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Ouchhihuahuua! Nne e di too much.

Oh dear.

With a hot flexible body like that, are you sh**ting me?

Happy for you bro.

[quote author=WAM?]Food for thought[/quote]I guess so.

Run baby run.....

Run baby run.

No need to fake it just be yourself and if you stay long enough the accent should come to you.....Trust me.

Dumb youths that is what they are caused the death of a highly skilled professional.

How do you know if someone is using emotional blackmail to get what they want from you?
Is your boyfriend/girlfriend using emotional blackmail to manipulate you?Do they threaten to make your life difficult if you don't do what they want?

Always want more from you?

Assume you'll always give in to them?

Often ignore your feelings and wants?

Make promises that depend on your behaviour but rarely keep them anyway?

Keep labelling you as selfish,bad,greedy,unfeeling or uncaring when you dont give in to them ?

Tell you how wonderful you when you give in to them,then say u aint when you don't?
Use money to get their own way?.....
If you can see a pattern in your relationship and the questions above its really not that uncommon.Unfortunately most of us at one time ot another will have been on the wrong end of someone close to manipulating us.
Some of us are more vulnerable to emotional blackmail than others.
When we embark on the relationship roller-coaster, we bring our own set of hot insecurities,anger,resentment and fears.
The elephant in the room is when a potential emotional blackmailer figures what our hot buttons are they start to push them,we react and voila the game is on.
Our compliance in allowing the emotional blackmailer to get what they want,basically means we are rewarding them for their behaviour and letting them know that they can do it again and again.
Fear is a strong basis for emotional blackmail, fear of loss, fear of change,fear of rejection and fear of losing power.Quite often there is always a trigger for example loss of a job, divorce, retirement or illness can increase the anxiety and stress in a relationship leading to the person feeling very insecure and then the emotional blackmail can start.
Many of the people who will emotionally blackmail us will be friends, partners, family or colleagues. These are people we want to have close relationships with.
Often the emotional blackmailer will leave us feeling off balance, ashamed and guilty, we desperately want to change the situation but don't know how plus our self-worth is eroded.

So how do we go round this madness?!

How would you like to sell your first born for 1 million naira? Pretty cool, innit?

Joshcoli: Both I feel sex is important in a relationship, it commits you more to your partner, it just needs to regulated, respected and controlled #mythoughts

True bro, sex could really define the complexion of a relationship.Sex is trully a strenous activity forget the braggadacio from guys in this section, sex (not too much) can really take an affair to the next level little wonder ladies use it to snare eligible bachelors they really really like. As an eligible bachelor i prefer making love to a woman that am in love with rather than engage in such nonsense with any random chick because the emotional baggage alone would kill me.lol

Na wao!

Baby?!Cut open its tummy to check its content if no sign of a human child sew it up and send the poor thing on its way.

No work tomorrow and being in the football off-season equals to a very boring friday night vis-a-vis the weekend, so an all night session with a Play Station 3 console wouldnt be a terrible idea,that is if NEPA doesnt strike first.

[quote author=2s£xy]Yap yap yap...

We dey go small small...

This seem to have passed the test of time... So, na to just play my part wella.

She seem to be more interested in me and when someone is interested in you, they would wanna understand you more.

She understand me because she has taken time to study me...

More later.[/quote]Interested in you eh?So what is she like? what do you like about her? i mean not the fact she is interested in you but her other interests that seems so exciting to you.

[quote author=carmelion][/quote]Lol Longest time sugar lump.

[quote author=2s£xy]Lol... She dey since na. Forget d oda one wey I bin dey cry over some pages ago. I had no choice than to have back up cos I knew there was gonna be some sh!t from that one and just incase. As it is, it happened and I just quickly switch... No time!

Though I really liked her.

Well this one in particular na hin dey my nairaland DP. That's her.

I go gist u later...


#listing to Wande Coal's Ololufe... [/quote]Abegi Gist me jare,but remember o! Standing tall knowing that love is within you and not leaning on someone to feel loved.Love in relationships is meant to be felt within (self-relationship) and shared.So acknowledge your own foundation and stand tall remembering how much you love yourself bro.
By so doin, there is a strong chance of creating something beautiful and permanent with a significant other. Just checked your d.p and allow me to say.............The babe sweeeet die!!! Choi mana!. I love happy endings and i wish you a beautiful beginning in this new chapter of your life. E remain only me,GOD na yah hand i dey so.Chineke.

