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ogbonti:
you are obviously a very worthless person, Honesty I never memorized your username because I care less about you - trolling in a faceless forum. I only care about getting information and debating ideas here - and I try to contribute to threads than petty quarrels with people I don’t know and most likely will never meet in life - But for you to memorize my username and use it to stalk me in a faceless forum shows how useless your life is- you have an unpaid full time job on your hands stalking me on nairaland and good luck doing it as I perpetually live in your head rent free.

Stop ranting, professor green card.

You made some interesting but valid points on this subject, well done.

Don’t worry I have a full serviced self contained duplex boys quarters (back houses as we call them in England) at the back of my house in lekki. When your wife finally kicks you out, aged 61 and collect your pension and leave you with the shirt on your back........and you start thinking of topping yourself......and frustration sends you back to Naija ...I will give you a room to sleep.
You can wash my cars for a living while you narrate your US stories to my mai-guard, my driver and cook. Ogbontiiiiii!

ogbonti:
Constant se . x you seek in marriage becomes elusive after you exchange vows 2 years down the. road and tiu dins yourself hustling to lay spinsters as if you are a bachelor

The friendship you seek in a wife after marriage becomes absent because she becomes your biggest adversary


The Helper you seek by getting married becomes a mirage as she becomes a liability asking you to care for her every need including buying pant and brassiere


The comfort you seek becomes a pipe dream as she becomes an agent of stress upon your life


The freedom you craved through marriage becomes a unachievable as she hovers around you like a monitoring spirit checking your every move and sabotaging them unnecessarily


The blessings of wealth you want from marriage becomes utopian as your Nigerian wife is a constraint on your budget than an asset - requesting you take care of her extended family as if you are a beast of burden created to care for her family


The good health you hoped for is unrealized as constant nagging becomes the order of the day which creates blood pressure issues which may lead to cardiovascular illness


The enviable social status you hoped for becomes social embarrassment as she will subject you to public ridicule especially in this age of social media - if you don’t know go ask FFK and Churchill Olakunle


The kids you hope to raise and be happy with may actually be the offsprings of some other man and if you are not smart enough to “count your teeth with your tongue” and run a DNA test, you may actually end of sweating and laboring all your life raising another man’s. kids hence the lineage you so much crave to establish as your legacy becomes the legacy of another man


I am not for or against marriage but men think- and understand that nature has rigged marriage against men and it is left for you to do what is best for you, simply enjoy life and move on - THERE IS A REASON WIVES OUTLIVE THEIR HUSBANDS FOR AN AVERAGE OF 24 to 30 YEARS- Don’t be a fo ol



God bless you all

Professor of business studies
Your WIFE don seize your green card?

Eastcoastboy:
Shame on you o ye! King. You think it's only traditional rulers that have kingdom? What happened to the investment you leave behind for your children, the family name and heritage.

Be liberated o ye! Kings.

How old are you?

Are you aware that African people have critical thinking issues?

Eastcoastboy:
Please quote the one you feel is not necessary please.

There is no king or kingdom to create heirs for.

Our ancestors knew nothing about any biblical demands (more than 75% of the world are not Christians)

Anybody can be a companion, it does not require a legal marriage.

None of what you said is necessary!!!

Excesslove222:
What a man gains? Let me list a few:

He gains coming back home everyday to a well prepared meal.
He gains children that bear his ancestral name.
He gains a prayer warrior.
He gains a listening ear to all his life problems.
He gains someone to brainstorm and plans his future with.
He gains someone to help him raise his children.
He gains a “home”

Even if you insist children are a woman’s gain...they still bear the man’s name, if they become someone in the future, nobody would remember their mothers surname.

I can go on and on...

BLOODY LIAR!!!!!

Nnatuu:
Well...

This is the reason I have been contemplating on starting a wife renting business. Because this people have no business staying permanently in a mans house.

Their original intention is to use you and dump you either systematically or directly.

And what does the man benefit...nothing but a title, “head of the house”

Head kor Foot ni...

Mtcheeew!

Abi ooooo

xynerise:
Kids of these days won't understand how marriage works. They are so used to their fun style dating culture

Tell us the benefits first and then how it works.

weddingchannels:
Poverty is What's making a lot of People think this way, Who takes care of your seed(Children)? Who nutures and care for them?
The reason why we have alot of Children that lacks home training is because there are no parents to train, both parents are in the labour field。 The Man and woman gain companionship that you can never find outside marriage, there is God's blessing and It's God's institution.
The woman usually stay back so the man attains great heights for the family. Please see a responsible elderly person That can council you in the right way.

The children are no longer necessary!

Kestolove:
all those men supporting d op are loosers who don't have the means to get marry so they tend to discourage those that want to marry...May God count us among those that will marry

Tell us the gain. Don’t attack the OP!

Just simply tell us the benefits of marriage in today’s world.

FemalePunter:
Family is the ultimate.
that's what he gain

itsRhamzy:
Nothing much..

