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Let’s face it. Every time you turn around, you find new advice on being happy. Books promising to reveal the true secret of happiness. Blog posts telling you, “Write down three things that make you happy today.” Friends saying, “Move on!” and, “Cheer up!” after you’ve had a bad day.

Happiness is a good thing right? Well, yes. Of course it is. But we are taught that we should strive for happiness, and happiness alone in everything we do. And that if we’re not always feeling happy, then something is terribly wrong. This piece is inspired by the nairalander(Ymodulus) who almost took his life some days ago, I'm sure he didn't understand the difference between 'wholeness and happiness'.
He pursued happiness alone and forgot/didn't know there is something after that- Wholeness.

Pursuing wholeness comes down to accepting and embracing all aspects of life – sadness, frustration, pain, failure and happiness, as well as realizing that all these things are equally as important for a balanced, fulfilling and truly happy experience. It’s about understanding that life is not just a bowl of cherries, and that in order to grow and learn, we rely on the harsh realities of life.

In fact, even though it’s hard, we need to be grateful for these things. Rather than trying to hide from adversities, we need to embrace them… Because we know that they will make us stronger, more passionate, motivated, versatile, confident, resilient, capable and ultimately more whole as individuals – as well as adding more meaning and deeper fulfillment to our lives.

“Everyone says we grow through pain
and as soon as they experience it they
say, ‘Quick! Move on! Cheer up!’
Wholeness is what we ought to be
striving for and part of that is sadness,
disappointment, frustration, failure; all
those things which make us who we
are.”
―Hugh Mackay

In order to get the most out of your pursuit for wholeness, the following are some key things to do in your daily life:

*Embrace rather than avoid life’s adversities. Laugh at your mistakes and learn from them. Joke about your troubles and gather strength from them. Have fun with the challenges you face and then conquer them.

*Rather than shutting out or suppressing negative emotions, allow yourself to really feel them, so you can deal with them. Take full, unhindered control of your emotions, so your emotions do not control you behind your back.

*Find peace with yourself and your past. Rather than remaining angry or hurt throughout your life, choose to forgive yourself and others, and try to actually appreciate the experiences for what they have taught you.

*Proactively identify knowledge gaps in your life experience and take steps to fill them, even if it requires you to stretch your comfort zone. Shift some of your attention away from what you want, and refocus it on what others need.

When you choose to actively seek wholeness, your life will feel much more fulfilling. You will feel more satisfied and happy with your life, because rather than feeling burdened by life’s challenges, you will be on a constant journey of growth and discovery. Everything, good or bad, will move you forward.

Instead of feeling like a victim in life, you will be able to appreciate and value everything that comes your way. After all, you’re not a victim. You’re a strong human being. You have an interesting life, and it is magnificent. Keep this in mind, and live it accordingly. And while you’re out there doing your thing, you will also learn to love, accept and understand yourself better as you learn to overcome the brokenness inside you.

I challenge you to choose wholeness from today onward. The next time you feel sad or disappointed, don’t try to shut it out or distract yourself from it. Instead, accept it as who you are, be okay with it and allow it to add new layers of understanding and awareness to your life.

The secret to a fulfilling life is wholeness, not happiness.


Special Thank You to his good friends Hadizy, MizMyColi, Marieolae, Naijaboiy and many others. God bless you guys.

patrickdarlins:
na my mouth u won take hear say king mess abi??....lols...the little for u.....is....dat....he was ibori's boy....and.....i give up!!!!ask Google abeg...for my security reasons....lols

Lol... I see. I asked Google, even Google was baffled.

patrickdarlins:
my broda....ni b small tin ooo...na delta state i dey oo....dat ayeri dey worry every body ooo....with e name ooo...hmmmm

Lol
Gist me some tori about this your man... I still de do research for this man body... him na my project topic

patrickdarlins:
jesu ovie!!!!!!..ayeri emami...

