₦airaland Forum

PeaceLovJoy:
Oyedepo has just said the truth. I used to believe in Nigeria, but not anymore. Nigerians arent ready to change. Naija will not get better soon. The people must first change before she changes. Oil will soon be a thing of the past. It's unfortunate, but this is the truth. And personally, I am not willing to sacrifice anything for Nigeria again. I have done enough.

Keep this negative bad energy to yourself! Don’t comment and spread your negative energy around. Some of us remain positive so don’t pollute our positive mindset!

edoairways:
It is not the responsibility of the church to build factories. Hold your politicians accountable instead of chasing shadows

This is a FOOLISH and IGNORANT statement!

The church money is public funds, just that Nigerians are incredibly stupid people.

ogbonti:
And you - who borrowed N100 to buy Glo data promo to insult Trump who has nothing less than $5 Billion in his Bank Account - you are over fvcked by life already - O ma se o

Trump’s accountant, yet you have never left the shithole!

Let’s say he has $5b in his account (which is totally untrue btw), so what?
What will he do with the money? Obviously you have never seen money in your life, otherwise you will know the limitations and the deep headache lots of money brings.

Just shut it! Shithole citizen!

bukatyne:
Good one Zaha

It makes me happy when I see people who think things through and not just regurgitate words/actions.

How does kneeling before a football match stop racism?

Are footballers the only victims/perpetrators of racism?

Refusing to go through the motions....rare in the world today.

Symbolism is just as important. You haven’t lived in a white country so please sir Shut up!

bukatyne:
Good one Zaha

It makes me happy when I see people who think things through and not just regurgitate words/actions.

How does kneeling before a football match stop racism?

Are footballers the only victims/perpetrators of racism?

Refusing to go through the motions....rare in the world today.

Symbolism is just as important. You haven’t lived in a white country so please sir Shut up!

ibedun:
Another commentator from the SHITHOLE!
Have you ever lived in the UK? Evidently not, your statement is more than stupid!!!

Nairalandian:
Nonsense talk.....
It's an English league, so it's understandable that they're only English referees.
How is not having a black match official racism...
People sef.
You can only complain when balck referees aren't chosen for intl competitions like the World cup

Another commentator from the SHITHOLE!
Have you ever lived in the UK? Evidently not, your statement is more than stupid!!!

Proton99:
How many white coaches and players do they have in the Nigerian League?

Use your brain sir. God! What a STUPID FOOLISH THOUGHTLESS statement? Smh!

Odinaka00:
No black ref in EPL, no black coach, no black linesman rather you will see a white female lineswoman. These re the things they should be protesting for and not this nonsense Black Lives Matter nonsense.. All these black people who cry over racism re either tribalists, xénophobes, religious fanatics and name it... you hate your fellow black person but when a white shows you the same hatred then you start crying like a baby

Ignoramus always making stupid statements from their SHITHOLES!

richie240:
There are many gods: Ogun, Allah, Buddha, Vishnu, Ayelala, Amadioha etc, but there's only one ALMIGHTY God!

My ppl say, " Ojú kó la fiñ mobè tó ní maggi; àfi ta bá bù lá níbè"
(The eyes can never perceive the soup which contains maggi except u taste it)

The Almighty God is known by its infinite power and who can best tell u of this if not the satanists, sorcerers, witches/warlocks etc.

They will tell u d devastating effect of how just the mentioning of his name (ordinary name o) does to them.
You can mention any other god in their midst but not the name of the Most High, lest u suffer dire consequences.

It is that 'Almighty God' who the devil, demons and satanists shiver at the mere mention of His name I'm talking about here.

I'll suggest u make ur findings abt what i've just said b4 u make a rejoinder!

CAPITAL RUBBISH!!!!

Travel and see the world. Nobody knows Jesus Christ in many top class countries.

Hiploko:
Farming na choice. I cannot be induced to farm due to failure of the government

Ok ooo. My cousin is a big farmer now. Couldn’t get a uk visa for 13 years. He got married, wife left him, he woke up and started farming small scale...the rest is history. Tell him to come Uk he’ll say ‘keep it’.

How old are you? Time dey go oooo!

