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D-sense:
Yes i was high ,then i scarttered broken bottles in your head

Thanks for the confirmation that you are a liar who gets high

Try detox  

D-sense:
OP.
May malicious virus eat you punny till you die . . . .Bloody liar.

So, vicious and mean, pity

I was just the other day reading a thread from you about bringing a more civil air to NL.

You must have been drunk or high when you made believe that BS

googles:
Oh so its not about the money then. . . its about him doing the do yea ?

honestly, don't delude yourself dat a sexually active man will stay 3 straight years without sex. . esp a 9ja man hmmm

maybe he does not have a steady partner/wife/girlfriend but I'm sure you know he's kabashing somewhere somehow

"kabashing"

I am sorry but I don't understand a lot of Nigerian words or slang

So, if you could clear that one up I appreciate.

Also, we have cybered, webcam and phone sexed.

adconline:
OP: Only you know the person very well. As per the money, yes things are tough in Nigeria if he doesnt have a job. Most Nigerians living abroad send more than that  to their loved ones. Yes, it's customary for Nigerians to expect some money from someone who lives overseas.

The money is one thing, but if he is having sex, have a girlfriend or wife that I can't take and I don't know how to really know if he is.

My OP was mostly about that, but most here jumped on the money part only.

MzD@rkSkin:
[color=teal]ok this is GETTING MAD ANNOYING!

@Imari, I really don't see the need to post any scanned pictures or messages on this forum.
You owe nobody on here any explanations much less proof of anything at all. By scanning and posting you
look like you've taken this personally. In that case I'd just ignore them and move on to the mature folks.
They cannot see your IP address and even if they could (which they can't) who would be that jobless to go
out of their way? Females and males ALIKE will hate on you, as some ppl will dislike you just because.
That is a lesson to be learned in real life and has been demonstrated on this site day after day.

Just ignore them and move on, they dont pay your bills hun.

A$s as for the person who posted the *ish about Plat, I hope everything you said in her absence, you had the "balls"
to say while she was here. . .but more than likely you like everything you do, band-wagoned and waited for your cue. . .
"monkey see monkey do!". In your case literally.  [/color]

You are correct and I do, take personal being called a liar on something I know is truth.

I admit to thin skin at times.

I posted the scans to really get rid of that topic of conversation, now any poster who persists in floating that IP addy or Nigerian cybercafe only look more the fool.

Orikinla:
She is not a fool. She is only being honest. I know a similar case and they later got married. In fact, the American mama came to Nigeria and was welcomed by my friend and his family.  The news was in the Daily Sun of Nigeria and after their wedding, he joined her  later. And they are both fine. Only very few guys in Nigeria will swindle an American woman who loves them.

Sorry that I missed your post.

That is the whole of it, I do love him he says that he loves me more than anything

It's mostly him saying that he has not had sex in 3 years. 
I worry about that being a lie since he is so young in my eyes and after all he is a man.  That makes it hard for me to believe.
Whenever I have brought that up to him he gets angry saying that he would never cheat on his wife and resent that I would think he would.

james1:
@poster.if u are for real;dump that guy like he got ebola virus.

I am for real.

Since he has not asked for any money in months (he's only mentioned the two big amounts months ago) and I haven't sent him any money in months.
Money is not involved exactly at this present time.

I just don't know what to do.

Here, Jennykadry this time I scanned a photo envelope I got my pics in the other day but I made sure to lay my handwritten note to you on top along with the top of my cigarette box top

[img]http://images3a.snapfish.com/232323232%7Ffp733%3B8%3Enu%3D3283%3E%3A69%3E3%3C4%3EWSNRCG%3D35%3B249%3C45232%3Anu0mrj[/img]

roymary:
***snooze***


Go to CVS and buy you a sanitary pad (thats ladylike). Post the receipt. I realize you have just changed your SOCKS; so i hope the admin is not mixing up your location.

There is no CVS close to my house, Walgreens is just a few blocks away but see the above post.

Who said I was a "lady"?

I am a woman but that "lady like" stuff is for those softee females.

My Nigerian has that problem with me and then I am very willful, and stubborn.

