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And we know she died of " love portion" how

The arrogance of ignorance.

Godhavemercy.

How could anyone be this mean?

Crazy, wicked people everywhere.

Salary. . . Regardless of the working condition(living in or coming in daily), the salary should be at least 20,000 ngn. Pay them as and when due. Don't deduct money from their salary when they spoil things in the house eg plate.Accidents happen !.

Age. . .minimum of 18 years

Family background. . .Take your time, go and meet the family wherever they stay. Ask people around questions about the family, investigate.

Previous work experience. . .Ask, verify, meet with previous employer and ask questions.

Pictures. . .Take full lenght pictures of your help in various angles, store them in your phone, mailbox and keep har copies.

Security . . .be security conscious. Depends on where u stay, leave FIRM instructions that the help cant and should not step out of the house with your kids without your prior instruction.

Be fair and kind. . .Treat your help as you would treat your OWN child. Don't hoard food from them(they will get even by starving your kids), dont be mean to them, correct them in love, don't use them as slaves. Give them freedom but watch them closely. Give them days off.

Go further. . .show interest in their personal life,goals. Ask them what they want to do in future, encourage them and help if you can. Depending on their age, ask about their relationship,invite and know their partner.

Occasional treats . . .Buying them a gift(no matter how cheap) on their birthdays, taking him or her to a salon for a makeover/hairdo/facials occasionally won't hurt you. Such little favours and acts of love that don't cost much goes a long wayyyyyyy.

Can't deal? Say goodbye. . .If for whatever reason you don't get along,like your help,think your help is a witch/wizard, please pay him or her off and let her/him go.

BoboYekini:
Hmm. Na these kain gentle babes dey sweet to toast. To say 'no' dey always hard dem.

Yeye

You'd be surprised. You can be gentle but yet stingy with "kpomo". No try yaself.

Whoever took this picture is MORE than crazy really. This is a mad woman roaming the streets and someone who assumes s/he is sane took this pic

Seriously ?

I must migrate by force. One of the many dangers of "See Morocco/Libya,see Italy/Spain" type of travel.

Can this bee pushed to the trvael section please.

Nothing worth copying .

Pregnancy should make one's tummy bigger,thats the norm. shes an exception good for her but nothing to copy.

wft is this?
The parents don't look wealthy, how could they have afforded their eating lifestyle up until this point? or is this some kind of defect and not necessarily caused by food intake

EfemenaXY:
Lol!

Absolutely not. How often do they carry out safety / risk assessments on their equipment? No be Naija again? If rope cut, highest they'll say to your mangled body in hospital na, "Eyah. Ndo..."

No insurance, no investigation, no nothing.

Nai gini? No be for Naija ooo. I wan die ?

To paraglide, one needs a really high mountain,cliff and wind cant say which type abeg. My own is to paraglide You'd start by making a GOOD run against the winds on the mountain for a minute or so, your velocity would take your feet off the ground and propel your tandem pilot to take off.
Efe,you are full of excuses and fears jare.

moca:
Nne, the thing wan roast me alive.
Was forced to buy gen.
What is happening?
No power supply at all everyday except small.
I can't take those fruits now(wish I can)
But I drink a lot(very chilled with small small iceblocks I can crunch) I hv stayed a day without water cos I couldn't get cold water.
Afo ime no be am at all.
One day one day,....
Me love that ur para thing o.
So this kain thing dey happen for naija?
Very cool.
Thanks a lot.

No, not in Naija. The closest place one can get it done around here is Dubai. You need lots of wind, pilots etc to paraglide. No be only APC/PDP winds of change dey Naija. Dat one fit carry person go land for Sambisa forest , biko.
Cococandy, see ladies like you skydiving. I know you can. Yes, you can.
http://www.skydivedubai.ae/tandem.html

Moca, the heat no be here.I dey feel am for Eko too. staying hydrated is the key is the key : lots of water, water melon, pineapple, oranges. Ndo inu?

Cococandy,yimu Edwife, If you love life, you dare it. Skydiving loading this summer #cantwait#

She's even learned.

I hope the brother-in-law, sister et all is arrested and prosecuted. Evil people.

I know her type.

They will come in tattered clothes, no reference, sob stories, "pity-me" face, willing to accept 10,000 as salary just so u get them into your home, then they strike!

I thank God she's caught and most importantly that we MOTHERS especially, learns and be wise with the choices we make concerning our family.

What would I do?

If I'm close/ real buddy with the colleague, I will draw her aside alone and tell her what I know. However, I will still let her know that the decision to go on or not with the affair is her call and not my business.

I will NEVER tell any other soul aftetwards,. I will enter MYOB mode.