Hiploko:
abeg naaaaa

Go to your village and FARM!

anonymousposts:
If you are the one this happened to then I will surely help you
what area - take a pick
Software Dev? QA? DevOps?

No bro! It didn’t happen to me. I am just seeking a new avenue to change my life....and expand my horizon. Your help will be greatly appreciated and my children will thank you.

Hiploko:
shhhhhhhhhhh. Come back make we exchange slots.

Go and get your own visa my friend

richie240:
Almighty God's!

Which almighty God?

The one before or after Oyinbo came to fool our ignorant and stupid forefathers?

Africans believe every rubbish told to them by crafty white skinned people.....

grafixdon:
46

He has a very short window of time to reverse his misfortune. He needs to clear his head first, get his emotions right and begin to rebuild. He must work extra hard and use every penny he earns very very wisely. If he clocks 50 in the UK he could be homeless in his later years.

SweetCunt97:
You got me wrong. Having money to offer only cannot keep a woman. Seems u hate women ryt? Anyway that's ur cup of tea

You are wrong, I don’t hate women but I am very sensitive to their intentions and tomfoolery. They are ever so calculating when they come into contact with men and it is usually the case with matured ladies (worse among those from poor countries like Nigeria). I don’t like that.

richie240:
by 'legitimate' sex, I meant guiltless/'holy' sex devoid of formication/adultery.

Legitimacy based on whose standards or rules?

baralatie:
Shey you know the person you quote so?

See how you fall hand

The person pass human being? Abi wetin you dey smoke?

bubu2019:
Back to where?
Brother stay there
Better stay and even die there than to come back at least no kidnapping or Fulani killers ther

People like you can’t make it in Naija. Your brain is so full of Naija problems that you are blind to the opportunities abound, Shame!

anonymousposts:
I will usually not reply to many things here but in order to help you and make you understand that it is not the end of the world, I will share my experience and a little advice
I had a similar experience and it is a common scam in the UK. I went through a divorce 6 years ago and I know a friend who is going through one at the moment too
Do not mind the people calling you names - most times, things happen in spite of our cleverness and good intentions -m just listen here

So in my own case - I tried my best to make the marriage work, I put my ex in nursing school - scratch that - college to gain qualification for nursing school then nursing school. I also helped sort out her immigration issues. Those two things cost a lot of money for those who know

I was already a top-ten percent earner in the UK( that starts at £100,000 p.a as at then BTW), never cheated, watched out for her best interest and I was a Christian leader as at then. In fact, she was the only reason I couldn't buy a property earlier than I did, I wanted her to rise to meet similar financial status as mine. She and her mother used to call me "oloore mi" - my helper translated from Yoruba

Then as soon as she started making a little headway she became really nasty, setting me up every time, throwing me out of the house at will.
I, all of a sudden became a stingy man( funny enough I am nearly sure I was among the highest-paid all around us then and all income went into the marriage and I even took money from my mother at times)
My mum became a witch to her (it was my mum that encouraged me to put her in nursing school o, she herself being a nurse. )
I became the lazy guy to her- meanwhile, I was paying an au-pair £700 per month to look after her and our kids whilst I worked o(an aupair is the UK equivalent of house help in Nigeria ) aupair clened cooked etc, she sat pretty

- to earn £100k, you have to wake up really early to go to the city and come back late oh - and loads of traveling

I was thinking, I'm a Christian I didn't want to get a divorce. You see, I worked for a multi-national Oil and Gas firm, and being a friendly and humble guy, I will usually go downstairs to chat with the dinner ladies and among them a very beautiful, mixed race 23 years old who really liked me and wanted to date me then even but genuinely I wanted to honour God, despite going weeks without sex as a married man

Then I bought a house. I genuinely wanted to add her name but because she hadn't attained her PR status banks refused(she had exceptional leave) and then the set up was now too much

Don't go to Nigeria though. Stick it out
travel on vacation
You will be ok

Would you be kind enough to give me IT training as I need to shift gear myself before my story changes, many thanks Bro!!!!

franchasng:
You are talking nonsense, I personally sent my wife and baby away to a saner country for a purpose.


Most wealthy men all over the world don't spend much time with their family, only broke and insecure men glue on to their wife daily humping her and manufacturing babies yearly.