Also, I am more of a lady than to discuss feminine products with any man that is not my boyfriend or husband.

roymary:
@OP

You are a fat liar! You are suppose to be a woman; how come your Walgreen receipt shows Men's accessories Bet you asked your folks abroad to scan you their receipts.  
The last time i checked your IP was still Dopemu, Egbeda.

It's CIGARETTES.

Look up Salem cigarettes, in the box

I smoke too much



Keep checking that IP

Tosinville:
Roymary,

You love mentioning egbeda alot, na your area be dat?i dey close to dat place sef.

You have been reasonable throughout.

I will ask; What is "Egbeda"?

I have no idea  

jennykadry:
LMAO I remember a story. Platinumk and inspired autos. Plat posted some foreign invoices with her name on it from the states, only for us to find out that it was all fake Who would have thought it was fake with all the americana writings and stamps on it.

Time for me to hit my sack after a long night of work

Still hating I see

Too bad that 

roymary:
^^^^
American that knows Egbeda! OMG

You intelligence (lack of) is really doing the people of Nigeria a disservice.

You were the very first poster to comment on this thread and you were the one who said this:

BTW, where in America are you? Your IP and grammar says Egbeda WTF?

Sorry that you can't keep up with what you have said since what you have to say is not much anyway.  

You and the other IP detectives have been made to look the fools now move on from it.

roymary:
^^^^
American that knows Egbeda! OMG

You intelligence (lack of) is really doing the people of Nigeria a disservice.

You were the very first poster to comment on this thread and you were the one who said this:

BTW, where in America are you? Your IP and grammar says Egbeda WTF?

Sorry that you can't keep up with what you have said since what you have to say is not much anyway.

You and the other IP detectives have been made to look the fools now move on from it.

tpiah!:
dont worry about things like that.

that how stuff rolls here.

I thought things were hard on the American political forums I was on, especially being the only African American. the only woman on the forum and being a supporter of President Obama.  I would get a lot of heat but I gave back triple, then again it was a free speech zone and my speech flowed right back at them.

Being here has taught me a whole new lesson one I will take to heart from now on.

roymary:
You too dey pretend!! You are a good actress; Nollywood needs you.

Now, weren't you the poster who said my IP addy said, Egbeda?

Not a very good detective are you?

tpiah!:
true.

i'd hazard a guess but wont bother.

I just don't get some of these posters, and it was mostly the females (I always get a problem out of females) who had the need to have me be a Nigerian scammer or something of the sort and needed to focus on my IP or my use of the English language as their proof that I am who they needed me to be.

I admitted to not parting details that my Nigerian would know here as I try hard not to LIE because most times it's useless as you can lie so much and forget the lies you told the next time.

When I came here I was of the belief of since it was his countrymen they would be helpful. I did get some useful advice but all the hating I can't take.

I apologize if I went too far in all that I have said or done.

Well in that case.

I'm located.

It's still in the U.S.

For all of the IP address detectives here.

Any of you know Walgreens drugstores?

I don't think there are any located outside of the U.S.


Here is a receipt from TODAY (I circled that part) from a purchase I made.

Included a little note at the bottom.


[img]http://images3a.snapfish.com/232323232%7Ffp733%3B5%3Enu%3D35%3B2%3E382%3E552%3E26%3A3382643239ot1lsi[/img]

Now, find something else to look foolish about.

Thanks 
Imari

To all of you brilliant people who are not as bright as you may believe

IP addy's can be faked and also concealed, so you don't know anything still

What is really bothering you?

I am listening.

To the poster who suggested that I post my pic holding up a sign, DREAM ON.

yankite:
@ms imari,just wanna add ma own 2 cents advise here.

First of all i think the best way to determine the whole truth is to travel to naija
4get abt what people say abt the image of the naija,come to think abt it if its that
bad the US embassy there would have closed down long ago,good thign you are
already connecting with some of the posters here,plan your trip with one of them
who could help as a tour guide/advisor stay in your hotel room,go out with only your
tour guide and you should be fine.