Lol... na so e do you?

Alhaji Aliko Dangote, MFR, GCON is a business man from Kano in Nigeria.
Who owns the Dangote Group, which has interests in commodities. The company operates in Nigeria and several other countries in Africa, including Benin, Cameroon, Togo, Ghana, South Africa and Zambia. As of March 2014, he had an estimated net worth of $25 billion USD. Dangote is ranked by Forbes Magazine as the 23rd richest person in the world.

Ayiri Emami is from Delta state but resides in America. Ayiri Emami is an highly influential Niger Delta youth leader, who was the former Chairman of Delta Waterways Security Committee. He is the CEO of A & E petrol, A & E group of Companies (which includes different aspects such as Oil, Logistics, and constructions), 911 Hotels & Resorts, and 911 entertainment.
It was alleged that the Warri Businesman spent overt 200 million Naira on his wedding in 2011. In this same wedding 2face was at the reception ground performing, on the same day Dbanj, Yinka Ayefele performed, so also Psquare and
many other notable nigeria artist. This is a wedding where Ali Baba, Basket mouth and Many others are the comedians performing live, with so many bill boards all around the City for 'advertisement' of his 'ARRIVAL'.

To finish it all Pastor Ayo
Oritsejafor was also there to 'sanctify' his gigantic edifice called 'emami heaven'.
Even though the net worth of Ayiri is still unknown, some people say if Ayiri cough's Nigeria shake's.

Now the question is between Aliko Dangote and Ayiri Emami who is richer?

Warri-born millionaire business man,
Ayiri Emami splashed over 20million
naira on 2face and Annie Idibia’s
Dubai wedding.
He is from Delta state but resides in
America. Ayiri Emami is an highly
influential Niger Delta youth leader,
who was the former Chairman of Delta
Waterways Security Committee.
He is the CEO of A & E petrol, A & E
group of Companies (which includes
different aspects such as Oil, Logistics,
and constructions), 911 Hotels &
Resorts, and 911 entertainment.
Ayiri paid 10 million for the Dubai
wedding venue, security and food.
N2.5m for the use of Hotel Jumeirah
beach for the church service and 2.5m
to convey guests from the church
venue to Royal Island Beach.
Ayiri Emami’s private yacht to be
ferried down to Dubai from America
for 2face and Annie Idibia’s exclusive
use. First class flight for 2face’s parent
to Dubai and he’s to sponsor 50
people as well to Dubai for the
wedding. He has also paid 911 band to
play at the event.
It was alleged that the Warri
Businesman spent 150 million Naira
on his wedding in 2011 (in which 2face
was one of his groomsmen) and also
bought 2face a brand new 15 million
Naira Range Rover Sport SUV.




SEE MONEY!

msrita:
I don't wanna take that risk sister,you know he might misinterpret the whole thing and if he's a jerk he'll go about telling people I'm falling for him and add some loads of lies. Believe me some guys can and would do that.

Yea... but it depends on how you approach the guy. Starting the 'Holiest' conversation wouldn't send the wrong information and being cool by taking a step at a time wouldn't allow him just jump into conclusion...

msrita:
So I really like this guy , we're in the same faculty and level but different departments so we share the same lecture venue for all our lectures.
He's really cool and quiet and that's what I like most in a guy. I stare at him a lot though I try not to and I catch him staring at me sometimes too , sometimes we turn at d same time to stare at each other, the issue is he seems to be ignoring me, I mean he talks to almost every one I relate and associate with ,but he acts as though he doesn't see me , he'll walk up to where I'm standing with a group of friends and greet everyone there except me ,sometimes he passes too close for someone who doesn't like me , his body brushes mine lightly, well we've greeted a few times . I get a lot of attention from guys in my class dunno if that's why he doesn't wanna get close or because the most wanted guy in my class is my best friend though people believe we are dating and I'm an easy person , it even shows on my face. But common I like this guy naturally and wanna be friends with him , I don't think further than that or maybe I do, and oh! He has a favorite girl in our venue , he walks mostly with only her ,u hardly even catch walking with guys its either only him or her. So what's your take on this people, please no harsh comments ,a sister is just sharing her feelings. Thanks.