How many days does Bill Gates and Melinda spend in a whole year when he is busy touring the world for business and philanthropy


Stop thinking like ancient men.


You can actually live in a different country from your wife and still enjoy a blissful marriage than those who live with their wife. I am a living testimony to that okay

Me too!

Lately she has been making trouble about going abroad and I’ve promptly shown her the DOOR!

omoharry:
So you are suggesting that the man stays abroad alone while his family remain here in Nigeria ? Then why marry at all ? Its either he remains here with his family or he marries over them and be with them .It make no sense for a man to be abroad while his wife and kids remain in a different country apart . Why marry in the first place ?

Anyway ,it's seem painful & unfair when men are at the receiving end of social injustice in the U.K. .But over here in Nigeria ,women have been abused and maligned for crying out for injustice by thier husbands and our society will tell them to go back home and be a dutiful wife so that the man would be of good behavior .
Men would cheat on thier wives ,bring home-deadly diseases, due to thier philandering ,beat up these women if they dare stand up to protest against thier husband and take thier children away from them, if they dare ask for divorce .Especially when the wife is not financially independent .

I sympathize with these men that are going through hell in the U.K, due to thier divorce from thier wives . But I still believe Nigerian men still export thier alpha male tendencies with thier wives in the U.K. They should know that over there in the U.K. the woman is king but here in Nigeria they are subject and powerless .
They should learn how to adjust accordingly depending on the country they are .

Once the man goes abroad he should terminate the marriage in Naija, compensate the lady, provide for the children and move on......

Marriage is not permanent. And nobody should be allowed to marry unemployed dependent man or woman. They are not qualified for marriage.

Heathrow44:
UK is that bad when it comes to divorce laws, I can never live as a married man in the UK how can I just live my house I built with my sweat for a woman that I married as a wife that came to the house with only one Ghana must go bag!!? What the hell!!!!! If is like this, I'm coming to London to live only as a single person and for vacation!

House you built in the UK?

We need to stay away from Nairaland sometimes

Heathrow44:
Leave that other idiot up there saying he should move back t nigeria, I'm sure is a woman using male moniker! He needs all the support he can get, but I thought in divorce cases the state provide a lawye/state prosecutor 4 people that for one rsn or another don't have one!

See this Naija based adviser that has never travelled anywhere.......keep quiet oga

pappilo:
I am going through the same and at some point in the story I thought it was about me

Probably too late now but if possible, beg, grovel, apologise, send emissaries for what you did and didnt do but be sure not to implicate yourself. I say this because you can never win. In my experience, begging didnt work but it is prudent to try.

Another thing for any man who finds himself in a toxic marriage is to know when to give up on the marriage and move strategically. I held on too long not really for love but for the sake of my children but remember the children will survive if you are there or not.

I left the house a few times thinking things will get better but it didnt help. It emboldened my ex wife and she started to invite her boyfriend into our family home when I wasnt there. Her boyfriend moved into our home only about 3 weeks after I was arrested and told by the police not to return to the house. And I still part paid the mortgage for almost a year until I transferred my interest in it over to her.

I moved to a garage conversion in a shared house. The garage obviously had no insulation so cold almost killed me in winter. Used to sleep with full tracksuit, electric blanket and heater. I have moved to my own flat now.

I caught a few charges from her and her boyfriend and I am on trial in crown court next month. They are serious charges but I am optimistic that even if found guilty there will be no jail time as I am of good character. I am kind of prepared for the worst though so although not concrete my plan B will be to relocate to Nigeria if I do get prison time as I will lose my job and the prospects wont be good on release.

I have been working a second job and doing 75hrs a week for about 11 months and this has helped me pay part of my criminal defence fees which are just a little under £15,000. But even with that I am over £10,000 in debt.

I was mad suicidal for a long time and always feeling sorry for myself but I had to pick myself up. Doing 2 jobs helped to keep me occupied so it must be tough for your friend if he is not busy doing something and keeps thinking.

Thankfully my divorce went as smoothly as possible as she didnt object to it and it was granted just over a year after I was banished from the house. It could have even happened earlier if I didnt develop cold feet a few times.

Wow! Sorry Bro!
You should have controlled yourself na.....you probably were violent in the relationship.

