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CheedyJ:
How do you prepare for a betrayal when you don't know when exactly it will happen especially when you're really into the said partner. Is it by keeping multiple partners or not getting emotionally attached, will that make it less of a pain if the betrayal does happen? Just asking though..

I'm an author. When I reply people, I do it as if it's a chapter of an unfinished book, hence I'm detailed.

Let me answer you.


If you're a man, you need to put your ancestors first before any imported ideology.

What is the ideology of your ancestors about marriage?

1. One man to multiple women (Are you obeying it? No. That's failure 1).
2. You need to be in charge and no one else is above your order in your family, including her pastor, your pastor, your father, mother, her father, mother, etc. (Are you in charge like that? If no, failure 2).

Failure is not a bad thing or the end of the world, but are you prepared to rise again when it comes?

The two things you listed are actually how you prepare for betrayal and to achieve it, you need money.

In the olden days, you could achieve them without money, but your hunting or wrestling skills. Now, you must have money or come from a family where money is not a problem.

Men don't need love, but respect, peace of mind and loyalty. Na stupid men dey look for who go love them and these men are always emotional when they don't get loved by the woman they love.

For me, I just want her to be as beautiful as I want, as smart as I want, as respectful and loyal as I want, but she should keep the love for our children, not me because I'm also keeping my own love for our unborn children.

If we happen not to marry each other, my love for my unborn kids is still intact and I move on to the next women. When you don't show sign of love, but you're protecting and providing, women tend to become addicted to you until you profess your love, but don't. D

Look at Ned Nwoko's beautiful wives. They don't need to love him neither does he love them, they just need to obey and worship him and give him cute smart kids. That's all.

It's the good-looking smart children Ned is after, not love from his wives. If any of them cheats, she's out and a more beautiful and younger one takes over. This is the power every man must have, else you're not a complete man.

You won't live forever, so try and live in your terms and program yourself to handle betrayal by being less emotionally involved, have options and have money, simple. Men can't be short or ugly, they can only be broke.

Aki and Pawpaw are not short as long as there is money or fame. Ned is not old or ugly as long as there is money or fame.

How do you start in controlling your emotions? Let's Assume you love Ronaldo, Davido and Real Madrid passionately.

When there is an argument where people are talking down on one of those three above, don't react or be bothered. Feel the insult or pain and allow it to subside. At a point, even when Madrid loses by 6-0, you won't be bothered except you're a gambler. Do this until you're emotionally detached.

Back in the day when people used to abuse me in the comment section, I used to get upset, but now, it's just cruise and I feel nothing.

Let try an experiment.

If your mom is still alive and you love her so much, when your woman dumps you, ask yourself this:

A. Losing this relationship with girl and
B. Losing my mom to death...

...which would I prefer? Immediately, you'll realize you prefer losing the relationship to losing your mom.

One thing I also do to trick my brain is: I trade crypto and when I lose, I remind myself that at least another man in another country won, so my gender is getting richer. It's a win win.

I also tell myself that 50-80 years from now, I'll be dead and gone, hence all these money I'm making or losing is nothing but vanity.

This same mindset is what I use in relationship. As long as she's f*cking another man and didn't switch to lesbianism, my gender won.

I want my fellow men to always win, even if it's against me. So, I use gender war to trick myself into feeling better. Deep down, I love it when men succeed because I know he'll spread love and help people, especially the women in his family, his mother, etc.

I won't forgive you for cheating on me, but at least my gender won and I'm happy for him. The p*ssy still belongs to us, the male gender.

These are some of the tricks I use and they work. Your mental sanity and peace of mind is the most important, so find as many tricks and you can to protect it, else pay the price for being defenceless.

Love is for babies, teenagers and great-grandfathers of 80 and above. These are the people that need to be loved. From 20 to 70, you need money, skills and progress, not love.

Most men don't know this, hence they spend their 20s, 30s, 40s, to 70s searching for who will love them for who they are. Even with your money, you won't be loved, they can pretend to love you though. The respect, peace of mind and loyalty is all you'll get and maybe, fake love.

Know this now and know peace and act accordingly and you'll never anticipate for what does not exist for your age bracket.

The moment you embrace this mindset, you'll see how more confident and less expectant of love you'll become. GUARANTEED!

Na the love wey we play for primary, secondary or even uni dey decieve us. We want to replicate those fantasies and fun moments with a woman how has received more than 80 dicks before she became 18. She's already used to varieties.

After age 30, there is no love for you as a woman. After age 20 there is no love for you as a man, it's fake. She'll cheat on you. It's all games and manipulation. If you don't play it, they'll play it against you. Even if you don't want to play it, at least, be vigilant or stay away from relationship or marriage for your sanity.