Hope you are not obsessed first first? If you are not and feel comfortable seeing him with other girls, then, you can walk up to him. Don't ask him questions like" why have you being avoiding me or why, why, why..." I promise you if you ask those like of questions any thing when your eyes see enjoy am! Walk up to him as a friend like you guys know each other before, ask about school, funny lecturers, and don't forget to leave a nice conversation(even in his head), I bet you, he will come looking for you the next time he didn't see you in school.


But why do girls like these kind of guys?

The guy na correct guy! This my broda from another mother. This how we roll.

Harbosede02:
I think u sud walk up to him,and ask y he ignores u and behave as if u don't exist.

E Dey easy for mouth

seunowokade:
1. Stop spending time with the wrong people. It’s useless spending time with people who don’t know your worth.

2. Stop running from your problems. Face them head on.

3. Stop lying to yourself.

4. Stop putting your own needs on the back burner. Yes, help others; but help yourself too.

5. Stop trying to be someone you’re not. Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.

6. Stop trying to hold onto the past. You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.

7. Stop being scared to make a mistake. Every success has a trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading towards success.

8. Stop berating yourself for old mistakes. Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.

9. Stop trying to buy happiness. The things that really satisfy us are totally free – love, laughter and working on our passions.

10 Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness. – If you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else either.

11. Stop being idle. Evaluate situations and take decisive action.

12. Stop thinking you’re not ready. Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises.

13. Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.

14. Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t work. Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you.

15. Stop trying to compete against everyone else. Success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only.

16. Stop being jealous of others. There’s something you have that everyone wants!

17. Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself. Smile! Let everyone know that today you are a lot stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be.

18. Stop holding grudges. Forgiveness is not just for other people, it’s for you too.

19. Stop letting others bring you down to their level. Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.

20. Stop wasting time explaining yourself to others. Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it anyway. Just do what you know in your heart is right.

21. Stop doing the same things over and over without taking a break. If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting. Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.

22. Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments. Enjoy the little things, because one day you may look back and discover they were the big things.

23. Stop trying to make things perfect. The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists; it rewards people who get things done.

24. Stop following the path of least resistance. Don’t take the easy way out. Do something extraordinary.

25. Stop acting like everything is fine if it isn’t. It’s okay to fall apart for a little while. Cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed your tears. The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again.

26. Stop blaming others for your troubles. The extent to which you can achieve your dreams depends on the extent to which you take responsibility for your life.

27. Stop trying to be everything to everyone. Doing so is impossible, and trying will only burn you out.

28. Stop worrying so much. Worry will not strip tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip today of its joy.

29. Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen. Focus on what you do want to happen. Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story.

30. Stop being ungrateful. No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life.

Credit the authors
#StopPlagiarism
Go check out the full stuff here
http://www.marcandangel.com/2011/12/11/30-things-to-stop-doing-to-yourself/

texanomaly:
Goodnight.

It's now Morning. Good Morning

destante:
I saw that you have been trying hard to be the last poster. Well not after my post

So you think you will be the last poster abi?

lepasharon:
blackmen only care about the bum,nothing more

And this is something you don't have

SlimSkipper:
pls do me one first favour am following you so follow back afta dat u can do me one oda favour if u want

I like it when people set p... just that...

Just can't say anything about this

.....

Hanibal: Then Im in trouble

Loool Big trouble my brother

The Speech Declaring Nigeria’s Independence by Nigeria’s First Prime Minister Alhaji Sir Abubakar Tafawa Balewa – October 1, 1960

Today is Independence Day. The first of October 1960 is a date to which for two years, Nigeria has been eagerly looking forward. At last, our great day has arrived, and Nigeria is now indeed an independent Sovereign nation.