You marry her and foot almost all bills including hers.

Both of you get children.

The responsibility of those children rests on your laps from school bills to feeding for at least 2 decades while your wife contributes almost nothing in those bills. she'll tell you it's your responsibility.

A man can survive alone but a woman can't.

She wants your commitment in raising her children in the best possible ways as you're the disposable gender.

You're just a workhorse tool to fulfil her most desired needs -money, commitment, children etc.


So when you look at these factors as a man, you figure the only thing you gain is kids.. feel free to delude yourself.

The biggest delusion is that you gained the kids.
You really don’t!

Eastcoastboy:
A heir to your throne as a King. That's just it nd companionship. And fulfilment of the scripture also. Yes, that's it.

No longer necessary or critical to life!!!

globalresource:
We have more sick children nowadays

Let him decide not to marry lol

Don’t focus on him, TELL US THE BENEFITS!

rocknation62:
Half of the men will gain stability, support, love and commitment if they make a good choice in a wife. The other half will make alimony payments, pay child support and be dragged through the courts until he's broke and his name in mud.

Choose wisely

You are a liar! The number is much less.....

Youngmoney21:
Unlimited subscription to unmetered Kpekus

You are heading for poverty!

Nicoddemus:
If you want to want to marry make sure you're marrying a helper. Sound it like trumpet into her ear until she understands. If she can't get it my brother jakpa. A woman that can't help financially, intellectually is useless

200% correct!!!!

maureensylvia:
Alot
More money
Better sex
Good health
Less depression
Should I continue?


Meanwhile read my signature

Rubbish!

Zzor:
I don't have any pity on whatever befell chioma,date Yoruba men at your own peril,they are never faithful and sex is nothing to them

You can’t get a Yoruba man

See pain!

ogbonti:
Yeye Fowl -

Mumu man!

ogbonti:
I don’t even live in America - I am uneducated, I am just a store boy in a coffee shop in Karachi, Pakistan. What is so hard for you to understand dumb as .s

Oga green card holder . Abeg na
Paper Americana!

Sixfeetbelle:
If you can't abide by the laws governing a monogamous marriage, don't enter into it. Simple. Stop expecting people to walk away from being betrayed when you yourself can't walk away from betraying someone.

As fast as I'm concerned, any spouse who cheats should be expecting death sooner than later.

Come and try me na? You will die for nothing.

Guess what? This is 2021 and most humans are now living in highly populated cities high density environments, meaning you will always see people you desire. There is nothing in the law that says have sex with just one person for the rest of your life. The law and rule is that you can only have one legal wife or husband at a time! If your wife sleeps with someone and you can’t take it, you go file for divorce, SIMPLE!

Which one would your children, siblings, family and friends prefer? You murder your spouse or you walk away? If anybody I know should kill anybody just because of sex or jealousy....I will support their execution.

Mind over matter. Wife is a major banker in Abuja, I’m in Lagos. Guess what? I don’t worry at all, not at all. We are partners not owners. I don’t do ownership of another human being so I sleep soundly and easy. As long as my children are getting great care.....

kingthreat:
Its your generations that are poor

You are poor! Shut up.

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ogbonti:
Arguing what you know nothing about - I may even be in Pakistan not the US, you can’t verify and yet you are dispensing so much energy on my matter, jobless scallywag, your medication is finished, go restock- craze man - Monday morning and your prime focus for the week is to insult a faceless person on a forum, not how you will improve your useless life - what a waste of space you are to the world!

Oga, shut up! Give me some guidance on point 7, 8 & 9 of your previous post. Abi you copied it from one of your mumu students?

kingthreat:
Bullshit.
God places some certain people in certain families to lift them up.
When you see yourself in that shoe, don't hesitate to do the right thing. Take your family into happiness. Let the grace around you spread to them.
Linda Ikeji did it and is not complaining
Don Jazzy did it and is not complaining
Dbanj, Tuface, Otedola, Adenuga, Adelekes, Dafinones, Murray-Bruces, etc all did it. That is how it is all over the world.
Only greedy people with vendetta against their families will rather help strangers than their blood.

STFU!!!!!!!!
POor ye ye man! Go and make the money and start giving it away na......opon£

bigfish3k:
In 1967 Nigerians were not as educated and enlightened as today as to want to fight any region that wants out.
We have all seen the light now. TY danjuma is crying
OBJ is crying
Ortom is crying
Southern kaduna is crying
Yorubas are crying along side the igbos. Everybody have now seen the light.
Middle belt has apologized to the igbos

Hausas have seen the light too. Nobody is ready to fight for one nigeria again except non Nigerian immigrants from Niger, Chad, Mali, Mauritania, Libya that Buhari talked about that will do the fighting and they will be unsuccessful because of lack of indigenous support

BTW, we will use the same money we have been using to import fuel which we have in abundance to start importing food
It seems that you have forgotten that the south has international borders
We can Import food from Benin Republic, Ghana, Togo, cameroon, Gabon, ivory coast, China, America etc

I am all for breaking up Nigeria but it must be done in an orderly peaceful way. The stupid senators and house of two members can crumble Nigeria if they want. The Nigeria Army’s capacity to hold Nigeria together is diminishing. We don’t need to break up, we just need a true federal constitution. Not the Abacha or Aboki 1999 constitution.

bigfish3k:
We will open southern borders to import food to complement the ones we can farm.
Women and children will be OK, they will be roundly defended

It's better to die fighting for your rights than to die pleading

You are definitely NOT serious!!!

