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Pls help me ooo, I have financial obligations to meet ooo.

Good my good people, pls am in need of a security agent or human right organisation that can help retrieve my 170k from a man that work with nscdc in osogbo based on job scam,those are the proof of payment, he has not been picking my calls and he lies alot. Pls I will appreciate any help.

kenex4ever:
what is this village brought up saying?

that you can't comprehend. Sapana la pao, olode la gbe o lo, lukuluku la pa o.

kenex4ever:
what is this village brought up saying?

that you can't comprehend.

kenex4ever:
As I read through your many errors (especially in tenses), I just knew you are a Yoruba boy.
*back to d mata* Just move on bro, I just broke up with my bae too.

u are a dumb ass try to read his conclusion, your common sense is not common. Werey alaso

burticious:
Correct .. iyan a yun lerun re. . O ra juya

oseun baami, uyawore ni salo ooo.

burticious:
Come brother .are you for sure you be ijesha boy...which area u from there ..coz we correct ijesa no dey take that kind nonsense o .. why u dey do like woman .. you go para for am ni jor ..ladies like her need iron hand ..She no get home training ..where Is the lady from sef

baba, I be confirm ijesha from ilesa, I don para for am like ijesha, she has promised to change. Thanks

99foxxy:
For a start, how old is your baby mama? What type of family background is she from? was she active in her father's house? what you should no is this, she's a first time mum and so many things could be lacking in her. Do you love her? do you see her as your baby mama or your lover cause they are two different things entirely and why are you over emphasizing on your mother? doesn't she have a mother? does your mother love her as to be correcting her with love rather than scold her in a manner that will make her shout back at her and by so doing your mum will see her as a rude girl? age plays a key role in every human being and as a first time mum and she has alot to learn but with love. Aside her being dirty, doesn't she have some good qualities in her so you can weigh and decipher from there? no one is above mistake and learning, so please think and act as an adult and find happiness which is in you, not your mum or nairalanders kk? most importantly, seek God who has answers and solutions to your problems. Have a nice day.

thanks alot her mum has called her and talk to her she promised to change.

ponpin234:
I listened to a relationship audio message dis evening, and the preacher said...do not marry a lady just bcus she has a bby for u...cus it has made mani men go mad in d marriage, bcus d hardly enjoy d marriage

Dat let the guy just carry his child nd train the child nd move on wit life, u must surely get someone who will love you and that baby togeda

Since she cant change, i wil advice u to take ur bby nd move on wit ur dauta, cus if u settle wit her, u might end up divorcing her or not having peace of mind in ur house.

A word is enough for the wise

thanks boss I appreciate.

Thanks my people

Ioannes:
There's no law that says you must marry her.

With just one child she can't maintain cleanliness, what happens when you marry her and she gives birth multiple times.

Your home will always be like a pig sty. Visitors will have to regularly go out for fresh air when they come inside your house.

hmmm thanks I apprreciate

Thanks boss, I realy appreciate your advice

tearoses:
If you can afford it, rent a place for her away from your parents place
For a start she shouldn't be living there if you were not even making marriage arrangements and you are not sure that she is the one that you will marry.
Its not fair on your parents and it gives the girl a false sense of security.
It also boxes you into a corner

my concern is my daughter, if she is staying alone I might be spending money on unhygienic illness, my mum suggested she shld stay with her.

SURElee:
When you dey enter the place she no dirty. Now na stupid talk we dey hear for NL. Nonsense, even your spellings tells a lot about you.

madam my phone pad is bad, don't think I will descend so low to make an unreasonable conversation with you, if you know me in person you will not reason this way. Have a nice day ahead.

tearoses:
Since she already stays in your parents place then its a difficult one as you cant just chase her away
You say your mum has already been on her case, but to no avail, so I don't really know what to suggest
Some people are just inherently untidy and dirty;

Your mistake was going so far with such a person when you know that it was something you are not ready to live with

I cant advise you to marry someone that will make you unhappy because you will both be unhappy and that will affect your daughter also.
Keep on talking and acting and tell her you cannot commit until things change
Also tell her that you are not prepared to wait indefinitely for the change and you will move on without her if she doesn't change.
Let her know your plans so she doesn't think that you jilted her.

am realy happy with your advice, am thinking she might pretend for some time and later change to her ways, because when she came to me I corrected her, but when she was leaving I noticed she left the toilet and bath unwashed, so am realy scared, I will follow ur advice, I will watch her for sometime, thank God my baby is now eating well, and walking I will still watch her.

Sj

tearoses:
This sounds like someone clumsy and non chalant

Does she make her bed in the morning?
Does she clean out her kitchen cupboards?
Does she sweep under her bed
Does she clean her toilet?
Are her clothes neatly folded in her wardrobe?

These are some of the things that tidy people do

The clothes turning brown could be due to bad soap or she washing dark colours with light colours

Why is she not bathing the baby in the morning? is she bathing the baby at night?
No water?
no time?