Forget abt trying to buy him a plane ticket,cuz the American Embassy wouldn't issue
him a visa to start with,those "white american embassy consular mofos" are so hostile
on young black africans,especially a Nigerian.Your best bet is coming down here establishing
a relationship take photographs with each other,and don't even make the mistake of marrying
him straight cuz when you get to the US embassy with him,you may get the shocker of your life
when one of them white mofos start to scrutinize you thinking you were probably paid to set up
the all thign ,just for being african american traveling down for the first time to nigeria and choosing
to marry a nigerian and actually taking him back with you to the states,which rarely happens this days.
But by going atleast once a yr for the next 2yrs you would find out for yourself alot and atlease know
what your own fate is,but like i stated earlier this is just my own 2 cents advise,all the best.

Thank You

Your "2 cents" was worth a lot to me.

It could be found within the last two pages.

The short of it. I'm don't think I will.

savanaha:
My understanding of a cougar is an old woman that goes after younger men. Based on my understanding, the relationships do not actually mature into anything productive. However, if you enjoy playing Suga mama, then good for you. Like I said before I think that you are a "financial fairy godmother" who has doled out around $7,200 if anything you have said here is true.

Since it is your money I said if you enjoy giving then more "grease to your elbow" (or something like that). No need to complain. That is if this story of yours has not been concocted to get responses.

Your understand is somewhat in line to what a Cougar is.

I guess you didn't understand the rest of what I posted, being that what is "based" on your understanding is only one of the many things that can happen as in any relationship.

You wonder, yet you respond.  

Mrs.Chima:
Imari,

If you are telling the truth, Just like anywhere you have to be careful meeting someone you haven't seen IN PERSON especially across continent.  You have to be careful meeting strange men in a foreign country where you have no families nor friends.  Police aren't reliable over there and Embassy can only do so much.  

If you must meet you sugar boy, bring a girlfriend with you so that you can at least have someone that you know with you.  You can also invite a brother or an uncle who wouldn't mind meeting your sugar boy.  

The bottom line is BE SAFE AND SMART.

Mrs. Chima

In my last post to you I was only using your word as a play on words to say I understand you fully, the "my arse" I don't even use that word. Well, not spelled like that anyway

I get what you were/are saying as I have posted to Tosinville something similar.

I would much prefer if he was to come here.  I know this place.

Tosinville:
Im wondering can't they sell flight ticket for cheap prize here?¿¿some ppl always claim to be smart but they're so dull, love can make some folks dull most especially some females am seeing on here. . . . . . i laugh hahaha!

Thank You

I honestly didn't think of that.

What's next?

Pweety4me:
[color=#550077]@Imari have u considered going there to see things for urself? i mean to see him.[/color]

Not being rude, but I answered that several times over in this thread.

Pweety4me:
[color=#550077]Easier u say? trust me if u want my honest opinion, dis dude is taking u 4 a dangerous shitty ride, and u already on your way to DOOM!!!

Is he immune from employement?seriously if he wants 2 meet u & is damn serious as u are , then he needs to think of something better than drawing large amounts of money from you, y can't he get a loan or something?man what is your guarantee here sista? your doin all the giving & what do u gain?

[color=Black]Sista please thinkkkk!![[/color]/color]

That is why I am here and posted as I did, the thread title says "American needs help"

That help I am seeking from those who know their countrymen as I have stated I know very little about Nigerian men.

I have gained a lot of insight from this thread as I haven't talked with him since I posted it.  I am giving myself time to straighten all that has been said out in my mind before I confront him with anything.
I can't run into a conversation with all this new found knowledge about Nigeria as I want him to believe it's all still good to see where he is coming from I will mete out little by little.

I said that I haven't sent him any money in months now as the plan was for him to come for Christmas this year and that would give enough time for two big amounts, so I am ok with not sending any cash, as of now we just talk about things.

HaveSense1:
It would be funny as hell if he never showed up.

There are tickets that can only be cashed in buy the person who purchased them.
The person doing the travel can only travel and not benefit from the tickets in any other way.

savanaha:
You know in 2011 I can't fathom how people are still being "scammed". Instead of saying this woman is being  "scammed" she should be called a "financial fairy godmother." While the man might or might not be telling her a few choice lies, the decision to send $200/month * 3yrs is her personal financial decision.

