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Black women.

The non-gold-digging, nice ones that is,

Because a lot of women today are full of it.

constantly asking me to buy you something.

the constant nagging to call you.

The constant bothering me to take you somewhere.

Yet-- I ask for ONE thing-- and the woman has a CONNIPTION about it.

No SIREE, thank you!

No selfish ladies in my life.

I deal with enough selfish people in my professional business life on the daily whom only look out for themselves-- I dont need a pushy bossy and selfish female invading my personal life too with her silliness.

females need to step their game up.

this is why a lot of guys most happiest moments in life is when they were single and young. and why a lot of men cheat. It's always the woman's fault!

no baggage of a woman, and no constant catering to her.

2sexy:
I dont know how to tell a girl i like That i want to date her. Do you just walk up and say it. Its really giving me sleepless night. Please help.

Just dont tell her. Let her come to you.

In the meantime-- find some other girl to mess around with until said girl you got your eyes on sees your love-vendor game and respects it.

If she doesnt-- move on with the feeling that it was never meant to be.

Number one rule for guys when trying to attract girls-- NEVER FORCE it.
If it doesnt happen, it doesnt happen. Move on. there are millions of other fish in the sea, who look 10x better than that girl and will appreciate you 10x better than that girl.

When guys put too much stress and importance on attracting that one girl that they THINK is the girl of their dreams-- that's when they slowly start pacing down the avenue of becoming potential "stalkers", "weirdos", "losers", or "creeps".

You'll end up turning the girl off even more than she was unintersted in you before.

Pay attention to the girls who like YOU for YOU, in which you DONT have to lose sleep over at night trying to plot some insane scheme of how to approach them.

best believe they arent losing any sleep over YOU.

the only woman you should ever have to lose your mind over is either your mother or you WIFE, if you are married.

Other than that-- get your education up, stay fit, stack your money up to the ceiling, and mess around with as many chicks as you can. Oh, yah, and be safe

Faher:
Both types are negative (i.e excessively loud and boringly quiet)

I can live with a talkative who has very good self control (especially in public)
But I cannot last with a quiet girl, unless I'm able to make her lively (which is hard)

good post, Faher. I AGREE!!!

I dont mind a talkative girl-- as long as she still acts like a feminine lady with some sense of self-control and intelligence, and is nice/warm-hearted.

a boisterous manly acting typical loud-black girl and I'm ready to shoot my self.

A quiet girl, it depends. Is she quiet because she is uppity and full of herself and feels she doenst have to talk to me and that I am not a priority on her list.

Or is she simply soft-spoken, sentimental, caring, soft-hearted in the sense that she is more the shy type and more lady-like.

Hmmm, both can have their negatives and thier positives,

Being in love is the worst thing to happen to men in modern society filled wtih gold-digging women.

iice:
[color=#9900ff]It's not today someone will insult black people's hair or features.  It's been long long years since it first started and the fact that it's still going on shows that people aren't as far along as they delude themselves to be.

Yes-- this is an admirable attitude, if the PEOPLE WE WERE TALKING ABOUT DIDNT CLAIM TO BE AFRICAN or LIVE ON THE CONTINENT WITH US AND AMONGST OUR PEOPLE IN THE FIRST PLACE!!!!!!!

If they were Arab foreignors or whites-- we would just shrug our shoulders and continue to do our own thing regardless of what they feel/do.

But the fact that this is supposed to be OUR PEOPLE on the Motherland talking this way makes me SERIOUSLY QUESTION whether or not these people really ARE who they SAY they ARE!!!!!!!

Does this not SEEM ODD to you?

A seemingly BLACK group of people who hate EVERYTHING about Black people, blackness or even being CALLED IT?

It doesnt make you wonder how and why this group got indoctrinated?


SSMMMHHH.

Where are all the REAL, and LOYAL black Women at?

Abd When will this REAL Black woman STAND UP and DEFEND HER PEOPLE and BLACK NATION when times clearly call for it??!!

