₦airaland Forum

I'm average financially but loathe any semblance of laziness combined with entitlement and selfishness, many ladies fall into this category I don't want to be the answer of ladies in this group praying for a millionaire as a husband this is why I'm taking my time. Mine has no reason to do with finance....

yarimo:
So peter OBI don't even know the well being of that boy after he took pictures with him just to deceive his illiterate Obidients for kindness?

Check your Doctors, it's getting out of hands

Reality3080:
will u Igbos say all these if it were tinubu that did what fubara did?

You are a capital f**l of a w bigot to even consider me an igbo, I am from Rivers State and Fubara is my Governor, is it that you don't have a state of origin or what or your state is inconsequential in Nigeria? Talk about your state and leave mine alone.

Bigots roaming all over Nairaland who thinks any opposing views comes from the tribe he loathes. Are the igbos that many that every responses must come from them?

techaboki:
You guys should stop saying this rubbish.
A lot of women are the ones footing the bills

Only very few men (I mean a minute few) foot all bills

Yiu are really delusional , a lot of women that we don't see? Only a minute percentage of women do this as an obligation to the family the other don't even see themselves as part of the family to even warrant them investing their money for the benefit of the marriage and family.

Are you reffering to women giving loans to their husbands to augment family expenses which they stilll expect same money which they are the large consumers to be refunded back to them?

Quite already, some ladies are trying but not what you so depict @ bolded

For sure it's the man responsibility �..a sensible man shouldn't wait for his wife to start paying bills..
But if she wish to do so fine..like assist him..

Its not a wish to support your family its obligatory to support. If the man wish to you all term him what again? Deadbeat una never start

Stilloracle:
"Countries that go against the U.S. (e.g., Iran, North Korea, Venezuela) often get hit with sanctions and financial restrictions that cripple their economies."


Now imagine the whole European Union. Asia and Middle East and Africa

US WONT SURVIVE. ..
US cant fight everyone at once and win

Those nations can't be united against the US, the US is a necessary evil to the world. 80% of innovations and research shaping the world goes on there , it's not fluke. Their military industrial complex can't be wished away, it is what it is...

Stilloracle:
"Countries that go against the U.S. (e.g., Iran, North Korea, Venezuela) often get hit with sanctions and financial restrictions that cripple their economies."


Now imagine the whole European Union. Asia and Middle East and Africa

US WONT SURVIVE.
US cant fight everyone at once and win

Those nations can't be united against the US, the US is a necessary evil to the world. 80% of innovations and research shaping the world goes on there , it's not fluke. Their military industrial complex can't be wished away, it is what it is.

Stilloracle:
Maybe I'm not economically knowledgeable enough.
I dont understand why everyone is angry n crying over US tarrifs. US has a population of 340M
The world has a population of 8.6B.
So if a country with only 340M is giving the whole world headache, why cant the whole world boycott, abandon and ignore that country?
Why is trade with America so important?
Why cant all other countries come together and trade with each other? Ofcos there will be some sell outs that want to side with US.

But this crap US is doing needs a new handstands approach. No whining or crying or even negotiating.

WHY CANT AMERICA BE BOYCOTTED?

Why is the U.S. so powerful in global trade?

1. It's Not Just Population — It’s Economic Power:

The U.S. might have only ~4% of the world's population, but it accounts for over 15–25% of global GDP, depending on the metrics.

It’s the #1 consumer economy. Companies around the world rely heavily on American consumers to buy their goods. For example, many countries export cars, electronics, and even raw materials directly to the U.S. for major profits.

2. Dollar Domination:

The U.S. dollar is the world’s reserve currency. That means many global transactions — including oil trades, debt settlements, and foreign exchange reserves — are done in USD.

This gives the U.S. a major economic advantage and leverage (e.g., sanctions, SWIFT access, etc.)

3. Military and Strategic Power:

The U.S. isn’t just an economic force. It’s a military superpower with hundreds of bases around the world.

Nations often align with U.S. policy out of strategic necessity, not just economics.

4. Global Institutions Were Built Around the U.S.:

After WWII, institutions like the IMF, World Bank, WTO, and even the UN were heavily shaped (or bankrolled) by the U.S.

That global order still favors U.S. influence and policy direction.

Why doesn’t the world just ignore the U.S.?

1. Interdependence:

The global economy is deeply interlinked. Supply chains span dozens of countries, and cutting off the U.S. would mean massive disruptions for everyone.

Many economies — especially emerging ones — depend on exports to the U.S. for survival.

2. Tech and Innovation:

The U.S. dominates in tech, pharmaceuticals, software, and research.

Even if you don’t want to deal with American politics, you might need their semiconductors, patents, or software licenses to run your economy.

3. "Boycotting" Has a Price:

Countries that go against the U.S. (e.g., Iran, North Korea, Venezuela) often get hit with sanctions and financial restrictions that cripple their economies.

