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Iamzik
Falacy of generalization...
Who is the fool between me and you??

Start by telling us your present country of residence unless you are typing from heaven at the right hand of God

chinoxstock:
You don't have sense. It is goats like you that defend the stupidity and foolishness of useless administrations even to your own detriment. Peddler of lies and stupidity! Devils!

Falacy of generalization...
Who is the fool between me and you??

Start by telling us your present country of residence unless you are typing from heaven at the right hand of God

chinoxstock:
You don't have sense. It is goats like you that defend the stupidity and foolishness of useless administrations even to your own detriment. Peddler of lies and stupidity! Devils!

GavelSlam:

Why build more when you can all be cramped like sardines into a the present infrastructure?

chinoxstock:
Are you sure you are okay? Your useless leaders are eating away your future and you are here fooling yourself.

GavelSlam:
Government should crack down hard on people who choose to use the Internet as a medium for scaremongering, hate speech and outright falsehood.

If you are not in the business of using the Internet for criminal acts you should be supportive of government's monitoring.

chinoxstock:
Anything you fools WANNA DO TO Nigerians please do..
The people residing in Nigeria are idiots.

eyinjuege:
To those saying she must have deserved the beating, and not condemning the violence, I hope when you see the story of a woman pouring hot oil/water, using a knife to cut off a husband's joystick /stabbing him, using a pestle to rearrange his destiny / putting poison in his meal etc you will also say he deserved it, and not condemn the act of violence.

I wonder how you expect a sane society to function if violence against anyone is supported and not put in check.

I'm not sure I understand what you're saying, but getting violent on anyone should be a no-no, talkless of someone close to you.. Everyone is annoying in a marriage. Is it in terms of infidelity? Saying hurtful things to one's spouse ( Thats not only a woman's thing, I've seen a lot of cases where a man will say something so hurtful the woman will feel like committing suicide), spending money meant for the home/children on frivolous things like parties, clothes, girlfriends etc.
That doesn't mean we should endorse any form of violence. It's first and foremost against the law, even if you don't believe in humanity.
It's criminal and should never be endorsed.
I hope law enforcement will take it up anyway, since the victim has come out and complained of a crime carried out against her person.

Sterope:
Keep pulling up facts from thin air. Co.pareing apples and oranges seems to be your thing. It is not mine.

1. Domestic abuse has always been the norm not the exception until the past few years. Respect or not, your grandmother or greatgrndmother was battered by your grandfather or great-grandfather. Go ask around. It was part of life for them, it would be unusual for a woman to complain about abuse unless it was the extreme kind. So yes, women respected their husbands and they still got the cane in return.

2. You cannot compare the cockroach population to that of today. The population has grown tremendously. I don't think I need to expantiate.

3. We didn't have much divorce primarily because of the backlash from the society. Nowadays, people can't be bothered. They have aspirations and there is no way in hell society is going to stop it. Given what these women went through, most of your old respectful women would choose divorce if they had the choice. You need to hear then when they lament and it is that same mouth that they will use to insult women who choose not to suffer like they did.

Basically, you cannot tell me life then was better for women because they respected (whatever your meant by respect) their husbands. You know nothing about them or their lives. You have chosen the narrative that even your father and grandfather would disagree with. I didn't choose mine, I heard and read mine from people who would tell you to your face that there is no way a man won't beat his wife. You read that right.

Sterope:
Actually, if you could read you will see that your question is very defective and I have given you reasons why it is.

I have already asked you to talk to your grandparents.

PaperLace:
Marriage isn't to be ENDURED. No one is contesting every other thing with you, stop unnecessary deflections.

Sterope:
I don't believe in all these love, respect and other terms people throw about. I don't know a woman that doesn't want to be respected nor do I see a man that does not want to be loved. Submission is a word that is too big to comprehend in this scenario. Either partner can be more flexible than the other. So can we stop making it sound like men cannot be flexible and women cannot compromise unless they see it as a duty? It is an insult on both sexes.


How about we treat our spouses as humans who have feelings like we do?

PaperLace:
Marriage isn't to be endured. Marriage should be enjoyed
Bring the women of the old to this generation, empower them _and a very tiny percentage of them would be willing to endure.

Mutual respect and love is paramount in marriage. You don't need any older person , holy book or religious leader to tell you. Any normal person with a working conscience knows this.

Sterope:
It is alright for a man who contributes more to throw verbal abuse but it is not right for a woman to throw verbal abuse if she is contributing more.