I don't know many American men who are willing to date women that are 20 yrs older than them, so I'm not sure why someone would think that a. . .

This incident sort of reminds me a topic where a 50 something year old British grandma went and married a 20 something year old man. When she found out he had been using her, she refused to divorce him.

So, there is no such thing as a Cougar in Nigeria?

Of course there is just one standard and you know nothing of anything that is not of this one standard?

People of all ages and sexes can and do get use by those who only intention is to use them for their gain.

That is not the case each and every time for the same exact situation, but is very unfortunate for the one who was used.

Pweety4me:
[color=#550077]20YRS GAP IS NOT EASY!![/color]

I said I changed details and that one I said is less than 20.

Ok, it's 17yrs.

I am 17yrs his senior.

Do you think that will make it "easier"?

roymary:
Poster is an impostor! I wish i would not get notifications about this thread any longer.

Tosinville is her client.

BUT.

I seen earlier posts in this thread claiming it was some others.

I wish people would make up their minds and settle on one poster.

ogugua88:
Well, you were discussing dialects and Nairalanders not knowing anything American, so I had to point out your flaws.

So it was tit for tat for tit. gotcha'  

Tosinville:
Imari,

Alright i heard you, since you're really scared to visit nigeria so what do you intend to do now? send the money or forget about the relationship?¿¿ if you try to send that dough then i laugh hahaha! cos diz gon' be a lesson for ya, u dig me?

Now, you have come to the question I had in mind to ask you since you seem to be reasonable.

Instead of cash what if I buy his airline ticket to the U.S. for a visit?

My neighborhood. My element.

Ms. Potato:
Not just scammers in Africa. There are alot of scammers everywhere around the world and Im shocked but I just wonder why does the blame have to be on Africa especially on NIgeria? Im surprise really! I know they are tons and tons of Non Nigerian scammers out there. . . And even the law have caught them red handed people still wanna blame Africans. . . WHat a shame. . .  

Last week our Malaysian police caught a Singaporean scammer scamming our Malaysian lady but the guy was released its because he said that he didnt steal her money. He only make up a fake story but in the end of the day, its her choice to give out the money or not and just like that he was release. What a lucky b4st4rd!

You are so right.

I believe it has more to do with people seeing the Black as in Nigerians and they are then easily scapegoated for the rest of the world.

Mostly in the Northeast of the U.S. there is/was a big problem with Russian scammers and I have seen lists on the internet about them also, but they have not gotten the big press of Nigerian scammers.

ogugua88:
And you're smiling.

At this point in my life having failed English does not matter in the least, thus the smile.

Grammar police are a bore and have nothing better to do, if that is the reasoning behind the attack they are a pitiful lot.

roymary:
Poster should apologize!

In your world you actually believe that.

Tosinville:
Imari,

My best advice for you is to take the bold steps and visit him here in nigeria, no one can come into conclusion for now cos we don't know maybe he truly need your assistance or not, "there are alot of scammers in africa doesn't mean everyone is a fraudster " u know.

Lastly, don't let mrs.chima's word discourage u for you not to come cos she's also once like u who came down to africa for her man, we aint evil but good ppl you would love to be with, besides u are not the first american woman to visit nigeria and u can never be the last so why shivering? u if can't do just that then u will always be victim of scam so its better to back off from long distance internet dating.

I am repeating myself once again.

My Nigerian has long ago invited me to come to Nigeria as he would love to show me his country.

Also, how would I actually know he is not putting on a show for me if I do come to Nigeria?  It's his neighborhood, he knows how to work it.  I wouldn't have a clue if what I seen was any more real than what he has been telling me.

Tosinville:
Ssssssh!! yall, why some of you nigerians just love hatin most especially the females?¿¿ just because u are from an english speaking countries doesn't mean your english will be 100% perfect, afterall there are some AA and few whites that speak and type in ebonics, are they not americans? naw!! lets be realistic for once and stop judging ppl through faceless forums pls.