From age 80 is when you'll get love again from your children or grandchildren, only if you're a rich and caring grandpa that always buys them gifts and celebrate their birthdays.

You see? Even as a grandpa, your playfulness and spending is the reason they love you. Some stingy grandpas, all their children and grandkids have deserted them.

A man must pay for something for him to get something in return.

liveyourlife007:
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Manipulation is sweet when you are the one in control. I understand women to some extent. They like to be in control. You will not offend them, but they will just do anything to hurt you. Just to tell " you wanna see crazy"
As a man, don't commit to any woman. Just feign it, pretend. Give her money, buy her gifts. But have it at the back of your mind that " I just wan Bleep this one" Bleep and go

You're a thief. How did you know our secret? Ah! This guy has exposed the bad boys' secret agenda. God will judge you.

You have mastered the game of "Only pleasure and happiness, zero emotional attachment and I'm more ready for the collapse of this union than her whenever she wants it."

Letmecum:
I wonder who brought this useless idea of getting married. It just don't make sense. It supposed to be get pregnant for me and we will take of the child you can be flet with anyone you want likewise me.

The idea of marriage is good and I love it.

Here is how it got destroyed.

The sad thing about the white businessmen is, when something is good, they go behind and destroy it so that they'll start a business around it, pretending to have found the solution, but it's not free.

They came and saw how 1 African man was enjoying 50 p*ssies as wives and 100% peace at home with abundance of food. Each family was like a happy company.

The wives go to farm with the daughters to provide food and the man goes for hunting with the sons to provide meat or fish.

The whites saw this and got jealous, then built a plan on how to destroy it and make money from it. At this point, there weren't things like HIV. They got animals to mate with humans and that's how they got different infections to push to Africa.

They wrote books telling us killing animals is bad, inhumane and evil. Why? Just to stop African men from hunting. These were the same people who killed lots of Africans, but now, they said killing animals for food is bad. Can't you sense something fishy?

They brought schools and told our men and women that farming is for illiterates and uneducated people that degree is the way.

To get this degree, you have to pay. Families that had graduates started bragging about how educated their families are. The other families that focused on farming felt ashamed and stopped.

The little they had, they spent it on making sure there is a graduate in the house to wipe off their shame. Having a graduate in the house became a flex.

When these men an women went to school, the men got introduced to things that'll destroy them like cultism, smoking, etc. and the women into próstitution, etc. It wasn't like this at first, but the white men knew it'll get to this. These people are visionaries.

Then, they introduced feminism to let the women know whatever a man can do, they can do better.

If he can marry 7 wives, she can sleep with 700 men. Pleasure is addictive, hence these women became addicted to multiple dicks.

Any of their female friends that refuses to sleep around like them, they'll mock her, isolate her and call her sister Mary. Sadly, most of the girls succumb and starts following the wayward ones to clubs and visit different men. Along the line, some got infected and kept spreading it with the mindset of "I can't die alone."

It didn't stop there. They invented séx toys for the women to use and some of these séx toys are way better than men and the list goes on.

The good ones that didn't want to spread this infection buy séx toys to continue their pleasure while spending millions buying drugs produced by these same white men to treat it. Now you can clearly see it's a business all along.

When white men want to annihilate other races, they don't rush — they draft a 100 year blueprint and work slowly and even smart people, especially Africans won't notice. Even if they do, their puppets, they politicians that are working to uphold white men's businesses in Africa will come after you and jail you.

The school was a business. The invention of infection was a business. The destruction of African men's polygamous happy family was a business out of jealousy. Stopping African men from hunting was a business so that they'll come to Africa and carry all the animals to put in a zoo in their countries and people will pay to see them, etc.

So, the whites intentionally destroyed marriage and this was planned 100+ years ago.

Now, the 50 pussies our great grandfathers used to enjoy without being cheated on and all of them are loyal is no longer attainable. Every woman now has a séx toy produced by the whites.

China saw what the whites were doing to Africans and decided to focus 100% on production so that they'll take 90% market share from the manipulative whites, hence the West hates China and tries to ban most of their products or accuse it of being fake.

I have a lot to say, but I'll stop here. Marriage is beautiful if we can go back to the days when the whites hadn't inferred. But now, they've destroyed it for their selfish interest "business." They have manipulated our men to become SIMPs. If you disagree with a woman today she says you're not a real man or you're insecure. Who caused it? The businessmen of the European nations.

At least, Fela, Ned Nwoko, 2face, Isaac Fayoshé and a host of other real African men refused to listen to the whites.