Man-- so many of you sistas are lost.
I feel sorry for a lot of other fellow black males out here.

tpiah:
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is there a particular reason you're posting somali/ethiopian topics everywhere?

Shame on you.

This is the 2nd black woman I have met today online that wishes to trivialize these important matter CENT$RAL to Africa's DEVELOPMENT and GRADUAL REHABILITATION!

Here I am, a black man, trying to discuss with fellow Naija sisters about this disgusting behavior and the best you can do is point me to the very epi-center of the places CRAWLING with this such self-hating/anti-black infestation?

Ohhhh,  shame on you.

this is a very sad day for black people.

I've noticed a lot of black women doing treacherous back-stabbing things, lately against their men. this is why so many w. African men lately -- per my conversations-- have been telling me they have been looking the other way towards relationships (white women/other races). And that the women (black) are too hard-headed, hot-headed and stubborn and do not make good wives.

I try to tell them to find some beautiful Naija girls back home-- but alas, words fall on deaf ears.

same thing is happening in the Caribbean community and the AA one.

I must make a thread on this, asking why.

I think I have an idea-- but am not sure yet and must ask the males of this forum to confirm it for me.

iice:
[color=#9900ff]  When you finished foaming about your 'more power to the black people' tirade. . .[/color]

And whats wrong with "power to black people" huh?

R u not a BLACK Woman yourself?

Or have you decided to take the same route of the self-hating mullatoes you defend?

Huh?

Is that the reason why you are defending them so hard the way you do and alleviating their disgusting anti-black behavior in this thread?

It's almost if you dislike me MORE just for talking about the subject than the people actually BEING siccussed for their attitudes towards blacks.

Iice-- if you indeed ARE a black woman, you ought to be ashamed of yourself.

You have made every attempt to trivialize their disgusting self-hatred.

I must say that I as a black man am VERY disappointed in you.

However-- I have noticed this rebellious behavior to be quite typical in black women nowadays of all ethnicities (AA, caribbean, african (in particular W. African)

hmmm,  i think i may need to make a thread on this,

What a horrible comparitive analysis between the two.

Ethiopians DO NOT HAVE the monopoly on healthy LEAN bodies!!!

Quit repeating the lies that they WANT you to believe!!!

To compare what you consider "chunky" W. African women to that of lanky "Ethiopian" women already shows your in-built self-hate towards your typical idea of what an Ethiopian woman supposedly has since birth in contrast to African women from other areas.

You are basically wallowing in an unprecedneted self-inferiority complex by reciting this belief in ethiopians having the genetic composition to be lean and other African women as FAT and you dont even KNOW IT!

Of course a "chunky"- or-- FAT SLOPPY BLACK woman doesnt look as good as another black woman who IS in shape. This is he natural standard with ALL COLORS and RACES of the world. Healthy, lean muscular bodies on both males and females is what keeps the attraction between the genders STRONG!

But to imply the Ethiopians have the monopoly of always staying looking healthy and other Africans NOT is a form of self-hatred, I could not have BEGAN to fathom was within you.

Please ignore the TROLLS in this forum (white boys acting like African-Americans) who talk of how much better racist ethiopians, somalis look and how the rest of us look like monkeys.

They are not REAL AA's. AA's have grown in a country in which they have tried to be genetically linked to subhuman "apes" and "gorillas/monkeys" all their lives and they abhor the word when they use it on each other. Guys like Mandingo are more than likely white guys hiding behind computers PRETENDING to be them so that they can rile you up! This happens on EVERY PREDOMINATELY BLACK SITE that you go too! Racist white guys hiding behind computers causing mess and drama between blacks.

I am half AA and half-Naija and have lived in the U.S. all my life, and our AA brothers and sisters hold no ill will towards us, nor do they talk like this. Not even the ghetoo ones!

For the most of the educated non-ghetto, classy, successful ones, they love us just as much as we love them.

I have had many talks with many different African-americans in my life. alot of the reasons why some of them react the way they react is because they feel that alot of us as Africans have a great deal of latent arrogance about ourselves and feel that our culture and way of life is better than their transplanted ones.

and yes-- we cannot lie-- the great majority if not ALL of us really DO feel this way.

