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mojounited:
Yeah, some Nigerian meals, rice+chicken curry sauce, grilled chicken, egg fung yoo (slightly different), pottage meals (potato/yam/plantain). . .NOODLES

So, what would you cook to have a romantic candlelit dinner with your lady?

mojounited:
For me, other than the above are -

Swimming and ice skating (not a pro). . .
Engaging in conversations - romantic, naughty,  funny and sarcastic ones. . .
A bit of play-fighting. . .
Studying together (back in school). . .
Whatever rocks her boat. .etc

Can't swim or ice skate, can roller skate tho.
Just being together talking does it for me
Nah
I skipped the school one, that was so long ago
That's cute
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Do you cook?

mojounited:
^Proudly 9ja! Outta curiosity and since you created the thread, how romantic are you I assume you'd like to explore more options, not just no. 1

Number 1 on that list is the only one that I find romantic.

Other things that's not on that list

Getting love poetry or poems from my one
Cuddling together having quiet talks
Getting a single flower (instead of a full bouquet
Preparing a meal together
Slow dancing to our favorite love song
Horse-drawn carriage rides

New Orleans

And You?

mojounited:
^Yeah, I know. .more of a reason I said no. 1 is not bad. .  .
My point - I chose 3 cuz if the options were left for couples staying under the same roof, no. 3 can mostly/only be achievable only on holidays/weekends while no. 1 can often be done on regular basis. . .that way, 3 will spark more romance/emotions/feelings (not just s3x) since it rarely occurs. . .

Meanwhile, you said you like cooking, what food(s) do you know how to cook best (*see me, i don dey hungry* )

Gumbo
Red Beans
Fried Chicken
Greens (collards, mustards, turnips
Cornbread
Stew chicken
Biscuits
Smothered Pork Chops
Etc.

I don't know how to cook any Nigerian foods.

mojounited:
@Goldieluks & Desholah, choose one damn it! see una long throat. .

@OP,gimme 3 cuz we can't be eating away and watching movies together at all times, buh 1 nor bad sha. . .
@2 - I don waka tire jor
@4 -  

If that's the one you want, you got it 

No "watching movies" by "candlelight" tho  that don't work,

got to have mood music to complete the romance.

Where is the "curse" in that?
You like what you like.

Which of the following is an ideal date for you & why?

1. A homemade dinner for the two of you by candlelight.

2. A walk together in a secluded area.

3.Dinner at a local restaurant followed by a movie.

4. Beer, cheap wings, and a game of pool at the local pub.


I choose #1 because I like intimate settings and like to cook.

orbaxy:
you sound reasonable. I bet my comment was a sacastic rhetoric.

Am very reasonable.

I bet you are now Backpeddling

Adrenaline:
Guys don't think like girls, it's girls that usually have all them protracted drama episodes, unless of course the guy is some re.tarded sissy. . .  You people should free the poster abeg

It seems that this guy (the friend) is taking it rather dramatically since the poster mentioned that he wants to "hang himself" because of the incident.

I wouldn't call him a "girl" for having emotions, he's a person who has feelings and emotions like everyone else, being a man does not exempt anyone from that.

Reminds me of that line, "real men don't cry"  total horse manure.

orbaxy:
I think am in a better position to decide what type of question i throw at my friends and when i should do such.
Kindly wrap your mouth and put it back inside the jute bag you brought it out from.

Would it not be better to let this friend bring it up for discussion, thus letting you know that he was ok with talking about it or answering any questions you may have?

A shut mouth gathers no foot.

Mrs.Chima:

^^^
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orbaxy:
I have a friend who just had a terrible encounter. [just cant stop laughing] This dude is currently undergoing intensive councilling or should i say psychological rehabilitation. It all started one day, on his way from a night club with his girlfriend, he ran redlight and got a chase from the cops. Dude got into trouble. After a criminal record check on him and his girl, a document surfaced exposing his girfriend to be a "man" in years past. The document showed that this dude's "sweetheart" was a man who underwent transgender! lol. Funny, the dude has got imaginations and has done the unthinkables with this girl that was once a man.
Now he feels like hanging himself! Am just waiting for him to get himself together so that i can ask him where he has been stickin his "Tom" all this while.

Just wonder if it was you!

I would think as a friend and not want to cause any further emotional distress and only ask the question when and[b] IF[/b] my friend brought it up to be discussed, otherwise I would just let it be.

mama-gee:
[color=deeppink]It's quite normal for Nigerian men to call their girlfriends "mummy"

Very Very normal![/color]

Really

It weirded me out when my Sweetie would do that (when we first started), so much so that I told him not to.

Inked_Nerd:

Huh? What do you mean?

Nothing really.