It is alright for a man who is contributing more to throw verbal abuse but some betide the woman for exchanging words with him

Sterope:
Is your village the same population size as it was ages ago? FYI, in those days domestic abuse was very normal.

There are so many other factors that u don't even want to get into. . Don't let your sexism blind you.

PaperLace:
Longevity of old marriages doesn't equal marital bliss .

NanaOfosu:
Why is it that almost all Nigerian men like beating and maltreating their women? I seriously don't understand! Is this a curse of something? Why can't they learn from their Ghanaian counterpart.

PaperLace:
That wasn't in contest before.



Men don't push their wives to the wall?

Are you lots married?

You think men just watch when their wives insult them? Hehehe.
Only unmarried people would think husbands are that innocent.

The married men themselves know they are very annoying.

Sterope:
The bolded is not true. Why don't you ask your grandparents? Domestic abuse didn't start today. There wasn't much divorce but there were a lot of threats and family meetings.

PaperLace:
I'm still looking for where I said respect isn't needed to make a marriage work. Can you be kind enough to show me where?

PaperLace:
This is 2017, maybe you've forgotten. You may need to go marry your grandmother's mate.

davodyguy:
Even potus 45 doesn't believe in climate change

Cooly100:
Liar! Yorubas are always included as service chiefs...in all adminstration...why would they exclude Igbo...a big tribe with more than 40 million people. This didn't start today though. It has been going on since after the civil war...This has nothing to with Buhari. It is part of accumulation of similar behaviour in the past. Johnathan only tried to bring the Igbos into the main stream...Remember the first chief of army since 45 years was done during his tenure. See>>>

Chief Gani Fawehnmi said about the Igbo in 1998. Hear Gani “
The Igbo by their contribution to the economic development of
this country are otherwise called the Jews of Nigeria. They are very hard-working,
very industrious, very innovative and very articulate people. The economic development of this country owes much to their contribution. I don’t like the way they have been treated since 1970. They still bear the scars of the Biafran crisis, and they are still being treated as if the civil war is still nascent, which is wrong.

"...They have been kept out of the security forces of this country at the strategic levels,
the law enforcement of this country at the most strategic levels, they are ignored, despised by the cabal. Even in the civil service, I do not know how many permanent secretaries are Igbo. I am not sure how many senior police officers are Igbo, and same goes for the Navy, Air Force, and the Army. They are one of the largest groups in this country. In fact, it is a nation within a nation. The major manpower pool of this country is being supplied by the Igbo. I was so angry when Abacha came to establish the Provisional Ruling Council (PRC) and the Igbo were not represented; I went to court to fight the cause of the Igbo.

It was after my suit in court, challenging Abacha and asking that PRC
composition be set aside by the court until Igbo were given their rightful
place that Abacha then reversed the composition of PRC and appointed some Igbo.” Igbokwe

purem:
If u don't have something meaningful to say it beta u stay off quoting ppl

purem:
U can only say that only when U've been brainwashed

r2beez:
Being Born Again is the best thing that can ever happen to you my brother. It simply means forsaking the old life of sin and embracing a new life in Christ: a life of holiness and uprightness. What is wrong in being holy?

However you can be born again and still need counseling. Only God is all knowing. My advice to born again sisters who are yet to be married due to their un-reasonable standard is that they should seek for counseling in the Bible and from men of God.

We are saved by grace not by Works. Do not create a standard that only angels can meet.

May the Lord bless us all.

Lamzee:
You read it all alone to your self without Sharing,Quora also copied it from somewhere

captleonerd:
you are irredeemably lost. For the last time Both of them are failures. We need someone else in 2019. Do I need to unscrew your head and repair your brain? I won't reply you anymore

captleonerd:
you keep making the same stupid mistake; assuming I support buhari blindly. A sensible person will admit both Jonathan and buhari failed. The fact that Jonathan failed is the reason we trusted buhari in 2015. There's no neednto sugarcoat jona's failure for us. We want someone else in 2019. That's the summary of my submission.

You Jonathan sycophants need to shut up and stop telling us we should have voted Jonathan. He is a bigger failure

captleonerd:
the difference between rational people like me and blind supporters like you is we know when to admit the person we voted has failed. Jonathan did well but he left the second maija bridge, Enugu Onitsha, east west road, umuhaia Ikot ekpene road, Lagos Ibadan expressway all unfixed in 6yrs even with the huge sum of money he spent. Even if you die on Enugu port Harcourt road Jonathan will still be your hero. Ibos are the real zombies

captleonerd:
ignorant fellow. Are you blind? Didn't you see where I said both bubu and Jonathan are failures? Get a good pair of glasses pls