Words cannot adequately express my joy and pride at being the Nigerian citizen privileged to accept from Her Royal Highness these Constitutional Instruments which are the symbols of Nigeria’s Independence. It is a unique privilege which I shall remember forever, and it gives me strength and courage as I dedicate my life to the service of our country. This is a wonderful day, and it is all the more wonderful because we have awaited it with increasing impatience,compelled to watch one country after another overtaking us on the road when we had so nearly reached our goal. But now, we have acquired our rightful status, and I feel sure that history will show that the building of our nation proceeded at the wisest pace: it has been thorough, and Nigeria now stands well-built upon firm foundations...

... And finally, I must express our gratitude to Her Royal Highness, the Princess Alexandra for personally bringing to us these symbols of our freedom and especially for delivering the gracious message from Her Majesty, The Queen. And so, with the words ‘God Save Our Queen’, I open a new chapter in the history of Nigeria and of the Commonwealth, and indeed, of the world.

jsunex: Regret

Chia!

You could use the name of any song, movie, food, fruit, in short any thing to describe your current relationship in a word.

funshyboi: I ill never sight any lady till I finished uni,,,,

Lol. Make I hear!

PrinceAdepoju: 13. I promise never to look down or feel inferior to others, but be a great guy which I am.

14. I promise to be humble and make a difference in my generation.


...So help me God.

Amen

louiskay: Awesome

Thanks Man.

Help let's put this on the Front Page. Keep Sharing and Commenting. Knowledge Is Power.

Back then it was Dorobucci by Marvin (Happily Single)

naturally: This is good

Thanks Bruv.

Life is not all rainbows and butterflies. It can be tough sometimes. And you’ve paid a heavy price to get this far, so the best option is to really make it count by moving forward from where you are. Free yourself from the world’s negativity – from the sources of ignorance telling you what you can and cannot do – by promising to look
ahead, to live ahead, and to get ahead. In other words, start making positive promises to yourself!
Promise to fight back, to fight harder, to laugh louder and longer and slap adversity back into its seat whenever it dares to stand against you. Promise to be a force to be reckoned with – because you are a force to be reckoned with.

Make these promises to yourself, and keep them forever.

Repeat after me: “I promise…”

1. “I will not hold the past against myself.”
2. “I will own my life and never deny responsibility for it.”
3. “I will speak kindly and consciously to myself.”
4. “I will listen to what my heart and soul is telling me.”
5. “I will live a life that feels right to me, not one that looks right to others.”
6. “I will let go of relationships that are obviously not meant to be.”
7. “I will not let any situation permanently steal my smile.”
8. “I will celebrate and appreciate the life I have.”
9. “I will realize and use my power to make a difference.”
10. “I will dedicate myself to personal excellence.”
11. “I will keep stretching myself beyond my previous level of comfort.”
12. “I will embrace the changes I know I need to make.”

In a world where vows are often left unfulfilled – where making a pledge means less than it used to – it would be nice to see words come back into power, wouldn’t it?
Promise yourself and then prove it!

You could add yours below.

Don't forget the image you have of yourself in the future depends on the actions you watch yourself take today.