Just was looking for some context in which to put the use of the word "old" used by some of the posters here, as it was mentioned several times. I asked but got no answer so when I seen you mention your age I better understood their (maybe) concept of what is considered "old".
Because if any of them are in the same age range as you (20's), old is seen in a completely different context than a 30 or 40 would see it.

Inked_Nerd:

I'm 22

IF some of the other posters to this thread are in your age range I now understand what they mean when they say "old"

Ok, I keep seeing "old" mentioned.

What is considered "old"  

I have a cousin her saying is  "nothing gets old but clothes" 

Pweety4me:
[color=#550077]I don't know about the Males.

But ever since i reached a certain age(shurrup not menopause ) i don't like mentioning my age, i mean it just annoys me!!

Ladies do u feel this way too?i mean do u tell your age to all that ask? & your REAL age o!_{plse be honest} [/color]

Only to certain people.

On my recent birthday I had one of my nieces totally confused as I have given my age as a different number for years      I even had a question mark for a candle

It seems as if "Igbo" are being blamed as the offenders and giving Nigerians a bad name abroad.

As an American I and most others wouldn't know "Igbo" from any other tribe when it's said "a Nigerian".

So, for you Nigerians of certain tribes it may matter to your reputation which tribe a criminal maybe belong to but it's ALL Nigerians that gets the charge just be default of the criminal being Nigerian.

Blacks in the U.S. are also painted with the same broad brush, ALL blacks are labeled as "murdering, drug dealers, gang banging, crack heads, welfare drags on society, etc. etc. etc."

Just as blacks in the U.S. have to work as a whole to change this imagine of us as a group so does the people of Nigeria. The way I see it coming about here in the U.S. is by putting the positive front and center, our media are quick to headline something negative about us and we go right along with it instead of demanding that they follow the positive stories out there about us everyday. they will show a young black man picture over and over again who was arrested on drug charges etc. but what about the young black man who won a citywide essay contest put on by the city's NBA team or the young black girl who despite being homeless is at the top of her class in school and expert in music and also volunteer her spare time to help the elderly in her community.

There will always be those who choose to do the wrong thing but those people must be put in the background and not made the focus that gives a bad name to the whole group.

fstranger3:
^^^

You seem to be confusing Texas with Ogun State!



Yeah, blame it on your IP

I don't even know what "Ogun State" is, you can explain if you will and clear up your meaning

What's with the "IP" addy and Nairalanders?

I am an AMERICAN from ancestors since slavery.

Her biggest problems will be that her victims were children, she lied, she ran.

No matter the jury makeup (if she doesn't plead out) they will hold that against her.

She is old enough to know what she was doing without the benefit of any "older" family members because they were not there when she told firefighters and EMT the stories of being in the bathroom when the fire broke out.

I am not buying that her running was due to any influence of older family, she is calculating all on her very own.

As far as her life after prison (if she gets times) it is her choice she can take that as time to rehabilitate and redeem herself, she can get an education and earn a degree while in there, then get out an take advantage of that.

Americans are willing to give anyone a second chance if they prove that the deserve and really want that.

Tosinville:
^^You'll ask him all that whenever he is online.

Nope, not really interested.

Just wanted to see if you were his voice puppet  

ogugua88:
Side-note, forgive me OP.

A good number of the Nigerian men can cook. It's one thing to cook, and it's another to present the food well. Sometimes I'm watching them cook and serve the food, or they send me pictures because they're excited (lol). Rice scattered across the plate with stew dripping from the side with a dry chicken leg and old moin-moin on the side. My pet-peeve is soup with no vegetables *cold chills running down back* That's for another day though.

Anyway, please try and make the food appear edible

You're cool, it's not a "side note" it goes to topic

What can be romantic about food that is not appealing to the eye even before you taste it.

It would be a turn off to be served something that looks regurgitated YUK

Tosinville:
Imari
Well i only get to know roymary here on NL but due to the way he talks on here & ask for you around whenever u aren't online shows maybe he's the kind of brother who'll always make you happy.

And you know this from NL

Since you know so much about him why not give me his total bio?

Start with; Can he cook?

Tosinville:
^^Jus because he stays in chicago & thats very easy in hook up in a day rather than a nigerian pipe dream.

Chicago is no plus, He could be next door.

TOO YOUNG
Ain't my type

I am quite happy with my "pipe dream"

Do you know roymary personally or just from here on NL? since you have all these glowing reviews of him and am advocating on his behalf are you his OFFICIAL match makers or something?

Tosinville:
Imari

umm! you mean the one that your unknown sweetie will cook for you?¿¿

ma'am, stop wastin hell of a time.

Ah, but he is known.
I know what he think, hope and feel.
I know what he looks like 
I know what he sounds like
I just don't know what he feels like 

Now what is it with your advocating for roymary?   I wanna know, fess up 

Tosinville:
Imari

Yea! i can cook for sure if thats what you mean but not every kind of nigerian food o!

