a very heavy protest across the nation that will make this election not to hold. If oppositions are strangled, things will get outta hand
If I were Atiku, I will throw my weight behind Obi. Let him reason for once, let him usher the north to support Obi, I can guarantee him that he will be president after. Tinubu just gave coalition a reason to stand together.
As for biased INEC, see how they will quickly recognized court order.
If Ameachi accepts, I will be very disappointed cos he has made mouth too much to do so and I assure everyone that he will be reduced to nothing, not by Atiku but by those that surround Atikr because they will too bypass the guy that even Shettima would have had a better vice presidency than Ameachi
sleek214: Bunch of unprofessional soldiers. Use drone to comb the place.... Clowns
Thats because the kidnappers are not there. By now, you suppose don understand. Dem born dem well to stand like this if they were there. When one collect bullet to the head, the others will scatter