@IamK2I

When Barrack Obama first declared his intention to run for President of The United States sometime before the
2008 elections, many people did
not believe. But the 'Yes we can' slogan soon swept across not just the U.S.A., but the entire world. Yes we can! Because Barrack Obama talked about
issues that affected citizens of the USA, both black and white(like the Health care issue) and so Americans
voted for whom they believed would
deliver. Even some of the majority ' white' districts of the
USA, voted for Barrack Obama without regarding any racial(or tribal)
or personal differences but because
they could see that based on what they needed at the time, Barrack Obama was the ' man for the job '.
Each country has her peculiar
needs. Here in Nigeria, each state have their peculiar needs.
So come 2015, what kind of Government do we need in
Akwa Ibom state? Some will say things like, Accountability,
Transparency, Integrity........ others
would say Equity, Justice....... And they're all-right! But what is most urgent in Akwa Ibom state right now,
is Industrialization to provide jobs
and business opportunities all around us. And anywhere in the world,
industrialization is run by the
private sector. And Since
we do not have that private sector in
Akwa Ibom state, then we need a government that can attract these
foreign Investors. We have the raw materials to establish manufacturing
industries, fishing industries, palm
kernel/oil and cocoa for exportation etc... The Ibaka seaport must be
delivered....and so on....We just
need a government that can attract these foreign Investors, a governor they can trust.
It should be very obvious to any
reasonable person that in order to deliver the Industrialization that we so
much need in Akwa Ibom state,
then, come 2015, you must vote right in other to see the change you want.
Let God'swill Be Done.

Vote Right. Protect Your Vote.

balogundayo: Very informative... Most Nigerians need to read this to change their orientation...

Pls help share it. Thank You.

You are madly in love. Cool! It’s so
sweet to be in love, you know! What
a wonderful feeling! Congrats, dear!
Your partner also claims to love you
too. Yours looks like love wrought
and delivered by Cupid. How lucky
you are!

But wait a minute? Is it really true?
Does your partner really love you?
Your mind tells you one thing; your
heart tells you another. But you
prefer to believe your heart,
because you don’t want to face the
reality. You are afraid of the
consequences of accepting the
truth.

But you can see some clear signs
that point to the fact that you are
labouring to keep a one-sided
relationship going. You are hoping
against hope to make this work. If
you don't call, you don't get called.
If you don't visit your partner, you
don't get visited. If you offend your
partner, you apologize; and if your
partner offends you, you still
apologize. Why? Because if you
don't apologize, the cold war will
continue forever: your partner will
use that as an excuse to do a Usain Bolt.
Chai! Truly na only you waka come.
Sorry, dear! You are on a long
thing!

Love is extremely painful and
frustrating if it is unrequited. Our
people say that the he-goat that is
placed on a she-goat does not
mate.
Sweetheart, you can't force a horse
to drink!
Most times, ladies find it more
difficult to get the message in time
and re-assess the relationship.
Why? First, we live in a masculine
society where it is still seen as a
taboo for a woman to approach a
man for a relationship. Secondly,
and most importantly, a man can
marry at 50 years or above and still
father children, but not so for
women. So some women get
desperate once they hit 30 years
and close their eyes to all the
warning signals, all in a bid to get
married.
But can a one-sided relationship
lead to a happy marriage? Most
unlikely. If a man does not love
you, he does not love you. If a
woman does not love you, she does
not love you. Forget the pretences.
Love is like pregnancy: it cannot be
hidden. If someone loves you, you
will know. Forget words. Kwukason
is not mekason! Love is best
displayed in action. Gbam!
When someone loves you, there are
certain traits the person must
display. Here they are:

1. Lovers cherish each other’s
company.

Those who are in love are eager to
be in each other's company. They
never seem to have enough of each
other. Whenever the time to part
comes, they feel sad. And we are
not talking about sex here.
Let's draw a line between a true
lover who wants companionship and
a sex seeker who wants sex. A lover
wants to share hours on end with
you, while the sex seeker wants to
attend to some other things once
sex is served and done with.
Lovebirds are usually unproductive
when together, because they savour
each other's company. They watch
hours fly past like seconds. When
they are apart, the distance is
bridged with long phone calls,
online chatting, and daydreaming.
They don't want to attend to
assignments until they become late.
When your so-called sweetheart
feels bored with you or is eager to
dismiss you, then wahala dey!
When your darling always finds
excuses not to be with you, then all
is not well. Let your alarm start
ringing.