@2$exy..you don find am? The lady of your dreams?! congrats bro, so happy for you right now, i dey come make i go pay some bills.

This goes out to some poor lost soul out there,somewhere and anywhere.
When you look back over so much time doing things that dont mean sh*t or things that won't help in your later life.You realized sometimes that you have also wasted sh*t load of time wiff people who were all after using,knowing you,gainin experience from you......Hell,you were taking those people as your priority but they were taking you as their option.It hits you that the people you was deeply in love wiff,had so so much hope of were just involved wth you for fun only passin time wiff you, a love on a mission where terms and conditions do apply.
You are at a different path now,all those stuff that was done in the past hopin they 'd turned up good whilst they 'd turned up very very messy,the folks you wasted time on,trusted and loved. All past tense now, to be binned in the trashcans of history. I don't believe you bear any regrets for all that in past because you was taught a lesson, wasn't you? Now you have to be careful with your delicate heart,the things you do, what people say to you,what you say in return and you gotta make decisions for the better cuz gurlfriend, you wont be living in ze past forever,hell, you can't forever be sleepin with a broken heart, no?
Now is the time to welcome new tins,new ideas & new people, you gotta think of other productive things that should take/shift you to another level of your life,come on, just give time to some other stuff you always wanted to do.The wellbeing of your life now rest on what you do today.Be strong dear friend, you will get over that pain & stress someday. Your life will be meaningful to someone one day. You will find someone who will love you the way you are. You will meet someone (hopefully not me) who be fearing to hurt you,to make you cry and to lose you.Its not the end of your life,just be focused, determined,clever,hardworking, GODfearing and every little thing will be alright.Pax Vobiscum.

All i can just say is woooow.

bheemz: Hello dolls, am bheemzdoll. i don't know if am single or not, u don't understand rite?, dis is it i started dating dis guy 24th of April dis year d 1st week of our r/ship was so sweet i later realize that am d one pushing d so-called r/ship like, i ll be d one to call 1st before he can call me, if i don't call him pet-names he wont even bother/remember calling me one, he as never use me for once on his DP, am always d one going to his house, to cut d whole thing short i stop doing all dis things and whoa! we hardly talk once in 2days.

This is really killing me i don't think i can stand it anymore, i think i should just put a stop to dis or wot do u all think is happening?

This relationship looks so familiar like the 1 somebody i know of was involved in, the babe in question was into this tall,dark and handsome ishh that seems to be the rave amongst girlie circles these days but unfortunately superboi (tall and dark dude) had other circles to revolve with and so had to share the attention that was solely hers. Maybe this is a different scenario, maybe your guy is caught up with life changin circumstances right now and might not be into you at the moment. For your peace of mind make friends,dont isolate yourself from the world, engage in activities that are fulfilling which you love and when your guy sees that you are becoming emotionally independent then he will gravitate towards you but dont confront him because it might look like you are putting pressure on him. Men dont like being pressured,hell, we HATE being henpecked to committ except when in our mid30s,just take things easy. It is well.

alutacontinua: ^ ^ ^ ^
Somebody said love is conditional, is that true

come on baby cakes, love aint conditional does your momma love you based on conditions? Am sure you wont be comfortable if your soulmate loves for who you are or is it what you are?

A relationship is about being with someone who makes you happy in ways that no one else can. A true lover is someone that sees your potential and will push you to achieve it by all means, go for someone who is not only proud of you but will take serious risk just to be with you. someone who wont love you on condition.........

Whoooooweee!! dont ask cuz i have been up to no good , Now Let's rock this Joint..

Kcmik: I want to fund on my nairabet a/c cn sum1 explain to me hw i cn deposit on it pls.

Go to nairabetforum.com and check out the steps or simply google 'how to fund nairabet account'

If its internal architecture is rugged enough to run hard core 3d graphics then the future is almost upon us but it would be prudent for we pc gamers to wait for this breakthrough tech to filter down the entire tablet/handheld ecosystem.

adexsimply: How old are you

F##K off.

Can we play pc games on it?!

What a game, Our midfield and defence was ok thereabout but the attack was hopelessly and hilariously woeful.Keshi should do something about it.Who says we cannot do something against spain?! Peace out #comeonyoueagles"
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Come on you eagles!!!! Come on!