@OP, are u from mbaise? answer the question and i will tell you why i asked okay...............

shalomp: If her agony is abt loosing d man, its more understandable because may be she is thinking of 'a happy ever after'. Bt talking abt shame, she has nothing 2 be ashamed of afterall, both of them saw each others unclothedness. Pls dnt resign ur job because of one stupid man. Wheneva ur paths cross, be d first 2 look tru him, do ur work deligently and dnt entertain any rubbish 4rm anybdy because of wot happened, ur nt d first 2 sleep wit a man. And make sure 2 reject any luv advances coming frm dat quarter.

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She still loves this dude..........its not just the shame alone.

kambo: ur girl shud ditch shame in dis matter o! because shame is dis guy's trump card. A woman wt shamelessness wud embarrass dat player till he quit d job to avoid her. The guy led her on. She shd definitely resign to avoid seeing him evryday. But b4 then she shud turn increasingly shoddier wrk, till d boss calls her attntion on it (hopefully), then she turn on the tears and wail abt how she has bcme an emotional wreck after the boss's gud friend used and abused her and ignored her. Wht kinda predators does d boss keep as friends , she shd ask. At least tht shd get d boss accostg his friend, xcpt the boss na player too. After dat she shd resigns and quits.

Wow!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! this would take lot of guts to carry out.

kimberluge: Either d guy too fine n she could not resist his looks or she wanted some cash,afterall dat is wat most 9ja gals believe weneva dey see yankee guy! Jst saying!!

Did you read the write up at all before commenting? She didn't know he was based outside of the country the first time she laid eyes on him and fell for him.................not all girls fall for a guy with money you know.

tpia@:
happens all the time, you like a guy, hop into bed with him, then he vanishes and deletes you from his skype.

but not without informing anyone who cares to know, that he got the goodies.

its a tough world, some people have an upper hand especially when it comes to casual sex.


ladies, keep your legs closed as much as you humanly can, konji does not kill anyone. never has, never will.

as long as you're not dealing with a criminal character with a warped mentality, nothing wrong with holding body.



fake thread, also, imo.

That is the fear in my friend..............such a guy may probably have discussed her with her new boss as they are very close.....................oooh!!! it aint no fake thread as i have been acting as agony aunt.she doesnt just feel heartbroken,she feels humiliated seeing her boss everyday.

xynerise:
This is the only part that caught my interest. No! Your advice was wrong. Let her resign. We have a lot of jobless youths here in Nairaland. Let one occupy her space ASAP

Na your usual way na......................

Dygeasy: sweetheart we are on the same side here... I aint supporting his actions either. Just that the OP's friend should be thankful that she didn't lose more than one or two bangings. Some other ladies have suffered worse. Guys dump ladies they've dated for one year and more plus getting the ladies' possessions;money and stuffs. She should just move on that's all [in my oga at the top's voice.]

thanks for this...............i just feel for her though because she is the way reserve type. but all the same,her knowing she is lucky not being duped etc should give her the strength to move on.

We re not talking about me.................yes she is HOT if you think that may probably be the reason he is acting strange. hotter than me even

Someone narrated a story today similar to the one I am about to tell and the story gave me the confidence share to this heartbreaking story of a friend.(it is real).

She met this guy in an interview she attended last year as the guy was one of the interviewer,(she got the job),after the interview,it took her months to resume at her new place but throughout the waiting period,her thoughts were on the guy,she couldn't wait to set eyes on him when she resumes, to her it was love at first sight.

two weeks prior to her resumption day, she got an email from a stranger,asking if its alright for him to call her,she told the stranger it was, hence she discovered it was the guy she has been silently pining for and NO he doesn't work with the company where she just got a job rather he's based outside of the country.

there began their love journey(on her part though), they got talking,mails were flying,he is very intelligent,knows something on almost every topic,she being intelligent herself fell deeper and deeper in love with him. sex never came up all the time but they do talk about it and flirted a lot via Skype,phone calls and emails, she told him everything about herself and family(she never does that as she is a very private person).everything was going smoothly,she was so much in love thinking God has finally brought the ideal man. the communication continued even after she resumed work..............ooh!did i mention he does freelance jobs for he new company? hence her meeting him there?.

Second week of January he came back into the country,from the airport he started calling her that night,she was happy because she spent the whole of that day day dreaming about his coming home. the next day she visited him and was happy and he looked happy to see her too. there was outing, gisting...........of course love making(they have been communicating for up to 6 months) ,so don't judge her by calling her cheap, there was also a second date.

After the second date, everything went haywire! the calls, mails all stopped instantly. in fact he deleted her from Skype!he also stopped picking her calls and replying her mails, in fact he yelled at her when she tried knowing what went wrong. THE MAJOR issue here is that she always almost see him on a daily basis and that hurts more than not seeing him at all,she still loves him,it is distracting seeing him almost everyday.............what hurts the most is that he looks right through her as if she doesn't exist..............she told me she wanna resign from her work for her peace of mind but i said NO as the guy will probably leave soon, did I give her the right advise? She is not yet registered on nairaland but she is following closely on this topic to take the best advise.

Matured advise,Please don't hurt her more.

wonderful God

@ OP.........wear jeans and tshirt

RIP to the dead

iwe na ewe ha seriously

why should it be a headache na?

she should try and lose the baby fat joor

so he get shoes before? why e been dey lie na?

the card wasn't justified...............it really lacked intent

Hian oooh!!!!!!!!!! sandals again? nothing person no go hear for this world.

He is everything good and beautiful............... caring,attentive,my best friend,my hero,generous to a fault especially towards his children,the best adviser,..............in fact my dad is the best dad on earth and am really lucky to have him as a father.May God continue to strengthen and preserve you for me Sir.

i will like to meet Parryon,she sounds so cool and polite

Maxymilliano: It is becoming clearer by the day that the present crop of NLC leaders only believes in making noise just to be noticed without taking a pause to consider if it is on the right path or not, this was the same dude who claimed the NLC will ground the whole economy if total subsidy removal is effected as if the country have any other choice.

What Sanusi said was the home truth and nothing but the truth, how can the country make appreciable progress when 70 per cent of its earnings is used in paying salaries and entitlements of civil servants? How can proceeds from our major source of revenue be used to service recurrent expenditure by paying salaries and allowances when the country should be thinking of enhancing its productivity base?

Is the NLC president blind not to know that the high number of political office holders in all tiers of governments and their counterparts in the civil service are just like drain pipes with next-to-nothing contribution to the economy? How then can we continue to spend on things that cannot create wealth?

This is the import of Sanusi's message but which seems to be lost on NLC, a compact and less expensive system of government that will greatly reduce overhead cost is what the country need, especially at this time.

Brilliant statement!!! Those old men and women doing nothing in our Govt offices should give way for young and vibrant graduates to come in.Basically,all they do in those offices is sit and gossip without having anything to show at the end of a day's job yet at the end of the month they are paid armed robber salaries to boot.

Let call a spade a spade................... if Elijah did not go Elisha would not come( Abeg make them go joor make youths wey their blood dey hot take over).

Please house,who else got invited for an interview at direct on PC ltd,ilupeju for tuesday,23 Oct,2012?