Ojukwu did this nonsense 50 years ago and we all saw the terrible results.

You saw what happened with EndSARs? The unintended outcomes were far worse and extremely terrible.

you will import food, from where? And you will pay the suppliers, shippers, importers with what? Where will the dollar for payments be found?

Who is project managing this stuff!

Oni yeye!

vikithor:
your dissection no follow.The current Nigerian ness is a bond of captivity, the lever that should spur up faster achievement in innovations is the same slave master ie govt,fulanised retrogressive myopic sectional tribalistic barbaric cabalised govt. Bros any achievement by current Nigerians at home and diaspora is traceable to extra extra efforts by the individuals and family supports.This govt is wicked,demonically murderous,if not explain how and why same govt will use evil npf to shut her citizens up indoors without provisions for food,lights,fuel and other basic necessity of life when those things were needed most in 2020 about a year now,in 2021 same lying govt to be every where in crocodile smiles announcing loans,grants,gifts,cash in different guises in one hand cos they want to subtly justify why they will want the masses vaccinated.
From Middle belt,Southwest, Southeast and South south, any kangaroo hungry traditional ruler who unashamedly pitch tent with this current govt against the wish of the poor masses must be dethroned and exiled to Arewa Republic where such a one can enjoy the Oneness of Nigerians amongst the Hausa/Fulani's co habiting with bandits,its not going to be a dull republic cos a handy neighbour in Boko Haram and Fulani Herdsmen are every to keep the govt sponsored trade of killings and kidnappings thriving.

You are right. But are we ready for war? What will happen to women, children and food supplies?

ogbonti:
1. Worthless degrees that your elites and their children - thieving politicians in Nigeria are dying to have their children come and acquire?

2. Worthless degrees that your fellow country men are selling their inheritances and properties just to have their children obtain it?

3. The same green card you and your generation will never get? The same green card you do not have, hence you are so bitter whining online?

4. Masculine wife? Maybe you are married to a gorilla. My wife is pretty and if she steps into Lagos, she will be a head turner for sure

5. So you want to say Nigerian women are beautiful? Where were you when Kim Kadeshian called them Apes? Na my body you dey get power

6. I guess the people whose story you reference here are your mannerless relatives in the US. My kids are well behaved and they dont dial 911

7. Yes, I am happy to pay mortgage for my home because it comes with property equity. I guess you are too dumb to know what that means

8. Homes can be resold and profits are made from it thereby building wealth by flipping homes. This is my third home and you sure don't know

9. because you abuse your wife, you think everyone does same? You ONLY lose your home if there is "verifiable" evidence of your threat to her life.

10. You are calling me a green card holder thinking I will publish my naturalization certificate to convince you - NO WAY, you are not worth it


Bros. go fix your life, Nigeria and America no be mate - reason because 95% of Nigerians will not think twice if they have an opportunity to come to America to live the rest of their lives - while 99.99% of Americans will NEVER EVER accept to take a temporary job in Nigeria no matter how lucrative it is. What does that tell you? Dey there dey fo ol yourself, IF you doubt am, go US Consulate in Lagos or US Embassy in Abuja, go see how Nigerians are lining up desperately to flee the sh !t hole - Frustrated MO FO

And to you ADMIN that blocked me, na thunder go faya your yansh - crazy as s h o le!

Mumu green card Yankee professor of useless degree course, tell me more about point 8 & 9. I know you are living in one of those fly-by states. It can’t be Florida or California or NY.

Sound like a Beta man - SIMP!

Sixfeetbelle:
If they cheat like roosters in a barn, they die like fowls on Thanksgiving Day

Come and try it with me!!! Entire family 6ft immediately

Any reasonable, healthy and normal person will walk away. The certificate does not say do or die! And there is no law saying kill someone because of infidelity.

Any man or woman who commits murder over infidelity should be executed publicly/KPAI as well. If you can’t handle possible betrayal DON’T MARRY!

HONOR1:
I think they are too young to handle marriage... marriage is not for immature minds. Even if one partner has anger issue the other partner can still manage the anger with maturity

Na by force? Why can’t people leave?

SarkinYarki:
Single mothers are all damaged beyond measure

A high percentage of wives are also damaged beyond repair!

Which ever way you cut it women are damaged because of their mind set.

BabaOwen:
Who go borrow me money make I comot for Nigeria

I think is getting to a time we will go our different ways in this country

SHAMELESS Coward!!!!