₦airaland Forum

makkitush:
bia this thing, better carry ur shit ass out of this thread or..........

hermesprogidy:
Game on...Looks as if chelsae are not very comfortable.

hermesprogidy:
nne m bu otele, ezi nauna m bu otele. m bu anu mpama!!! I'm such a natural fucckking idiott!!!

hermesprogidy:
[s]I have nothing to prove to you, go and sleep, it will help your depraved mind. [/s]

hermesprogidy:
I reserve my comment. but am glad you got the gist.

hermesprogidy:
A lot of INEC officials are generally overworked and thus impatient. I am an ibo man, and I was WELL attended to by a Yoruba INEC staff. I also witnessed crude behaviour towards some Yorubas who came looking for their PVCs by Yoruba speaking INEC workers.

Let's not misconstrue simple lack of courtesy and public relations by a few INEC staff to mean conspiracy to disenfranchise an entire ethnic group in Lagos.

God is watching all you war mongers

Lifebender:
[s]Alatenujes.SMH,A sure sign of a bad party.I return they will sell their vote and languish in poverty for the next 4 years.Ekiti people did the same thing,they can tell you how market.No wonder ichidodo,severusnape,tit are supporting the party of looters[/s].

EfemenaXY:
So why did you lot "allow" her marry an outsider if you all feel like this? Better still, why attend the marriage ceremony if you couldn't be happy for her?

EfemenaXY:
You still don't get it. It's got nothing to do with "buying into an idea of generalization", but asking you not to make sweeping statements about certain cultures / tribes.

I'm not Benin, neither is any member of my family married to a Benin person (in case anyone's wondering about my stance on this issue), and I think it's unfair for you to assume that just because her man is Benin, then it automatically translates into the fact that he must or will be cheating on her. Cheating isn't the exclusive preserve of any tribe but dependent on the makeup / personality of the individual in question. Meaning, you do have Igbo, Yoruba, Hausa, Urhobo, Benin, Ghanian, Arabian, European, Asian, Eskimo, etc men who can and have played the field.

Tell me this: If your female relative had kept to marrying someone from her village, would that be 100% guarantee that her marriage would be one long street paved with gold and nothing but entire martial bliss?

Another important point is that women can also play the field too. So strictly speaking, it isn't a one-way street. Be that as it may, every tribe has got it's faults but that notwithstanding, it's no cause to tar everyone from a particular culture with the same brush. It's extremely short-sighted.

Additionally, I did mention in my post that even if the families can't travel to each other's place (I still don't see why that's an unachievable feat), they can make concerted efforts to meet half way. Either way, it is important they meet so they table and discuss their misgivings. And yes, I still think that if they'd done that, there wouldn't have been any need to turn up at what ought to be a joyful occasion and treat it like a funeral (your words)

EfemenaXY:
I think you know these are unfair generalizations, expecting the worst / end of the union, even before the couple in question had completed the marriage ceremonies.

In cases of doubts (like the ones you've expressed), both families should strive to meet, and spend some time in each others company. Even if they live poles apart, visiting or meeting halfway shouldn't be completely ruled out. It's very important that the fathers and mothers of the couple should get to know each other properly. From what you wrote in your post, it sounds like this wasn't done, hence the apprehension and misgivings, but saddest of all, the constant expectation to hear the worst or that the union wouldn't last.

EfemenaXY:
Why?

Why are you lot still afraid for her? Afraid of what, if you don't mind my asking?