Actually, this is how u females chased an american lady called sandie away on a thread bout "blk and white women" & some other threads with SA ladies sometimes ago on here with some harshy word. If this is u ladies first time of doing this i wouldn't even bother and if u found her story not REAL the best way is to hit d back button on your mozilla etc to d next thread not to start raining insults on someone u dnt know by judgin her with browser IP or through the way she type smh!!

Thank you

ebonics, maybe?

I have always believe that that couldn't be a written language

ogugua88:
Choose your words wisely Madame. Any American Professor of English would jump at your comma splice and excessive use of pronouns in the sole highlighted sentence above.

I failed English  

roymary:
Poster is a loner in real world and suddenly in need of attention; hence the bogus Post.

My reply to one of your posts got me banned.

You deserved it, but hey, this is not a "free speech" forum so I will temper mine so that I may comply with the rules.

ogugua88:
Three things Madame:

1) You stooped to their level by trying to prove your "American-ness" in the first place.
2) You can't blame them.
3) Comma splices and typing "it's" instead of "its" is not dialect. They are grammatical errors, which is why, more than likely, they've been calling you out.

1) I get defensive when attacked, Natural
2) See #1
3) I have already stated, I failed English 

A little bit off the topic of this thread but to the post that claim I am not American because of how I have posted.

Do you have any idea of how many different dialects are spoken in my one state only and probably many different ones in my city alone?

Each region of this country has it's very own way of speaking, just as (I am sure and have seen displayed not only here on this forum but in this very thread) with your country.  Some of you have named different places based upon what you know of the dialect of that particular place which shows that I am correct in what I said.

For any of you to base your false assumption upon the belief that ALL Americans speak in a certain way is just that, a false assumption and you are showing your great lack of any REAL knowledge of that of which you gleefully triumph in as a victory of righteousness as having somehow unmasked me as not being an American.

How many of you know how a Cajun speaks, Gullah, Cali, Texas drawl, the dialect of the people in the Appalachian mountains, those in Brooklyn, Creoles, the Midwest, Massachusetts, etc. etc. etc.?

Many of you have shown that you are not the real people I was of the belief that you were.

I do not regret coming here or posting what I did, as I have learn somethings about Nigeria and some of it's people here that I am very happy about, so whatever you think that is all on YOU, I just like to set records straight and speak my mind where I can.

Imari

I was banned for speaking up in defense of being called a "piggish American", so I couldn't respond until now.

To all of you who said I lied.

To a certain point I changed some of the details and IF any of you actually read my posts in this thread I long ago stated that FACT and my reasons for doing so as not to have my Nigerian know who I am just in case he is a member of Nairaland.

As for, my Americaness, NONE of you have the proper grasp of how an American speaks as demonstrated in the words you yourselves have used in your very own posts.

My IP is not known to anyone here except for the administrators of this forum, not unless what I have read in the rules is not the truth, it states that IP addresses can not be seen by other posters and that my very own IP (that only I can see) is subject to change from time to time.

The basics of what I posted is absolutely the TRUTH.



jennykadry

You claim the ability to "detect" while not having the skills to comprehend what you have read in your quickness to attack.

I said I was 20 yrs his senior (that is a detail I embellished a bit), as it is a few years less but not the "2-5 yr" difference that someone had mentioned in an earlier post.

roymary:
^^^

Trailer trash piggish Americans can't snare a typical Nigerian dude. I dunno why Nairaland should allow people like you to post junks like this one.

So you are JEALOUS of Americans?

roymary:
^^^

Liar

Yes, I said so here long ago that I didn't tell the entire truth of the situation changed some details as not to leave clue just in case my Nigerian is on this forum.

What other problems you got?

Mrs.Chima:
Imari,

If you ever decide to go visit the scammer make sure that you CONTACT THE EMBASSY and leave all personal information of yourself and the scammer.

Leave the address, telephone number, description of what he look like, and even inform them of his tribe. EVERYTHING. If anything happens they will look for your arse.

What you write and what I have read is one of the reasons that I will not travel outside of the U.S. and especially not to Nigeria.

I don't need anyone looking for my "arse" I need to always know where it is.