EfemenaXY:
Hey...
Been meaning to ask how the paragliding went? I'm scared of heights you know.
Chillisauce: Oya show face na. You've been absent for too long. Hope all's well at your end dear?

EfemenaXY:
Hey...
Been meaning to ask how the paragliding went? I'm scared of heights you know.
Chillisauce: Oya show face na. You've been absent for too long. Hope all's well at your end dear?

Dear, it was super fun. You are scared of heights? I think paragliding would be just perfert for you. Just once,once you are up there, your fear od heights would disappear. You should try it. Go Efe go.

Me and my lovely pilot Alex. He took me on my very first tandem flight. Nice dude. He has his own paragliding outfit. check it out free advert

http://www.aspenparagliding.com

Chili dey find 6 packs? Hahahaha.

Sis, just do this. This is my 6 packs, on top my big peppersoup, nkwobi and isi ewu belle. No time

Ibiyomee:
Just heard that they found the kids along Egbeda road in lagos.

Thanks and praises be to God.

Onu mere m pichikom first.

Asadike na Odenigbo, ana m enyo unu abuo enyo.

Tony nwoke onu. A mam your type,onu onu, no action. O buru mgbe Ify n'akpa ike, di single and available, a kara m iyi gi egwu small. Kuo gi ja-ja, kutuo gi live for one month.

Toshman, Feli on the rescue. Oru red cross na service to humanity. Nwa Darfur mere m jiri retire from oru ebele to humanity. lol

Idprincess, thumbs up girl.

I am happy for you, this is just the beginining. Go gurlie

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toshmann:
Ify ihe na agu m wu garri oku

Garri kwa?
Enyi a , i kwara iko yesterday nke a Garri na agu gi? Jide onwe gi aka o

JustCare:
ugbua kam si ebe mu gara rie osikapa...na onu ego di elu
chai! ewu atam igu n'isi...

Ewo.
Ndo

Looking for Gboliwe in the pictures

Kpor kpor Kpom n'ebe a.

Toshmann.
Skimpychick
Preselect
Justcare
mercylicious
Oziomatv

Onye elu,na onye ala, Ifi shiri rice ofe akwu and y'all are invited.

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Hi Cocoa, Hi Moca.

Low Efe, Chili and Eddy.

Thanks Blank for sharing with me.

Na enjoyment and teasing ourselves stage we dey now,to the glory of God

It didnt start like this ooo, we did and saw it all : one week one quarrel stage, malice keeping stage, to be or not to be stage.

Patience, perservance and forgiveness kept us ths far.

I love you my KKKKKKKKKK. Otolege forever

Annie get some swag and class,biko.

@Topic, Any updates @OP?

My prayers are with this family. I pray God in his infinite mercy bring those kids back home in one piece.

ibizgirl:
My dear, N15000 is not too small. They come with 2 sets of clothes, so you cloth them, feed them, buy them toiletries, recharge cards and fix their hair amongst others. They only collect their money when they are leaving. She is just a wicked person who came to that house on a mission.

In 2015 you think food is anything worth mentioning as a favor or act of kindness for anyone,not to mention your domestic staff

Abeg,I no dey for this kain discourse.

Food, clothes, toiletries like seriosuly? For someone you leave your kids 10 hours a day, food means that much to you ?

Soap,cream of maybe 200 naira a month is a problem? Who would she call with the recharge card/phone if not you and for matters relating to your children?

Like i said,If you can't afford it comfortably, just improvise and find a way to take care of your children. The big madam mentality of getting a help for 15,000 ngn and not treating them fairly is what is leading some of us in trouble.

I think y'all don't get the point------cheap article especially when it involves our kids,is not worth it in the long run.

I'm sure she got offers that demanded for 25,000 ngn per month or above for salary but nay, she felt " it's too expensive/no be mere house help/wetin she want do/she be graduate?" mentality (that is clearly exhibited on this thread) creeped in and made her settle for less with no reference, due background check etc.

Nigerians ,please we need to stop seeing them as mere house helps! Can you pay your driver 15K? But y'all believe you should pay someone whom you leave your children and entire household(food,drinks,properties) with for almost 10 hours each day less. I don't get it oh. They are not mere house helps, infact, they've got our lives in their palms indirectly, therefore we should start by giving them fair wages, treat them like one of us and stop seeing little things like feeding them,handing them new or our used clothing etc as a big deal cos its NOT.

Expats living in Nigeria all have helps, how many times have we heard their kids are kidnapped? Why ? Cos they do proper checks, go through an employment agency, pay more (which is what it should be) and treat them well. It's not a must to have a help.I mean,if your salary cant comfortably pay your help atleast 25,000 ngn per month then don't get one. Find a creche,improvise or simply stay at home till your children are of school age. Marriage,child rearing comes with compromises and sacrificies. Let's stop cutting corners.