However-- there are also your very ghetto and typically ignorant lower class inner city ones who are mean-spirited towards everyone they meet and belittle anyone who is different than them./

do not take their comments about you to heart or seriously. they say ignorant crap towards EVERYONE ALL THE TIME. I was just in a chinese restaurant and this ignorant AA was calling the chinese people who worked there "chink-eyed, fish-faced gooks".
Thjese types of ignorant AA's dont even get along with othe5r AA's-- why do you think so many DEATH STORIES march around these same miscreants from these inner-city "hoods". Ignorance begets more ignorance and they get their just desserts in the end.


Anywqys-- back on subject. there is currently a socio-political movement today within the U.S. and the U.K. in which Caribbeans and AA;s are seriously trying to get in touch with their African?West African roots and want to connect more with us.:
http://www.blackpowercartel.com/
http://theblackchannel.net/
http://rbgtube.com/

Look at the colors of the African flag in all of their SITES-- RED BLACK AND GREEN!

I've had so many beautiful African-american women ask me about fellow African men and "ooh" and "aah" over pictures of Nigerian men.

the same is DEFINITELY TRUE with AA men and their admiration of African women.

Do not be fooled by the media or the TROLLS on here.

there is much progression being made between the two groups now more than ever! Let us continue to bond with those PROGRESSIVE, SMART AA;s who LOVE US and seek to build with us and leave the ghetto ignorant behind.

this is a time when we need each other the most!

thanks

And, since you're the one who brought it up, maybe you are the one who is thinking about dating one of them. quit broadcasting how you really feel off on me!

tpia.:
who cares?

those of you who want to date them should go slug it out elsewhere.

This ISNT about dating them.

this is about respect and the tremendous amont of self-hatred they have for blacks and black features.

We as Africans talk about the self-hatred and colorism in AA and U.K. caribbean community ALL the time, but refuse to address when someone from our own continent exhibits it just as clearly if not even MORE worst than your average AA can or will.

ifele:
The thing dont complain against God or man if other folks dont look like you or your people. Those different looking people do not exist for your sake.

huh?

iice:
[color=#9900ff]That quote seems like someone replying to another rather venomously. . .which is something people do.

Anyhoo. . .we have our sense of beauty. . .they have theirs.[/color]

So you mean to tell me them insulting black people's hair and their features doesnt bother you?

I'm half Naija and half AA, and believe me-- where I come from my parents nor my people would NEVER allow another person--expecially BLACK PERSON-- to denigrate black features without shame coming about on them.

If this were an AA or another fellow Nigerian from a different tribe, we would jump all on their case and would not allow this self-hatred to continue to fester.

why the double-standard?

thimbook2:
mullatoes now

high yaller disappointed whiteys or whatever else you want to call them's fine by me especially with that their funny attitude

seems like it to me. Hey, they even made a Facebook GROUP about it:

WHY DO WEST AFRICAN GIRLS HATE ON EAST AFRICAN GIRLS ESP SOMALIS AND ERITREANS ?!?!?!
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Eman WHY DO WEST AFRICAN GIRLS HATE ON EAST AFRICAN GIRLS ESP SOMALIS AND ERITREANS ?!?!?!
March 17, 2009 at 10:26pm
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John because they believe in what most of the west African women will never believe in.
March 29, 2009 at 10:41pm
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Eman John, I second that!
And, because we have smaller features and real hair. And, we have everything they don't,
March 30, 2009 at 8:42pm
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Micalina SPEAKIN FOR DA ERITREANS, CUS WE LIGHT SKINNED N AV REAL HAIR WHICH IS SOFTER N LONGER DEN DER LOLOL, NO HATE WEST AFRICANS
April 9, 2009 at 1:47pm
http://www.facebook.com/topic.php?uid=4550629307&topic=7576

iice:
[color=#9900ff]Hmmm i know a few somalis/eritreans/ethiopians. . . they are cool with me
The Sudanese (i know quite a few) consider themselves arabs [/color]