The cost of boycotting the U.S. is often too high unless a large bloc acts in unity — which is hard to achieve due to diplomatic rivalries, dependencies, or fear of retaliation

So, is there a way out?

Some countries are starting to reduce dependence on the U.S.:

BRICS is pushing for a new financial system outside the dollar.

Nations like China, Russia, and India are increasing bilateral trade in their own currencies.

Regional trade blocs are forming (like RCEP in Asia or AfCFTA in Africa) that prioritize internal trade.

But creating a world that can truly ignore or boycott the U.S. requires:

-Massive economic re-balancing,

-New financial systems,

-Unified political will — and that’s where things get tricky.

diverseconcepts:
on a Monday morning?

Is there any day meant for protest? Nigerians una dey tire me for una way of reasoning

Reality3080:
which children?
Are u normal?

So u are supporting a governor that demolished house of assembly but I can bet it that if Tinubu demolished senate building u won't b saying all this

You need help, you don't even know the difference between Senate, house of assembly qnd house of representative building and you are here talking, go and help your mother in the kitchen.

Acekidc4:
Shey those protesters no get work ni🤔Using a whole Monday to do nonsense protest instead of working.

You think everyone is poor like you? I can afford to protest for a while one week and it will have nothing to do with ny 7 figures i get monthly.

When people protest in the west does it mean they are jobless? People like you is the reason this country is how it is. I can say for certainty that uou are from the south west and you see nothing wrong if the drug lord siphons my money through the use of an illegal administrator in my state.

The illegality you support today will hunt you tomorrow, its your time to smile very soon you will gnash your teeth.

When people want to deepen democratic process where rule of law is sacrosanct sycophants are here to oppose the betterment of the country because of little stipend.

Proserpina:
That's because women are not created to be providers! Whoever loses job should get another!

Lazy woman, who told you women aren't created to be providers? Where are you drawing this assertion from? Laziness combined with selfishness, entitlement is the reason most women see men as a tool for poverty eradication scheme for women and nothing more.
A woman with zero entitlement and zero selfishness won't be in this position, this is why i kick anyone close to my wealth currently when they have opposite opinion to this position. I loathe lazy and entitled humans with passion

IgOga:
Why are you assuming?

That's what the dude said, theh are responding to what he said read carefully.

Would you continue to footbyour bills yourself after the marriage if yes then yiu can continue to go your separate church if no then behave like a couple. You want to marry but live like single?

NOETHNICITY:
We should also impose tariffs on US imports

You already done that its at about 28%, the US is just reciprocating

KobomatPhones:
I was very shocked to hear that from her. I thought of it as ignorance as per a lady in her early 20’s wey never really see life.

When I check her banks monthly statement, 90% of the monthly inflow there na from me. When she comes around and I check her dad’s sms (cause she uses his sim too), his dad still doesn’t see up to 100k a month.

I just dey wonder, maybe she don see ajebo lifestyle before na wetin dey make am talk like that

Cause im finding it very difficult to understand how a lady from a low-class family (no disrespect here), will say that 500k is not even enough to survive a month, for a family with no children. Maybe na her past experiences?

funny but not funny. It's very pathetic to see people placing others in a position they would never want to be

lawani:
Abuja is however Gwari land and not Hausa land or Hausa Fulani land

I don't know why most don't know this, people just assume the whole noth is either hausa or Fulani. There is nothing kike hausafulani, one is either hausa or fulani

eazzzy1:
No amount of money is enough. Even Dangote’s $23B net worth isn’t enough, that’s why he’s still working. If you are waiting to have enough before you marry, you will never get married.

Your young and sheltered girlfriend is planning the family income based on her lifestyle. In the real world, people plan their lives around their income, not the other way around.

Apt

skillmyman:
I have seen someone earning 1.5m per month as far back as 2012 in a bank got sacked and went to start a job of 150k per month. He had to restructure his life and dat of his family. Life does not always go smoothly. Your girlfriend has told you the kind of person she is. Get urself some brain.

He was earning 10k dollars monthly in 2012, what w salary. That must really be w crazy scenario, dude never kept a reserve for himself for rainy days?

kings59:
I'm the kind of guy who likes looking at the bright side and avoid criticism or negativity.

You have to be happy with what she told you because she is making you elevate your life and motivating you to increase your hustle.

Take what she said as an advise because that's the typical truth.


When you finally double your hustle and earn more, you would still praise her.

Forget about the poople bringing negativity here, they won't tell you the truth but would be quick to judge.


I apply wisdom in anything I do and say before spitting it out.

Life is not only the positives you can also see positives in negativity. Lets assume he doubles his hustle will it quench her desires to satisfy herself through someone else and not herself? That desires will never end, if you say double hustle for him to meet tla contented woman i will agree but ro double hustle for someone that isn't contented? That's ridiculous.