If you mess up, they dump you and get a new woman who will worship them as our women used to do 100+ years ago before the whites came and destroyed the peace with religion, democracy, and other businesses they brought to Africa.

Do you see how China blocks 95% of American social media sites and TV stations? They are smart. It's to protect their people from social engineering and destruction of morality from the West. They've already succeeded.

Have you tried sleeping with a Chinese woman? You'll see the innocence and naivete. These are the things men love in African women back then and not the overexposed white and African women of nowadays with boreholes as p*ssies and have banged almost every big rod in their neighborhood, her Church, school, NYSC camp, etc. And Saida Boj is their role model.

The whites are ready to go to war or destroy humanity just to establish a business, then turn around to sell medicine, guns, drones, etc. after the war. They planned the destruction of African women and family values and they still want to pretend they have the solution.

Since we're all going to die one day, don't your think abundance of food and a happy home/marriage is more important than 80 million degrees or careers that are not based on creations/invention, but importation and consumption?

Food for thought.
The whites won.

But we still have
A chance to revive
Ourselves like China
And finally stop the
Blame game.

Omoawoke:
That ihedi is an intelligent soul and what he says wasn’t revealed to him by flesh but only from the ancestors…

Thanks for sharing but let me tell you, the people have been made to be brain dead. Most people even commenting on his page will just have a few minutes of thoughtfulness and then go about their normal lives again.
The world is made to distract and confuse people and keep them busy and perpetually blind and stupid

You're right, but that feels like an advantage to the 10% of us that are intentionally on the innovative side.

A woman in a serious relationship just left my house after we showered. She headed to her boyfriend's house to spend two days so she can hand him the gift she bought for him in Aba, including Bible and lots of other things.

She came to my room and said, "I love your handwriting. What should I write on the card."

I came up with some lines, but she chose, "Deleted."

She said I should write it, but I refused and asked her to pay cuz I don't help for free.

I ended up writing it and she has gone to see him.

The moral of the story is: in every relationship, there is an invisible man (straight or gay) in-between whom he or she tells everything and they're probably f*cking and this person knows everything about you, the naive one in the relationship.

The manipulation in relationship and marriages is too much. If you're not participating in it, your spouse probably is while pretending to be innocent and naive.

Because you're a good and trustworthy person doesn't mean everyone is like you, so be wise and smart.

All those fake alpha males that usually say, "I'm too big to check her phone," una go hear weeen. Una go treat infection taya because of forming and allowing everyone have privacy. There shouldn't be privacy in a serious relationship or marriage.

Be vigilant!

I pray make the guy wey dey receive this gift no see this post sha. Na me write the caption for that gift bag.

Trusting a woman will ruin most men. Even if you trust, always know you'll one day be betrayed. A prepared man feels less pains.

“I checked my wife's phone yesterday and found out she is seeing someone, she sends him her nvdes, he is a well known politician in kaduna and i am so heartbroken.

I Really Love her and I can't wrap my head around what i saw. l had to check it over and over again. Whenever she goes out to buy something, they meet up and he even brings her back home.

We have 2 children together, her actions does not show off anything. I’ll never have guessed.

She knows how much I trust her, it’s been two days and I can’t seem to believe it.”💔

https://x.com/IM_muaaz/status/1891366172009828788?t=R5NBhYGdCGaBPe-c_s8eIg&s=19

See, women, even men, are not loyal to a living thing — they're only loyal to pleasure and food and it doesn't matter if they hurt someone who trusts them to achieve it. As long as they feel they won't be caught, they'll do it.

Being caught is the only reason some faithful people are still faithful. As long as they 100% know the secret will NEVER leak, they'll do it if the outcome is excitingly erótic and pleasurable.

As a man, I love varieties and I'll tell it to your face. If you can't cope, leave. I only live once.

Women are the same, but they don't have the ball to tell their men they love varieties and if he can't cope, he should leave, hence she sneaks to sleep with multiple men even when she's married and her husband trusts her.


If Northern women that all us trust so much and swear they're saints can cheat or attempt to, what will Southern, Eastern and Western women do?

Uptheante:
Oga you are so naive & dull for a man in this 21st century.
How did you come to the conclusion that he didn't fücƙ her?
Simply because she told you so?
That girl just dey use your head bro, the pastor has already drilled her toto but she's lying to you that he didn't, because she doesn't want to look like an indecent girl to you.
And let me shock you, he will continue drilling her kpekus until he's tired of her.
She's tired after the hard Bleep from Mr. Pastor, I don't care how innocent or decent he looks like.
Don't even be surprised she has already taken in for him

Okay

zuby4real10:
Lol. nobody is bitter here. We are just expressing our views using normal nairaland slangs. Don't take it personal. But I am so sorry to say, for you to believe that she did not nacked the man sounds like you are a Simp.