Look at this.:

The_ethiopian: im an ethiopian living in america, and the things kola says about ethiopia is just not true, she is a fake and a phony liar, and i hate to brake it to u like this kola but black beauty is an oxymoron, whats so beautiful about blue black skin and nappy hair, in fact i consider it a birth defect, and btw Celopatra and the queen of sheba were not negro woman, celopatra was a potolomy from greece and the queen of sheba was from saba in southern yemen which was part of ethiopia at that time, i dont know why kola has this deep rooted hatred towards white woman, i suspect it is because she knows she will never look like them or come remotly close in resembling them like light skinned woman, no matter how many times u take your top of kola u will never be in the same league as white woman, white woman and northern ethiopian woman are gods gift to the world, u negros look like gorillas and u know it thats why u are so insecure about your looks, black woman in america spend twice as much money on cosmetics then white woman, no matter how much u spend u will never look like them kola, and i know thats what pisses u off., hell even black men dont want black woman, they always go for the mixed or white ,hispanic girls, the raeson why the world looks down on you negros is because u have the lowest iq of all mankind, , so kola why dont u shut your trap and accept your little plave in the world, i know osama bin laden is crazy but i dont think he is crazy enough to sleep with u, hell he would have to be blind or something, your a fake and a phoney mama nigrita

The_ethiopian: hell if it wasnt for the white man u and your people would still be living in the stone age, may be thats why u guys hates whites so much, they took u out of your natural primitive habitat, do u know that ethiopia is the only african country with its own alphabet and numerical system, our literature and civilization strecths back 4000 years, mean while u negros are the only race in the world who never developed a written language or any civilization (forget egypt, it wasnt a negro civilization), and u claim to be the first civilized ppl, please u ppl are the lowest of all human kind, a lot of people consider negros to be the missing link between man and ape, and judging by negro ppls physical appearance they are absolutly correct.

http://www.thumperscorner.com/discus/messages/11222/6457.html

Omolulu:
pirates

seriously, mate.

Are they mixed race?

And why do they hate other Africans? In particular West Africans and bantus? Just go to one of their forums and see how much they hate blacks there. they despise them more than any white racist I've ever had the displeasure of seeing online.

I've talked to a couple Somali friends of mine who've let me know on more than one occasion that they do not associate themselves with blacks, whom they also refer to as "jareers" (nappy-heads).

I was totally shocked to hear and see a people wioth members so dark-skinned who looked down upon blacks and black features-- let alond didnt even CONSIDER themselves BLACK!

when I asked them why-- they told me that blacks are ugly, and have nappy hair and wide noses, while they have soft hair and thin noses. They said they are different from other Africans and feel they should be their own race.

Once I asked them if the difference in their looks could be because they are mixed-- and they almost pulled KNIVES out on me! lol

Anyways-- what do you guys think? Mixed? Pure? they ARE in the arab league and are Islam fanatics and have even adopted islamic last names.

some make the argument that they are just a diverse part of Africa due to climactic changes-- but how could a people who look SO Arab and ACT so arab truly be considered PURE by other Africans? And if it was true- then why are these features not the norm in ALL populations in Africa and are only mainly concentrated in the Northern Areas-- where the Arabs came into occupy? It just doesnt make any sense, unless you mean to tell me that you think Africans always had and worshipped lighter skin, straight hair, and caucasian noses?

How do you guys feel about this?

Hi, folks.

I must say that I agree with igbo boy.

there is just too much evidence on the contrary that somalis are NOT of mixed race.

In fact-- go on a somali message board and they share an INTESNE hatred of blacks, and have WORDS in their language that separates themselves from other Africans.

I was down-right shocked when I saw the such immense amount of hatred they had for other Africans, including AFRICA_AMERICANS.

They seemed to reserve mos of their hate for West africans-- whom they deem as BANTU-- because of their typical BLACK features (nappy hair, dark skin, black nose, etc.)

To be short-- there is something DEFINITELY wrong with this group of people