If doubling hustle is interesting and easy why is she earning less than 50k? Humans are crazy, using standards for others but not herself, if she is the type hustling and earning as much as the guy will she make that statement? Lazy people will always see relationship and marriage as a poverty eradication scheme for women and when you meet one be careful before you enter a rat race. The dudes earning already placed him in a comfortable place in the Nigeria of today and is bound to make more as he gets more experience and training im his field but can't say of the woman who earns less than 50k.


Many men die because they want to please women and conform to women's statement which is against their personal health, i have seen this happen in real time for a man who earned 300plus but got pushed by a wife who earns 100plus but never contributed a dime to the family welfare, now she is a widow that hrr salary will now be put for the family since the man is no more.

There are certain stress men should avoid, stress within it doesn't always end well

Holluwhakemmy:
With 500k salary you can still live a comfortable life nothing wrong with that. Some people are not even see up to that and they are enjoying and managing themselves.
Your girlfriend is delusional that means she can't manage 500k per month Kilode

She can manage 50k salary that comes from her pocket but can't manage 500k that comes from someone else's pocket , tell these type of poor ladies how they intend to help their husbands financially and see the rubbish the man us dating , delusional is an understatement

This dude better run, he can never satisfy a woman like this. Talking about vacation and all whatnot when she can't even afford a motorcycle with her annual salary of 600k people dey date sha

coolcharm:
Let me give you a counsel. You can still study law and pursue your Tech dreams. I am not sure how old you are, but you might still be in your early 20’s.

Guy, most people in tech share their success stories, but they don’t share the privileges and undue advantages (like connections) they’ve enjoyed.

Don’t grandstand and don’t fall out with your pops because of what he wants you to study.

TLDR: Go study Law, then follow your Tech dreams.

This is q win win situation....

ObosiLandlord:
I understand Wike. Fubara is a very bad person.

Criminals outside government thinking when they enter they would be like criminals in government, criminals supporting their own pathetic. I weep for this country

Mohisah:
If u become a high profile pls don't hv a security🤣

Is it what he meant? Why una no dey ever reason well. He meant all these security inside a secured environment? Not that he is in a non restricted environment. This is the reason Nigerians like yiu don't see qny reason why an LGA will have just 50 policemen stationed there and a politician will have more than 50 security personnel that's why Nigeria is where it is

Someone is bringing a legitimate observation why you are shutting him down that if he enters there let him dare not follow the status quo. Pathetic citizens

MhizzAJ:
is it his business

Di you do this also?


Pllople do this because of poverty, they usually think marriage and relationship are government scheme for women's poverty eradication in the society so they do everything to position themselves for it.

Then the man sees all of these and then use the ladies as sex tools for relaxation, when they all passed their prime they start shouting men are scum.

We4all:
Children should not be answering their father's name if he is a dead beat.

So says you or Nigerian laws? Whi do yiu reffer as deadbeat? A man whi can't afford certain bills or a man who can but refuse to accept bills? Most if yiu don't know the difference between the two . And why do you only use deadbeat to reffer to w particular gender? If what is in yiur head is the consequences for deadbeat men what then should be for women? Though all of these assertions are baseless in law

Kobojunkie:
Why have a child with a man whom you are aware cannot afford hospital costs involved, let alone the cost of adequately raising said child? Women who do so are just as pathetic as the men they engage. Such women are not victims but willing accomplices. The real victims are the children born to such unreasonable parents.

A man who can't afford isn't pathetic i can agree for w mana who can but refuse to accept responsibility.

Agbegbaorogboye:
She's right though

Moreso if the man did not pay the woman's bride price

Where on earth did u guys come up with all of these? Its fine to get educated sincerely, whether you are on the birth certificate or not or whether have married her or not doesn't make the man less a Father.

You don't have to marry and pay a lady's bride price to be a father that's not what the law says, paternity of w child is not dependent on marriage but dependent on DNA , your custom has nothing to do with this. There are plethora of legal precedence on this, your emotions has nothing to do with this.

Same applies to the lady ranting online, the inability of q man not supporting hospital bills doesn't make him less of w father, a woman doesn't have the legal rights to cut off a father as w father of the child unless the man willingly refused ro accept fatherhood and she also at the same refused to compel fatherhood on him through the courts., ranting has nothing to do with this. People should be educated on little issues like this .

psucc:
Honestly, it's such a disheartening situation. Same headquarters he works is responsible for issuing study leave approval and conversion but no.

Politics in the work place, nija my country

psucc:
I don't dispute that! And also note that others applied for same approval but till they graduate no approval/disapproval was issued.
Note: you must get admitted before applying for the approval. Now, after securing admission, must one have to wait till approval is granted before joining the classes? No !
Nigeria is such a sorry place.

That's crazy......they expect you to forfeit the admission if approval isn't given

pocohantas:
I guess this is why some people recommend marrying a virgin. An untouched man.
Make them no tear your episiotomy.

Can you foot the bills of a male virgin since you want to think like a man? Don't just think and cherry pick just as feminist do , do it all round