Rest

zuby4real10:
U have said it all bro. No mind the mugu. For him mind now she is sharing her secrets with him as her best friend,he fit dey even reason to collect her back from her current boyfriend.

Why so bitter? It's scary how some of you project yourself on others.

RealityKings1:
Not interested. Thanks

Okay

RealityKings1:
Africa is not in bondge. The progress is just slow

Watch the first and second video. Pay 100% attention while listening.

It's only someone who's benefiting from the corruption in Africa that'll think we're not in bondage. It's technological and mental bondage. The moment we come out of it, you'll see progress.

How to Make Africa Great and Mindset Change.

These short Tiktok videos will forever change you and how you views things, especially number 1 and 3.

1. Ihedi. Ihiedi Light of Africa: The Spectrum of Human Existence: 
https://www.tiktok.com/video/7472727022742031621/
2. Nigerian Blog:
https://www.tiktok.com/video/7472532282813844791/
3. Why did China become next superpower over India:
https://www.tiktok.com/video/7463559933376859438/
4. Burkina Faso: 
https://www.tiktok.com/video/7464078732571987205/

Find to way to watch them and you'll see life, progress, success and the manipulation going on differently. You'll become aware of how to plan your life better and know how to take Africa and yourself out of bondage.

She told me how it went down. From her body language and story, I know it didn't happen, but the man has readjusted to taking it slowly.

He really spent on her and wanted to buy her 200k hair, but mostly sold for 90k in Aba. Ready to rent her a new apartment, but she declined. She told me how everyone, including her man vouched for the man as principled and zero womanizing record.

Summary:

They didn't do it, but he'll surely get her one day, the day she'll have a misunderstanding with her boyfriend. Fact! Women love using cheating as revenge. It's just a matter of time.


Takeaway: Na too much trust dey lead to disappointment.

The end.

Cerebellum:
See this one

Still doesn't change the fact that you talk too much

Exactly, with financial benefit and legacy unlike you your parents are spending so much to treat your eye problem caused by overexposure to p*rn and TV screen without benefits in the end.

Abeg, I no get your time. I just wanted to make your day.

Bye

Cerebellum:
You talk too much for a man

I know and as a wise man, I put most of the talks in books and make money from them while I sleep.

You, timid and shy introvert that pretends to be mature, what have you achieved with your silence that'll be alive 100 years after you're gone? Nothing.

Timid introvert. Must everyone be like you? You think life revolves around being silent and watching movies all your life? This is exactly why you developed eye problem. Too much p*rn and movies.

Wise people work more with their brains and fingers, not their eyes.

After calling me yesterday at 9 PM, she never called till now. I had to call her.

Why didn't she call? Probably guilty conscience. She's in the vehicle on her way home and she sounded so calm and bit seductive. I could feel a mixture defeat and fear in the calmness.

Everything is already suspicious and when she arrives, I won't bring the topic up Lemme see if she will by herself. Her demeanor and body language will betray her.

It's only two of them that made the trip. I guess the man deceived her that it's 3 or 4 of them. Pastors and format.

But some men are really spending too much just for sex. Took her from her state to another state in guise of buying some company equipment just to spoil your worker with gifts and sleep with her even though you're close to the boyfriend and you employed her through him.

Sex that we get easily is what men are spending all these money for?

Anyway, the only reason I'm sharing this story is for educational purposes and for men to be wise and mind who they trust.

That responsible girl or calm and mature pastor you see as innocent loves sex more than you. They are humans.

In fact, the sneakier and trickier the journey to attaining the sex, the sweeter and enthralling the adventure. Cheating commands more adrenaline rush and best orgasm. You'll want it again.

So, I'll update your guys on her confession. Even if she lies, I'll still know the truth.

Drop like if you want update on this.

tweakstar:
So nice to read from you again.

What do you think of the present state of market?
If I may ask, please how did you arrive at June or October?

The void you left on the thread is still not filled up.

For the June, read it here: https://www.nairaland.com/8338318/crypto-must-read-those-crypto

For the 20th of Oct to the 20th of Dec., that is the period to get ready to leave the market and enter short positions.

sacajawea:
Okay. And they are calling you Papito?

That is just one out of 3 pet names. You dey mind women? It's their way.

sacajawea:
Crossed the red line how?
In what ways?

You want me to be explicit? C'mon. Use your head.