SweetCunt97:
Communication, attention and care is key.... Money is never enough

Unsettled beings, nothing is ever enough even if you forfeit your life for them.

I blame foolish men who don’t understand they alone are enough. The world is full anyways so children don’t really matter as much as they use to.

na2016:
Come back to Nigeria to do what? Even if he is a cleaner in the UK, it is better than some consultants in Nigeria abeg.... The man should stay there, he will not die. He can move to another city in UK to start life.

Ignorant fellow stop talking shit! What kind of useless mentality is this? I am 100% sure you’ve never traveled anywhere, otherwise you wouldn’t be talking this rubbish.

LongNipple:
My Uncle in United States just came out of a Divorce. It's was TERRIBLE. And I mean Terrible!!!

His wife filed for a Divorce stating she is tired of the marriage and she wants him to be paying her Child Support. The Court took his House, His Cars. Sold the house and gave 80% of the money to the wife.
During that period, he lost his job as well. He almost went into Depression. He wasn't seeing his Child cos the court ordered the wife to take the child becos she is underaged.
He was back to square one.

We kept on encouraging him during that period. He managed to get a Car on hire through someone and was using it for UBER. Tried applying to work a Hospital (according to them, they say thats where money is at least) but was unsuccessful cos he is not a Medical personnel.
He slept on the streets. In his car. In people's stair cases. Kept his remains property in a place where he pays weekly for its safety.

The large chunk of his properties such as TV, Fridge and other, the court asked them to sell and share the money equally. The wife then demanded for CHILD SUPPORT. He started paying for Child Support with UBER work. Come and see suffer. Any money that enters his account will be wired to his Ex-Wife.
It got to a time his female lawyer started using style to side his ex-wife and her lawyers during round table court hearings cos she's is also a divorcee.
Life was hard for him mehn.
He started falling sick everyday. Sometimes he would call us and want to start crying. I felt for him but there was a limit to what I could do.

But like they say, it's only GOD that has the final say. We started doing prayers for him here in Nigeria. After some months, He got a job at a Hospital. He started collected small money. He got a small Apartment. Paid for the Car he used for UBER. Things started taking a new turn.

Right now, the 20% proceeds from the sale of his house has just been released to him after 2 years and he has bought himself a decent house. He still pays for children support with the money he gets from his hospital work.

He came back to Nigeria and he has remarried. The wife would be joining him over there soon.

He is about to tell the Lawyers to release his daughter to him cos he now has a female figure who can take care of her and her wants his daughter to be with him as the father.

He is happy Now. No more sicknesses like before. When the ex wife saw that he is now progressing. She started using style to come back to him shamelessly but he told her to keep off.

It's only a matter of time. God will always stand up for his own. We just need to be strong and have faith in him for every negative thing we are passing through right now will one day become a story we all will look back at and be glad we never gave up.

Tell the foolish man he never learn! I wish him well....

KingAzari:
Marriage is a scam. Nobody should ever get married if not to have kids.

What do you need kids for sir? Just a question please?

NoSentiment:
That's the price u pay for marrying there. The bright sparks from Naija when they arrive uk go to any length to marry British women not knowing the implications. Women and children are the most protected group of ppl in the uk. It is as though the powers that be there have sworn to avenge the past centuries of abuse of women and children there. Many responsible men never touch women with a badge pole in the Uk

A woman will have to give me £5m to marry her in the UK, after I have transferred the money offshore oooo! Nonsense, marriage ko marriage ni!

richie240:
Jesu!!!
Can u imagine!
This s part of d reason 'men are going their own ways' nowadays.

They are gradually realizing that d phrase 'settle down' wasn't a coincidental derivation; it literally means what it is!

The marriage is over 90% beneficial yo the woman. If not for legitimate sex and procreation, a man has absolutely no biz tying d knot.

Is d milk worth buying d cow?
I think not!

Legitimate what? Nonsense! Go and marry a Nigerian woman in UK,US or Canada as see your life

seunmsg:
It’s not a matter of what if, it’s very certain. She will soon get married to another man and they will both be enjoying the sweat of the first husband and be laughing at him. We’ve seen this play out over and over again.

Na lie!!! Big lie!

She’ll certainly find a boyfriend but never a husband. Not in this UK!