Roymary is a good guy, truss me.

I wouldn't even know every kind of Nigerian food only those few that my Sweetie has mentioned to me or say he will cook for me.

On that same note, "good guy" or no, my "Sweetie" is the only man for me, trust that.

But really, why are you campaigning for roymary he's not even here and I don't even care.

M.L.Swiss:
I can't cook and I rarely cook. I could care less. My man cooks but I don't find it romantic except if the concept is meant to be romantic. I mean, it's nice for my stomach but that's it.

akpanbaba:
What kind of food are you talking about?.Is it the one on the bed or the one on the dining table?.Please explain

Just those instances when it's meant to be romantic, like breakfast in bed, the surprise lunch or the softly lit sensual music filled romantic dinner.

akpanbaba
In some instances the food is forgotten about altogether

Abekeade08:
@OP all my brothers know their way around the kitchen, but like the Nigerian men that they are, they want a woman to cater for them. If i hear that my brothers did most of the cooking in their house, it would upset me. I guess i am a typical Nigerian woman. I am however not averse to one off romantic dinners and such cooked by our men.

I don't think I would like a man doing most of the cooking myself, but knowing he can help out when it's needed or think out the box in doing something romantic when he want to go that extra mile and not some restaurant that is far from intimate and romantic at certain times, so on that we are in agreement.

Nigerian men don't sound much different from many American men I know, they also want service with a smile.

My brothers also cook one is a chef and does all the cooking at home, the other, all I've ever seen from him is the outdoor cooking, American men have a thing about grilling

SA Goddess:
I guess if I got the home-made bread right, I can try the others too, trial and error is the way to go. . . . .

Naija people will answer your Q about baked goodies in Naija. . . . I am in South Africa!

My apologies for not taking note of your screen name and for assuming.

I hope you and yours have fun with it, I think baking can become addictive.

SA Goddess:
I don't know how to bake *blush* I have learnt how to make home-made bread but that's about it. . . . .there was not much baking at home when I was growing up so I just never learned how to. . . . . .

I taught myself.

As a teen I knew I didn't like canned biscuits so I followed the recipe on the flour bag, they came out some good so I started following some of the other recipes and off it went.

I've had a lot of trial and error with everything from cooking to baking but at least you know what not to do next time 

If you don't mind, what are some of the baked sweets in Nigeria? and men who do cook do they also bake? as I see baking sweets for each other can be very romantic also, sweets for my sweet so to speak.

SA Goddess:
What makes cooking fun for me is being playful about it and trying out different spices and ways to cook the food, it does not always have to come out the same *boring*

I love to cook and try new things, I have shelves of cookbooks just so I can experiment with something new at times, but  baking is what I really am in to completely and is always fun, pies, cookies, cakes biscuits I don't even buy those things from the grocery only the ingredients for making my own. 
I spend more money on things for my kitchen then any other thing, without the right tools I would get frustrated with it, still can do but it's a bit of a bore for me.

Tosinville:
Imari
To learn how to cook is very simple if i wants to put my mind on it, it won't take me a month to but i know how to cook some foods here tho!


eh! why are you so curious about my age? it has nothing to do with food that we're talking bout here u know.



3. i'm having roymary's dream?lol don't you like him, dearie?

So you do know how to cook.  

When I say "cook", I mean not being able to turn on the stove, they know your order at the drive thru window, that's not being able to cook.

Anything you can cook to FEED yourself is cooking enough.  Some men are totally handicap in the kitchen.

I do hope you don't mean "microwavable" because that isn't cooking either.  

*****
WAKE UP!!! from that dream roymary got you caught up in.

ZIM DRILL:
first of all everyone can cook

the only thing is this what we cook can not be liked or loved by the person you are cooking for

so whoever wants to be cooked for has to teach the other person unfortunately some men are spoiled that they know what they want but cant cook that recipe i blame the mother she should have taught her child to cook her favourites

and that would be easy when he gets married/ or dating he can teach his woman  than taking his woman to his mom to be taught how to cook his favourites

teaching your partner to cook helps you to bound i.e those few minutes hours you spend teaching each other gives you time to be together etc

well that my thoughts

Maybe "everyone" can cook but can they prepare something that's edible even to them.

Believe me I know plenty men and women alike, who can't do even that.

Teaching each other your favorites is nice even when it's something that is known by both of you but vary slightly based on how one was taught to cook it.

SA Goddess:
Drill, I think the problem is when someone is not even willing to learn, that is the challenge.  I was taught how to cook by a very patient man. . . . . .  

Then sometimes (like I mentioned above) you may have the same recipe for a dish but I may use more pepper and you may not.  some folks actually think that their exact way of making a dish is the only and the right way.

I have a older sister whose like that, she will tell you it's not right if you vary from her recipe in the slightest.