Solsix:
The moment she was collecting all those gifts she should know it will come to that. Nothing is free

I already told her that responsible-looking pastors of nowadays don't give free things, including free prayer, and the fact that she hasn't even started work and the man is already showering her with gifts and even trust her to the point of giving her the company's ATM and password.

zed7:
These boys who think they know women, always make me laugh. I'm surprised at how naive the OP is.

A time will come when the girl will willingly, open it for the pastor and she will hide it from you. If you eventually find out, she'll claim he rapëêd her.

Stop trying to save a woman. Women know exactly what they want at all times, she'll eventually make you look like a fool.

ITK, shut up. Who doesn't know an adult will do whatever they want after giving them advice? She asked for help and I rendered it. Don't you know it's a trick? If I don't give the advice, whatever she does, she'll blame me for it.

Don't you know this gender hates to take blame? Does that mean I don't know she'll do what she wants? I only escaped to be blamed. Trying to sound smart around me to just to feel good. Naive keh.

tweakstar:
Very unintelligent of a woman who has regard for body to stoop so low to this point. What was she thinking that she has to first find herself in such a tight corner before sensing it?

She may have to pay heavily for her naivity and carelessness.


That aside, why have you decided to keep off the Crypto thread after many pleaded that you don't succumb to your detractors? You have been missing for some time now and your posts are unique and have always been helpful especially to newbies.

Succumb? No. June or 20th of October is when I'll take the market seriously. Life has branches. Crypto is just one of them for me.

Zonefree:
Allow the man to knack her. Encourage her to spread those legs willingly. How will you feel if someone deprived you the fruit of your labour?

Wetin man do man?

Lol

eazzzy1:
She’s not willing to escape. The man booking a room for both of them has a level of confidence and certainty that she’s down for same. If she’s on her period, is her mouth bleeding too? She gon Lon.

She just called now that he went outside to make a call, so she used the opportunity to call me.

She has managed to talk him out by brining her boyfriend into the conversation, but 4-5 AM is the time women find it hard to say no to dick.

It's a 50/50 thing for me. Judging by the new her, she'll survive, but the old her, no, she'll spread just to keep her job.

It's about to rain. This girl might succumb if the pastor adds some pressure. Fake pastors everywhere.

If she refuses, she'll lose the job. Mehn, so these are the things women go through to make it?

illicit:
Give me her number...

Her Opay?

The summary is, nothing is free — even the most responsible married pastor wants you to spread legs. I pity these women who think pastors are holy. The more responsible, young and innocent the pastor is, the more he's a womanizer. Fact!

If you're in her shoe, how will you escape this or will you give in?

Do You Think He Is Going To Sleep With Her Tonight?

If you're in her shoe, how will you escape this or will you give in?

I have a female friend I've known since 2019. Yeah, we've crossed the red line a million times.

But since she noticed I wasn't too serious with commitment, I told her to get a boyfriend.

She got one, and today they are happy. They love each other.

He buys her things a lot and all that. They spent last Valentine’s together.

She quit her new teaching job, which she had just started a week ago, because she got a new job through her man again.

At this new, well-paying job, the CEO upgraded her to manager after she passed the interview.

The boss, before Valentine's Day, gave her an envelope with some money.

Someone who hadn't even started working is already getting an envelope from her boss after he took her out to buy some equipment for the company. Maybe he felt she deserved a thank-you for her effort.

When she showed me the money, I laughed and told her he’d ask for sex soon—he has started paying in advance.

She said no, that he’s a responsible-looking pastor, married with two kids, so she doesn’t think in that direction.

He even gave me his ATM card because he, one of our colleagues, and I will be going to Aba to buy plain T-shirts that will be customized for workers and other things. He said I'll handle payments and others.

She seemed so excited as she shared what happened, saying, "If a job is this sweet, everyone would be so happy."

She even started fantasizing about the car she'll buy soon.

A pastor? Hmm. I knew men are no longer stupid. When they spend, they want a payback. Nothing is free. Whoever gives for free is pretending.

So today, since she stays with me at times—my house is close to her brother’s place—her boyfriend always thinks she lives with her brother. No more sex since she came.

We're just friends now. I want her to stay faithful, and she has been trying. She has also taken Church and prayer seriously. No that I don't know what women are capable of, but I wanted her to trying faithfulness and resisting the urge to succumb to a man's advances.

Today, they went to Aba to buy those things, and below is our chat.

1 week, express.

squash47:
Who needs a pickup line for girls that are hungry ? Na pickup line Dem go chop ?

Yeah, in Nigeria, it's no longer needed since most girls are hungry, but it's part of communication skill and humor and they're important to men.