Maybe she just needs orientation and to learn quicker and easier ways to to do things.

she stays in my parent place, there is running water, when she came visiting, I do shout on her to lay the bed, she scatter all on the floor, I was ashamed when I came home with my friends when that came to say hi to her an my baby, she look unkept. Am frustrated God knws.

PeachyP:
If she's dirty now then she'll be dirty after marriage. You may think that she'll change after some time but she won't. And didn't you notice she's dirty since before you gave her a baby?

I hate abortion the relationship was 3 month then and she told me she is preg,infact my dad still talk till today that I disappoint him, but it's my cross, the baby didn't send me, so I make sure she is happy but the mum is frustrating me. Am thinking of remaining single and I will let my mum take care of the girl, cos I don't want another woman to maltreat her.

nasha1:
u let her get away with it for far too long and she is used 2 it.Like I said tell her that u tried 2 accommodate her lack of hygiene and u don't think u want 2 live the rest of ur life like this OR Make her uncomfortable anytime she visits, clean after her each time she uses something while murmuring,wash ur daughter clothes when she is around,even the clean ones,talk about hygiene more often to ur daughter,she is a baby but ur indirectly referring 2 her,this will trigger something in her and watch her reaction.If this doesnt work,u are the one 2 decide coz nobody here will help u more than u can help urself as u will be the one 2 live with her.I dislike dirty people especially women!

ok I will because now, my mum said she will nor correct her again because my brother wife never give her problem, and she do shout on my mum. Am thinking of calling her mum to explain, cos the relationship was 3 month when she got preg, and since then I ensure she go to school her parent never take care of anything again, and still she Stilll do this to me.imagine now, I can't sleep since yesterday.

nnamdiokere45:
u must nt marry ur baby mama. I dey dirty small n I nid sumone dat wld help me nt mke me worst. marriage na forever sumtin oooo.tink wel bro, u never marry am she dey like dis wen una mqrry nko

am also not that neat but am still better than her, all the good cloth I bought for my daughter has turn brown, including the one sent by my sister, I bought her 3 phone within 6month all spoilt, the last one was techno l7( u nw the price when it came out) am just confused.

Thunderlicious:
Dats not an issue. It can be corrected. Dats not enough reason to not marry her, but the fact dat she has a daughter for u does not mean u should marry her. Don't do something u wud regret for the rest of your life. Marry her ONLY if you love her.

thanks boss, have talked to her beg her, infact she was doing her IT, she was sleeping at home and the superior came to her place of IT and didn't meet her. The case is still on now that my mum is trying to settle.

nnamdiokere45:
said ok hw?

I don't realy understand.

nasha1:
it either u take charge of the hygiene of the baby or u let her know that u won't be settling down with her because of dat and see what happens.

am not around, she schools in our hometown so she stay with my mum, wen she came visiting, my toilet change colour from white to brown, infact am confused, I wish well for her but how do I handle dis.

That was what I told her yesterday and she said Ok, infact am thinking am finished. I pray she should drop laziness so that life can be meaningful.

Pls house, am realy confused, I have a baby mama whom I sponsored in school. She is in her finals now, but she is too dirty, at times she will not bath my baby before taking her to daycare, she do wear dirty cloth for her, and I was also told she do shut my mum down when she corrects her.Inshort, she is dirty, i have talked to her but no changes, am just tired and confused. I love my daughter so well. I don't want to go into polygamy but this one is too hard to bear.

So many unreasonable people here, this guy brought this car here for sale not for stories, maybe them papa no buy bicycle before now, somehow sha, OP happy sales, I use Toyota and it's a strong brand

Sad

This is a satanic attack, in this kind of issue prayer and God intervention is the wayforward, I will advice the parties involve to pls and pls dialogue and make prompt inquiry about the main reason why she is been fired, the issue of getting married without approval shouldn't be the main cause, something must be wrong somewhere, no sane humanbeing will do such without any rift or grudges on ground before, pls dialogue because financial stability is part of the ingredient to happy marriage.

Fedric:
lie the company that i work for bought theirs #1,430:00 cement is now expensive, final consumer buy it at the rate of #1,550:00. thought u said u are a distributor

I bought 50 bags at the rate of 1550 per bag lastwk thursday

And this woman said they can't afford to buy pampers for jamil back then, my advice to my fellow men is that just make sure u keep hustling woman can be funny when money is getting dry in marriage.

Negotiate to the bearest minimum and pay and let him sign a comprehensive agreement and fence up your land with immediate effect. Those bagas are idiot, don't use violence pls.

What you people don't knw is that the IPPS enrolment stuff can not allow replacement to take place, because anybody replaced must have his fingerprint captured, don't let anybody deceive you, double your hustle whatever will be will be. The only thing you should expect is gen recruitment if they will do one this year.

I will inform my lawyer that am about dissecting someone which may later lead to murder so he should be prepared for a longtime in court if only the baga can afford a lawyer because I don't joke with my daughter.