2. Love loosens the tongue.

The most taciturn person on earth
wants to chat with his or her
sweetheart. The topic of discussion
does not matter. It may even be on
a topic like the sounds, styles and
stench of fart! Yuk! What matters is
that true lovers love to talk with each
other as long as time permits: face-
to-face, on phone, on the Internet,
via Skype, through letters, anyhow,
anyway, anywhere, any time! Time
never seems to be enough.
When you find it hard to chat with
the person you love, that should
warn you that your future
happiness is jeopardized. What do
lovers really discuss? Nothing. Isn't
that why it is called "sweet
nothings"?

When you easily run out of what to
say to each other, then know that all
is not well with your relationship.
If your partner is too busy to call,
to visit you, to send or reply an sms,
to chat online, all is not well. Please
don't even accept the I-am-busy
line. Even an unmarried president
of a country or the CEO of a
multinational will never be too busy
to talk with their lover.
If your partner does not call you -
or only calls once in a blue moon -
and you are the one always calling,
please get the message and wake
up. Or are you a learner?

3. Lovers respect each other.

No matter the age gap, lovers have
great respect for each other. No
sensible person will do anything in
public that will diminish the respect
of self-esteem of their partner.
Worse still, no one will accept to
watch calmly their lover
disrespected by someone else.
When your sweetheart treats you
like “bitter-heart” by dishing out
disrespect to you, or does not show
righteous anger when someone else
disrespects you, then the person
feels little or nothing for you.

4. Love can’t exist without laughter.

A love relationship should be filled
with laughter and happiness. Even if
you never laugh with anyone, you
should be able to laugh with your
loved one. If the sky is about to
drop and you see your sweetheart,
some measure of joy and calm
should come into your heart.
If your sweetheart laughs when in
other people's company but does
not laugh or feel happy in your
company, then know that you are
simply being tolerated. If your
relationship is filled with quarrels
and sadness, then all is not well
with it.

5. Are you in his/her future plans?

Here in Nigeria, most relationships
are meant to end in a marriage.
When you are thinking of marriage
but your partner is thinking of
something else, it is a danger signal.
When your partner finds all the
excuses in the world to avoid
marriage discussions or plans, you
have to be on your guard.
When your partner does not mind
if you get married to someone else,
that is a clear message to you.
If you are valuable or precious,
your partner will want to have you
for keeps.

6. Is he/she proud of you?

Except for teenagers who engage in
secret relationships, mature people
are keen to show off their partners.
If your partner flaunts you at clubs
and parties but hides you from
family members, especially parents,
then know that you are most likely
a spare tyre.

If after many months of having a
relationship, your partner still
introduces you simply as “John,”
“Jane” or “my friend,” please wake
up and smell the coffee, honey!
Don’t be a stand-by generator
When one is giving but not
receiving, one feels terribly
unappreciated and unworthy. One
feels frustrated and unhappy.
One-sided relationships sap
energy. They sap time. They lead to
depression. They deny each other
better opportunities.

As said earlier, the fear of being
alone “roasting” or unmarried is
what keeps many victims in one-
sided relationships.
When you are in a one-sided
relationship, you will know. You
need to re-assess the relationship.
You need to know what the problem
is, broach it with your partner and
make efforts to solve it.
But if it is obvious that the problem
cannot be solved - that you are not
loved or wanted - then you need to
brace yourself up and give your
partner some space. If you are
important, your partner will look for
you and start treating you right. But
if your partner does not come for
you, then thank your stars for
saving you from a future marital
prison.

Just move on. You are too precious
to be someone's sidekick; too
priceless to be a stand-by
generator. No, no, no! You are
more precious than rubies and
more valuable than gold. You are
wonderfully and fearfully made:
unique, one of a kind!

Just move on.
Relax.
Be still.
Someone who will love and cherish
you will come along

By Azuka Onwuka

Allenkee: You guys that travelled to Lag and PH should not returned with EBOLA ooo!

...And this our UNIUYO is not doing anything concerning this EBOLA